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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear.. "
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening "
You;re a married man aren't you? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening "
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand? "
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours. |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning "
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning "
I don't want to meet someone in a couple because they will probably like to discuss meets. I'm a crap shag so I prefer to meet single people because they will never mention our meet again. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you complaining because they are stopping you from having sex?"
nope I get sex I’m saying the reasoning behind the idea. It seems a lot of people have that and I find it confusing because at a club it seems no one gives a shit but on here it’s diff. Yea I know some smart mouth jack rabbit will say “ stick to clubs mate “ but I’m just talking about the reasoning behind it
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"You are aware there is a rant thread for such things?  no I wasn’t lol but maybe a good idea "
Actually let’s save time, rant not approved, preferences should be respected not ranted about, with the exception of anything illegal |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours. "
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
I don't want to meet someone in a couple because they will probably like to discuss meets. I'm a crap shag so I prefer to meet single people because they will never mention our meet again."
That can’t be true but I understand that as a reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
I don't want to meet someone in a couple because they will probably like to discuss meets. I'm a crap shag so I prefer to meet single people because they will never mention our meet again."
I have heard that about you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours. "
I have it on mine and I don’t want to play with someone that is cheating. It’s a moral thing with me and I don’t want to get involved in that drama either. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form "
Nope and I didn’t ask you to. You came on the thread and decided to say you don’t want to give a reason ... ok but that seems like a waste of your time. I just wanted to say how I felt and try to get some thoughts nehind it |
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To be fair I did used to meet a guy that played with permission fairly regularly,he let feelings into it and fell for me and it all got pretty complicated pretty fast so maybe the women staring it just think they’re less likely to encounter hassle with a singleton. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I refuse to be involved in anything that could ultimately hurt someone else. I have no interest in getting entangled in other people's complicated relationships. |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
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He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Freedom of choice , people are allowed to express a desire of what they do and don't want to do , it's not personal , just pass them by and don't get yourself wound up by it "
Like I’m allowed to express my annoynence ? Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you complaining because they are stopping you from having sex? nope I get sex I’m saying the reasoning behind the idea. It seems a lot of people have that and I find it confusing because at a club it seems no one gives a shit but on here it’s diff. Yea I know some smart mouth jack rabbit will say “ stick to clubs mate “ but I’m just talking about the reasoning behind it "
In clubs they just fuck the person but don't swap details.
Meeting people on here, the cheated on partner may find their contact details via messages and go beat the shit out of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile "
Moot point. It's about the preference of the third party. Not the OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play? "
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site. "
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
Moot point. It's about the preference of the third party. Not the OP"
Not a mute point when she’s basically calling him out unnecessarily for cheating
He’s also said he realises it's about preference so he clearly need a wee vent there’s no law against it
Unless your white knighting for a fuck of course  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form
Nope and I didn’t ask you to. You came on the thread and decided to say you don’t want to give a reason ... ok but that seems like a waste of your time. I just wanted to say how I felt and try to get some thoughts nehind it "
You seem to imply that I should explain why I wont married men, now how stupid would that be of me to do something like that? Like give them a chance to message me saying, but I can meet the way you want to I promise, yeah right! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
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Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have it on mine and I don’t want to play with someone that is cheating. It’s a moral thing with me and I don’t want to get involved in that drama either."
This. Timers, guilt, karma.
It's a swing site. Not have to fuck anything site. Why all the restrictions of a married man when I'm wholly single. I do ask in clubs. Not for me. |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them. "
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
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What do you mean again? There's no reason for you to be rude to me. It's an open forum you asked a question, I've given you an answer/opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them.
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
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Okay. Let's spin it. You won't look meet people over 35. I'm actually 37. You drive me nuts. It's completely disrespectful. Change your profile please or I'll write a forum post about you.
