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How do you stop wool being pulled over you?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "
hey I don't think that would really do anything for people in this lifestyle always someone else to turn to for that ,if he's genuine he will do other things that are more important,want your company,take you places ,think about you etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

Enjoy being told nice things but be strong and try not to fall for them. Just enjoy yourself and see what happens.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here."

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?"
look their are many genuine lovely people here ,only you can tell whether you've found one if you haven't time will tell ,theirs always going to be lots of cynics its a sex site etc but I've found some great people over the years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?"

They will want to stick around after sex. They will treat you like a princess and always contact you. You will know if the person is genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The unfortunate truth is that you’re unlikely to change him.

If you want to play with players, expect to be played!

Everyone likes a bad boy, but don’t be surprised when that bad boy turns out to be bad!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?"

I'm too cynical now that's my problem. I'm sure there is the odd one or two who may by some miracle want the same as myself,but yeah that's the million dollar question what are the signs they are genuine,I don’t know.

I wish there was an easy way to find out,suppose you just have to go with your gut and go for it,if it goes tits up then it goes tits up. I prefer more normal messages to start with I know that rather than the one's that tell you you're amazing when they know sod all about you. I kinda go off how many verifications someone has as well,if they're a prolific meeter for sex meets then I question whether they would give that up.

It's not easy is it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Treat him mean keep him keen .Let him prove that things he said are true .cause alot do talk the talk and that's all it is .

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"The unfortunate truth is that you’re unlikely to change him.

If you want to play with players, expect to be played!

Everyone likes a bad boy, but don’t be surprised when that bad boy turns out to be bad!"

I'm a 50 year old I don’t want a bad boy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just go with the flow. Don't take all the flannel on board to start with. Time will tell if what he says is true.

I don't believe anything anyone I've met on here says.

Actions speak louder than words.

Enjoy yourself, see how it goes.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Treat him mean keep him keen .Let him prove that things he said are true .cause alot do talk the talk and that's all it is .

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lol do the talk do the walk

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By *upcakes123Woman over a year ago

Wakefield

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

Never trust a man especially on here xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You've kinda answered your own question, and from your previous experiences here, it's probably the most viable route for you to take. You've had fellas tell you all you want to hear until they've shagged you, then disappeared. Change the goalposts, take sex off the table until you can trust him fully.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Treat him mean keep him keen .Let him prove that things he said are true .cause alot do talk the talk and that's all it is .

lol do the talk do the walk

350 miles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Treat him mean keep him keen .Let him prove that things he said are true .cause alot do talk the talk and that's all it is .

lol do the talk do the walk

350 miles

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hey trains are a god send

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

"
god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You've kinda answered your own question, and from your previous experiences here, it's probably the most viable route for you to take. You've had fellas tell you all you want to hear until they've shagged you, then disappeared. Change the goalposts, take sex off the table until you can trust him fully. "

I wouldn't normally agree with this route but there's a definite pattern - I hope you find a decent one soon OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Treat him mean keep him keen .Let him prove that things he said are true .cause alot do talk the talk and that's all it is .

lol do the talk do the walk

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand "
the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?"

I'd imagine there are more on here looking for more than what's offered in the front window. For a start very few actually write in the forums, there are far more who just read them.

As far as what signs? I say as someone already said see how much emphasis is placed upon getting to know you outside of the bedroom. How much time are they giving to it. Conversation I'd one of the keys as is social time doing fun things together, walks, hobby, movie etc. That thing called dating

Watch for excuses, cancelling, manipulation which can be hard to see if they're good at it, is sex part of each meet or is he more than happy just being with you, does he pay his way each time and more or does he he give excuses like 'I'm short this week/left my wallet behind, is it all around when he's free or does he accommodate for when it best suits you, do you feel safe in his company as in do you feel he's got your back, does he listen to you or is it about what he wants to say or tell you.

listen to your gut feeling and no one ever gained anything without taking risks. You may loose too but never see it as a loss but rather as learning because you'll always take something new along from it. Finally be straight in your talking to each other. There's loads more and I could go on but hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve worked out that most will tell you anything they think you want to hear.

And the ones that want more seem to always have excuses.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

Playing devil's advocate here, but your profile text is basically a 'How to pull women for Dummies', and suggests that all other women they may be chatting to are fake, so obviously you're the only one all men should be talking to.... while saying absolutely nothing about you, the type of man you prefer or what you're looking for.

Just a thought... But you may just be giving off the wrong vibe...

