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So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
That sounds similar to a message I had the other day, wonder if it was the same person. |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
WTF . Thats just so wrong . Funny . But wrong !! |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
Better then wasting your time I suppose. Better to get the niche stuff out of the way. |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
Maybe they don't wish to waste your time or theirs if it's not something you'd be interested in . |
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I tend to leave niche suggestions until I've met a few times and know them better and may only suggest something I think they will be in to. Im not that kinky though so never anything bad ha I get a lot of women message me asking can they use a strap on before we have even had a chat. Must say, not appealing at all and usually results in a block. Some sicko's on here though with ridiculous suggestions. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident  ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing! |
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I have enough problems with people thinking that shit in sex is acceptable. Wait till ive got over that one before we introduce the contents of my stomach - hot and stinking - into it too.
It's hardly worth having a bath before a meet... |
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"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!"
Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.
It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks... |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
Can't believe what goes through peoples minds! |
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"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!
Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.
It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks... "
To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway . |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
I had the same. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
I think that is precisely why those kind of messages act as an immediate 'filter' as the reality is that they don't understand (sadly for them) and more's the point, you at least get a very realistic impression of what they would be like if you were to meet them!  |
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"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!
Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.
It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks...
To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway ."
We are up for some pretty niche kinks, though not this one, but if a guy mentioned them in a first message it would put us off.
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"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!
Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.
It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks...
To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway .
We are up for some pretty niche kinks, though not this one, but if a guy mentioned them in a first message it would put us off.
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So as you aren't interested in that kink ....would it then make any difference mentioning right off or after weeks of talking? Surely outcomes the same you aren't interested ?
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
Don't know whether to  or  at this post!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's like guys think they only get to have sex this once so has to do everything imaginable within 20 minutes!
Don't they realise that if its a good first session you would probably meet up again and then look to explore things together??? |
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"It's like guys think they only get to have sex this once so has to do everything imaginable within 20 minutes!
Don't they realise that if its a good first session you would probably meet up again and then look to explore things together??? "
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"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.
I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!
Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.
It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks... "
The site is full of explicit pics, verifications detailing sex meets and sex 'interests' listed/ discussed on profiles. It's an overtly sexual site.
Why would they think they needed to chat a while before discussing sex? |
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"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!
Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
I seem to remember I was asked that recently, probably the same guy! |
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Gets it out of the way, saves the pussyfooting around just to put folk off later (I know, i'm into some pretty sick shit..don't matter how long you wait, folk don't suddenly start liking what they don't like)
Plenty folk about who don't mind you getting to the point right off the bat, lots who don't too but there we go. |
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"I tend to leave niche suggestions until I've met a few times and know them better and may only suggest something I think they will be in to. Im not that kinky though so never anything bad ha I get a lot of women message me asking can they use a strap on before we have even had a chat. Must say, not appealing at all and usually results in a block. Some sicko's on here though with ridiculous suggestions."
this. kinky doesn't tend to happen during the first meet- trust has to build and then we can experiment! |
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