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Jealousy on Fab and the scene in general
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does it happen?
Have people got jealous or even protective when the objects of their affection meet other people?
Do YOU get envious or jealous when you read others verifications or see who’s shagging who?
Do you ever find yourself thinking ‘what!? They won’t meet me but they’ll meet THEM!’ 
If you’re in a couple do you mind if one partner gets all the attention (usually the lady?) while the other one doesn’t?
Surely on a Swinging / casual sex site you would expect people to have multiple partners and meet others, but even if you know all that can you always avoid the green-eyed Monster?
In my opinion this should be fun and I expect people to meet lots of others and know that I’m never going to be to everyone’s taste, so it’s never been an issue for me.
But what do you think Fabbers?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been ill recently and had to turn down meets from my FB...and obviously, he went and fucked someone else. I’m jealous - I wish I was well enough for me to fuck him!!! But glad he had fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing! |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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I’ve had the odd messages from guys in the past after I’ve had a meet and posted the very saying that I was a bitch for not meetIng them and that I was a time waster and untrustworthy. Like wtf. I ain’t no one bitch unless I say so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing!"
Well that's clearly not true, though, is it? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a perfectly normal, natural human emotion.
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 Exactly and that’s what triggered the question I think.
Jealousy is a natural emotion but the very nature of Swinging is centred around sharing and multiple sexual experiences with others.
There’s a natural conflict there isn’t there? So can all Swingers suppress those natural emotions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy is part of human emotion and so is on here as in real life. The problem seems to be that some people come on here for an ego boost and these people are maybe not as well adjusted as most and so react much more severely than ‘normal’ people. I’ve had and have seen lots of instances of people reacting very badly to rejection or meeting other people. Just ignore them, they ain’t worth the argument, that’s what the block button is for! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a perfectly normal, natural human emotion.
Exactly and that’s what triggered the question I think.
Jealousy is a natural emotion but the very nature of Swinging is centred around sharing and multiple sexual experiences with others.
There’s a natural conflict there isn’t there? So can all Swingers suppress those natural emotions? "
It depends. By definition any swinging situation is a relationship agreement.two or more parties enter into a mutual agreement. Great! Everyone's happy. Except emotions will inevitably creep in at some point.
I've never ever considered a swinging/FB relationship but there are people I've been with that I've not really been emotionally attached to. Nor did I become jealous of. And there are people I've been insane over.
You can't control it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is part of human emotion and so is on here as in real life. The problem seems to be that some people come on here for an ego boost and these people are maybe not as well adjusted as most and so react much more severely than ‘normal’ people. I’ve had and have seen lots of instances of people reacting very badly to rejection or meeting other people. Just ignore them, they ain’t worth the argument, that’s what the block button is for!"
This is a horrible stance to take and is a lazy stereotype. I would consider deleting.
"Not well adjusted" and categorising what is "normal"? Normal as opposed to what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing!
Well that's clearly not true, though, is it?"
What isn't? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing!
Well that's clearly not true, though, is it?
What isn't? "
Nope...checked what I have said and it is all definitely true  |
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I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out".
The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head.
But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is part of human emotion and so is on here as in real life. The problem seems to be that some people come on here for an ego boost and these people are maybe not as well adjusted as most and so react much more severely than ‘normal’ people. I’ve had and have seen lots of instances of people reacting very badly to rejection or meeting other people. Just ignore them, they ain’t worth the argument, that’s what the block button is for!
This is a horrible stance to take and is a lazy stereotype. I would consider deleting.
"Not well adjusted" and categorising what is "normal"? Normal as opposed to what?"
Normal as in the average, we as a society have a considered norm. It’s not a lazy stereotype at all, it’s the truth. Normal as opposed to unusual |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy does exist here. And cliques. I find being a lone ranger is easier. Socials can be the same. Full of cliques.
I'd like to visit a real house party. See how that goes instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it.