Be assertive in who and what you're looking for, your profile should be about you and your preferences... and while it may seem harsh, don't even entertain those who you know are not compatible... You're wasting both your own time and theirs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Change the goalposts, take sex off the table until you can trust him fully. "

This completely. If he's genuinely interested in 'you' for who you are rather than what ge can get or want then this will separate the wanker from the genuine.

Remember it's about what you can both bring to each other rather than what you can get from the other. Most here grow into the latter the longer they're on here because of the nature of the beast.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Why would you withhold sex?! That’s playing games and no one wants to have to deal with that rubbish!

Just trust them - it’s the only way. Keeping a weather eye open for trouble creates an artificial distance between you that can cause the very thing you’re worrying about.

If they do let you down, by god it hurts, but you don’t get to enjoy the beautiful connections in life if you don’t risk the pain.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Why would you withhold sex?! That’s playing games and no one wants to have to deal with that rubbish! "

That's what I thought.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you can generally tell when somebody is talking shit, it’s all in the eyes, the eyes can never lie. Don’t listen to people who say this isn’t the place to find love. Maybe not the place to look for it but at the end of the day we are all just people with the same feelings and emotions as the rest of the world. Just because you meet through here doesn’t mean feelings can’t be genuine. There are plenty of couple that will tell you that. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why would you withhold sex?! That’s playing games and no one wants to have to deal with that rubbish!

Just trust them - it’s the only way. Keeping a weather eye open for trouble creates an artificial distance between you that can cause the very thing you’re worrying about.

If they do let you down, by god it hurts, but you don’t get to enjoy the beautiful connections in life if you don’t risk the pain. "

This you've misunderstood. Maybe I should explained it in more detail. I thought it was more obvious, most guts are looking to get laid and many will do or say anything and then once they get it the may just move on. I'd say if the guy is genuine interested in her then sex won't be a main priority as I thought my previous post suggested. It's not about withholding but it's clearly about not giving the dessert before the starter and main course. Most seem to have a sweet tooth.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Atropos....... your name means 'inevitable' or 'inflexible' ......

Very apt as you keep on hitting the same shit.

What have you done to change yourself ?

You can't control anything except your own behaviour. Unless you want to be true to your name.

I've got to go stir my chick peas. Asta La Vista...... I'll be ......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So.e want their cake and eat it here...

Eg in a relationship.. But on here pretending to be available...

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

He might talk the talk but if he is serious he will back it up with his actions.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Every single reply on here apart from Elcee and the one that says some want their cake and eat it show huge contradictions in their thinking and doing around the subject of sex and relationships.....

It's not often one gets to read such ill thought out clap trap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

I'd suggest that if you want more than just sex from a guy, spend time getting to know him first. It isn't always easy to trust straight away; for some of us, if we've been burned before, it's virtually impossible.

It isn't clear from your post or your profile, if you're looking for more on THIS site, or if you're asking more generally? This isn't primarily a dating site after all, and it's probably the wrong place to be looking for something more meaningful, don't you think?

Still, the only way to really tell what someone's motives are is to take things slow, hold back both emotionally and physically until you're sure. Any decent guy who genuinely likes you for you should be willing to wait, and be considerate of your feelings. If they're not, and just keep pushing for physical satisfaction whilst **saying** they want more, then personally I'd question their sincerity.

All that aside, I do agree with comments about what you say in your profile......please don't take offence, but it comes across quite arrogant and bitchy in places, and seems to focus more on putting other women down than it does on showing your own positive qualities. I don't think it's likely to attract the kind of guys you seem to want.....maybe change it to say what you DO want, and focus on showing yourself positively, rather than others negatively?

Hope this makes sense and helps a little; I've not slept much the last 24 hours and I feel like I'm tangling my thoughts up, so I'm going to stop here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse. "

Did he leave to be 'with' you ?

Did you scare him off ?

Where do the casual dates come in ?

Were you making it up ?

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

Ive experienced this and it’s hard. Now I’m very up front on my profile what I’m looking for. I don’t meet people unless they’re looking for more but you’ll still get some telling you what you want to hear. So I guess absolute clarity on what you’re looking for up front and as things progress and listen to your gut. If it says it’s not right it probably isn’t

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

I don't want to wait 15 yrs and have a baby with someone till I know they're comfortable enough to show they can love all parts of a person not just the good bits

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse.

Did he leave to be 'with' you ?

Did you scare him off ?

Where do the casual dates come in ?

Were you making it up ?"

