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Is this website a con?

By *onticus OP Man over a year ago

Greater London

I’ve been on for a couple of months, paying member, only seem to be getting in touch with females and couples that just delete all messages or don’t bother replying nothing creepy, just polite conversation introducing myself and trying to connect, attaching pictures, not bothering where I’m not wanted, etc.

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

It works well for me. I generally only use it for the forums though x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No complaints

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes its all just one big elobrate ruse!!

OP you can always block males from contacting you if they are getting tiresome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" I’ve been on for a couple of months, paying member, only seem to be getting in touch with females and couples that just delete all messages or don’t bother replying nothing creepy, just polite conversation introducing myself and trying to connect, attaching pictures, not bothering where I’m not wanted, etc.

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

Sorry to say it is very difficult for single guys on here. We fo through periods where we get bombarded with messages from single guys on here and you dont have the time to reply or read them all.

Have you tried to get to some clubs and socialise with people there. Get seen and chat to people etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a 'paying member', it works out a few pence a day. I have no sense of entitlement for paying a few pence a day. It gives me some features I like, but otherwise I can view, mail, meet people for free.

You will find people on here are like buses. No interest for ages, and then a couple will come along

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

In what way a con? Did you think you were guaranteed sex on tap for a fiver? That the owners are sat there with 31,190 made up profiles open, all ready to delete your messages?

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

I’m having a whale of a time

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Why do you think it is a con? You are not forced to pay a whole £5

There are plenty of other sites where it is mandatory to pay, but they don't guarantee anything, the site works if you put the work in.

Or curb your expectations as a lot of men seem to think they will just join and have all these women flocking to them, as you sadly have worked out, that doesn't work

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

It works for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have a search through the forum threads and you'll see that many men express that it is not as they expected it to be in the first few months.

Especially the unanswered or deleted messages thing.

Quite simply, there are a hell of a lot more men on here than women.

They get a lot of messages. Be creative, try and stand out from the rest.

Basically, it's going to take more than a bit of effort

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

Block Men

How’s it going for you guys? "

Its going alright, Spending my time between the forums and chat rooms, I hardly send messages out anymore and I am actually to busy to even arrange any socials/meets at the moment, Hopefully that will change over the next few months

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm on a bit of a dry spell, but am hoping for an improvement soon

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By * and BCouple over a year ago

Durham

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

We get a few messages from single guys. They obviously don't read our profile so the last thing we are going to do is message back explaining what they should have read in the first place, so all go unread and deleted. Hopefully you are not falling into the same trap and read the profiles and message only the folk that are compatible

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I met my partner on here over two years ago and we have had hundreds of great meets plus I have the pleasure of spending way too much time on the Forums. I think this site is totally Fab.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

I think one look at our profile will tell you how its going lol!

We haven't found a better site in 10 years.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A membership isn’t a free fuck voucher

Messages get deleted because they and/or your profile do not interest the person you message

Make more of an effort and actually read profiles to make sure you are what the woman is looking for

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Membership here is free, you can pay to support the site, but it's free for everyone to be here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How’s it going for you guys? "

It's going great. I've stopped single blokes and TV/TS from messaging me. I've had a couple of really sexually aggressive gay guys messaging and winking at me. Along the lines of "fancy a fuck"/I'd convert you" type of thing. As a straight fella it made my skin crawl. So I blocked them.

I know that single ladies are getting spammed to death, so I don't bother to message them anymore. I know that the message will be ignored, anyway, no matter what I say.

I've started going to a local club and so far it's been brilliant. Maybe go to a newbie day/night at a local club and see how you get on?

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By *tonMessCouple over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

To be fair you have only been here 3 months and have had a meet so you know it works. The Christmas period is notoriously slow as people are busy doing real life.

Stick with it. Use the Forums and chat rooms to chat.

Try to get along to a local social meet or club.

Blo k single men if you really dont want your hole poked

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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I paid a fiver now suck my dick.

Wait...it didn't say that in the T&C?

Well, please tell me what I am paying for?

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By *thwiltsmMan over a year ago

salisbury

It’s hard for all the guys, couples and females get so many offers they could never realistically reply to them all.