Thanks in advance. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form
Nope and I didn’t ask you to. You came on the thread and decided to say you don’t want to give a reason ... ok but that seems like a waste of your time. I just wanted to say how I felt and try to get some thoughts nehind it
You seem to imply that I should explain why I wont married men, now how stupid would that be of me to do something like that? Like give them a chance to message me saying, but I can meet the way you want to I promise, yeah right! "
Seemed to imply ...
nope that’s you surmising or assuming ( but then me saying that is doing the same )
I said it’s a rant
I also said you don’t have to comment. You don’t wanna tell me - dont. But it SEEMS people are getting on their boat about me asking if some can explain it to me like “ oh lord you can’t ask that it’s too personal”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not on our profile, but we do not knowingly meet married people or those in relationships.
Why? Because we do not need someone else's relationship problems projected onto us should the persons partner ever find out. Lifes too short for unnecessary drama.
Having looked at your profile it is clear your wife is in the know. Your profile reads that she comes along to meets to watch only.
So we wouldn't meet you for 2 reasons - the first I (fem) am not comfortable with a watcher male or female and secondly it would effectively be us meeting a couple and for us when we meet couples we like things to be even.
Just for clarification it is not because you are male, we've spoken to a fem whose husband watches but never joins and declined. We've also declined couples where the guy wants to fuck me but the wife won't be touched, and couples where the wife wants to be fucked but he won't fuck me. If its uneven we view it as we may as well meet single people with no commitments, no one sat out, and everyone joining in.
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
What do you mean again? There's no reason for you to be rude to me. It's an open forum you asked a question, I've given you an answer/opinion. "
Sometimes the forums make it clear why others aren't interested in them, and it normally not the reason they think! Some of the OP replies have been unacceptable in my opinion  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them. "
I don’t what you are on about who’s not respecting boundaries. I asked a question based on what I see. I’m not a mug man don’t try to treat me as such |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't get why the OP won't meet single men?
It's only his preference but then that doesn't matter just like others not wanting to meet married men. "
Haha! Absolutely perfect. Well played, sir. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them.
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
Okay. Let's spin it. You won't look meet people over 35. I'm actually 37. You drive me nuts. It's completely disrespectful. Change your profile please or I'll write a forum post about you.
Thanks in advance. "
I didn’t say it was disrespectful
Didn’t ask for anyone to change anything
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them.
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
Okay. Let's spin it. You won't look meet people over 35. I'm actually 37. You drive me nuts. It's completely disrespectful. Change your profile please or I'll write a forum post about you.
Thanks in advance. "
Go right ahead you have every right to say it if it’s pissing you off |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them.
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
Okay. Let's spin it. You won't look meet people over 35. I'm actually 37. You drive me nuts. It's completely disrespectful. Change your profile please or I'll write a forum post about you.
Thanks in advance.
I didn’t say it was disrespectful
Didn’t ask for anyone to change anything
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No you didn’t say that
And at least you didn’t personally attack a person to prove a point
Which is disrespectful |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
Are you suggesting that I’m cheating ?
Surely the point is; who gives a single shit? You're not in Toys R Us. It's a relitively civilised community where people have perfectly defendable boundaries. Respect them.
And basically calling him a child in a toy shop is you’re idea of respect is it?
Okay. Let's spin it. You won't look meet people over 35. I'm actually 37. You drive me nuts. It's completely disrespectful. Change your profile please or I'll write a forum post about you.
Thanks in advance.
I didn’t say it was disrespectful
Didn’t ask for anyone to change anything
Read
No you didn’t say that
And at least you didn’t personally attack a person to prove a point
Which is disrespectful "
No need for personal attacks on people for giving their opinion at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening "
I've read this a few times and I can't find the bit where you say people can't have preferences, or that they are wrong or evil.
I see a question asking why.
I don't see anything forcing people to post and explain if they don't want to.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't get why the OP won't meet single men?
It's only his preference but then that doesn't matter just like others not wanting to meet married men.
Haha! Absolutely perfect. Well played, sir. "
I’m not gay or bi that’s why.
If someone doesn’t tell you they are married does it stop you from having sex with them no.
Sexuality is different no ? |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile "
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have it on mine and I don’t want to play with someone that is cheating. It’s a moral thing with me and I don’t want to get involved in that drama either."
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person."
Not it doesn’t and nor as the OP said that it does
He merely asks for reasons if people wishes to give them
At least that’s how I read the OP and hence my first post in response to it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person."
Where have I said that ?
