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What does "no NSA" mean to you?
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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 Errrrrrrm...someone who was looking for natch dot cum?
It might mean someone who only wants regular meets though. Not the wham bam thank you ma’am type.
Ooohhh...so that would be me. Though I want regular NSA. Is that stipulation technically a string? |
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" Errrrrrrm...someone who was looking for natch dot cum?
It might mean someone who only wants regular meets though. Not the wham bam thank you ma’am type.
Ooohhh...so that would be me. Though I want regular NSA. Is that stipulation technically a string? "
Hence my question. 
Is regular a string? |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
" Errrrrrrm...someone who was looking for natch dot cum?
It might mean someone who only wants regular meets though. Not the wham bam thank you ma’am type.
Ooohhh...so that would be me. Though I want regular NSA. Is that stipulation technically a string?
Hence my question.
Is regular a string? "
Apologies...it takes a while to work through the logic in the mornings  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" Errrrrrrm...someone who was looking for natch dot cum?
It might mean someone who only wants regular meets though. Not the wham bam thank you ma’am type.
Ooohhh...so that would be me. Though I want regular NSA. Is that stipulation technically a string?
Hence my question.
Is regular a string?
Apologies...it takes a while to work through the logic in the mornings "
I'm agreeing with your thinking. |
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That there's not any commitment between partners, apart from respect and having a good time. No partner should read into the interaction anything more than that it's just a sexual satisfier, however many times you'll meet. And there shouldn't be pressure to meet again. |
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"No nsa means someone wants more.
Does regular equal more I think it does to some degree."
Yes, at the very least regularity and a friendship of mutual respect which to me means that some strings are granted in terms of 'treating others as you wish to be treated'.
I offer loyalty, honesty, kindness and empathy to all my friends, in the real world and on fab, and expect the same in return. I think any kind of 'friendship' gives rise to a duty of care. I'm never going to get on with someone who thinks because it's fab or nsa that any kind of disrespectful or unkind behaviour is acceptable.
I could have hot sex with a stranger I may never see again, I've done it before and could do it again if the mood strikes - but it's not something I am looking for in the cold light of day, so yeah, I say not interested in nsa on my profile.
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over a year ago
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No romantic ideas of attachment or exclusivity.
Happy with just something physical but emotional ties such as a mental connection and/or friendship don't have to be ruled out entirely.
That's my interpretation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably something like what I'm looking for, a connection and some form of open or swinging relationship. Don't think I've ever seen it written as 'no NSA' on profiles though, it looks weird seeing it written that way |
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No No Strings Attached....... Double negative = a positive. Saying No NSA means you want Strings Attached......
Could mean ... The tit head who wrote it doesn't realise what they've said OR
The person who wrote it wants some form of commitment even if it's just matey. |
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I meet men for regular meets, we meet once a week-ish, take out meal, sex, usually an overnight relaxed stay. Little or no contact until nest time we meet, with clear boundaries that we will never become a 'couple' in a committed relationship. To me, that is my version of sex with no strings. |
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From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers... 
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx  U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
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20 mins ? Why take that long.
Initial reply then NOTHING. |
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
20 mins ? Why take that long.
Initial reply then NOTHING. "
Missing the point completely but ok... Manners really |
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We want nsa. It doesn't mean we don't respect people it just means (to us) that if you need a lift somewhere at 2am we aren't the people to call. It also means that if you flirt with other people in the forum we won't get stroppy, if you're obviously meeting other people we will smile and hope you have a great time and if after one or even twenty meets you don't want to see us again we won't be throwing our dollies out of our strollers. |
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over a year ago
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"No romantic ideas of attachment or exclusivity.
Happy with just something physical but emotional ties such as a mental connection and/or friendship don't have to be ruled out entirely.
That's my interpretation."
Apologies.. I read the post wrong. I missed the "No" before NSA.
Well.. I'd assume that person didn't want a fuck'n go.
I'd guess they wanted to build up a relationship of some kind. I'd probably ask them what they meant by it in the first message.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No nsa means someone wants more.
Does regular equal more I think it does to some degree.
Yes, at the very least regularity and a friendship of mutual respect which to me means that some strings are granted in terms of 'treating others as you wish to be treated'.
I offer loyalty, honesty, kindness and empathy to all my friends, in the real world and on fab, and expect the same in return. I think any kind of 'friendship' gives rise to a duty of care. I'm never going to get on with someone who thinks because it's fab or nsa that any kind of disrespectful or unkind behaviour is acceptable.
I could have hot sex with a stranger I may never see again, I've done it before and could do it again if the mood strikes - but it's not something I am looking for in the cold light of day, so yeah, I say not interested in nsa on my profile.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
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Brilliant!!! So frickin true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
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Ha ha ha ha haaaaaaaa! Genius! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
"
Another truly awesome post from you |
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I’d interpret that as looking for more commitment - presumably a relationship but certainly some expectations of a consideration of each other in your play. So, not playing apart, checking with each other first etc. |
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"We want nsa. It doesn't mean we don't respect people it just means (to us) that if you need a lift somewhere at 2am we aren't the people to call. It also means that if you flirt with other people in the forum we won't get stroppy, if you're obviously meeting other people we will smile and hope you have a great time and if after one or even twenty meets you don't want to see us again we won't be throwing our dollies out of our strollers."
