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Why are some pepole on here so rude

By *ohn perry OP Man over a year ago

maesteg

Does anyone else find a lot of people on here are so rude. They think they are sex gods and reject you in a very rude manner if you dare to message them and try to be nice. I can take rejection but it's the rudeness I can't take lol.

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By *oreveryoungkWoman over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Does anyone else find a lot of people on here are so rude. They think they are sex gods and reject you in a very rude manner if you dare to message them and try to be nice. I can take rejection but it's the rudeness I can't take lol."

Unfortunately some people are rude, I understand everyone has a preference but we are all adults and some people get very personal too. Just no need.

Ignore them and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The attention goes to their head. Don’t let it get to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a lot of it on here! I find it's some couples usually that think they are gods gift!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunatley it seems that way. I think its difficult though as i can imagine women get bombarded with messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If they are abusive, report their message to Admin.

Also see it as a lucky escape - who wants to meet a rude person?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find that they are in a minority and easy to ignore. All types of people in all walks of life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Somebody was very rude on forum last night. I didn't bite though. There's just no need for it. It was a nice thread and everyone was being pleasant apart from this person.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Somebody was very rude on forum last night. I didn't bite though. There's just no need for it. It was a nice thread and everyone was being pleasant apart from this person. "

Was it mistress? Hes a rude bell**d

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The attention has gone to their heads and they were brought up badly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not excusing it but some get frustrated by the messages they get from users that have clearly not read their profiles and aren't what they're looking for. There are rude people in all walks of life, have been since the year dot and unfortunately will always be. Just laugh it off and be the better person.

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By *ohn perry OP Man over a year ago

maesteg

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!"

People also do this if you are not what they are looking for and they don't want you either coming up in their searches or you don't message them again in 6 months when you have forgotten that you mailed before. If you are not what someone is looking for then there is no point being able to view eachother. Blocking is not always a personal slight!

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By *ohn perry OP Man over a year ago

maesteg

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That reply went to the wrong person lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!

Fair point when you put it like that I suppose. Never really thought of it that way before. Call me old fashioned but I just like a "thanks but no thanks" lol

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By *wisted2000Woman over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

A lot hide behind screens too, they say things on here they’d never have the balls to say to someone’s face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!

Fair point when you put it like that I suppose. Never really thought of it that way before. Call me old fashioned but I just like a "thanks but no thanks" lol"

To save the sender contacting me again I say no thanks and then block.

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By *09309309Woman over a year ago

Dublin

"Not excusing it but some get frustrated by the messages they get from users that have clearly not read their profiles and aren't what they're looking for. There are rude people in all walks of life, have been since the year dot and unfortunately will always be. Just laugh it off and be the better person."

It does get frustrating when people don't read profiles. And I always delete the typical How r u type mails. But if someone has made a genuine effort to write me a proper message I will respond politely even if just to say thank you, but no thank you. There are rude people everywhere. The post office, shops, cinema...it's just easier for people to be rude if they can hide behind a screen. Maybe it's a silver lining that they have shown you that they are rude right away, so you don't get a surprise later on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't let rude people spoil your fun. There's plenty of friendly people here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The attention goes to their head. Don’t let it get to you"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't message them,that'll teach them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really had that reaction as of yet been quite lucky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some folk are very obnoxious on here. I mean, given youve decided yourself the time to respond to a considered message.. it doesnt hurt responding politely..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very prevalent on here... No need for it but there are one or two good ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it is the Internet generation... before the internet you had to face the person to say rude things to them. That made insulting someone far harder than today when you can say them anonymously with no fear of comeback.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!

I think managing who comes up on your searches etc with filters and the block button is a good thing.

If you're not attracted to a profile then why not block it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!

Fair point when you put it like that I suppose. Never really thought of it that way before. Call me old fashioned but I just like a "thanks but no thanks" lol

To save the sender contacting me again I say no thanks and then block. "

See thats not rude, thats the right way to do things

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some folk are very obnoxious on here. I mean, given youve decided yourself the time to respond to a considered message.. it doesnt hurt responding politely.."

Unless you get 100 considered messages and another 50 on top of that and only 5 of them are from people that actually read your profile and messaged because you might actually be intetested in them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I genuinely think people who are rude are insecure and have issues. No one who is happy in life feels the need to be rude to others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it is the Internet generation... before the internet you had to face the person to say rude things to them. That made insulting someone far harder than today when you can say them anonymously with no fear of comeback. "

That's a good point. The internet makes it easier for rude people to show their real selves.

In a face to face setting the consequence of being rude is that person may be made to feel embarrassed by having their behaviour pointed out.