Had two dinner 'dates' with nothing more than a peck on the lips and a hug at the end but Sunday night slept next to him in bed, spooned and kissed and a finger, dry humping but no fucking.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Was it you doing the dry humping ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

With regards to the profile, I've had many many profiles over the years, I've had detailed profiles that explain every single thing that I want and I'm looking for but I found that by putting it there the guys have all the information they need to use against me.

Give nothing away and I can see what they're offering. I'm upfront and say I'm not looking for just sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With regards to the profile, I've had many many profiles over the years, I've had detailed profiles that explain every single thing that I want and I'm looking for but I found that by putting it there the guys have all the information they need to use against me.

Give nothing away and I can see what they're offering. I'm upfront and say I'm not looking for just sex. "
you are very upfront for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Was it you doing the dry humping ?"

I had knickers on he had free willy, was him on top of me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

I don't want to wait 15 yrs and have a baby with someone till I know they're comfortable enough to show they can love all parts of a person not just the good bits "
yes but etiquette demands you don't show the new man in your life your idiosyncrasies

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Why would you withhold sex?! That’s playing games and no one wants to have to deal with that rubbish!

Just trust them - it’s the only way. Keeping a weather eye open for trouble creates an artificial distance between you that can cause the very thing you’re worrying about.

If they do let you down, by god it hurts, but you don’t get to enjoy the beautiful connections in life if you don’t risk the pain.

Apologies inbetween, I was answering the OP, not you.

I see where you’re coming from but it’s still game playing for me. It’s a form of testing and control and can cause someone to sour off you...which then leads to the very distance you were trying to avoid. Then they leave and you have your self-fulfilling prophecy right there.

Just enjoy things for what they are and if they turn out wrong...learn from it and get back on the horse. Plenty of guys will be arses, as will girls but you don’t want to miss out on something great through anxiety about it not being real.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

Why would anyone have a issue with buying a woman tampons any more than they would buying her a bar of chocolate?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse. "
a silk purse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wish I knew the answer OP.

Normally I would say follow your

But so often that's how we all get broken.

It's easy to trust and hope if that's what we want, but sometimes far harder to do or find either in some one else.

The only thing for certain is withholding who you are or withholding sex is not the answer.

That's almost like playing a game. And leads to the loss of trust and hope...and all the mistrust and cynism that it brings in its wake.

Maybe consistency honesty openness belief trust hope all those things that connect us as people in the outside world are too much to expect or hope for on fab.

I hope I'm wrong about that. But ultimately the real proof is in how two people dare to trust and if they can sustain all those other positives too.

That takes time and commitment by both parties giving of ourselves freely and not playing games.

This may be fab, fun, nsa or whatever variation of fuckery we decide to share....

But it's about real people real lives the real world.

That's where we all live, not in a fab bubble,and where everything we do and feel is real.

Hope you find your own answer...thats all any of us can do x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?look their are many genuine lovely people here ,only you can tell whether you've found one if you haven't time will tell ,theirs always going to be lots of cynics its a sex site etc but I've found some great people over the years

"Over the years?"

Have you been on this site a while then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

I don't want to wait 15 yrs and have a baby with someone till I know they're comfortable enough to show they can love all parts of a person not just the good bits yes but etiquette demands you don't show the new man in your life your idiosyncrasies

Pfft to that. If showing you care beyond a crappy massive valentines card and a bunch of roses is idiosyncratic I'll take it.

A detour on your home to get hand cream for your sore hands, volunteering to check the oil in your car when the light comes on and he has his best jeans and white top. Or rubbing his sweaty feet after a hard day in work boots proves more to me than an 'I love you'.

But then I am quite mad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

Pfft to that. If showing you care beyond a crappy massive valentines card and a bunch of roses is idiosyncratic I'll take it.

But then I am quite mad

"
I agree but think you're talking about valentines day now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

Just assume that they are all talking shit and telling you what you want to hear.

Just bear in mind that they are probably not looking for a relationship just a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

Pfft to that. If showing you care beyond a crappy massive valentines card and a bunch of roses is idiosyncratic I'll take it.

But then I am quite mad

I agree but think you're talking about valentines day now

I prefer pancakes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How does he know what you want to hear?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

Well the first step is knowing and accepting if he's telling you what you want to hear. If you know thats what he's doing just to have sex then it's up to you to decide if you are going to get some free sex and enjoy it while it lasts or find someone who's genuinely looking for what you want.

But under NO circumstances will you persuade him to give you what you want (relationship) by withholding or giving sex. That is not the way to secure a man and you'll end up looking like a crazy creepy woman. Some men have the patience of a rock and will stay around for the chance of sex. Just be honest about what you want every step along the way and communicate that clearly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

That's the stuff that should come first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stop playing games and learn from your past experiences.