You may have read it wrong but this does answer some of the things I was thinking of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Strictky speaking it means looking for someone who actually wants strings attached.
I would imagine this too. Wanting a bit more commitment. "
Not for me, no. I seek NO commitment. We set off with the intention of meeting once a week-ish, he is free to meet whom ever else he wishes. If either of us wants out, it stops. If either of us wants more, it stops.
That is my personal approach to NSA, but not one off's |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Also couples can handle NSA more than a single person because couples obviously have each other for intimacy and getting their emotional needs met.
I think if a single person has met someone multiples times and then the other person puts an end to it I don't think feeling hurt/angry/upset or any kind of emotion is throwing your toys out the pram. I think couples forget that they have each other to lean on and for emotional support and whatever the fuck else, easy to go and just shag someone when you're purely doing it for fun. When you're a single person then it's quite normal to feel something for the person after mulitiple meets, its enevitable. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Strictky speaking it means looking for someone who actually wants strings attached.
I would imagine this too. Wanting a bit more commitment.
Not for me, no. I seek NO commitment. We set off with the intention of meeting once a week-ish, he is free to meet whom ever else he wishes. If either of us wants out, it stops. If either of us wants more, it stops.
That is my personal approach to NSA, but not one off's "
I get that. But nsa means nsa. No nsa is the opposite. I understand what is actually meant. It is very open to interpretation. But my answer would be the dictionary definition if you see what i mean. In reality I would interpret it on a profile meaning I am not here for just one off hook ups and want something a bit more regular. I wouldn't actually assume they want marriage and kids |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Also couples can handle NSA more than a single person because couples obviously have each other for intimacy and getting their emotional needs met.
I think if a single person has met someone multiples times and then the other person puts an end to it I don't think feeling hurt/angry/upset or any kind of emotion is throwing your toys out the pram. I think couples forget that they have each other to lean on and for emotional support and whatever the fuck else, easy to go and just shag someone when you're purely doing it for fun. When you're a single person then it's quite normal to feel something for the person after mulitiple meets, its enevitable. "
I think not feeling at least a dissappointment after meeting someone for a good few times and then it ending would mean a person is a bit cold. Depends on the reason why it ends i guess. |
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"Also couples can handle NSA more than a single person because couples obviously have each other for intimacy and getting their emotional needs met.
I think if a single person has met someone multiples times and then the other person puts an end to it I don't think feeling hurt/angry/upset or any kind of emotion is throwing your toys out the pram. I think couples forget that they have each other to lean on and for emotional support and whatever the fuck else, easy to go and just shag someone when you're purely doing it for fun. When you're a single person then it's quite normal to feel something for the person after mulitiple meets, its enevitable. "
Exactly why i don't do socials. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Also couples can handle NSA more than a single person because couples obviously have each other for intimacy and getting their emotional needs met.
I think if a single person has met someone multiples times and then the other person puts an end to it I don't think feeling hurt/angry/upset or any kind of emotion is throwing your toys out the pram. I think couples forget that they have each other to lean on and for emotional support and whatever the fuck else, easy to go and just shag someone when you're purely doing it for fun. When you're a single person then it's quite normal to feel something for the person after mulitiple meets, its enevitable.
Exactly why i don't do socials. "
I don't get the correlation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The only person who could ever know what it really means is the person who writes it on their profile....
But it does appear to suggest they could be seeking anything from a relationship to just something more than fuck and run.
Or perhaps they are unclear themselves about what they really want and are just trying to cover their bases.
I'm not even sure nsa ever exists...waits for howls of protest....
Who we meet is always driven by a need connection some level of trust and a measure of mutual interest knowledge and awareness of the other party. They are all strings that connect people; some stronger than others, and without some combination of those touch points would anyone ever meet on here.
I can't know whats in another's mind I can only talk listen guess and sometimes maybe even hope...
Communication is the key...
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"but i do cuddle anyway cause mmmm round 2 gonna be sensual babbbbby
Nice backtrack lol"
Ah it's not really a back track, I don't know any women into sensual love making, they all just want to be fucked. |
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"but i do cuddle anyway cause mmmm round 2 gonna be sensual babbbbby
Nice backtrack lol
Ah it's not really a back track, I don't know any women into sensual love making, they all just want to be fucked."
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"Strictky speaking it means looking for someone who actually wants strings attached.
I would imagine this too. Wanting a bit more commitment.
Not for me, no. I seek NO commitment. We set off with the intention of meeting once a week-ish, he is free to meet whom ever else he wishes. If either of us wants out, it stops. If either of us wants more, it stops.
That is my personal approach to NSA, but not one off's "
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"but i do cuddle anyway cause mmmm round 2 gonna be sensual babbbbby
Nice backtrack lol
Ah it's not really a back track, I don't know any women into sensual love making, they all just want to be fucked."
