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Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me!  |
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"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me! "
I don't like this attitude for the same reason I don't like the term sharing.
It must be difficult for single men because some guys would get angry if they weren't consulted. Best solution in my opinion is to approach as a couple and if you can't do that approach the woman and ask what their preferred way of doing things is. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me! "
I have very seldom been to clubs except for prearranged meets, however, when I have, I always believed that as a single male it was normal/respectful to always wait for couples to engage with me first and certainly for THEM to propose moving things to the next level. |
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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago
Middlesbrough |
"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me! "
Yes sadly, seem to miss the point that I decide who I'm playing with. Thankfully the guys we've played with have chatted to us both and asked me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said a single guy can’t win - ask the lady direct and they’ll be criticised for ignoring the Male, ask Male and it’s disrespectful to the ladies.
I suppose the best approach is to ask the Male if he would be ok if you asked the lady!  |
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Most we have come across seem to start following G around and chatting then half way through the night ask him if I want to play alone with them and half the time they haven't even said a word to me all night! |
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"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me!
Yes sadly, seem to miss the point that I decide who I'm playing with. Thankfully the guys we've played with have chatted to us both and asked me "
Exactly.
If I am interested in the guy conversation normally flows very easily as all parties are interested |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Damned if they do damned if they don't.
For every couple who'd prefer a direct approach to one gender they'll be another couple who will find it disrespectful.
We think the best way is to approach a couple as a couple but even that might not suit all couples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get that on here. Generally asking to be addressed equally as a couple works first time. We usually just say 'we don't have a wife' and it sorts it. In a club it would just be 'why don't you ask her?' |
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"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me! "
Might be respect for the man ? Could annoy him if he goes and asks the woman he might not like it ? Probably best way to go about it would ask the both of you at the same time ? Have to have mutual respect |
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"We get that on here. Generally asking to be addressed equally as a couple works first time. We usually just say 'we don't have a wife' and it sorts it. In a club it would just be 'why don't you ask her?'"
I'm a lot more outspoken than G as he will chat to them even if I'm not interested as he feels like it's rude 
I have to save him most nights lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We get that on here. Generally asking to be addressed equally as a couple works first time. We usually just say 'we don't have a wife' and it sorts it. In a club it would just be 'why don't you ask her?'"
Mr Spice couldn't care less, he knows a single straight guy isnt really interested in him. His only concern is that they are respectful. |
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"Does anyone else have single guys in clubs etc asking your husband/bf/partner if you want to play rather than asking you?
It seems like everywhere we go guys seem to think my partner owns me & I'll play with them if he gives permission without even asking me! "
It doesn't bother me in the slightest, but I always give the same answer "you're asking the wrong person".
Cal |
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