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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have you ever noticed you are different dependent on the company and situation you are in?
There are obvious differences between professional encounters and personal ones but even different social groups bring out different sides to my personality.
Are you the same? Is there a noticeable difference? Are you aware of it and do you ever feel like it's an act?
When are you truly yourself? Is it with a certain person or group or only when you're alone? |
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"Have you ever noticed you are different dependent on the company and situation you are in?
There are obvious differences between professional encounters and personal ones but even different social groups bring out different sides to my personality.
Are you the same? Is there a noticeable difference? Are you aware of it and do you ever feel like it's an act?
When are you truly yourself? Is it with a certain person or group or only when you're alone?"
have to be professional at work all phonelines are recorded so have to be careful of what is said,even to colleagues! |
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"Have you ever noticed you are different dependent on the company and situation you are in?
There are obvious differences between professional encounters and personal ones but even different social groups bring out different sides to my personality.
Are you the same? Is there a noticeable difference? Are you aware of it and do you ever feel like it's an act?
When are you truly yourself? Is it with a certain person or group or only when you're alone?"
I'm always me, I hate pretense and pretension with a venom. I do 'come alive' when I am out dancing with my buddies, and that ebullience is my true self, never an act. But I also have a very quiet, connected way with horses - it's just another side of me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I'm me at all. Not for years.
A long time trying to fit into a mould that isn't me.
I think that breaking out and trying to find my proper shape will be very painful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm aware that I'm different with different people. I wouldn't say that it's an act though, more knowing your audience and there being different sides to me.
There are things I will talk about with certain people, that I wouldn't talk about with others, or jokes that I would make with people that I wouldn't say in front of others. That tends yo be related in how well someone knows me, or how much I have allowed someone to know me. There needs to be levels of trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the more I like a person the more they will see the real me. Woman who are bitchy and moany in my work I avoid like the plague so they only see a polite quiet person when I pass them in the corridor. The ones who are a good laugh and friendly will see my fun side. Same as people outside. Only my few very close friends will see the good the bad and the ugly x |
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I was brought up well so I'm polite and friendly with most people. I'm a social butterfly with various groups of friends from different backgrounds and professions though so can hold my own with any group. I'm still me, but will alter the type of conversation according to the company I'm in at the time. |
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Theres not actually many people i can be my true self with tbh . Maybe a couple of true friends and hopefully a good friend on here I will meet up with soon . My sense of humour is too sarcastic for some people and I daydream too much . Even at 41 I confuse myself sometimes . I don't like being around people where you have to literally think of every sentence and how to word it in case I offend them . I am me and someday I'll meet someone who will appreciate it . That is all  |
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I think most people have hit it on the head here! Completely depends on who and what your company is like! Most people have always got that quieter side too them, it just comes out at early stages of relationships then as you build trust, you feel you can be more yourself to the full extent! My anxieties sometimes get the better of me and so I can be that quiet person, until I feel comfortable around you, you don’t necessarily meet the genuine me straight away! But both sides of me are polite and well mannered so don’t try to let it affect my overall self! Sometimes i do feel its like an act but I’m my opinion, that’s down to putting previous trust into people who didn’t deserve it! Interesting topic though! Is nice to see so many others are similar! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm, well for years I wasn’t me, in public I put on this face of everything was great but in private I was scared and alone and someone I didn’t like. Then things changed and I started to realise I could be me but was scared people wouldn’t like the new me. Now I have varying degrees of me I let people see, I’m polite and chatty to everyone but different depending on the company. Few people get to see the complete me, but that’s more to do with my insecurities and the damage of the past. X |
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"Hmmm, well for years I wasn’t me, in public I put on this face of everything was great but in private I was scared and alone and someone I didn’t like. Then things changed and I started to realise I could be me but was scared people wouldn’t like the new me. Now I have varying degrees of me I let people see, I’m polite and chatty to everyone but different depending on the company. Few people get to see the complete me, but that’s more to do with my insecurities and the damage of the past. X "
Good post very much the same here  |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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I'm still working out who I am, I spent 20 something years pretending to be someone else.