For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I've copy/pasted the answer I gave on a similar thread last week below, as it hasn't really changed from then - the only thing I'd add to that is that the only "jealousy" I get, if you can call it that, is of others ability to have more self-confidence and quick wittedness about them than I do but that's more a personal awareness thing than anything so not green eyed monster as such....as I said the answer I gave last week still holds good:
"It honestly never crosses my mind to be jealous or concerned about other people's experiences of Fab whether that be other single guys who may, on the face of it, have a better body than me or be perceived to be more popular, or women who'd not meet me anyway.
I prefer to focus on my own experience of the site, which for the most part is good and so long as the actions of others don't have a direct impact on me in any way, then all will remain to be good.
What people I meet are doing when they're not meeting me, is frankly, none of my business and therefore not something for me to get upset about." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've copy/pasted the answer I gave on a similar thread last week below, as it hasn't really changed from then - the only thing I'd add to that is that the only "jealousy" I get, if you can call it that, is of others ability to have more self-confidence and quick wittedness about them than I do but that's more a personal awareness thing than anything so not green eyed monster as such....as I said the answer I gave last week still holds good:
"It honestly never crosses my mind to be jealous or concerned about other people's experiences of Fab whether that be other single guys who may, on the face of it, have a better body than me or be perceived to be more popular, or women who'd not meet me anyway.
I prefer to focus on my own experience of the site, which for the most part is good and so long as the actions of others don't have a direct impact on me in any way, then all will remain to be good.
What people I meet are doing when they're not meeting me, is frankly, none of my business and therefore not something for me to get upset about.""
A perfect answer, the last paragraph being especially pertinent |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've copy/pasted the answer I gave on a similar thread last week below, as it hasn't really changed from then - the only thing I'd add to that is that the only "jealousy" I get, if you can call it that, is of others ability to have more self-confidence and quick wittedness about them than I do but that's more a personal awareness thing than anything so not green eyed monster as such....as I said the answer I gave last week still holds good:
"It honestly never crosses my mind to be jealous or concerned about other people's experiences of Fab whether that be other single guys who may, on the face of it, have a better body than me or be perceived to be more popular, or women who'd not meet me anyway.
I prefer to focus on my own experience of the site, which for the most part is good and so long as the actions of others don't have a direct impact on me in any way, then all will remain to be good.
What people I meet are doing when they're not meeting me, is frankly, none of my business and therefore not something for me to get upset about.""
spot on and very consistent with my views! Agree with all of that!
Oh and sorry everyone if this is a recently or often discussed topic! I should have done a forum search first!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it.
For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway. "
So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mrs-Haven't had it happen to me yet. I actively encourage husband to see other women solo and love watching him with other ladies when we go to chams.
I don't stalk veris after I've seen someone as what they do after we've meet is their business.
However, husband doesn't like me solo meeting and gets jealous when I've gone out. So as a compromise I only solo meet when he's already got plans to go out for a night so he's not winding himself up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been jealous per se, though I was slightly envious when two of my friends who are both total hotties met, as I would've (and still would) loved to roll around in bed with both of them at the same time. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
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Oh and sorry everyone if this is a recently or often discussed topic! I should have done a forum search first! "
No apology necessary and I honestly wasn't calling you out on it - the previous thread was framed slightly differently just I liked the answer I gave there so copy/pasted and thought I should cross-reference is all.
"Interesting" threads like this always bear repeating anyway
If you're interested in that thread it's here:
https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/719617
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealous or possessive? One leads to the other I suppose.
I'm honestly not jealous of anyone on here. I look into the goldfish bowl that is FAB with awe at some and roll my eyes at others. At my age I've seen pretty much everything multiple times.
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By *LUKCouple
over a year ago
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it.
For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway.
So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold."
I'm going to assume English isn't your first language, as you have completely misunderstood that post.
They meet who they want to meet, that's how a relationship works. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it.
For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway.
So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold."
Interesting that that is what you got from what I said. Perhaps I could have worded it better.