Why did you even comment that ?? |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person.
Where have I said that ?
Why did you even comment that ??"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
What do you mean again? There's no reason for you to be rude to me. It's an open forum you asked a question, I've given you an answer/opinion. "
I say again because I keep having to explain that I’m not asking for those to give me a comment about why they shouldn’t have to tell me . I didn’t at all once demand an explanation. I just said I’d like to know why. Not from you just interested for the reasoning. Sorry if it came across rude but some seem to be trying to score some sort of popularity points by trying to make me sound stupid or needy or event like I’m owed something. I’m not. It’s logic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person.
Where have I said that ?
Why did you even comment that ??
Because we have the right to do so. It's our personal opinion."
but yet to not answer the question as to where I demanded people
Change shit around.
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over a year ago
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"I have it on my profile, why?
My ex of 33 year cheated on me so i have no desire to meet another. "
that’s fair enough but if it’s proven he not a cheat ...? This is my point. If you don’t know does that change the attraction or the act ? The way some post up it’s like the equate marital status to shape physique or sexual preference |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its not on our profile, but we do not knowingly meet married people or those in relationships.
Why? Because we do not need someone else's relationship problems projected onto us should the persons partner ever find out. Lifes too short for unnecessary drama.
Having looked at your profile it is clear your wife is in the know. Your profile reads that she comes along to meets to watch only.
So we wouldn't meet you for 2 reasons - the first I (fem) am not comfortable with a watcher male or female and secondly it would effectively be us meeting a couple and for us when we meet couples we like things to be even.
Just for clarification it is not because you are male, we've spoken to a fem whose husband watches but never joins and declined. We've also declined couples where the guy wants to fuck me but the wife won't be touched, and couples where the wife wants to be fucked but he won't fuck me. If its uneven we view it as we may as well meet single people with no commitments, no one sat out, and everyone joining in.
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Cool thanks for giving your insight
But as well( I suppose this need updating ) she has come to watch but 9 times out of ten I go it alone  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Each to their own I say. My opinion only  "
Yes of course but usually as humans we build based on experience and other factors so most of the time there are reasons like some have explained so I just wondered |
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person.
Where have I said that ?
Why did you even comment that ??
Because we have the right to do so. It's our personal opinion. but yet to not answer the question as to where I demanded people
Change shit around.
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If you look closely you'll see that we were replying to someone else's comment, not addressing you.
Does that answer your question? |
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over a year ago
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"Oh please! How dare anyone refuse to play with anyone who is married! Just because you think infidelity is acceptable doesn't mean others should.
He plays with permission he’s not engaging in infidelity
That’s clear from his OP and profile
But that still doesn't mean that people should change their personal preferences. If someone doesn't want to meet a married person they don't want to meet a married person.
Where have I said that ?
Why did you even comment that ??
Because we have the right to do so. It's our personal opinion. but yet to not answer the question as to where I demanded people
Change shit around.
If you look closely you'll see that we were replying to someone else's comment, not addressing you.
Does that answer your question?"
oh Lordy I gotta go back to the top
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it "
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
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"I have it on my profile, why?
My ex of 33 year cheated on me so i have no desire to meet another. that’s fair enough but if it’s proven he not a cheat ...? This is my point. If you don’t know does that change the attraction or the act ? The way some post up it’s like the equate marital status to shape physique or sexual preference "
I get all you are saying, for me it just isn’t right.
I get you have permission so that’s cool.
Good luck
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Having read the original post several times to me it doesn't come across as a general pondering of why people won't meet attached people. OP clearly uses the words bugbear and rant, not words used when impartially looking for a discussion around the topic.
So to be clear is your bugbear that some people won't meet anyone who is attached (whether they have permission or not) or that they do not give reasons for that preference?
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? "
I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !! |
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"Having read the original post several times to me it doesn't come across as a general pondering of why people won't meet attached people. OP clearly uses the words bugbear and rant, not words used when impartially looking for a discussion around the topic.
So to be clear is your bugbear that some people won't meet anyone who is attached (whether they have permission or not) or that they do not give reasons for that preference?
