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Do you get more attention IRL, or on fab?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see many people in real life, except in passing on the street or on buses, where I usually have a child with me.
When my filters are off on here I get lots of messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It would be impossible to get as much attention in real life as on here, given the amount of messages. That being said, I'm not lacking in attention in real life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would be impossible to get as much attention in real life as on here, given the amount of messages. That being said, I'm not lacking in attention in real life "
I can believe that.... WoW . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm normally quite oblivious to any attention that I may or may not receive in the really real world. Unless someone overtly makes it blatantly obvious I'd probably convince myself that they were looking at the fella just over my shoulder behind me. |
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Far more in real life! I don't think I'm anything special but I usually get some attention on a night out and occasionally I hear that I'm being discussed among the girls at work in the "who would you shag" conversations they have  |
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"Real life as i work in public meets strangers daily"
Same here; running my own public-facing, sales-derived business for the last 18 years, has endowed me with the ability to approach and chat with strangers. Although this life skill hasn’t worked well for me as a single guy in the clubs I’ve visited  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the worst at reading signals, a woman has to literally wave her foof in my face before I get the message.
So I may get attention but I probably wouldn't know most of the time. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
I would say I get more attention on here but maybe that's due to clothes being over-rated. In the real world Im just an average girl running around. I wouldn't know if someone fancied me if they hit me over the head with a hammer  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It seems that most people get more attention on here, which is in line with what I initially thought anyway, given the nature of the site and the ability to present your best self.
However, some of you may get a lot of attention in real life and not know it. I wonder how many people admire from a distance vs those courageous few whom are willing to approach.
On top of that, like the gentleman said above me, I can't read signals in real life to save my life. All of my exes had make it explicitly clear that they liked me.
This site has been an eye opener though. Definitely more attention on here (because I'm aware of it I guess). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say I get more attention on here but maybe that's due to clothes being over-rated. In the real world Im just an average girl running around. I wouldn't know if someone fancied me if they hit me over the head with a hammer "
A good clue would be the amount of drewel hanging from there mouths as you pass |
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we get quite a few fabs and people looking at our profile on here but very few messages.
Men of all ages look at me when I'm out. Whether that's because they think I shouldn't be allowed out or not I don't know . Nobody ever approaches me nowadays though. |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t get any attention in real life. Which is why I don’t take the over the top ‘compliments’ that I get in messages seriously. Those people wouldn’t look twice at me in the street or a pub etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab definitely.
In fact most people's who message me on fab wouldn't look twice at me in rl. But most people don't find oversized mens uniforms on ladies attractive, or ladies who happily get dirty and muddy |
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"I don’t get any attention in real life. Which is why I don’t take the over the top ‘compliments’ that I get in messages seriously. Those people wouldn’t look twice at me in the street or a pub etc "
With a body like yours I doubt that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never used to get much attention on a night out. At least, I never noticed any.
But lately I haven't been wearing my wedding ring (long story) and I notice when I go out, especially when Marc isn't there, I do get a bit of attention. It feels really different to what I'm used to, really. |
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"I never used to get much attention on a night out. At least, I never noticed any.
But lately I haven't been wearing my wedding ring (long story) and I notice when I go out, especially when Marc isn't there, I do get a bit of attention. It feels really different to what I'm used to, really. "
I think you must be one of those women who doesn't notice men looking Courtney. or do you only count it if they talk to you?
I'm clinging to the last vestiges of attention gathering and count every glance  |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"I would say I get more attention on here but maybe that's due to clothes being over-rated. In the real world Im just an average girl running around. I wouldn't know if someone fancied me if they hit me over the head with a hammer
A good clue would be the amount of drewel hanging from there mouths as you pass"
Is that due to them spilting their dinner..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never used to get much attention on a night out. At least, I never noticed any.
But lately I haven't been wearing my wedding ring (long story) and I notice when I go out, especially when Marc isn't there, I do get a bit of attention. It feels really different to what I'm used to, really.
I think you must be one of those women who doesn't notice men looking Courtney. or do you only count it if they talk to you?
I'm clinging to the last vestiges of attention gathering and count every glance "
I guess I only notice it if a guy talks to me. Never considered them just looking.
I think you would have presence in real life. You just seem that way to me. I bet that presence gets plenty of attention. Marc always tells me I send out a "fuck off" vibe and that I have to seem more welcoming if I want guys to say anything to me.  |
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"I never used to get much attention on a night out. At least, I never noticed any.
But lately I haven't been wearing my wedding ring (long story) and I notice when I go out, especially when Marc isn't there, I do get a bit of attention. It feels really different to what I'm used to, really.
I think you must be one of those women who doesn't notice men looking Courtney. or do you only count it if they talk to you?
I'm clinging to the last vestiges of attention gathering and count every glance
I guess I only notice it if a guy talks to me. Never considered them just looking.