No, not really cuckold. We mostly meet couples, where we both swap, so we are both playing with other people. And there have been a few rare occasions, at clubs, where we done ffm meets. So again, not a cuckold. We have more mfm meets because it is easier, yes. But there isn't really a cuckold vibe to it (no submission, etc.). Its more that we have to balance out our meets with single guys with our meets with couples so that Marc doesn't feel like the action is entirely for me. I would absolutely love for him to meet women on his own, and he's working on it. Its just difficult, especially with his job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me Absolutely! I feel jealousy when someone I had a great connection with\great time meets someone new and the verifications sting a bit! However, thats my personal issue, the other person never knows and I deal with it.
Personally if I like someone enough for them to share their bits with me, then jealousy is only natural. Its if that jealousy gets out if hand or causes trouble then it's an issue.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been envious of someone having the opportunity to meet someone I really wanted to meet but logistical issues etc were getting in the way. That felt pretty horrible but once I named it, it dissipated. But I haven’t experienced jealousy. I can’t claim I’m immune, just I have not had anything that’s triggered it yet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve been envious of someone having the opportunity to meet someone I really wanted to meet but logistical issues etc were getting in the way. That felt pretty horrible but once I named it, it dissipated. But I haven’t experienced jealousy. I can’t claim I’m immune, just I have not had anything that’s triggered it yet."
there a fine line between envy and jealousy I think. Envy is natural but harmless I think as long as you can control it, it’s when it becomes jealousy that it starts to be destructive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve been envious of someone having the opportunity to meet someone I really wanted to meet but logistical issues etc were getting in the way. That felt pretty horrible but once I named it, it dissipated. But I haven’t experienced jealousy. I can’t claim I’m immune, just I have not had anything that’s triggered it yet.
there a fine line between envy and jealousy I think. Envy is natural but harmless I think as long as you can control it, it’s when it becomes jealousy that it starts to be destructive."
Yep. I hope I never feel it but you can’t always legislate for experiencing an emotion. The trick is spotting it and dealing with it in a healthy way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does it happen?
Have people got jealous or even protective when the objects of their affection meet other people?
Do YOU get envious or jealous when you read others verifications or see who’s shagging who?
Do you ever find yourself thinking ‘what!? They won’t meet me but they’ll meet THEM!’
If you’re in a couple do you mind if one partner gets all the attention (usually the lady?) while the other one doesn’t?
Surely on a Swinging / casual sex site you would expect people to have multiple partners and meet others, but even if you know all that can you always avoid the green-eyed Monster?
In my opinion this should be fun and I expect people to meet lots of others and know that I’m never going to be to everyone’s taste, so it’s never been an issue for me.
But what do you think Fabbers? "
I can answer yes to all of those. I'm human. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out".
The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head.
But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort."
I would totally agree with that! I’ve had them before and no doubt will have them again at some point, it’s just natural reactions that triggers the brain at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I posted something similar to this on another thread about emotions recently...so it may sound familiar...
We are human a complex mix of the physical and emotional elements that make us the complete person. Emotions of all sorts love hate happy sad etc are hard wired into us and form part of our whole being. Fab is no different to the rest of the world emotions do not just get switched off and put in a box. They drive who we connect with and who we don't even here. To suggest that they can ever be set aside is a false premise. It's no more logical than saying today I'm going to remove my left leg and see how the day goes!
All you have to do is read the number of threads like this one or the hurt angry sad and happy etc threads that appear here every day to grasp the concept that no matter what anyone may claim emotions are an integral part of us and always we be the driver of our actions and interactions with others.
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"For me Absolutely! I feel jealousy when someone I had a great connection with\great time meets someone new and the verifications sting a bit! However, thats my personal issue, the other person never knows and I deal with it.
Personally if I like someone enough for them to share their bits with me, then jealousy is only natural. Its if that jealousy gets out if hand or causes trouble then it's an issue.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone!"