Write down a list of what’s gone tits up in the past and why thats happened ~ be honest with yourself, was it your behaviour, choosing a man based on penis size, going for the same type..for example??

If you want sex on the 1st date then have it for ffs, withholding isn’t necessarily going to keep a man keen, at the end of the day sex is just sex & he can go elsewhere ~ what keeps a relationship flowing is honesty, integrity, common ground, personalities & attraction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is fab a dating site now then ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Climb out from beneath the sheep ........simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is fab a dating site now then ?"

It's whatever an individual wants it to be for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In the past I've been absolutely rigid in deciding who gets to put their penis inside me. I've only gone for guys over 6ft with dark hair, penis length no smaller than 7 inches with a minimum circumference of 5.5 inches, strong jaw lines big eyebrows and extreme facial attractiveness.

It takes a lot of seraching to find those guys, when one has shown up, because they rarely do and because I know how long its taken to find one I go crazy for them, want them all to myself, act way too full on amd end up pushing them away because they don't understand how special they are to me they could think I'm like that with every guy I meet.

Guys ask how long I've been here, 7 years, they ask how many I've slept with in that time, 5 guys, they ask how many I've actually met, close to or over 400 guys. They struggle to believe I've only actually fucked 5.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the past I've been absolutely rigid in deciding who gets to put their penis inside me. I've only gone for guys over 6ft with dark hair, penis length no smaller than 7 inches with a minimum circumference of 5.5 inches, strong jaw lines big eyebrows and extreme facial attractiveness.

Sounds like you are searching for an impossible dream of what you think Mr perfect should look and act like.

Clearly you think no one is good enough for your very high standards.

Brutal honesty.

Grow up and realise that it's not just about look's.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?

They will want to stick around after sex. They will treat you like a princess and always contact you. You will know if the person is genuine. "

How does one find such a mythical creature.

To be treated like a princess.. that would be nice x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sounds like you are searching for an impossible dream of what you think Mr perfect should look and act like.

Clearly you think no one is good enough for your very high standards.

Brutal honesty.

Grow up and realise that it's not just about look's."

Yeah kind of not helping. I know what I've done wrong. I've explained what hasn't worked for me in the past.

I'm trying something different, this guy is 5'11

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

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I suppose that speaks volumes then doesn't it. If you've met that amount of men who you think stand up to your strict requirements for you to meet them in the first place and you've only had sex with 5 of them,then they can't be all that can they,if you take out any that didn't want you.

Can you not try loosening up with your exact requirements,make it a little easier for yourself.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

Serious advice.

If you limit who you will consider for a relationship by such type physical criteria, there will obviously be a very small field. The chances of you meeting someone who meets that criteria who is not a dick head are minimal.

If you want to meet someone to form a relationship with, I'd be less rigid about your physical criteria. There are plenty of men who want relationships on here, but it seems to me you are self sabotaging.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you need to look for the men who say things like "IF we click" Who are prepared to talk about a potential future of some kind, but take pains to not actively commit to one verbally without meeting for a few times first.

I've met women I get on with personally and am attracted to, only to find the sex wasntvwhat I was hoping for, or what was discussed.

Women are also great on the whole at making use of angles and filters - which can be considered a form of deception.

Sometimes it's clear after one meeting that she isn't quite what she described her personality to be like. She may be very demanding in terms of attention.

I'd say if you're looking to date romantically, hold off the sex Till you're both sure. To avoid hurt feelings.

If you're looking for a long term FWB.. you should both consider the first sexual meeting is a try-before-you-buy situation.

It's busy man, long working hours, children I need to put first and friends I care about. Sometimes I need my own space as well.

I do my best to be honest with everyone I intend to meet. I've got women on my friends list who I have met, would love to meet again, we spoke about sex as FWB after all. Theyre all aware of my busy life and I'd like to think that they know I'm interested in them and do consider them friends, I'd be upset if they thought I was stringing them along. That I didn't give a fuck and used them to get my rocks off once. If I get a feeling we're not a match after all.. I'd tell them.

I'd say that if you are looking for love, this place isn't the best place, if you're not prepared to take risks with horny men.. who WILL OFTEN say anything for a shag. I've done it in the past. Experience, mistakes, good advice, guilt, empathy and emotional maturity are what's made me try to be as clear as possible before I commit to someone on a longer term basis.

