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I have been having a chat recently with a very kind member (which sounds weird, but not that kind of member!). The conversation has been about this "lifestyle" which we choose and how we dip in and out, using the liberal aspects to fulfil certain physical needs and then once sated going back to out daily "normal" lives for a while.
Now I work overseas quite a bit, which makes this very easy for me, I can have a "break" from swinging (usually a forced break), whenever I take a new contract and then focus my energies on this until my return.
As I have dipped in and out for a number of years (first pre-marriage and now post-marriage), I find that I like to approach the lifestyle with a different desire of fulfilment, depending on the scenario.
With couples for example, it's about making new friends, a drink, a laugh and then hopefully more laughing with the desired bedroom antics. With a single lady, I now prefer (if I can get them) whole day meets, a walk, lunch or an evening meal, talking and laughing, again, hopefully followed by the aforementioned bedroom antics.
This leads me to believe that my use of this site is a little more than sexual, and approaches the "sensual" aspect of things, to "sate" both the physical and mental connection requirements that I have. I think this can be misinterpreted as being "needy" or wanting a relationship, but this is simply not the case, it's really just a desire to be desired for more than just my cock or Tongue.
So, is this purely a sex thing for some of you? Or like me do you enjoy the "meeting if minds" aspect that spending time with people of similar interests brings? |
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I have been having a chat recently with a very kind member (which sounds weird, but not that kind of member!). The conversation has been about this "lifestyle" which we choose and how we dip in and out, using the liberal aspects to fulfil certain physical needs and then once sated going back to out daily "normal" lives for a while.
Now I work overseas quite a bit, which makes this very easy for me, I can have a "break" from swinging (usually a forced break), whenever I take a new contract and then focus my energies on this until my return.
As I have dipped in and out for a number of years (first pre-marriage and now post-marriage), I find that I like to approach the lifestyle with a different desire of fulfilment, depending on the scenario.
With couples for example, it's about making new friends, a drink, a laugh and then hopefully more laughing with the desired bedroom antics. With a single lady, I now prefer (if I can get them) whole day meets, a walk, lunch or an evening meal, talking and laughing, again, hopefully followed by the aforementioned bedroom antics.
This leads me to believe that my use of this site is a little more than sexual, and approaches the "sensual" aspect of things, to "sate" both the physical and mental connection requirements that I have. I think this can be misinterpreted as being "needy" or wanting a relationship, but this is simply not the case, it's really just a desire to be desired for more than just my cock or Tongue.
So, is this purely a sex thing for some of you? Or like me do you enjoy the "meeting if minds" aspect that spending time with people of similar interests brings?"
OOOh no, we enjoy friends with benefits, definately. The social side is important to us. We dont swap with couples but still enjoy the parties purely for the social bit. |
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I suppose on a site like this you will find people looking for all aspects of a meet. From the quick wham bam, to chatting and getting to know each other to someone wanting a 'friendship'.
There will be someone for everyone, it's just finding that person. Not easy |
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"I suppose on a site like this you will find people looking for all aspects of a meet. From the quick wham bam, to chatting and getting to know each other to someone wanting a 'friendship'.
There will be someone for everyone, it's just finding that person. Not easy"
Of course, this is a "healthy" attitude to approach things, and to be honest, I usually find people of a similar mind. I never worry too much if there isnt a second meet, because i understand the singles desire for independence and the couples desire for exploration.
Sometimes I write threads to assist in selection..... But I am a devious little bugger  |
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"I suppose on a site like this you will find people looking for all aspects of a meet. From the quick wham bam, to chatting and getting to know each other to someone wanting a 'friendship'.
There will be someone for everyone, it's just finding that person. Not easy
Of course, this is a "healthy" attitude to approach things, and to be honest, I usually find people of a similar mind. I never worry too much if there isnt a second meet, because i understand the singles desire for independence and the couples desire for exploration.
Sometimes I write threads to assist in selection..... But I am a devious little bugger "
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"A desire to be desired..."
I relate to that, heh heh.
My Tness used to be for play. It was an explosion of sexual expression in a life that had often been creative and fulfilled in other areas to find time for prioritising sex. A quick wank and back to creating.
But this year it's deepened. It's a little scary when it starts happening. You notice you're wearing relaxing classy but comfy gear instead of tight 'n' slutty. You stop hiding everything and your bedroom takes on a girly aspect of shoes, hairdos and more girly clothes than guy ones. You stop being ashamed of being found out and start being proud to be part of a community that's full of creative and beautiful people. And you suddenly realise you're not only a fuck of a lot more desirable as a girl, which you learned very quickly, but you feel like a better person, too, which has taken me ten years to figure out. |
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I have been having a chat recently with a very kind member (which sounds weird, but not that kind of member!). The conversation has been about this "lifestyle" which we choose and how we dip in and out, using the liberal aspects to fulfil certain physical needs and then once sated going back to out daily "normal" lives for a while.
