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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Need someone to give me a jolly good talking to or reassurance lol
Ive been feeling for ages now a bit fed up of not being a bit of a priority to someone rather than just an option when people are bored
And before someone says you’re a couple we are friends and live 85miles apart |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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Well you just need to concentrate on you and stop thinking about what if , when and why not. If you make the effort and the other half doesn’t then it shows who really cares. Move on make plans and maybe doing that will give your partner a good kick up the ass to concentrate on you. If not you’ve got your answer and a free reign to enjoy your life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well you just need to concentrate on you and stop thinking about what if , when and why not. If you make the effort and the other half doesn’t then it shows who really cares. Move on make plans and maybe doing that will give your partner a good kick up the ass to concentrate on you. If not you’ve got your answer and a free reign to enjoy your life "
Thanks juicy but we are just friends not partners |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
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Yes this 
The worst thing is why lie, we might be ok with it, but the lies make you believe that friendship or FWB situ can occur but they have no intention of that at all |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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"Well you just need to concentrate on you and stop thinking about what if , when and why not. If you make the effort and the other half doesn’t then it shows who really cares. Move on make plans and maybe doing that will give your partner a good kick up the ass to concentrate on you. If not you’ve got your answer and a free reign to enjoy your life
Thanks juicy but we are just friends not partners "
Well same goes to be honest just maybe not to the full extent. Make your concerns and feelings known maybe a bit stronger. Hope things work out x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Need someone to give me a jolly good talking to or reassurance lol
Ive been feeling for ages now a bit fed up of not being a bit of a priority to someone rather than just an option when people are bored
And before someone says you’re a couple we are friends and live 85miles apart "
Find yourself someone who is willing to make you a priority.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh sorry it’s not about him at all. We are really close but the distance is an issue.
The feeling is putting me off meeting people on here and the attitude of NEXT afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Need someone to give me a jolly good talking to or reassurance lol
Ive been feeling for ages now a bit fed up of not being a bit of a priority to someone rather than just an option when people are bored
And before someone says you’re a couple we are friends and live 85miles apart
Find yourself someone who is willing to make you a priority.
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Have tried hard previously even set up a Worcester Social |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wonder when we are in that frame of mind, that we unconsciously send out the wrong signals, so coming across as a little desperate to make the nsa a more regular thing!
It's really hard! But as others have said, when you are happy and chilled in yourself, you aren't looking for someone else to make you feel special/a priority!
Meeting someone to be closer to will happen for you! Perhaps your just pushing it too hard (albeit without meaning to)
Good luck |
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one"
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wonder when we are in that frame of mind, that we unconsciously send out the wrong signals, so coming across as a little desperate to make the nsa a more regular thing!
It's really hard! But as others have said, when you are happy and chilled in yourself, you aren't looking for someone else to make you feel special/a priority!
Meeting someone to be closer to will happen for you! Perhaps your just pushing it too hard (albeit without meaning to)
Good luck"
Maybe. I guess I’ve thought being open about what I want is more likely to get it but maybe yeah they run a mile lol. Thanks |
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one"
I have driven 4 hours to meet my FwB.....my friends thought I was mad, and said they would never do such a thing.....but then in the same conversation will moan about husbands/partners lmao.....I would rather travel that and have an amazing 12 hours that satisfies me for a good week or two....than live day in day out with someone who doesn’t quite get me but is local lmao..... |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes....."
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer. |
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer. "
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort.... |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao  "
Lol probably true. 1 hour drive is where I put my limit.
A man of few typed words is myself. What do you think I should add to my profile
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao "
A bit bare lol |
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao
A bit bare lol "
Pictures by email and cannot accomodate, and travel for an hour for meet.....
Clearly a case a of “Fab single” again..... |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao
A bit bare lol
Pictures by email and cannot accomodate, and travel for an hour for meet.....
Clearly a case a of “Fab single” again....."
Lol. I always add picture in my messages but what I tend to find is lots of pure picture hunters and lots of fake profiles sadly. |
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao
A bit bare lol
Pictures by email and cannot accomodate, and travel for an hour for meet.....
Clearly a case a of “Fab single” again.....
Lol. I always add picture in my messages but what I tend to find is lots of pure picture hunters and lots of fake profiles sadly. "
Assume you are referring to my profile now....which is fine....it describes me perfectly, and I get exactly the meets I want  |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
maidenhead |
"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao
A bit bare lol
Pictures by email and cannot accomodate, and travel for an hour for meet.....
Clearly a case a of “Fab single” again.....
Lol. I always add picture in my messages but what I tend to find is lots of pure picture hunters and lots of fake profiles sadly.