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It’s very matter of fact when some say it and no they don’t have to give a reason. It’s like they equate it to attraction because if they didn’t know does it make a difference |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
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How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !! "
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
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over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point? "
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over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point? "
Very well said. Personally attraction comes with a sense of comfort in a person's presence. Meeting someone who has a partner at home would make me feel very uncomfortable, and in turn would affect how attracted I felt to the person I was with.
I'm also massively attracted to a person's personality, and knowing someone is cheating to me says a lot about the kind of person that is, and that kind of person is a huge turn off. So yes it can equate to attraction.
Personally I have and would meet someone who has permission from their partner to play alone, but only after a good conversation with the non playing person so I feel comfortable that they are emotionally prepared to deal with that situation. Far too many people claim they have permission but the other half is never available to talk |
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"At least OP is honest about it on his profile so that does give people the choice. Many don't. "
Maybe that's what's irked the OP? He sends messages and gets replies saying "I/We don't meet married men".
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form "
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !! "
So you're saying that if you lied to a woman about being single, but they then found out mid play that you were in fact married, they'd simply carry on regardless of the fact that you've lied, deceived and cheated? Really?
And maybe some women aren't sexually attracted to married men. |
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"“do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only..."
That's because they aren't actually swingers. They're singles looking for an extra hook-up profile to add to their portfolio of; match, tinder, pof, and whatever else they have. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I'm happy to meet married guys whether the partner knows or not. You're a nice guy OP, hot actually. We nearly met didn't we until you threw into the mix that your wife would be coming along to watch. Not my thing, if a woman is going to be there I'd want (maybe prefer) to play with her to!!!
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over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
So you're saying that if you lied to a woman about being single, but they then found out mid play that you were in fact married, they'd simply carry on regardless of the fact that you've lied, deceived and cheated? Really?
And maybe some women aren't sexually attracted to married men. "
No you don’t get it.
I’m saying that people have made the comparison to me not playing with guys for bi play is the same as not wanting a married person. The point is I can’t get arroused for a guy cus it’s not in my makeup. But if someone is in the dark about my relationship status would that stop them. Not during and they found out and they’d carry on. Taken out of context |
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over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point? "
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality. |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality. "
why do we like peas but not broccoli or vice versa, its all down the individuality of the person or what as a couple is their reason for not meeting whomever..
its an infinite and possibly endless debate as we are all different in what we want and with whom..
maybe better to just focus on and meet those who are ok with who we are and our individual status etc?
enjoy..
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over a year ago
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
why do we like peas but not broccoli or vice versa, its all down the individuality of the person or what as a couple is their reason for not meeting whomever..
its an infinite and possibly endless debate as we are all different in what we want and with whom..
maybe better to just focus on and meet those who are ok with who we are and our individual status etc?
enjoy..
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Ok peas and broccoli are taste and how your body reacts to it. If you don’t know you are eating chicken and it tastes like it but you aren’t told it’s horse meat ( Tesco) are you bothered until you are told ? No
That’s the point that broccoli and peas are taste or how you feel but status is like saying I won’t like you based on your job . Does that make sense ? Of course people have a choice what ever whether it’s yay or nay . But I was after an insight BECAUSE the way some go on is like being married affects the attraction. It doesn’t it’s down to a reason which based on some I’ve heard is because of exclusiveness drama and restrictions. |
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It seems, at the end of the day, that the OP isn't getting the all the sex he wants and is putting the blame on the personal choices/preferances of others. Because that's what's stopping them from sleeping with him. |
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over a year ago
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"It seems, at the end of the day, that the OP isn't getting the all the sex he wants and is putting the blame on the personal choices/preferances of others. Because that's what's stopping them from sleeping with him."
Hahaha you guys don’t half talk some madness.
I’m getting sex thanks it’s conversation
Are you getting enough food ?
I don’t know and I wouldn’t like to guess.
Stay on topic or just say you don’t get the line of thought or better yet just say cool and thanks.
Don’t try to score points on me by trying to make me seem desperate. Nothing to do with levels of sex. |
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"I don't get why the OP won't meet single men?
It's only his preference but then that doesn't matter just like others not wanting to meet married men.
Haha! Absolutely perfect. Well played, sir.
