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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Hi every one iam really not sure what to say or put here but I just need to vent before I explode

I have not been doing so well in my job nothing really bad just mixing things up or forgetting to do some thing I have been in the same place 10years but moved to nights 3 years back and well.I know I have never been the best but I always try and dont leave til the job is done even if it means staying late but lately I have been pulled for some things and it has shock me up a bit the last few days I have been giving it my all and been getting every thing done but I have a huge worry about my losing my job and how I would not know what to do ied lose where I live and have to go back to my mum and dads and well it just scares the shit out of me I have not been sleeping right with out meds and not eatting or even been too hungry I have talked to my gf about it and she is helping but still I worry which is having an impact on my sex life having no sex drive or anything iam ashamed to say I just feel worthless

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

Ok...breathe in and out slowly for a minute or two.

Has something else in your life changed?

Are you getting enough sleep?

Maybe take time to talk to your boss, a counsellor, gp or a friend?

Perhaps see what is the root cause of this?

Gool luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why dont you start applying for other jobs in the same sector whilst you're still with this one? I had about 14 jobs in one year when I was doing bar management in my early 20's. Just left each time they pissed me off, having another place already lined up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Ok...breathe in and out slowly for a minute or two.

Has something else in your life changed?

Are you getting enough sleep?

Maybe take time to talk to your boss, a counsellor, gp or a friend?

Perhaps see what is the root cause of this?

Gool luck x"

Nothing has really changed just the same sort of stuff but I have always been a worrier

I think I am getting enough sleep but atm maybe not due to me worrying

I would not trust meny at my work the odd 1 or 2 but my manager iam ok with

I think I will go to my gp and see what they say but I might just get the "dont worry" sort of shit I have been talking with my gf about it all but its still in the back of my head

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Why dont you start applying for other jobs in the same sector whilst you're still with this one? I had about 14 jobs in one year when I was doing bar management in my early 20's. Just left each time they pissed me off, having another place already lined up."

This is what iam thinking if I try and get my cv about and try and find some where for me now before its to late

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is what iam thinking if I try and get my cv about and try and find some where for me now before its to late

That's what id do, then if things improve you can just cancel the other one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Do you enjoy what you do and where you work? Are you happy in your relationship? Are you happy with your life?

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x"

Same I worry about doing stuff wrong and always doubting my own work and I know its not what I should do but I still do

I really enjoy working nights I get left alone to do my own thing so it works for me like that

I can talk to some of my bosses but not all sadly I just feel like if I was better or faster I would not even have to worry like this and no no one has said anything about losing jobs but know iam been watched is all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Find something you would like to do and start your own business. Go self employed. Sounds like your too worried in life about upsetting 'The Man'.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

This is what iam thinking if I try and get my cv about and try and find some where for me now before its to late

That's what id do, then if things improve you can just cancel the other one."

Yeah will have to get out and look around is all

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Do you enjoy what you do and where you work? Are you happy in your relationship? Are you happy with your life? "

Meh its always just been a job pays rent and lets me have a bit to play with

Yes iam happy with my relationship we are going good

Life once again is a meh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x

Same I worry about doing stuff wrong and always doubting my own work and I know its not what I should do but I still do

I really enjoy working nights I get left alone to do my own thing so it works for me like that

I’m watched (like everyone) where I work and sometimes I feel like I don’t do enough but asking for feedback helps, I’ve done it after I know they have done an assessment on me and I’m actually pleasantly surprised.

Try not and worry x

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Find something you would like to do and start your own business. Go self employed. Sounds like your too worried in life about upsetting 'The Man'. "

I do have another job but its always hit and miss and have not got the cash to fully get it started thats why I am still at my 1st job

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Find a job you'd be happy to do. You should always enjoy where you work and be excited to be going to work. Life is too short to be unhappy where you work. You spend a lot of time in work so that means you spend a lot of time being unhappy. I'm a self employed driver. Every day is different, that's ideal for me. What's your perfect job?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Find something you would like to do and start your own business. Go self employed. Sounds like your too worried in life about upsetting 'The Man'.

I do have another job but its always hit and miss and have not got the cash to fully get it started thats why I am still at my 1st job "

There's lots of places that give business loans. Look online. Just need to get a business plan sorted. Some of the government business loans have advizors who will help with that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Two important points. If you have been in a job for ten years,they can't just sack you all that easily.You have employment rights.