Also you may want to consider your interpretation of FWB. For me it's getting to know somebody like a friend and treating them as such, but many of my friends live all over the place. I don't see them for years sometimes. I still like them, still care about them, still want to be friends and in the case of FAB.. still want to get low down n dirty with them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I think you’ve answered your own questions, especially in the 2nd paragraph.

If you take a look at your closing sentence too, that’s quite a confusing conundrum for someone to figure out. I’m not saying you have to fuck your way into triple figures but your conversion rates to someone on a swingers site maybe come across a little strange.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like you are searching for an impossible dream of what you think Mr perfect should look and act like.

Clearly you think no one is good enough for your very high standards.

Brutal honesty.

Grow up and realise that it's not just about look's."
all of the things stated as requirements make such a difference to the quality of the man and how good a life partner he would make ,don't you think ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse. "

You’re still on here though,how does that figure into the equation all things being equal.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well his profiles gone now which he'd had 2 years and verified. He said he can't be arsed with it and is hoping we get on!

Will just keep having casual dates and spending time with him whilst keeping my cunt in my purse.

You’re still on here though,how does that figure into the equation all things being equal....."
because dare I say its all about what she wants and not what he wants .......am I bad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met my husband online, on a site that was for people looking for no strings. Neither of us were looking for a relationship. But we met and fell in love and have been together 13 years. So . . . while this isn't really the place to look for "more", it can and does happen OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well I think you’ve answered your own questions, especially in the 2nd paragraph.

My social meets over the years have gone from having a coffee with someone to actual drive bys, same place will meet in the car park by my local KFC, 5 mins drive away, have a look at each other in the car of I didn't fancy them in the flesh, instantly then if would just be a quick chat and away and normally get myself a fully loaded box meal from the drive through.

Guys I've fucked 1st guy (2011)was the one who introduced me to here 7 years ago, 2nd guy was the marine(2011), 3rd guy the guy from up north that I was seeing for 18 months (2012/13) 4th guy is one of my veris(2014 and 2017) 5th guy (2017/18)

I can take it or leave it with sex, I've gone over a year without it before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, over the course of my time here I've seen you struggle with this, and other similar issues. I *think* I get what you're looking for, but I often wonder if you don't have a problem with selection bias.

What I mean is this: You have some pretty physically demanding preferences. That's perfectly fine. But if you add to that the fact that you want all sorts of commitments as well, I think you run into a problem. You are an attractive woman on fab. You are difficult to obtain (which is something often highlighted by you on these types of threads). Men who meet your physical demands are likely on fab for a reason, an obvious reason. And they probably do well with women (women generally, not just you). So I wonder if they get the unobtainable (you) and then move on when you seem "too much" or when you want more exclusivity.

I know that you know this already, but this is fab. Think about what the majority of guys on here are looking for - especially guys who could have a relationship without aid of this site in a heartbeat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The most chisseled chin in the world is not a guarantee of eternal loved up bliss. There are more important charachteristics to be considering.

And you have to be open to the possibility of finding what it is that you want instead of doubting he/it exists.

You're not daft, you just need to cool your chips and think with head and not just your heart.

If a man wants you, he'll let you know one way or another and not just by waving his dick in your direction.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"OP, over the course of my time here I've seen you struggle with this, and other similar issues. I *think* I get what you're looking for, but I often wonder if you don't have a problem with selection bias.

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I think you’ve answered your own questions, especially in the 2nd paragraph.

I can take it or leave it with sex, I've gone over a year without it before. "

I wasn’t asking you to justify your reasons, you don’t need too ~ I was offering a different viewpoint

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wise words.. this is one reason I avoid demanding profiles. I would love to meet someone I've got a strong, romantic chemistry with.. but I'm old enough to have had my heart broken enough times.. to know exactly the kind of woman I want to be with for the rest of my life.

I hope I'll find her on Fab, because I consider myself a Swinger, not a shagger. This is why I tend to prefer Hotwives who are happily married. There's little emotional drama, I know where I stand and so does she, so we can just enjoy a genuine, physical friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!"

A male unicorn, that’s what I’m wanting to find but I’m on several sites/apps, good to keep options open as they could be found anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out....""

Tits & a minge speak volumes!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!

A male unicorn, that’s what I’m wanting to find but I’m on several sites/apps, good to keep options open as they could be found anywhere.

Actually, very hot is not a requirement, I prefer them intelligent and interesting, obviously I have to have a physical attraction also.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

Tits & a minge speak volumes!"

I think it's more a function of her being recognizable on the forums than anything else.

