First you need to be able to fuck hard for hours... because that is the way of the newfound "dom's"... apparently
Nothing else matters.. nope. Squat. Just fuck hard.
(Is'nt that right almost all you 'dominant males' that message us) |
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"Where do I start with BDSM"
A few clubs do fetish/swing cross over nights, it may be worth going along to one and watching some play, if something piqued your interest most kinksters are happy to share knowledge.
So when the play has finished and the aftercare done (when they look normal and open to talking) approach them and ask if they would mind chatting to you about their play.
That's play ...
In terms of mindset it depends very much wether you want some kinky fuckery or if you are thinking a full time D/s relationship. Do some research online have a look at what interests you
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Start with the question "what do I like about BDSM?"
Then read, fet life is a great starting point, talk to established Dom/Dommes, and when you are feeling like you are ready, you wouldn't go far wrong meeting an experienced sub, who is happy to "show you the ropes".
Please don't just tie someone up, it's not as easy as it looks and you could seriously hurt someone if you don't know what you are doing, same goes for other BDSM toys like canes, flogger, crop and my favourite the bull whip.
And remember, anyone who says they know everything about BDSM is full of shit, you never stop learning, well, if your any good you don't. |
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"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom
I find only naturally dominant men can be Dom so if your not u can't force it"
Mmm I'd argue that point? What is 'naturally dominant'? An alpha-chimp dickhead with a BMW and a diver's watch?
These are the absolute worst 'Doms'.
Doms are respectful, intuitive, controlled, selfless. |
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"First you need to be able to fuck hard for hours... because that is the way of the newfound "dom's"... apparently
Nothing else matters.. nope. Squat. Just fuck hard.
(Is'nt that right almost all you 'dominant males' that message us)"
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By *emini ManMan
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There and to the left a bit |
Where do you start? By taking a step backwards and asking yourself what interests you about it and where you think your specific interests may lie.
Once you've done that- read, read and read some more (Screw The Roses Bring Me The Thorns and SM101 are both good book recommendations easily available from Amazon), join the other Fet related site and consider getting along to a local munch (socials in the BDSM world) or two. Look out some on-line questionnaires which may help shape your thoughts about where you stand and think you might fit in.
Once you've done that, read some more and talk to others some more and gradually you'll start to find yourself and know where you fit and will then know for yourself what your next steps should be |
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"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom
I find only naturally dominant men can be Dom so if your not u can't force it
Mmm I'd argue that point? What is 'naturally dominant'? An alpha-chimp dickhead with a BMW and a diver's watch?
These are the absolute worst 'Doms'.
Doms are respectful, intuitive, controlled, selfless. "
You’re last sentence describes Sir. He is also naturally alpha. |
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... try to find a local munch and go along an chat with others. Go to a fet night at a club to watch and learn.
Don't expect to jump right in and be a Dom. All takes time, trust, communication and patience. If you don't have those ya fucked 