I’m not gay or bi that’s why.
If someone doesn’t tell you they are married does it stop you from having sex with them no.
Sexuality is different no ?"
I believe was talking about the sexuality but the point that it is personal preference.
Nobody should have to explain any reason why they don't want to meet you, whether it is because you are married or any other reason.
They don't want to meet you and that enough. |
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"I don't get why the OP won't meet single men?
It's only his preference but then that doesn't matter just like others not wanting to meet married men.
Haha! Absolutely perfect. Well played, sir.
I’m not gay or bi that’s why.
If someone doesn’t tell you they are married does it stop you from having sex with them no.
Sexuality is different no ?
I believe was talking about the sexuality but the point that it is personal preference.
Nobody should have to explain any reason why they don't want to meet you, whether it is because you are married or any other reason.
They don't want to meet you and that enough. "
Another ones trying to tell me just accept people’s choices.
No
One
Said
I
Didn’t.
I was curious as to the reasonings. General chit chat. Why the hell have people gotta try and sound philosophical? Fgs |
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I won’t meet married men or men in a relationship because I don’t want to feel second best and I don’t want him comparing me to his partner and slagging me off.
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality. "
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
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How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
"
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
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I think there's a few reasons why single women won't meet married men:
All of the things that Miss Innocent said.
They put themselves in the partners position and wouldn't want to be cheated on themselves. Even though in this case the OP's wife knows what a horny devil he is.
A lot of women secretly want a relationship and know that's not going to happen with a married guy.
They aren't going to be the guys no 1. Everyone wants to be someone's no 1.
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
Saying "
You might have more luck with saying it's just curiosity if your original post didn't say it was a bugbear of yours, that you're "just complaining" and you were having a rant.
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OP I used to post questions like yours, and like you, purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don’t anymore, cos I got tired of the predictable expression ‘just a preference’. Never understood why people thought that my question meant a) I didn’t know it was a preference, b) I wasn’t respecting people’s preferences, and c) I was trying to change people’s preferences. Of course that wasn’t the case, I just wanted a discussion and to increase my understanding.
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"OP I used to post questions like yours, and like you, purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don’t anymore, cos I got tired of the predictable expression ‘just a preference’. Never understood why people thought that my question meant a) I didn’t know it was a preference, b) I wasn’t respecting people’s preferences, and c) I was trying to change people’s preferences. Of course that wasn’t the case, I just wanted a discussion and to increase my understanding.
Mrs"
But nothing in the original post invited discussion or asked questions. He clearly says himself he's just complaining about something that's annoying to him.
He ends his post with "rant over". So his original post clearly wasn't intended to discuss something he was curious about, it was to moan about something he says is a bugbear. Ranting and debating are two very different things |
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Didn't you know every single guy on here is actually married and secretly playing away.
I mean it's not like they would come here for the banter as it's rank |
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"OP I used to post questions like yours, and like you, purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don’t anymore, cos I got tired of the predictable expression ‘just a preference’. Never understood why people thought that my question meant a) I didn’t know it was a preference, b) I wasn’t respecting people’s preferences, and c) I was trying to change people’s preferences. Of course that wasn’t the case, I just wanted a discussion and to increase my understanding.
Mrs"
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
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"OP I used to post questions like yours, and like you, purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don’t anymore, cos I got tired of the predictable expression ‘just a preference’. Never understood why people thought that my question meant a) I didn’t know it was a preference, b) I wasn’t respecting people’s preferences, and c) I was trying to change people’s preferences. Of course that wasn’t the case, I just wanted a discussion and to increase my understanding.
Mrs
But nothing in the original post invited discussion or asked questions. He clearly says himself he's just complaining about something that's annoying to him.
He ends his post with "rant over". So his original post clearly wasn't intended to discuss something he was curious about, it was to moan about something he says is a bugbear. Ranting and debating are two very different things "
Ok appolgjes to the forum and post police .
Although I didn’t say it in the original post the reason it’s a bugbear and it annoys me is because I didn’t understand the reasoning - which I mentioned soon after and as a lot of people like to sumise I would have thought most worked it out |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
Saying
Yes...lies make a difference."