Although, I will say, while a man would get ripped apart for the physically demanding parts of the OP's search, I actually think a guy would get a more favorable answer if he had just posted the opening post. I would certainly tell a man that he has a better chance of finding a woman on here looking for a relationship than a woman does a man.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one.

Never trust a man especially on here xx "

I trusted a man on here and we are getting married soon!!

I’m a big believer in going with your gut to be honest, whatever that is telling you and go with that. When Ads said he wanted to take me out on a date, I didn’t think about it and just did it and thankfully it turned out ok, he wasn’t promising me the stars and the moon, we just went with the flow and saw where it led us, thankfully it led us to a very lovely thing.

Geeky x

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm glad you're on other sites to OP, keeping your options open. Do you also look for guys in the real world?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve only just read back and noticed the requirements the OP states in a man...geez, do you bring a tape measure to every date? Wow, I have no words.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

Tits & a minge speak volumes!

I think it's more a function of her being recognizable on the forums than anything else.

Yes I agree that’s probably the case, although I will add I do think that can distort the answers that some people give because she’s known.

Overall there definitely appears to be more women looking for relationships so it’s a pretty good ‘hunting ground’ for a Unicorn of the male kind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm glad you're on other sites to OP, keeping your options open. Do you also look for guys in the real world?

Was that to me? I’ve been doing online dating since 2001 so it’s hard to do it any other way. I met my ex (husband) on a dating site and the few before him. I’m a flight attendant so it’s hard to have a regular social life so meeting online it easy for me as can chat etc while I’m away leading up to the dates. I’ve been single for 3 years now so am ready for a bit more than fwb, I’ve had lots of fun but I also love the swinging aspect with a partner. Hence having my fingers in the ‘fab’ pie.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!

A male unicorn, that’s what I’m wanting to find but I’m on several sites/apps, good to keep options open as they could be found anywhere.

That's the 3rd different definition of a Male Unicorn I've heard this week

Your miles away and I'm not very "Hot" unfortunately lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!

A male unicorn, that’s what I’m wanting to find but I’m on several sites/apps, good to keep options open as they could be found anywhere.

That's the 3rd different definition of a Male Unicorn I've heard this week

Your miles away and I'm not very "Hot" unfortunately lol."

I didn’t read the previous comments properly, I’m

NOT looking for a make unicorn. I’m fussy but ‘very hot and cock size’ is not in my requirements. My taste is more open minded. A beard is the only thing I prefer, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long story short. She's looking for the male unicorn. A very hot guy on a swingers site who wants a relationship..

Yep that’s about the sum of it

possibly one of the hardest combinations to find on here!

A male unicorn, that’s what I’m wanting to find but I’m on several sites/apps, good to keep options open as they could be found anywhere.

That's the 3rd different definition of a Male Unicorn I've heard this week

Your miles away and I'm not very "Hot" unfortunately lol.

I didn’t read the previous comments properly, I’m

NOT looking for a make unicorn. I’m fussy but ‘very hot and cock size’ is not in my requirements. My taste is more open minded. A beard is the only thing I prefer, haha xx"

*male

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I'm glad you're on other sites to OP, keeping your options open. Do you also look for guys in the real world?

No it was for the OP.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out....""

I know I'm shallow, I was asked to write down where I've gone wrong in the past. I'm acknowledging the way I picked guys and had such strict requirements was wrong. Does this mean I'm not entitled to advice now I'm trying things a different way?

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm glad you're on other sites to OP, keeping your options open. Do you also look for guys in the real world?

No it was for the OP....."

Oops, sorry. Ignore my post.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand. "

Sounds like progress.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand. "

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dont pull ya jumper over ya eyes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lifes for living , just enjoy and let it fall into place

theres no rush

enjoy the moment

if he genuine he waits till your ready

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

That's a very good point. If a good looking young WE guy is on here he is almost undoubtedly only looking for sex!

There are a few who are just using this 'meanwhile', but they should also be on dating sites seriously looking for someone at the same time. If they're not, well why not?

And I have met a few younger guys who you could tell immediately were 'wrong fonts' - they did not want to be here, they were not into swinging, they didn't belong, the site was all a bit too much for them, and within a few months they were gone again. There are people on here who want monogamous relationships.

Other than that, the only 'natural' way to find a guy on here is to have safe sex with guys that you fancy who might be up for more and just take a chance that one day you will click with someone. You choosing them is not enough - they have to choose you to, with all your 'uniqueness'!