Assume you are referring to my profile now....which is fine....it describes me perfectly, and I get exactly the meets I want "
Yes. You can’t accommodate either what’s the diff between me and you on that point as that was one of your comments on my profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would love to find a regular fb but impossible to find local ones I always have to travel miles for my one
Indeed! But I wonder if that is because with the accessibility that the internet gives us now to people that are worldwide, we have begun finding that our unicorns are out there, they are just further away? Before the internet, we would have been happy with someone more local that did not tick as many boxes.....
You may well be right there but there is definitely a lack in my area. Add a few miles to the basic search and it goes like wow I wish I lived closer.
So if you want it enough you will go those extra miles....the sheer laziness of some people astounds me.....don’t moan if you can’t put in the effort....
Just looked at your profile.....and can now understand why you cannot put in the effort .....lmao
A bit bare lol
Pictures by email and cannot accomodate, and travel for an hour for meet.....
Clearly a case a of “Fab single” again.....
Lol. I always add picture in my messages but what I tend to find is lots of pure picture hunters and lots of fake profiles sadly.
Assume you are referring to my profile now....which is fine....it describes me perfectly, and I get exactly the meets I want
Yes. You can’t accommodate either what’s the diff between me and you on that point as that was one of your comments on my profile "
Usually for women it’s about safety and/ or children for women. For men and i say usually it’s because they have a wife or gf at home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Until you are happy with yourself and secure in yourself you will always get the vulnerability
The only people that are priority in my life
me
my family
and my friends
sometimes u have to be selfish and look deep as if the people above dont make you happy in some way, ditch them toxic people arent good in your life
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guy wanting to meet locally = lazy.
Guy willing to travel for hours to meet = desperate.
Fab - The game you cannot win.  "
thats true, you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont! |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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"Guy wanting to meet locally = lazy.
Guy willing to travel for hours to meet = desperate.
Fab - The game you cannot win.
thats true, you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont!"
Looks like it to me. One rule for one and one rule for another lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Guy wanting to meet locally = lazy.
Guy willing to travel for hours to meet = desperate.
Fab - The game you cannot win.
thats true, you are dammed if you do and dammed if you dont!
Looks like it to me. One rule for one and one rule for another lol"
i think all people are the same in that context, we all can change the goal posts and the agendas if we wish
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want someone who is attracted to me and will see me when we are both free.
I don't need to be their priority and I don't expect to be. I don't feel hurt when I ask if someone is free and they say Sorry, got football. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Champagne you are fire!
Just be fabulous darling and don't make him a priority either.
I think lots of fun well be coming your way soon enough  x x x"
Haha thanks sweet. I don’t mean him as in the other half of this profile. I mean the guys on Here just want to use and discard I feel cheap and insignificant. Sometimes I think I’d rsther be a prossie as at least I’d get paid for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Champagne you are fire!
Just be fabulous darling and don't make him a priority either.
I think lots of fun well be coming your way soon enough x x x
Haha thanks sweet. I don’t mean him as in the other half of this profile. I mean the guys on Here just want to use and discard I feel cheap and insignificant. Sometimes I think I’d rsther be a prossie as at least I’d get paid for it "
Ahh I see....
I think honesty is always the best policy. I always make it clear if I want a one off or whether I think there are other avenues that need to be explored with someone. I appreciate when that honesty is reciprocated too it just makes for an easier time, no need to over think then is there x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
Yes this
The worst thing is why lie, we might be ok with it, but the lies make you believe that friendship or FWB situ can occur but they have no intention of that at all "
Agree! People lie to get a fuck. I'm a person not a wank sock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
Yes this
The worst thing is why lie, we might be ok with it, but the lies make you believe that friendship or FWB situ can occur but they have no intention of that at all
Agree! People lie to get a fuck. I'm a person not a wank sock. "
If you can lady wank in a sock can i watch lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
Yes this
The worst thing is why lie, we might be ok with it, but the lies make you believe that friendship or FWB situ can occur but they have no intention of that at all
Agree! People lie to get a fuck. I'm a person not a wank sock.
If you can lady wank in a sock can i watch lol"
Ha!
No I meant men using me as a wank sock then tossing me aside when they've done.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im the same to be honest.
Didn't realise it would be so difficult to find a fwb on here but seems like majority of the guys on here want notches on their bed post.
Yes this
The worst thing is why lie, we might be ok with it, but the lies make you believe that friendship or FWB situ can occur but they have no intention of that at all
Agree! People lie to get a fuck. I'm a person not a wank sock.
If you can lady wank in a sock can i watch lol"
Im sure you can, a rubber glove might be better if you’re a squirter |
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