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"OP I used to post questions like yours, and like you, purely to satisfy my curiosity. I don’t anymore, cos I got tired of the predictable expression ‘just a preference’. Never understood why people thought that my question meant a) I didn’t know it was a preference, b) I wasn’t respecting people’s preferences, and c) I was trying to change people’s preferences. Of course that wasn’t the case, I just wanted a discussion and to increase my understanding.
Mrs
But nothing in the original post invited discussion or asked questions. He clearly says himself he's just complaining about something that's annoying to him.
He ends his post with "rant over". So his original post clearly wasn't intended to discuss something he was curious about, it was to moan about something he says is a bugbear. Ranting and debating are two very different things "
True, but he asked the question later and explained that he was genuinely curious. I guess that was too late though. His opening post which was indeed a self-confessed rant, seemed to result him being accused of things he hadn’t done or said. |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
Saying
Yes...lies make a difference.
I’m not on about the lies .............."
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
Same reason that you don't participate in bi male play?
That’s sexuallity
I don’t get hard by a guy
If a person is married and they didn’t know would it mean they couldn’t perform ? I doubt it
So for you its acceptable to not want to engage in bi play and i accept that's all good but others who don't wish to meet you for their own preferences/reasons you don't..
tad contradictory would you accept..? I’ll
Say again
How do you equate sexual attraction to circumstance ? If I hid my wife in a dungeon and no one saw her when you found out ( not sure if you the lady in your couple or male ) would the sex immediately stop or would the woman be turned off ? No I doubt it. Bi play requires sexual interest and arrousal !!
all play between people requires sexual interest and arousal, some couple's and single females don't have that interest or get that arousal from meeting men or women who they know or suspect are in a relationship..
if iv'e got that right in relation to your original point?
That makes sense but why ? Think about it how does that have an effect on humour physical attraction their eyes etc. If they suspect that is it because they feel it’s fske attraction or borrowed or that they can’t have undivided attention. Like someone said earlier it’s because they feel that a married guy comes with stipulations which is a reason. That’s like saying that you not attracted to men that work in an office. Status is not related to physique and personality.
But it can be. For some they wouldn't find a builder attractive, or someone who worked in McDonalds. Some wouldn't find lawyers or doctors attractive. Status does play a part in attraction, hence why so many profiles stipulate they're professional and looking for the same.
So in the same sense marital status can affect how attracted someone is to someone else.
Different people find different things attractive and it's not just physiology.
And I would disagree I know plenty of women on here who have and would stop if they found out mid meet that someone had lied about being attached, myself included.
Someone who did that would show themselves and untrustworthy and that sends alarm bells ringing!
The sooner you just accept that some people will turn you down because they don't want to meet someone who is attached the better. It's their preference, it's different to yours so accept it and move on to those who don't have it on their profiles!
Status makes a difference to attraction ? For swinging ? And please everyone that is stop referring to it as if I can’t accept it and I’m crying about it. I don’t give that much of a shit. It’s curiossity because I find it interesting how people equate status and situation to physical attraction for fun. Relationship yea but not just for fun. For reasons like I feel like I’d be compared or talked about because they have someone at home or feeling second best. Those are reasons that make sense because it’s not about status. Ok you would be repulsed by someone lying to you but what I’m saying is if you aren’t told they are married or they work in Mac Donald’s and they pretend like they single and are a millionaire why would you get turned off if you found out differently after - aside from the lie should that make a difference. This is the last time I’m gonna reiterate it cus you lot are misreading what I’m
Saying
Yes...lies make a difference.
I’m not on about the lies ..............
You just mentioned it above...you say aside from the lie but the lie is an integral part."
Sigh
What I’m saying is that if that situation was real that until you found out it wouldn’t make a difference. It’s not like sexuality where you know “that’s a guy/girl I’m not attracted
To them or I am”. Everyone is saying “if they lied it would ruin the trust” yea I get that but it’s not something that physically disabled you from proceeding. Mentally it may do from past experiences ( like if you get sick after eating a certain food and it puts you off) but not because you’re allergic to a food.