Yes, you could take it slow, make sure they are genuinely interested in spending time with you as a person, but a gentleman is just a patient wolf - just because he takes his time, doesn't mean he won't eat you up and spit you out! There are guys who are very adept at making women fall for them with no intention of ever returning the sentiment. Only time will tell, you can be cautious, but you can't play games with people - not if you want someone who will not play games with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP....

Treat people as people not a collection of body parts

stop using sex as a weapon or a prize

Dare to do something different. You will get a different outcome.

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By *ools and the brainCouple over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand. "

Having standard's is a good thing, unrealistic expectations isn't your always going to be left disappointed.

I think you need to lighten up,stop being so hard on yourself and the guy's , enjoy their company as much as their appearance.

You will suprise yourself one day.

You will wake up next to a guy who you love with all your heart and guess what. I bet he will be nothing like your current idea of the perfect man.

It's our imperfections that make us special, those little things that only we notice.

Others dismiss but it's what makes us love the person even more.

I'm not saying shag everyone just be a but less interested in hair gel and abs, and more interested in the brain and personality.

Coz let's face it your current system hasn't worked maybe a fresh approach.

Good luck.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

Tits & a minge speak volumes!

I think it's more a function of her being recognizable on the forums than anything else.

Yes I agree that’s probably the case, although I will add I do think that can distort the answers that some people give because she’s known.

Overall there definitely appears to be more women looking for relationships so it’s a pretty good ‘hunting ground’ for a Unicorn of the male kind

Way more - in the real world, on dating sites, on fabs. Women can cherry pick if they just wants sex, but men can cherry pick for relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Building a relationship comes by forging trust between you and having a shared set of wants and needs that you’re willing to meet for each other. To forge that trust requires that you are both willing too be vulnerable with each other, move beyond any game playing and communicate authentically with each other.

Not asking for a dick picture before you meet is a good start, you didn’t want a relationship with a cock in the first place

If at any time it feels ‘gamey’ That’s a signal for more authentic communication and ‘sharing your hand’ with each other.

Good luck in your continued search Athena

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!"

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good. "

Thank God for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand. "

It's good to hear. I've never shown my sick to anyone I've met or going to meet. I have been asked on a couple occasions and I declinded politely saying I understand if thats important to you but for me it's more about how it's used and who it's attached too. If I see this request in a profile I just skip over them, probably put them into my block list as we'd never meet anyway.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

Don't show me yer sick!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good. "

Okay here’s a question for you.

Based on this guy playing devils avocado here

You like him looks & personality wise however his dick is a little off being a decent size hard ~ what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

Don't show me yer sick!

... I'll change your mind one day

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good.

Okay here’s a question for you.

Based on this guy playing devils avocado here

You like him looks & personality wise however his dick is a little off being a decent size hard ~ what would you do?"

Love avocado..

1. Buy him a latex enlarger glove

2. Go to palates and lighten up those pc muscles

3. Don't bother with any of the above if hes just to be a fb.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As the wise Dolly Parton once said -

"To see the rainbow, you got to put up with the rain".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

My view is read their profile first because it should say and meet for several socials first. Anyone can lie and be a player but you are less likely to get caught out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

I know but don't you think sometimes that just as we are looking for something this site doesn't typically offer there may be *some* guys also looking for more?

But yeah I think the best thing is to not believe anything anyone says, but what if they are being genuine, what are those signs?

It's not easy is it."

Just the same as dating sites. Some people lie and some don't. A profile is very important for that sort of intention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here."

We're still going to Mauritius, right?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good.

Okay here’s a question for you.

Based on this guy playing devils avocado here

You like him looks & personality wise however his dick is a little off being a decent size hard ~ what would you do?"

Well I'd have to get over my fear of touching one, it's the aesthetics, I like the look of a large penis. Doesn't have to be gigantic, just over two hand potatoes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this was a guy coming up with this thread he would be getting slaughtered for being shallow.

I am not going to contribute further to this.

Except to quote a line from one of my favourite songs

.." when straight teeth in your mouth are more important than the word's that comes out...."

I've met someone and for the first time in my whole entire life I didn't ask for a picture of his dick before hand.

How does that make you feel not seeing a picture,excited,scared!

Was nervous about it but I've seen it fully hard and it's decent so all good.

Okay here’s a question for you.

Based on this guy playing devils avocado here

You like him looks & personality wise however his dick is a little off being a decent size hard ~ what would you do?