I think you would have presence in real life. You just seem that way to me. I bet that presence gets plenty of attention. Marc always tells me I send out a "fuck off" vibe and that I have to seem more welcoming if I want guys to say anything to me. "
That's interesting, I have a friend who sends out a "fuck off" vibe. Look on it as a talent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get more attention for the type of connection I’m looking for on here. I get equal amounts of attention for what I’m not looking for in real life and on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I walked about in rl with the same kit on that I have in my pics, I imagine I would get more, but I think I can live with it!
You are not wrong lol"
Normally I would say on here but I am 1 for 1 as in nights out and pulling! Not my usual state because I rarely flirt- apparently I am scary! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Half and half. However I think I need to converse more in the real world.
Was in Scotland recently, popped to the shopping centre, drop dead gorgeous guy started talking to me, I just stood staring at him thinking 'omg that accent,those looks' he looked at me, I squeeked turned the other way and walked off
He properly flustered me... oooh.
I did think of going back and apologising, but made myself look like a big enough twat as it was lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get more here and makes me smile to read messages from younger lads. If I walked past their gym (where all hot people hang out, yes?) In real life they wouldn't even glance my way
I'm fairly invisible really. And if I'm in work wear I'm positively avoided |
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"I get more attention in real life, and the attention that I get in real life is lot more genuine also."
Having bumped into you in semi-real-life. I'm not surprised.
You do draw the eyes somewhat!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would be impossible to get as much attention in real life as on here, given the amount of messages. That being said, I'm not lacking in attention in real life "
Totally agree with this xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my profiles showing then on here. Though in real life it's more genuine and better attention. It can be over the top with the compliments and feel really false online. Or people will message on here things they wouldn't dare come approach you in a bar etc saying. That sort of attention isn't wanted. Much prefer real life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If my profiles showing then on here. Though in real life it's more genuine and better attention. It can be over the top with the compliments and feel really false online. Or people will message on here things they wouldn't dare come approach you in a bar etc saying. That sort of attention isn't wanted. Much prefer real life."
You’re so right. I get absolutely gorgeous men with amazing bodies in their 20s saying how gorgeous I am, and I think to myself if you saw me out in Manchester you wouldn’t look twice at me and probably too embarrassed to even say anything to your mates, then be flocking round the stunning 20 year olds with a size 6 body. I want someone who genuinely fancies me! |
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On top of that, like the gentleman said above me, I can't read signals in real life to save my life. All of my exes had make it explicitly clear that they liked me.
This site has been an eye opener though. Definitely more attention on here (because I'm aware of it I guess)."
I probably get a similar amount of attention on here as in real life maybe slightly more on here, But very few and far between |
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By *reckledWoman
over a year ago
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"If my profiles showing then on here. Though in real life it's more genuine and better attention. It can be over the top with the compliments and feel really false online. Or people will message on here things they wouldn't dare come approach you in a bar etc saying. That sort of attention isn't wanted. Much prefer real life."
Precisely this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Works out about the same for me but I only ever get approached by black and Asian guys in real life, never ever white.
I love black ladies but rarely dare approach them "
Exactly, because we're all "intimidating and unapproachable"  |
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"Works out about the same for me but I only ever get approached by black and Asian guys in real life, never ever white.
I love black ladies but rarely dare approach them
Exactly, because we're all "intimidating and unapproachable" "
Not at all! I'm just more self conscious about it in case they don't like white guys. I did chat up a lovely lady in Sheffield last year though and we spent the rest of the night all over each other |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being married, I'm not looking for attention in real life so I wouldn't notice it or I'd ignore it if I did get attention. "
yes totally agree and understand that |
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"Loads more in Real Life, don't really use fab to meet single woman to be honest
Your just a total stand out "
Haha!
I must admit men on the street don't walk up and ask me if I FAF like they do on fab lol, but quite a lot ask me to dance......well, at dances anyway, not on the street so much... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loads more in Real Life, don't really use fab to meet single woman to be honest
Your just a total stand out
Haha!
I must admit men on the street don't walk up and ask me if I FAF like they do on fab lol, but quite a lot ask me to dance......well, at dances anyway, not on the street so much..."
Some ask me to dance then the FAF |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably real life, probably because I'm normally the smiling face in the sea of grumpy cunts wandering around London. Not that id ever aapproach a complete stranger in the street though. |
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Ha ha, on here for sure. In real life I keep my head down and avoid eye contact so wouldn't know if people were looking at me or not. Probably not - given as I expect I'm perceived as middle aged, dowdy and past it |
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"Ha ha, on here for sure. In real life I keep my head down and avoid eye contact so wouldn't know if people were looking at me or not. Probably not - given as I expect I'm perceived as middle aged, dowdy and past it "
How wrong our perceptions and snap judgements of people can be!
Since being on here I've not taken anything about people at face value! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely on fab. Although I do seem to attract the advances of male colleagues and friends in real life, I don't get attention from strangers.
Can't decide whether it's a "fuck off vibe" or just being plain ugly |
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