One of those rights as a night worker is,that the employer has to offer you health checks. You may be well advised to insist on some health checks and to discuss with the doctor that you are suffering from stress.It could be the night shifts that are contributing to that stress.

Maybe take some time off sick,or even a holiday.Again,if you have been in the job for ten years the employer can't use that against you.

It may be worth speaking to someone in a union,even if you are not a member they sometimes offer advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't imagine being in the same job for 10 years!? Your head must be fried

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

You’re focusing on things you can’t cintrol hence the stress. Try to list out 5 things you can control and when you get bad think or do something with them

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x

Same I worry about doing stuff wrong and always doubting my own work and I know its not what I should do but I still do

I really enjoy working nights I get left alone to do my own thing so it works for me like that

Try not and worry x"

I just feel like every time.my name comes up its some thing bad even when I do really try my face have a face like a slapped ass when I am there but thats just been.tired lol I would like to.see what they say about me but on the other I would dred it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x

Same I worry about doing stuff wrong and always doubting my own work and I know its not what I should do but I still do

I really enjoy working nights I get left alone to do my own thing so it works for me like that

Try not and worry x

Have the courage to confront your worries. Ask people what they think of you.

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Find a job you'd be happy to do. You should always enjoy where you work and be excited to be going to work. Life is too short to be unhappy where you work. You spend a lot of time in work so that means you spend a lot of time being unhappy. I'm a self employed driver. Every day is different, that's ideal for me. What's your perfect job? "

I work part time in a tattoo shop doing piercings I enjoy that but dont make no where near enough to pay rent let alone live I have been trying to save up to start.getting bigger but its hard to live pay rent and work 2 jobs and save is all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

NEVER worry about what other people think of you!!! If they Dont like you FUCK 'EM they're the ones with a problem. Live your life however makes you the happy. Life's too short to be unhappy. If something or soneone makes you unhappy... Move on dont stay in that situation

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Two important points. If you have been in a job for ten years,they can't just sack you all that easily.You have employment rights.

Maybe take some time off sick,or even a holiday.Again,if you have been in the job for ten years the employer can't use that against you.

It may be worth speaking to someone in a union,even if you are not a member they sometimes offer advice."

I know they cant just sack me but they have ways of making.you quit if they want you gone eg working every weekend or spilting shifts and such also I have filled out the union slip just need to post it is all I dont think it would go down well if I had time off for stress they would just find a loop.hole not to pay me

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"You’re focusing on things you can’t cintrol hence the stress. Try to list out 5 things you can control and when you get bad think or do something with them

I will try but easier said then done but thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe your location is the problem. Try somewhere else that has more of a demand. Or advertise on social media and do house calls. If that's legal. I'm sure people would feel more comfortable having it done at home. Ask on here if people would rather have a prick in them at home?

Seriously though... Follow your dreams

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

"Firstly go and make yourself a hot drink (not coffee!) and try and relax a little.

I am the worlds worsf at work, I truly am I costantly think I’m doing everything wrong, talking to my boss helps hugely though and really does help, I know some bosses are approachable though.

Are nights working for you? Maybe you might need to go back to days? Talking really does help, if you don’t it will only make matters worse as nothing will be resolved.

Has anyone said about you losing your job or are you just worrying?

Geeky x

Same I worry about doing stuff wrong and always doubting my own work and I know its not what I should do but I still do

I really enjoy working nights I get left alone to do my own thing so it works for me like that

Try not and worry x

Have the courage to confront your worries. Ask people what they think of you."

I think I know what others think.of me that iam a nice guy just need to speed up and get done faster

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple over a year ago

manchester

I've been doing nights myself for just over 2 years and iam definitely not the same person too. I get about 5 hrs sleep in the week and snooze randomly at weekends and have mega fatigue any other time and get snappy. First thing I'd do is get off the shift and yes talk to a Dr too. I started antidepressants (my partners not prescribed) and feel a little better. This time of year/weather doesn't help too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

https://www.gov.uk/business-finance-support

You're obviously not happy where you work. When you do piercings do you feel the same way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been doing nights myself for just over 2 years and iam definitely not the same person too. I get about 5 hrs sleep in the week and snooze randomly at weekends and have mega fatigue any other time and get snappy. First thing I'd do is get off the shift and yes talk to a Dr too. I started antidepressants (my partners not prescribed) and feel a little better. This time of year/weather doesn't help too"

See, why would people stay in a job that makes you I'll? I've had jobs that I hated. As soon as I feel "I really Dont want to go too work today"... That's my mind made up and I'm out if there

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

Seriously though... Follow your dreams"

I have been doing the old fb and such and posts with the shop I have just put it down to the time of year as tattooing has dropped as well only problem with doing stuff at some ones house health and safety would have a field day it best to do it at a shop just to cover my ass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're too sexy too be sad (if this is Mrs talking)

Enjoy life everyone.. I know its hard too just find another job, but not impossible. Do a job you wake up and think... It's Monday, new week!