One thing I notice most though is that I have an annoying habit of picking up/mimicking accents! That then sometimes goes on the change how I act around people. It's really hard to control  |
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"I'd challenge every person on this thread who says something along the lines of ........ I'm always me. I never change regardless of who i'm with yada yada....
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Why? One can be authentic and still adapt to circumstances. Some people fake it, others don't. |
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I think a lot of it depends on the social context, whether you're with a close friends group or broader acquaintances or strangers
The closer I am the more relaxed I am and open up 
I find that meeting a bunch of strangers for the first time can be quite intimidating, which is quite strange as I organise forum socials  |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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For me thier is a distinct difference to work life and personnel life. Although I try to bring a bit of my personnel life into work I still have to maintain the professionalism that is expected. The real me is laid back and hopefully a bit of a messer total opposite to work. I do however get to bring a little bit of me to work on occasion hiden but I know it’s thier.
We are what we are and what we do and how we do it is totally down to us. Yes thier are certain rules and requirements for our works life but I’m sure we all still like to have a little bit of us. We are not robots |
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I'm a bit of an odd ball and over the years from being a school you learn to adapt to the subtle nuances to blending with different groups and situations with great success. Its a great feeling when you find someone you can 100% be yourself. You know the difference when you find it and it feels amazing and completely natural. |
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"I don't think I'm me at all. Not for years.
A long time trying to fit into a mould that isn't me.
I think that breaking out and trying to find my proper shape will be very painful. "
It’s a journey that I am on and while uncomfortable, it is one worth taking
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Whilst basically I'm the same person with the same beliefs/thoughts etc I know I can and do behave differently according to the circumstances - for example put me with a group of people I know well and I can be outgoing, gregarious and the life and soul - however put me in a situation where I'm not that comfortable or don't know people that well and I become a bit of a wallflower unless someone prises me out of my shell.
Even amongst people I know well, I can act slightly differently dependent on the type of relationship I have with them - it's not a deliberate thing or an act at all just the way I am. |
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"I'd challenge every person on this thread who says something along the lines of ........ I'm always me. I never change regardless of who i'm with yada yada....
Why? One can be authentic and still adapt to circumstances. Some people fake it, others don't."
Agreed but that's not what is said.... of course we all adapt to circumstances. To not do so smacks of lack of social awareness, self awareness , empathy, gravitas and levity etc......
Some just fool themselves if they don't recognise that they respond in various ways and God save me from those that actually don't change their behaviour. They are usually without thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I'm me at all. Not for years.
A long time trying to fit into a mould that isn't me.
I think that breaking out and trying to find my proper shape will be very painful. "
Not necessarily x |
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"I'd challenge every person on this thread who says something along the lines of ........ I'm always me. I never change regardless of who i'm with yada yada....
Why? One can be authentic and still adapt to circumstances. Some people fake it, others don't.
Agreed but that's not what is said.... of course we all adapt to circumstances. To not do so smacks of lack of social awareness, self awareness , empathy, gravitas and levity etc......
Some just fool themselves if they don't recognise that they respond in various ways and God save me from those that actually don't change their behaviour. They are usually without thought. "
Ok I follow you. Identity and behaviour need separating. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I don't think I'm me at all. Not for years.
A long time trying to fit into a mould that isn't me.
I think that breaking out and trying to find my proper shape will be very painful. "
But maybe also be very rewarding. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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I am moulded a certain way through life experiences. The variety in how I behave changes mostly based on how confident I am in the situation I find myself in. Whether that be a professional or personal situation doesn't matter. There are a lot of factors that affect how confident I am at any given time of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im never me ..........
its difficult to be me as ive always liked long hair ,straight away , rocker , in a band , likes a joint .
actually i hate all 3.
Then work started and i fell into the fruit machine pool table fag machine business.
un be known to me , gangster , hard nut , tough nut ,cash launderer.
im totally opposite to all the above .
30 years down the road , ive even changed areas , moved from north london up the rd to hertfordshire ,
im still tarrred with the same brush .
i put it down to my appearance and hint of cockney i guess .
even tho i do chauffeur a lot so speak to clients as if i was educated at eton ...wouldnt get the job otherwise.
funny ole game |
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