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Repeat meets or one offs?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Personally I like repeat meets, getting to explore more each time. Never been a fan of one offs, think that’s why I don’t enjoy clubs. I know some people enjoy the buzz of someone new so only do one offs.
What’s your preference ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like both. I like the thrill of meeting someone new and knowing I'll never see them again once the deed is done.
However I believe sex improves as you get to know someone so I'm definitely up for finding a regular play mate.  |
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I definitely prefer repeat meets if the first meet goes really well!
I find a lot of people will say they’re looking for repeat meets - but in reality they’re still very much in the ‘shiny new fuck’ stage! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not many single guys posting here... 
Given the choice I would much prefer repeat meets and that learning what makes the girl feel amazing and how we could both explore that connection together.
That choice though;it's not mine alone to make..... |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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Repeats. I’ve come right out of my shell and felt relaxed and open enough with certain people and one in particular, to really explore my sexuality and discovered a lot of things about myself that have been repressed for a long long time. I was not confident enough to do this with one offs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Given the opportunity I would prefer repeat meets as I like sex with intimacy. In my experience (which is surprisingly limited) I cannot develop the level of trust and understanding in a one off meet, even if the build up has taken a while and with a social beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.
I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text. |
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Repeats. Getting to know someone from just a one off is difficult.
Sounds strange saying it but the spiritual connection is just as important as the physical.
(All I get are one offs. I must be doing something wrong lol)
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"But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.
I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text. "
what if I promise to be a twat?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.
I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text. "
Feelings are ok. It’s how we react and respond to them that is the critical thing. The feelings are part of feeling fully alive and fully engaged. Cutting myself off from my feelings is deeply unsatifying. But the challenge for me has been fully feeling them but then acting appropriately. That meant changing how I thought about the, rather than not feeling them. |
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Definitely repeats. The thrill of a new partner and not knowing what to expect is definitely a turn on but sex gets better the more you know someone, learn their noises, what each other likes how to turn them on and get them off.
Plus the better you know someone the more you build trust which always makes for more adventurous kinkiness and a better experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Repeats. I’ve come right out of my shell and felt relaxed and open enough with certain people and one in particular, to really explore my sexuality and discovered a lot of things about myself that have been repressed for a long long time. I was not confident enough to do this with one offs. "
Same, it's amazing to be able to really let go with someone  |
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First time meets are exciting because you don't know how it's going to be but they're also nerve wracking if you're lacking in confidence and, for me, I think the nerves outweigh the excitement so however good it's been I usually feel it could have been better, wish I'd done something different etc.
Therefore repeat meets - when you find someone you click with sexually - are so much more satisfying for me. Those initial nerves diminish, your ego gets boosted because they want to meet you again, you start to build up trust and confidence together as you get more physically attuned to each other, and all of that means you can relax more, lose inhibitions, have more fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not sure any more I have done the fwb / fb but it has always gone way past that point and you get too involved, yes the sex is great, but that level of commitment is too much.so it's a difficult one for me to say which is best! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Repeat meets, enables you to get to know someone better, you learn how to turn them on more, what they like and dislike. I've been lucky enough to have a couple of fuck buddies and the sex just got better and better. Then I stopped meeting. Remind me why I did that again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of my meets are repeat meets...some guys I've been seeing for a few years (and I've never developed feelings). But I'm not averse to one-offs either to mix things up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally I like repeat meets, getting to explore more each time. Never been a fan of one offs, think that’s why I don’t enjoy clubs. I know some people enjoy the buzz of someone new so only do one offs.
What’s your preference ? "
I like repeats. I like to exhaust all avenues with someone first x |
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Definitely repeats are better you get to know what each other likes and build trust.
But new meets are exciting too - the thrill of novelty and you need to meet for the first time to know if you want to meet again anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a mix of both. And that's the joy of fab for me. I only do repeat meets with those who are completely compatible with my way of meeting. They are very few and far between. So many guys just don't get it. For those they are perfect for a one off. Can't quite beat that nervous excitement of a first meet. |
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