Not.... Fuck sake its Monday!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously though... Follow your dreams

Its the shop then. I know a lot of tattooists and they're busy all year around and the piercing side does well too. Put your business around other shop's

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By *reakShow90 OP Man over a year ago

Manchester/halifax

same i sleep odd times but I do mostly do ok as I am part time I have one day to sleep then iam back round to day times

I have been on anti depressions and anxiety meds for 4 year they do help but still have good and bad days I think I will need to go back to them

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By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

"NEVER worry about what other people think of you!!! If they Dont like you FUCK 'EM they're the ones with a problem. Live your life however makes you the happy. Life's too short to be unhappy. If something or soneone makes you unhappy... Move on dont stay in that situation"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When all seems down and people make you frown. Dont be pissed, stand tall and sing along to this!

https://youtu.be/mvP0GE3HY7c

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

sounds like you are doing too much -

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By *aurimauriMan over a year ago

Ramsgate

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By *aurimauriMan over a year ago

Ramsgate

I would find someone who can help you evaluate your life, feelings, desires etc.

Then produce a plan.

Planning and working towards goals with realistic targets gets the stress out of the head and helps focus tasks in to bite size chunks.

Shame you arent nearer, I've just done a session with the team on this, although focused on work, some of them brought in life stuff.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman over a year ago

-3

Aww sparkles sending

sorry to hear this. I've met you in real life and your ever so lovely. I hope you feel better real soon. Maybe speak to the boss you get on with privately for some reassurance and go see your gp. Xxx

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

"You’re focusing on things you can’t cintrol hence the stress. Try to list out 5 things you can control and when you get bad think or do something with them

I will try but easier said then done but thank you "

Try to pick up a chair. No don’t pick it up, I said just try. See you’re not picking it up are you. Do or do not do. There is no try.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS over a year ago

Horsham

"Hi every one iam really not sure what to say or put here but I just need to vent before I explode

See if your company has an employee assistance program, if they do use it. As it can offer counselling, without any cost to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Use a website. To manage anxiety and mood

Moodjuice

Moodgym

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sit down with your boss/manager/team leader.

Explain things are getting on top of you, any decent manager will work with you rather than look for reason to sack you.

It’s their job to make sure you can do your job.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That was me 4 months ago and I was so paranoid over my manager wanting to sack me etc that I got so ill over it. I’ve been off sick for the last 3 months and go back this Monday. I was paranoid! Don’t always read into things, if you’re stressed this will happen. See your GP

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple over a year ago

manchester

See, why would people stay in a job that makes you I'll? I've had jobs that I hated. As soon as I feel "I really Dont want to go too work today"... That's my mind made up and I'm out if there"
more money (I know that's not everything) plus I do like the Friday morning finish and Monday evening start so nice long weekend, pros and cons but iam always on the look out for somthing more suitable

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By *queekyCheesyCouple over a year ago

newark

Stop stressing over deadlines and workload etc and just do what you can to remain stable.

Easier said than done I know, but dont mean its not easy at all.

I was in the same job 10 years, very unhappy.. stressed. Always in trouble.

Finally blew my top and left, walked into a job i fucking adore every second of with a significant pay increase.

Your life, change it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Reading what you say it seems the cause of your current anxiety is not getting your job done quickly enough and perhaps not the the standard required?

If so, you really should speak to your manager to talk through the issues and what support you might need. Sometimes small changes can have a big impact.

You also say you're a worrier. Talking to your gf is great and any other friends who are happy to support you. You also always chat to your GP, especially if it's affecting your ability to function well and sleep.

Things often appear worse to ourselves and we can end up in a downward spiral of worry. Try to think positively and be proactive. If your manager sees you taking an interest in what you do and wanting to improve you may find you get all the support you need.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi every one iam really not sure what to say or put here but I just need to vent before I explode

so sorry to read what you have wrote

be aware Nightshift working causes havoc on your health and may have a lot to do with your condition right now

could you approach your employer and ask to return to dayshift working due to health

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