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"It seems, at the end of the day, that the OP isn't getting the all the sex he wants and is putting the blame on the personal choices/preferances of others. Because that's what's stopping them from sleeping with him.
Hahaha you guys don’t half talk some madness.
I’m getting sex thanks it’s conversation
Are you getting enough food ?
I don’t know and I wouldn’t like to guess.
Stay on topic or just say you don’t get the line of thought or better yet just say cool and thanks.
Don’t try to score points on me by trying to make me seem desperate. Nothing to do with levels of sex."
We talk Madness? This coming from someone who's having a rant about people not meeting him because he's married...
Are we "getting enough food"? Yes we are thanks.
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"It seems, at the end of the day, that the OP isn't getting the all the sex he wants and is putting the blame on the personal choices/preferances of others. Because that's what's stopping them from sleeping with him.
Hahaha you guys don’t half talk some madness.
I’m getting sex thanks it’s conversation
Are you getting enough food ?
I don’t know and I wouldn’t like to guess.
Stay on topic or just say you don’t get the line of thought or better yet just say cool and thanks.
Don’t try to score points on me by trying to make me seem desperate. Nothing to do with levels of sex.
We talk Madness? This coming from someone who's having a rant about people not meeting him because he's married...
Are we "getting enough food"? Yes we are thanks.
"Nothing to do with levels of sex"? So why are you on here ranting about people not wanting to meet you?"
Please show me the bit where I specifically said “boo boo boo no one wants to meet me cus I’m married”???
Why are you talking about how much sex I’m getting ? What’s that got to do with the questions and “rant” ? Nothing. If you can’t understand the illistration of how much food you are getting and why I used it please stop the conversation. I used it to demonstrate that it’s irrelevant. A lot of people get what I’ve said but you decided to comment and make an assumption to how much sex I’m getting. Why not ask if there is enough iron in my diet .
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I guess OP you find some of the reasoning illogical for why people won’t meet married individuals. The reasoning is probably not based on logic but a felt emotional response. If it is driven by values or fears based on previous experience or just hearing or witnessing unpleasant consequences of ‘similar’ situations, their decision is based on their own meaning making. It doesn’t make it wrong, it just may appear illogical to you, but make perfect sense to them.
I’m surprised you let it get to you so much that you need to ‘rant’ about it, but then again I don’t know why it has evoked such a strong emotional response in you for you to feel the need to ‘rant’. |
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
I have this on my profile! The reason why is 'I don't want to meet married men!' Is that simple enough to understand?
Well yea of course but there is usually a why to most decisions. Like because they have to leave early or can’t play for hours.
I have my reasons, but I don't need to put them on my profile, as I don't have to explain myself, why do you think I should? It wont change my mind in any way shape or form
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"I guess OP you find some of the reasoning illogical for why people won’t meet married individuals. The reasoning is probably not based on logic but a felt emotional response. If it is driven by values or fears based on previous experience or just hearing or witnessing unpleasant consequences of ‘similar’ situations, their decision is based on their own meaning making. It doesn’t make it wrong, it just may appear illogical to you, but make perfect sense to them.
I’m surprised you let it get to you so much that you need to ‘rant’ about it, but then again I don’t know why it has evoked such a strong emotional response in you for you to feel the need to ‘rant’."
No I find the reasons logical. What you just said if you look up some of what I’ve agreed with. What is stupid is when I present a line of thought and someone brings up something totally irrelevant like how much sex I’m getting.
I was curious the reasons which some have provided. People don’t need to worry about why it bugs me because I’ve explained it all already. I’ve thanks those that have provided reasons from their prospective. What I don’t appreciate are the people trying score points or attempt to be clever. Look at at the course of dialogue and if the questions are answered it makes sense what I’m saying. For example someone said “ I smell a married cock”... ridiculous. And that I’m annoyed that I get rejected because I’m married. Not once did I say that or suggest that. I said I’ve come across it loads. Speaking to a few people on inbox some have said a lot use this as a dating site as well which would explain the agenda / reason for wanting the men to be single. There are reasons behind it. It’s silly to try to wash it away with it’s just preference. |
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
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FFS go and have a wank! Let go of all that aggression and testosterone. Some people don't fuck married men - get over it |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning "
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
FFS go and have a wank! Let go of all that aggression and testosterone. Some people don't fuck married men - get over it "
Cheers for that.