This is how I feel too. I can handle it though and soon get over it plus it’s not like that with everyone I meet. Although when someone you thought you had a connection and great sex with would rather go without than see you, that stings a little bit too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I posted something similar to this on another thread about emotions recently...so it may sound familiar...
We are human a complex mix of the physical and emotional elements that make us the complete person. Emotions of all sorts love hate happy sad etc are hard wired into us and form part of our whole being. Fab is no different to the rest of the world emotions do not just get switched off and put in a box. They drive who we connect with and who we don't even here. To suggest that they can ever be set aside is a false premise. It's no more logical than saying today I'm going to remove my left leg and see how the day goes!
All you have to do is read the number of threads like this one or the hurt angry sad and happy etc threads that appear here every day to grasp the concept that no matter what anyone may claim emotions are an integral part of us and always we be the driver of our actions and interactions with others.
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It's how we deal with our emotions, especially the difficult ones though that is most important . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it happens. Had people throw right little hissy fits because of chats I've had let alone meetings.
I get it on occasion but it's rare and I can talk myself out of it most of the time |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t get jealous of what the people I’ve had meets with are up to, I’m here for nsa and that’s all.
I do however get a little envious when they can find the time to be off having fun and I can’t!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t get jealous, but do admit to feeling a little envious sometimes when people I want to meet are off having fun when I’m not. And having been on the receiving end of a very jealous wife it’s no fun that emotion coming out. X |
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I like to share and to be shared ! That's point I joined fab ! Gives me pleasure to see my partner with another lady and vice versa!
My only issue is to play safe , other than that let's fuck and be fucked . Is a turn on!!! So hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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being part of a couple that meets alone mainly, there was a little jealousy at the beginning as the mrs was meeting quite often while i was still trying to get a respose, but these days it’s become part of our normal life, saying that though the mrs has stopped meeting for now cause one guy wanted more than just casual sex |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out".
The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head.
But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort."
Exactly this for me. The only time I haven't internalised it and logiced my way out and have then shared that I was feeling jealous with someone was when they were doing something we hadn't agreed and were therefore doing something wrong by our mutual understanding. And that was a frank but not angry conversation (I did internalise and logic my way out of the initial anger).
I have been on the receiving end of jealousy though from the casual partner of someone I met on the site. I understood where it was coming from but I thought less of the woman involved for it when she chose to try and make her feelings affect my time on fab, maybe because she was always adamant that her fab experience was always NSA and I then knew differently. Jealousy that affects other people is a string. |
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I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be.
Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person?
Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes).
We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else.
As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be.
Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person?
Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes).
We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else.
As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab
Pink & Swing"
I think openness is priceless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be.
Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person?
Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes).
We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else.
As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab
Pink & Swing"
Far more eloquently put than I could ever hope to manage. |
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I've suffered with jealousy when venturing in to the club scene; jealous of other guys who plucked up the courage to enter one of these places by themselves for the first time, and report back with club reviews and verifications, about what an amazing time they had. But fair play to them and the people who made their night  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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One of the wonderful things that fab has shown me is that i'm past petty feelings of jealously...particularly in this scene where people are attracted to multiple people and act on their desires.
Individuals who become jealous when they see someone else's veris should probably question if being here is indeed the right thing for them. Just my opinion...feel free to disagree! |
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be.
Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person?
Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes).
We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else.
As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab
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Far more eloquently put than I could ever hope to manage. "
That’s how he makes my knickers fall off so easily
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"One of the wonderful things that fab has shown me is that i'm past petty feelings of jealously...particularly in this scene where people are attracted to multiple people and act on their desires.