Your best bet is to either turn and let one of those amorous guys do their thing with you or get out to a swingers club where you will stand a much better chance of having some fun

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab. "

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I agree. Clubs are the way forward. Otherwise you’ll probably do better on tinder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm having a ball

No complaints here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a free, opted to be a silver membership to give a little back. Get enough back from meets, forums and chat

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP... Three suggestions.

1. Read the FAQS

2. Reconsider photo (is that the wife?)

3. Try clubs

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You should have gone Platinum membership, 3 guaranteed meets in the first 2 months and access to private galleries!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I don't pay. And i use fab to amuse myself while I'm on the loo. It works very well for that.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

There are ways to stop guys messaging you. Use the tools the site has to offer.

language like you use in your OP sounds a little bit homophobic. But as an educated guy, I’m sure you can review that one. Unfortunately there’s a lot of filthy bi people on this site, just like us.

Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pay my dues now I want some goddamned return on my investment!"

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's hard for females too, as there are so many male shitty profiles about that have very little info and shit photo's!

Yet it is always the males that sit about complaining but do nothing to help themselves, ie why the fuck should I make an effort? Women should be flocking to me after all I did bother to join

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just block single guys, don’t be an arse, see the forums and the chat rooms, have a perve at the hot photos, develop your interests, have interesting conversations with like minded people for less than mars bar (king size) a day, or you could have the chocolate bar and enjoy diabetes in later life, choices

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In what way a con? Did you think you were guaranteed sex on tap for a fiver? That the owners are sat there with 31,190 made up profiles open, all ready to delete your messages? "

Yes! And they reply on the forums too

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think the OP dud a post n run... he's not been back.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's hard for females too, as there are so many male shitty profiles about that have very little info and shit photo's!

Yet it is always the males that sit about complaining but do nothing to help themselves, ie why the fuck should I make an effort? Women should be flocking to me after all I did bother to join

Stop grumbling, roll up your sleeves and start rifling through those profiles dammit! Those rare gleaming and shiny men's profiles aren't just going to send you a message and tell you they are there y'know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I paid a fiver now suck my dick.

Wait...it didn't say that in the T&C?

Well, please tell me what I am paying for? "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this place is awesome! So much fun to be had

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"I'm on a bit of a dry spell, but am hoping for an improvement soon

Same here Eenie and I imagine quite a few others! I reckon there will be a few more mirages before any of us start seeing an oasis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you only fish in one place and don't catch, at least try different bait.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

"In what way a con? Did you think you were guaranteed sex on tap for a fiver? That the owners are sat there with 31,190 made up profiles open, all ready to delete your messages?

Yes! And they reply on the forums too"

I don't know how they do it! Where do they find the time...

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS over a year ago

Burton on Trent

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

Sorry, did you think paying guaranteed you something?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's hard for females too, as there are so many male shitty profiles about that have very little info and shit photo's!

Yet it is always the males that sit about complaining but do nothing to help themselves, ie why the fuck should I make an effort? Women should be flocking to me after all I did bother to join

I tried! And I lasted 2 minutes and my pussy dried up, I couldn't risk any longer

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

It's the same on the free side to its just cheeper

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

We rarely use it for meets, it’s just for research

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

In fairness I only became a site supporter because I thought you could get laid a couple of times a week and guess what you can

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has worked for me since 2006 and I haven’t paid the fiver for nearly a year now

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By *iercedItMan over a year ago

North West

Aerrgh so your Sydney University :p hehehe

"We rarely use it for meets, it’s just for research

Nothing dries a vagina quicker than desperation and sobbing, act as if

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By *onticus OP Man over a year ago

Greater London

I’d like to thank you all for your input, lots of interesting points!

In no way I meant that in return for me supporting the site, I expected any type of services in return!

Not intended to sound homophobic, just too many men messaging when the profile says I’m straight.

Being new to this lifestyle and the large number of profiles I find in my vicinity, with such poor reply rates, I was wandering if I should still spend time online... that’s all...

I’ll be considered club meets, and hope I will not be easily recognised!

Thank you all and Happy Fabbing!

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better. "

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois. "

‘50s A******e

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By *illyjohnyCouple over a year ago

brighton

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

That's because it's a pokermon site

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

‘50s A******e"

I do like an old arsehole.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

‘50s A******e

I do like an old arsehole. "

In your dreams.

