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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems like loads of threads that are 'anti-valentine's day' going on today. Even though I'm a single man with no plans I'm an advocate of the day. In my opinion, we don't express the love or need we have for our partners enough. I know I for one have definitely been guilty of this.
So yeah, lavish you other half with praise, love and affection! Forget about the material bollox and tell them what they really mean to you.
And if you're one of the bitterballs reading this thinking 'soppy git!' or that 'you don't need anyone' than you're playing this game wrong. Happiness and love are good things to chase. Define yourself by what you like not what you oppose! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think anyone’s said that love is bad thing or something not to be cherished. And I haven’t seen a lot of anti - Valentine’s threads (in fact the opposite!).
I think those that are ‘anti’ tend to be against the mass commercialism and opportunism of the day (eg doubling or tripling of usual prices).
As many have said, you don’t need to express your love to someone just because it’s February 14th - you should be doing the showering of praise, love and affection you mention in your opening post on a regular basis irrespective of the date!
It’s a fun day for sure and not to be taken *too* seriously (for many - although I accept that many others hate it) but the ‘true’ meaning of it for most has been lost to the big corporates a long time ago! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hmm I fail to see some of the points made. Always the same "you should do it everyday" but how many of us actually do? Yes people have cashed in on valentine's but that doesn't mean you have to adhere to what society dictates. Show love without a present or do it on a different day if it's the date what grinds your gears. We live in a capitalist and consumerist society so the gifts are to be expected right? I'm against materialism but I like having an excuse to shower someone with love. Even if the day just acts as a reminder of how you should treat your other half I still think there's more good than bad being done |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just object to a day telling me I have to be romantic and the commercialism involved. I'll do it my way thanks. No bitterness. "
And what way is that? I'd take romantic commercialism over most things if it's done in a way that communicates love |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got flowers from the number one chap in my life... my daddy. Valentines Day is lovely when you’re loved. I haven’t sensed much bitterness here though. Probably not looking too hard for it to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"hmm I fail to see some of the points made. Always the same "you should do it everyday" but how many of us actually do? Yes people have cashed in on valentine's but that doesn't mean you have to adhere to what society dictates. Show love without a present or do it on a different day if it's the date what grinds your gears. We live in a capitalist and consumerist society so the gifts are to be expected right? I'm against materialism but I like having an excuse to shower someone with love. Even if the day just acts as a reminder of how you should treat your other half I still think there's more good than bad being done"
Ok if not ‘everybody day’ then regularly.
I get what you’re trying to say but if the only times you ‘remember’ to show affection is on landmark dates such as birthdays, Christmas and Valentine’s Day then I can see why it’s useful to have the date in the calendar.
Me and my significant other have mutually agreed to send a card to each other today - and we are having a nice meal out at the weekend when we can have twice the experience for the same money!
Of course we’ve wished ourselves Happy Valentine’s Day and said we love each other.
But it means no more today than it did yesterday, or tomorrow! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"hmm I fail to see some of the points made. Always the same "you should do it everyday" but how many of us actually do? Yes people have cashed in on valentine's but that doesn't mean you have to adhere to what society dictates. Show love without a present or do it on a different day if it's the date what grinds your gears. We live in a capitalist and consumerist society so the gifts are to be expected right? I'm against materialism but I like having an excuse to shower someone with love. Even if the day just acts as a reminder of how you should treat your other half I still think there's more good than bad being done
Ok if not ‘everybody day’ then regularly.
I get what you’re trying to say but if the only times you ‘remember’ to show affection is on landmark dates such as birthdays, Christmas and Valentine’s Day then I can see why it’s useful to have the date in the calendar.
Me and my significant other have mutually agreed to send a card to each other today - and we are having a nice meal out at the weekend when we can have twice the experience for the same money!
Of course we’ve wished ourselves Happy Valentine’s Day and said we love each other.
But it means no more today than it did yesterday, or tomorrow! "
Too many assumptions here my friend. I didn't say the only time but they are good times that are universally known by all.
I'm not gonna say I know what is best for all as your valentines sounds very organised. Agreeing in what should be done and when. I'm quite an impulsive and spontaneous guy so your day wouldn't work for me.
Also I wasn't trying to quantify it. It doesn't mean any more on today's date than any other but I still think the day does more good than bad |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Bitterballs 
I like it and intend to use it at some point.
I agree with your OP, more or less.
Enjoy what's left of this day and tell someone you care about that they are important to you, even if that isn't romantically.
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