As others have said, some people are just not brought up in an environment where they're taught to respect others and afford courtesy whenever they can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some folk are very obnoxious on here. I mean, given youve decided yourself the time to respond to a considered message.. it doesnt hurt responding politely..

Unless you get 100 considered messages and another 50 on top of that and only 5 of them are from people that actually read your profile and messaged because you might actually be intetested in them

The idea that the majority of established women and couples get hundreds of messages a day, every day is a myth.

Yes, bad use of filters, new profiles or putting up new pictures all the time or lots of forum activity can generate more interest, but unless people want the attention it will calm down.

A lot of couples and women hide behind the 'too many messages' excuse. It's just not true for most.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Rude people can be found in all walks of life. I suppose this behaviour can come out more in the virtual realm behind a keyboard.

One should develop thick skin to let these situations get to you. Think of it this way...if they're rude they probably weren't for you anyway

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Rude people can be found in all walks of life. I suppose this behaviour can come out more in the virtual realm behind a keyboard.

One should develop thick skin to let these situations get to you. Think of it this way...if they're rude they probably weren't for you anyway

Opps...damn typo meant to say not let these situations get to you

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By *urlesque!Woman over a year ago

Gloucester

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation."
Great suggestion - that button.

I try to reply to most but I have stopped replying to creative messages such as "hi" and "how are you" and "Nice pics" (I don't have any at the moment!) as tbh I see those as rude for not having read my profile, not even the first part.

I have tried things like "Thanks but we are looking for different things" but that often starts further communication and questions asking me what I AM LOOKING for - and if I specify this in more detail then suddenly that is "exactly" what they are looking for, too - even if they were not looking for it before...

What else should or could we do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation.Great suggestion - that button.

What else should or could we do?

Say no thanks then block, no comeback then.

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By *urlesque!Woman over a year ago

Gloucester

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation.Great suggestion - that button.

What else should or could we do?

Say no thanks then block, no comeback then."
But that is considered rude by some?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation.Great suggestion - that button.

What else should or could we do?

Say no thanks then block, no comeback then.But that is considered rude by some? "

Might be but some people are offended by a stiff breeze on here ! It's managing your profile and stops any rude comments or further pestering. Most genuine users wouldn't bat an eyelid if you did it, I know I wouldn't.

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation."

I have to agree. I'm far from rude but when you get a dozen messages asking the same thing or saying why when you've been polite and said no thanks whwn they would have known the answer had they read the profile and not just messaged to moan that they've had to read.... then I do become very blunt and forth right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Say no thanks then block, no comeback then.But that is considered rude by some? "

We find that most men appreciate a courteous but firm response. The overwhelming majority respect it or thank and move on.

The small minority who persist or cannot take rejection are rude. It's easy to block those ones.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

I’ve been on sites with a no thanks button guys then just bitch on those sites forum show impersonal and still rude they find it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hey don’t let it affect your enjoyment, deleting messages and blocking is fine if you have no interest in the person.

I get blocked for fabbing their pictures just in case I might be interested in them. It’s rather amusing but certainly not rude.

Being rude and abusive in a reply to a message isn’t ok though and should be reported.

In all my time on here I’ve only had one bit of rude abuse where I was called a prick and a fucking time waster because I wouldn’t let him suck my cock. As I have been on the site 8 years, I think that’s pretty good.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

When you receive messages like ‘are you looking to blow your load’ it does become tiresome so I just ignore tbh, however it does also sound like he sent it to the wrong gender

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I find it's usually the person who is crying rude who lacks manners.

They need to hit out and the RUDE label put on others makes them think they've had justice.

Wear your own monkey. You didn't get any. You don't like it.

Go on. Call me rude.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

If you reply with a "no thanks" plenty will take the fact that you have replied as an invite to try to talk you round.

No reply. = no thanks. It really is that simple.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"I don't mind that people may not like me, I don't mind my messages being deleted. What gets my goat is the deleted message followed by the BLOCK just for messaging!!

Its rude......RUDE I say!!"

To offer a reason and hopefully dispel the idea that blocking is rude...

We block people we are not interested in. We don't do it to send any message to the guy we're blocking, we do it as a way of 'filing' the Fab community.

We use our 'Looked at us' list as a sort of hotlist. If people look at us, or message / wink us, we check them out and if we're not attracted we block so our lists only contain those we like the look of.

It just keeps things neat and tidy.

I understand you think it's rude, but in our case it's simply an admin thing.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

By the way, we also do the block thing for people who live too far away.

We've blocked some absolute hotties who would have been perfect if they lived closer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They are sex gods

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"They are sex gods"

Is that why you never reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By the way, we also do the block thing for people who live too far away.