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"From mail I get, it seems its whatever guys think will get them into your knickers...
This is generally how conversations go:
Him: Hi xx Sexy pics xx 24 fit hung xx Staying in the Maldron 2nite xx Free 2 fuck NSA xx
(He's thinking: kisses are sure to seal the deal... Right?)
Me: Sorry. Random meets not my thing. Good luck and take care.
(I'm thinking: Clearly hasn't read my profile. Probably sent same copy/paste message to every woman in Wexford area)
Him: Oh me 2 xx I ment free 2 chat xx dam fone changed it lolz xx
(he's thinking: sweet! someone replied. Can't remember which one she was but profile pic has boobs. Play my cards right and I might get a blowjob at least)
Me: I see. I'd really rather not waste your time. I've read your profile and don't believe we would connect.
(I'm thinking: oh why did I reply???? Now I'm having a pointless conversation with someone I've no interest in...)
Him: Awwwe Y not xx U seem really nice xx I wud like 2 get 2 no u xx
(he's thinking: fuck fuck fuck! She's slipping away and nobody else replied. I'll end up having a wank alone again)
Me: Thank you. But as you're just in the area tonight I don't see any point. I genuinely don't do random meets... I like to build up a rapport with people over time before I even meet them for coffee.
(I'm thinking: Balls... Obviously none of the others he mailed have replied and now he's like dog with a bone)
Him: O me 2 xx Im in Wexford every month 4 work xx Mayb we can chat an hav coffee nxt time xx
(he's thinking: ok. Not getting a blowjob this time but might even get a blowjob and a fuck next month. Hope she does anal)
Me: You're also well outside my age preferences.
(I'm thinking: please please please let someone else mail him.... Where's that girl who's always looking for someone to buy her smokes in her status messages when you need her??)
Him: Hahaha xx changed my age 2 mail sum1 an now I can't change it bk xx I'm a really nice guy xx If u get 2 no me maybe we cud meet reglar every month xx Work pays for my hotel xx We cud have dinner an drinks xx U seem really nice xx I wud luv a reglar meet wit u xx
(he's thinking: this might actually work... I could have guaranteed sex every time I visit Wexford!! Score!!)
Me: But you said you were 24 in your initial message too...
(I'm thinking: Jeez they really will say anything! He's probably lying about the fit and hung bit too.. *snort of derision*)
---- radio silence ----
(he's thinking: fuck. I blew it. I'll mail her again next month. Bet she'll have forgotten by then)
(I'm thinking: whew... No reply... Someone else must have taken the bait...yaayy!!! Must make a private note on his profile though in case he tries it again next month)
So there you have it... From NSA FaF to FwB in 20 mins...
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"Also couples can handle NSA more than a single person because couples obviously have each other for intimacy and getting their emotional needs met.
I think if a single person has met someone multiples times and then the other person puts an end to it I don't think feeling hurt/angry/upset or any kind of emotion is throwing your toys out the pram. I think couples forget that they have each other to lean on and for emotional support and whatever the fuck else, easy to go and just shag someone when you're purely doing it for fun. When you're a single person then it's quite normal to feel something for the person after mulitiple meets, its enevitable. "
Not strictly true. I know a married woman who struggles with her emotions, I bet there is more than one or two on this thread as well.. She gets emotionally attached occasionally to some of the guys she meets.
She likes meeting me, because there is zero danger of me falling for a married woman. None at all. If I tore up her marriage, I wouldn't want to see her again. Everytime I looked at her I'd be reminded of what I helped to destroy. She understands that and we are very good friends, but that's it.
I can fall for a single woman if we're right for one another, but it takes me quite a long time.
So.. Couples can fall as quickly, or quicker than singles in a lot of cases.. especially if they're just starting out in this wierd and varied world of swinging. |
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"but i do cuddle anyway cause mmmm round 2 gonna be sensual babbbbby
Nice backtrack lol
Ah it's not really a back track, I don't know any women into sensual love making, they all just want to be fucked.
I like a sensual ass fuck. Does that count? "
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"but i do cuddle anyway cause mmmm round 2 gonna be sensual babbbbby
Nice backtrack lol
Ah it's not really a back track, I don't know any women into sensual love making, they all just want to be fucked.
I like a sensual ass fuck. Does that count?
How do I do the thumping heartbeat emoji.. I think I've fallen in love "
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"sluts"
 of course because women aren't allowed to be free to make their own choices about who they fuck and when... I forgot this was 1918 and not 2018
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"sluts
Yes, even in this day and age, sexually liberated women are sluts
He didn't say they were female sluts "
I'm still trying to work out what that one word has to do with this thread
He popped in, uttered five letters and popped out again
I do hope he comes back to elaborate |
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"sluts
Yes, even in this day and age, sexually liberated women are sluts
He didn't say they were female sluts
I'm still trying to work out what that one word has to do with this thread
He popped in, uttered five letters and popped out again
I do hope he comes back to elaborate"
He won't |
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