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

‘50s A******e

I do like an old arsehole.

In your dreams."

You have no idea.

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By *r Peachy n Mrs PonyCouple over a year ago

Widnes

Works well for us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it's a con demand your fiver back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a few strange things ....

If you fab a meet ..the person posting the meet dosent know you've fabbed it .

The next few days I seem to get loads of newbies joining similar to the meet post that never respond to a message .

I get lots of response otherwise. ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its been pretty good to me and im no tom cruise

More like peter kay

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

having a blast.....

you are not owed just for being here.... you get out what you put in...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its never cost me a penny either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "

Oh yes, of course this site is a scam! As how dare they not provide sex for a paying member! Will you grow up, please, and learn the difference between sex/hook up site and swingers site? It would save you a lot of disappointment

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use it meet fellow rotating vegetable lovers like myself

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

‘50s A******e

I do like an old arsehole.

In your dreams.

You have no idea. "

That sounds sinister.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You should have gone Platinum membership, 3 guaranteed meets in the first 2 months and access to private galleries! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d like to thank you all for your input, lots of interesting points!

In no way I meant that in return for me supporting the site, I expected any type of services in return!

Not intended to sound homophobic, just too many men messaging when the profile says I’m straight.

Being new to this lifestyle and the large number of profiles I find in my vicinity, with such poor reply rates, I was wandering if I should still spend time online... that’s all...

I’ll be considered club meets, and hope I will not be easily recognised!

Thank you all and Happy Fabbing! "

You didn't sound homophobic or entitled or rude. The forum is always like this. People jump on men like a pack of fucking wolves.

Many women and couples say they never reply to messages. It's just an ego boost for them.

Good luck with the clubs. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d like to thank you all for your input, lots of interesting points!

In no way I meant that in return for me supporting the site, I expected any type of services in return!

Not intended to sound homophobic, just too many men messaging when the profile says I’m straight.

Being new to this lifestyle and the large number of profiles I find in my vicinity, with such poor reply rates, I was wandering if I should still spend time online... that’s all...

I’ll be considered club meets, and hope I will not be easily recognised!

Thank you all and Happy Fabbing!

You didn't sound homophobic or entitled or rude. The forum is always like this. People jump on men like a pack of fucking wolves.

Many women and couples say they never reply to messages. It's just an ego boost for them.

Good luck with the clubs. x"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In absolute basic terms it isn't working for me but the forum can be quite fun and it's not exactly extortionate.

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By *mmabluTV/TS over a year ago

upton wirral

Only thing I get back is unwanted blokes willing to poke my holes...

How’s it going for you guys? "
Great for t girls

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By *inkywife1981Couple over a year ago

A town near you

Never had any issues with the site, always able to find what we want when we want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's hard for females too, as there are so many male shitty profiles about that have very little info and shit photo's!

Yet it is always the males that sit about complaining but do nothing to help themselves, ie why the fuck should I make an effort? Women should be flocking to me after all I did bother to join

I tried! And I lasted 2 minutes and my pussy dried up, I couldn't risk any longer

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"Justin Timberlake is crying a river right now for all single men on Fab.

Except for the fact that Julie London already did that. And better.

So 1940s Miss DuBois.

‘50s A******e

I do like an old arsehole.

In your dreams.

You have no idea.

That sounds sinister. "

If you're feeling sinister, go out and see a minister.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm perfectly happy with it on here and don't feel it's a con. As you have asked for p6 advice we can't give it. Mist will check a profile before deciding whether to mess back.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Message not mess

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m having a whale of a time

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in your corset ?

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

It's only a con if you think that paying a few quid entitles you to anything

What did you think you'd get ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Adjust your expectations (and maybe your profile a little too).

There you go black kettle,

Pot x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m having a sperm whale of a time

FIFY

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s good craic

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By *aenMan over a year ago

Here and There

I think it's great. Hardly a day passes where I'm not amused and entertained by fab.

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By *iss.RedWoman over a year ago

somewhere

"It’s good craic

A very good crack

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It’s good craic

A very good crack

*sniggers*

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