We've blocked some absolute hotties who would have been perfect if they lived closer."
i take it thats why you blocked me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They are sex gods

Is that why you never reply

"
i always reply to you

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By *33cpleCouple over a year ago

Manchester

I (male half) had been speaking to a couple for a few days having banter. Then he asked me do I have any face pics so I said I've sent you a friends request yesterday (was still waiting for him to accept) ( but he wants face pics from me ??) So he said. You haven't got any face pics on your private gallery so I said how to do you know ? He replied. How do you think ! Then followed with byeee your blocked and I'm reporting you to admin .......what the fuck is that all about !!!!! I'd call that RUDE and so uncalled for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Rudeness is not a fab issue its simply a social media issue. The more and more people use social media and can talk reject or disagree with anyone on there with no face to face contact, you will see passive aggressive messages and bad manners increase throughout society online

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

"By the way, we also do the block thing for people who live too far away.

We've blocked some absolute hotties who would have been perfect if they lived closer."

How do you know paths won t cross..... people aren't trees and they do move around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I (male half) had been speaking to a couple for a few days having banter. Then he asked me do I have any face pics so I said I've sent you a friends request yesterday (was still waiting for him to accept) ( but he wants face pics from me ??) So he said. You haven't got any face pics on your private gallery so I said how to do you know ? He replied. How do you think ! Then followed with byeee your blocked and I'm reporting you to admin .......what the fuck is that all about !!!!! I'd call that RUDE and so uncalled for"

People dont like their dumbness pointed out

So they attack

Its easier than saying " what a silly billy I am"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"By the way, we also do the block thing for people who live too far away.

We've blocked some absolute hotties who would have been perfect if they lived closer.

How do you know paths won t cross..... people aren't trees and they do move around "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just block rude people I do .

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By *xycpl699Couple over a year ago

kilmarnock

we always say sorry not for us then use block button

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just makes me appreciate my dogs more...

They are always happy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He asked for a face pic and you implied he would see one if he accepted your friend request. He had, and you didn't. Why not just send the requested face pic?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just makes me appreciate my dogs more...

They are always happy

Mine are always hungry

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just makes me appreciate my dogs more...

They are always happy

Mine are always hungry

Feed them....all the rude people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just makes me appreciate my dogs more...

They are always happy

Mine are always hungry

I Havent got a dog

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He asked for a face pic and you implied he would see one if he accepted your friend request. He had, and you didn't. Why not just send the requested face pic? "

I read that as he was still waiting for the friend request to be accepted

Maybe I read it wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just makes me appreciate my dogs more...

They are always happy

Mine are always hungry

I Havent got a dog

I have a spare one

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By *33cpleCouple over a year ago

Manchester

He asked for a face pic and you implied he would see one if he accepted your friend request. He had, and you didn't. Why not just send the requested face pic?

I read that as he was still waiting for the friend request to be accepted

Maybe I read it wrong"

I was. Why should I send a face pic if he didn’t want to accept the friends request ?? We had been speaking quite a bit But in all honesty it was the “ byeee your blocked and reported to admin “ comment. Reported for what !!!!

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By *ohn perry OP Man over a year ago

maesteg

Well it seems I've hit a nerve with this post lol. Seems I am not the only one who thinks there are a lot of people stuck up there own bum holes lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the defense of myself who gets unsolicited messages full of cock pics from some people that have not read my profile.

Who have not taken notice of the fact that I am 20 years older than their profile is looking for.

I am not rude but I dont want to reply and I do delete. Men do seem to think this is rude. We really do not have to reply.

Would really like a thanks but No button that does not open up the chance of further conversation.Great suggestion - that button.

What else should or could we do?

It's amazing how they're suddenly into exactly the same thing as we are! That's why I don't give any information anymore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well it seems I've hit a nerve with this post lol. Seems I am not the only one who thinks there are a lot of people stuck up there own bum holes lol "

Yeah, right on

Wear your own monkey

Granny knows a thing or two

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A polite message will always get a polite reply from me.

A crude, rude, or sexually graphic message will not.

Rather than complaining about impolite replies, perhaps the content and calibre of the message that elicits such a reply should be the topic under scrutiny?

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By *ain n MableWoman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

To be fair, there are 25,000 people on here at any given time, (if we are to believe Fab) So I think statistically you are always going to find rude people in a capacity like that in any walk of life.

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By *iversong321Woman over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Well it seems I've hit a nerve with this post lol. Seems I am not the only one who thinks there are a lot of people stuck up there own bum holes lol "

Do you think people really care if you think that? I think it's a great filter tbh. Those that think others are up their own arse usually are issue laden.

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