Individuals who become jealous when they see someone else's veris should probably question if being here is indeed the right thing for them. Just my opinion...feel free to disagree! "
no disagreement here, I’m here to hopefully enjoy myself and not get upset by what other are doing! |
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Jeez it's all over this, I avoid some men because I can't be bothered with the drama that'll come from someone I know that'll get jealous. 9/10 the reason there's jealousy is because believes it has been led to believe there's more to it. People should be upfront and honest about what they want and if they start noticing jealous behaviour then steer well clear unless it's someone you want more to do with. |
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"Jeez it's all over this, I avoid some men because I can't be bothered with the drama that'll come from someone I know that'll get jealous. 9/10 the reason there's jealousy is because believes it has been led to believe there's more to it. People should be upfront and honest about what they want and if they start noticing jealous behaviour then steer well clear unless it's someone you want more to do with."
I agree...communication is the best water to stop it on the onset.
But when things aren't spelt out right from the beginning there is alway one the the two who will take the ending of a relationship worse then the other.
Does that make them bad? Methinks no but maybe a little hurt. |
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By *inzi LTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Does it happen?
Have people got jealous or even protective when the objects of their affection meet other people?
Do YOU get envious or jealous when you read others verifications or see who’s shagging who?
Do you ever find yourself thinking ‘what!? They won’t meet me but they’ll meet THEM!’
If you’re in a couple do you mind if one partner gets all the attention (usually the lady?) while the other one doesn’t?
Surely on a Swinging / casual sex site you would expect people to have multiple partners and meet others, but even if you know all that can you always avoid the green-eyed Monster?
In my opinion this should be fun and I expect people to meet lots of others and know that I’m never going to be to everyone’s taste, so it’s never been an issue for me.
But what do you think Fabbers? "
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"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out".
The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head.
But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort.
Exactly this for me. The only time I haven't internalised it and logiced my way out and have then shared that I was feeling jealous with someone was when they were doing something we hadn't agreed and were therefore doing something wrong by our mutual understanding. And that was a frank but not angry conversation (I did internalise and logic my way out of the initial anger).
I have been on the receiving end of jealousy though from the casual partner of someone I met on the site. I understood where it was coming from but I thought less of the woman involved for it when she chose to try and make her feelings affect my time on fab, maybe because she was always adamant that her fab experience was always NSA and I then knew differently. Jealousy that affects other people is a string."
I think when people overly try to convince themselves they’re not the jealous type & it’s all NSA is when it seeps out and manifests itself maybe in a different slightly more subtle way. |
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To answer the OP.
In the very beginning I used to feel pangs of jealousy when the guy I had met went on to meet others even though I knew that was what this site entailed.
It was down to the way I thought at the time, I threw myself into the meet, had the most incredible time along with a massive adrenaline rush.
I couldn’t sustain the low feelings so I made myself change the way I met / felt about people, it took a long time but now I know it’s right for here. The only thing is ,I don’t feel the same rush as I did before which is a shame.
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"To answer the OP.
In the very beginning I used to feel pangs of jealousy when the guy I had met went on to meet others even though I knew that was what this site entailed.
It was down to the way I thought at the time, I threw myself into the meet, had the most incredible time along with a massive adrenaline rush.
I couldn’t sustain the low feelings so I made myself change the way I met / felt about people, it took a long time but now I know it’s right for here. The only thing is ,I don’t feel the same rush as I did before which is a shame.
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Yeah I Get you...we can all let people have too much of us when it feels right with someone.
But I get that as I'm always learning. ..it's a thing I wouldn't let happen again which is sad to some extent  |
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"To answer the OP.
In the very beginning I used to feel pangs of jealousy when the guy I had met went on to meet others even though I knew that was what this site entailed.
It was down to the way I thought at the time, I threw myself into the meet, had the most incredible time along with a massive adrenaline rush.
I couldn’t sustain the low feelings so I made myself change the way I met / felt about people, it took a long time but now I know it’s right for here. The only thing is ,I don’t feel the same rush as I did before which is a shame.
Yeah I Get you...we can all let people have too much of us when it feels right with someone.
But I get that as I'm always learning. ..it's a thing I wouldn't let happen again which is sad to some extent "
I agree with it being a sharp learning curve on here, regards how much of ourselves we let go to someone else. |
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