I don’t need to get over anything.
It’s called conversation why are you so bothered by it why don’t you go and do something instead of reading this and winding yourself up. |
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"What is it about it that you don't get?
As it seems quite clear..
I dunno maybe the reasoning behind it like why should it matter.
Not talking about being owed we talking about the reasoning
What's the reasoning behind your rant ? "
Boredom
Inquisitiveness
Wondering the different reasons out there
I’m on a train in Belgium right now bored again which is why I’m responding to some idiotic commmets of people telling me to go and wank - I’d loose my seat!!! |
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
FFS go and have a wank! Let go of all that aggression and testosterone. Some people don't fuck married men - get over it
Cheers for that.
I don’t need to get over anything.
It’s called conversation why are you so bothered by it why don’t you go and do something instead of reading this and winding yourself up."
Oh I'm not in the least wound up. Things like this amuse me no end. I have fucked many a married man so why would I be wound up by a little rant. Amused certainly. |
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
FFS go and have a wank! Let go of all that aggression and testosterone. Some people don't fuck married men - get over it
Cheers for that.
I don’t need to get over anything.
It’s called conversation why are you so bothered by it why don’t you go and do something instead of reading this and winding yourself up.
Oh I'm not in the least wound up. Things like this amuse me no end. I have fucked many a married man so why would I be wound up by a little rant. Amused certainly."
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"Why are you expecting reasons for their preferences OP? Nobody owes you or anyone else an explanation on this site.
Again you are popping up telling me they don’t have to tell me jack squat
Yea that’s right they don’t but for those that want to add valuable dialogue then great
FFS go and have a wank! Let go of all that aggression and testosterone. Some people don't fuck married men - get over it
Cheers for that.
I don’t need to get over anything.
It’s called conversation why are you so bothered by it why don’t you go and do something instead of reading this and winding yourself up.
Oh I'm not in the least wound up. Things like this amuse me no end. I have fucked many a married man so why would I be wound up by a little rant. Amused certainly.
As Jerry McGuire said
“I’m happy to entertain you” "
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Personally don’t have a problem with people’s preferences it’s when they go on to make judgemental assessments of you like “no cheats” “ruin your own marriage don’t expect us to do it for you”.
There are many genuine reasons why married men are on here on there own. In my case we occassionally play mmf as a couple but she doesn’t want to be involved know or watch me play. So I’m on here on my own but you do sometimes wonder if it would just be easier to say your single but strangely some of us believe in honesty and get harangued for it.
Married couples and single ladies need to take a reality check about there own life choices and the adage people in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones seems appropriate.
Let’s all just be more tolerant and remove the judgemental statements and give us all a break to have some fun |
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening "
People write all sorts on their profiles but I've noticed a few don't stick to "their rules" i.e. No married or attached guys and yet their verifications show they have met the very same!
That doesn't bug me but it does baffle me??? |
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
People write all sorts on their profiles but I've noticed a few don't stick to "their rules" i.e. No married or attached guys and yet their verifications show they have met the very same!
That doesn't bug me but it does baffle me??? "
Hahaaha that’s a brilliant word baffle !! Maybe I should use that next time !!!!! |
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"Hello to all my fab friends
Just a bugbear of mine.
I’ve looked at a few profiles this evening and keep coming across
“ do not contact if married even if you have partner permission - no married or attached - singles only....
Yes I know it’s preferrance but I still don’t get it.
I’m just complaining I’m not looking for someone to tell me “ it’s just preference op” , yea I know that. As the title explains it just annoys the shit outta me.
Rant over
Have a lovely evening
People write all sorts on their profiles but I've noticed a few don't stick to "their rules" i.e. No married or attached guys and yet their verifications show they have met the very same!
That doesn't bug me but it does baffle me???
Hahaaha that’s a brilliant word baffle !! Maybe I should use that next time !!!!!"
You’ll still get told the obvious OP, but it will go slightly easier if to you if you never ever admit that you are having a rant - keep that emotion to yourself on the forums
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