Now I work overseas quite a bit, which makes this very easy for me, I can have a "break" from swinging (usually a forced break), whenever I take a new contract and then focus my energies on this until my return.
As I have dipped in and out for a number of years (first pre-marriage and now post-marriage), I find that I like to approach the lifestyle with a different desire of fulfilment, depending on the scenario.
With couples for example, it's about making new friends, a drink, a laugh and then hopefully more laughing with the desired bedroom antics. With a single lady, I now prefer (if I can get them) whole day meets, a walk, lunch or an evening meal, talking and laughing, again, hopefully followed by the aforementioned bedroom antics.
This leads me to believe that my use of this site is a little more than sexual, and approaches the "sensual" aspect of things, to "sate" both the physical and mental connection requirements that I have. I think this can be misinterpreted as being "needy" or wanting a relationship, but this is simply not the case, it's really just a desire to be desired for more than just my cock or Tongue.
So, is this purely a sex thing for some of you? Or like me do you enjoy the "meeting if minds" aspect that spending time with people of similar interests brings?"
i tend to do the sexual and the social depending on the people or person am with. |
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It depends... I often meet people that I never will meet again.. there is no foreplay, no cuddles after, I normally dont even know their names..
but I love sex..
Sometimes we allow a more regular partner a little more sensual but its purely in a sexual sense if that makes sense... I am not really interested in how his week or day was... and my time is limited.. but a regular may get an hour-2 hours as opposed to 30-an hour.
He will maybe get to kiss and I may have oral given to me..( rare )
But I wouldnt cuddle up or have emotional responses...
I do find that I tend to only have regulars that I click with as in similar interests but I think thats just because I like that sort of guy.
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I like to have what I term a "boyfriend experience" sometimes..which is basically like having a kind of date with sex and cuddles and stroking and laughing..not purely physical sex.
I find it fulfills my need for intimacy mentally and physically then. |
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"I like to have what I term a "boyfriend experience" sometimes..which is basically like having a kind of date with sex and cuddles and stroking and laughing..not purely physical sex.
I find it fulfills my need for intimacy mentally and physically then."
I guess that's a better way of saying what I said (and a lot shorter!), it's that one day, maybe a week or month or however often you meet, where you throw everything into it..... To get the most out of it....
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"I like to have what I term a "boyfriend experience" sometimes..which is basically like having a kind of date with sex and cuddles and stroking and laughing..not purely physical sex.
I find it fulfills my need for intimacy mentally and physically then."
I get alot of men that seem to want that.. but I wont give them that.. its not what I am here for.. but I think its different for couples to singles.. 
As I get all my needs, mentally, physically and emotionally by my Master, our meets are to add another aspect to our sexual adventures.. we are always trying new things..and most of its kinda pure filth as oposed to anything sensual.
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As I get all my needs, mentally, physically and emotionally by my Master, our meets are to add another aspect to our sexual adventures.. we are always trying new things..and most of its kinda pure filth as oposed to anything sensual.
Cali x"
I understand where you are coming from, but with couples I genuinely prefer it to be relaxed and a laughter rather than a performance based meeting, having said that, I have only met singles through this site........ But I won't go down that road |
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"All im gonna say is Pauly why do you have to live so far away, your ideal sounds perfect in every way for me hahah"
Because it is my destiny to be miles away from anyone that wants to meet..... Well almost everyone |
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I think it depends on the person I'm with, as well as the mood I'm in, as to whether the meet is sensual or sexual, but I enjoy both.
There are times when what all I want is something purely sexual and that can be heart-poundingly exciting! But given the choice, I enjoy the social aspect too, getting to know each other a little, enjoying some good food, wine, conversation... I'm a hedonist at heart I guess and love all the senses to be stimulated, my brain to be as aroused as my body... And being really honest, I love the intimacy of the gentlest of caresses, meltingly hot kisses, and some cuddling as well as some seriously horny sex.
Of course it can never replace the true intimacy of a long term relationship, but I have shared some very beautiful moments in the most unusual situations since I've been swinging, moments that have surprised me and taken my breath away. Sex is such a bloomin' wonderful thing!
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Very interesting thread. I think the op is a single male. So it is a different situation to mine. I have a boyfriend that i do all the sensual stuff with, however, im not here for a quick shag and goodbye. I do like to make an evening of it nice chat and good sex and then another chat.
As i have regular friends that i play with that is what they have become friends.
We chat between meets they look out for me and are really understanding to me.
So i think if i was single then yes i would like a "date" kind of meet.
Jay does say im sensual over sexy whether thats good or bad i dont know.
Well he says im sexy but not as often as he says sensual |
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