Well I'd have to get over my fear of touching one, it's the aesthetics, I like the look of a large penis. Doesn't have to be gigantic, just over two hand potatoes. "

Now that’s a cracking answer...1 potato, 2 potato...beats a ruler hands down!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

"
why fab is more and more like a dating site its not all about the sex .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

It's because I is popular innit.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

It's because I is popular innit. "

Unfortunately I think that's exactly why.. If it had been anyone else it'd have had about 30 replies maximum.

You've listed a lot of your own faults, which I kind of admire about you. The faults explain why youre not getting the person I think youre after.. It's self explanatory and you already know the answer, because you're not stupid.

If I'd have written it, granted I'm not all that popular.. Innit.. I'd have been destroyed for being so shallow. Then probably get a PM from a gopping shallow couple who secretly agreed with me.

I'm not attacking you, like I said, I admire your bravery to be so honest. You need to wake up though if you want to be happy. It's not about dropping your standards.. it's about having the right ones, you're the one missing out right now.. not the queue of dingbats ready to send you their knob shots.

Good luck with your new guy, I hope he males you happy and treats you kindly, I hope you do the same for him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

why fab is more and more like a dating site its not all about the sex .

Oh I realise that.. I swing with the couples, but I'm also single and would hope I meet the right woman on here at some point.. but not exclusive to one another physically, just emotionally.

It was more in reference to OPs self admitted shallowness. Her popularity or desirability is what has caused the number of posts.. not the content.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

why fab is more and more like a dating site its not all about the sex .

Oh I realise that.. I swing with the couples, but I'm also single and would hope I meet the right woman on here at some point.. but not exclusive to one another physically, just emotionally.

It was more in reference to OPs self admitted shallowness. Her popularity or desirability is what has caused the number of posts.. not the content."

She comes across as a genuinely nice person, and I think that's why many people warm to her.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

why fab is more and more like a dating site its not all about the sex .

Oh I realise that.. I swing with the couples, but I'm also single and would hope I meet the right woman on here at some point.. but not exclusive to one another physically, just emotionally.

It was more in reference to OPs self admitted shallowness. Her popularity or desirability is what has caused the number of posts.. not the content.

She comes across as a genuinely nice person, and I think that's why many people warm to her.

Completely agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm amazed this thread has as much attention as it does

why fab is more and more like a dating site its not all about the sex .

Oh I realise that.. I swing with the couples, but I'm also single and would hope I meet the right woman on here at some point.. but not exclusive to one another physically, just emotionally.

It was more in reference to OPs self admitted shallowness. Her popularity or desirability is what has caused the number of posts.. not the content.

She comes across as a genuinely nice person, and I think that's why many people warm to her.

She is.. from what I know of her. I'm not saying she isn t. I said I admired her honesty.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Haven't a clue,I now have it through my daft skull though to realise this isn't the place to find what I want. I don’t believe what anyone tells me on here.

We're still going to Mauritius, right?"

I've been sat at the airport for three days now waiting,you're not coming are you

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

A man would get the wrong tampax anyway! As for treating her like a Princess, then yes a diamond may be appreciated! What does the term ‘treat her like a Princess’ really mean to a man?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Talk is cheap, anyone can say 'luvs ya babe'

Can you imagine him being there for the more mundane stuff, holding your hair while you vomit or going out and buying your tampax when you feel like crap, type of stuff

god we see So much into these threads ,you treat life as it comes at you you can't plan for these things

I don't understand the vommit and the tampax hopefully that's 15 years down the line after they're married and have babies

A man would get the wrong tampax anyway! As for treating her like a Princess, then yes a diamond may be appreciated! What does the term ‘treat her like a Princess’ really mean to a man? "

It was a phrase I used. If this man treats her nice and does nice things for her then maybe she should go with her instinct.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you are looking for more than just sex and you have a guy telling you all the things you want to hear, how do you ensure you don't just lap it up and be taken for a ride?

Withhold the sex I'm guessing would be the main one. "

First of all don’t tell him what you’re looking because if he’s an arsehole he will tell you what you want to hear, lead you up the garden path and once hes quenched his thirst he will move on.

So many of my gf get played like this...

You could withhold sex but that doesn’t mean anything to him he’s already got his sides chick on speed dial.

If he figures out that you are that girl kind and all it takes is a few compliments then of course you will be taken for a ride. Talk is cheap!

But

If the guy want more than sex he will show you by his actions not by his talk. Last thing he will do is try it on.

For men it’s the chase so play hard to get. Don’t throw yourself at him and don’t become clingy and too full on so quickly. That’s very anti seductive...

Be open minded and have no expectation. Spend time together and build on chemistry. Hang out with each other. Have fun! Explore interests etc

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