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What’s stopping you?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There is a habit you have that stops you from getting what you want. It could be that you can’t say ‘no’, that you procrastinate, or that you snooze or play online or watch TV or wank continually...

What’s one thing you can do differently right now to gain control of your life again?

And what is it that you want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah never let sex ruin a friendship again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stop being lazy at work and double my income

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim. "

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yeah never let sex ruin a friendship again"

Friendship is more important - always. But sex is fun. It’s good when these two can combine. But so often they can’t.

I’m sorry it hasn’t worked for you.

Some friends can be selfish cunts, and put sex first too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Stop being lazy at work and double my income"

But why are you being lazy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach. "

When’s your next day off?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stop being lazy at work and double my income

But why are you being lazy?"

Too much time posting on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

When’s your next day off?"

Tomorrowwwww.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim. "

What’s one thing you could do to improve things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Stop being lazy at work and double my income

But why are you being lazy?

Too much time posting on here"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

When’s your next day off?

Tomorrowwwww. "

I expect beach photos.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

When’s your next day off?

Tomorrowwwww.

I expect beach photos.

What if I trick you and send an old beach photo?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

What’s one thing you could do to improve things?"

Ah I can see I’m being life-coached here! From one coach to another

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

When’s your next day off?

Tomorrowwwww.

I expect beach photos.

What if I trick you and send an old beach photo? "

With tomorrow’s newspaper then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

What can you do to overcome those fears?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To stop overeating, though it's not just a habit, it's an addiction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

What’s one thing you could do to improve things?

Ah I can see I’m being life-coached here! From one coach to another

xx"

Nope. Just talking.

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Nothing currently, I am at peace with myself...not that it has always been this..I used to worry about every decision. Wasted energy. Always look for the most positive or least negative outcome if something goes awry.

Twat

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

What can you do to overcome those fears? "

Hide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To stop overeating, though it's not just a habit, it's an addiction.

Nods. What do you get from it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit"

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nothing currently, I am at peace with myself...not that it has always been this..I used to worry about every decision. Wasted energy. Always look for the most positive or least negative outcome if something goes awry.

Twat"

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ..."

Well, exactly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love. "

https://youtu.be/FmkHqUwa4zg

Halestorm - Love Bites (So Do I)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love. "

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things? "

not sure really and equally not certain i want to - some people are selfish and seem to get more but unfairly or in not such a nice way - ive been in a bit of a mess the last through months - healthwise and the the knock on effect that has had - some people have shown their true colours and others have shown a side i hadnt seen - hard to word it

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?"

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want to be 4 stones lighter.

My mouth's addiction to chewing is getting in the way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience..."

What would you say are three values you live by?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should. "

Yes you should.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not saying because it my disability.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience...

What would you say are three values you live by?"

Umm...kindness, directness, protecting others against unfairness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps i should have asked the hard question. You posed it OP...

What is it you want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go and see what's wrong with my shoulder, I called a dr and chiropractor but their offices were closed

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I got what I wanted last year but it didn't work out. Maybe I should take a year off wanting anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?"

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others? "

possibly nothing as i get to keep my pride and self esteem - my tattoo is always true to myself - the downside is by being so damn loyal and 'nice' is i get hurt - but rather that than be a person who people think badly of

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"I spend far too much time lying in on my days off, messing around on fab and Facebook, when instead I could be having a nice walk on the beach.

When’s your next day off?

Tomorrowwwww.

I expect beach photos.

What if I trick you and send an old beach photo? "

It might need to show you surrounded by snow, as well as the beach

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I want to be 4 stones lighter.

My mouth's addiction to chewing is getting in the way. "

Need a walking buddy? We could do a power walk and then go home for power wanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should. "

What could you do to really celebrate?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There is a habit you have that stops you from getting what you want. It could be that you can’t say ‘no’, that you procrastinate, or that you snooze or play online or watch TV or wank continually...

What’s one thing you can do differently right now to gain control of your life again?

And what is it that you want?

I spend too much money, I eat and drink too much and I isolate.

What I want is to be able to moderate all of these things.

What I'm doing about it is batch cooking for the week, arranging a meet for tonight

and only drinking 1 night per week ( tonight

)

What about you OP? x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should.

What could you do to really celebrate?"

I have no idea.

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By *elnkazCouple over a year ago

cheshire

To get my ass to the gym and lose these huge love handles.. Kaz

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not saying because it my disability."

Okay xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?"

Because.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience...

What would you say are three values you live by?

Umm...kindness, directness, protecting others against unfairness"

I find your choices interesting, and respect them greatly. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Go and see what's wrong with my shoulder, I called a dr and chiropractor but their offices were closed

When do they open?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I got what I wanted last year but it didn't work out. Maybe I should take a year off wanting anything.

What is wrong with wanting again this year?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless"

What do you or would you write about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To have the confidence to go on an actual meet.

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience...

What would you say are three values you live by?

Umm...kindness, directness, protecting others against unfairness

I find your choices interesting, and respect them greatly. Thank you. "

And thank you too OP for one of the most interesting threads for a while, and for your coaching skills x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What’s one thing you can do differently right now to gain control of your life again?

And what is it that you want?

I spend too much money, I eat and drink too much and I isolate.

What I want is to be able to moderate all of these things.

What I'm doing about it is batch cooking for the week, arranging a meet for tonight

and only drinking 1 night per week ( tonight

)

What about you OP? x"

That’s awesome! What will tomorrow feel like after all that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should.

What could you do to really celebrate?

I have no idea. "

When was the last time you did some free writing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Other people.

Or rather me allowing other people to take centre stage when I could outshine them if only I was more extroverted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To get my ass to the gym and lose these huge love handles.. Kaz "

What are you going to do to make that happen?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Other people.

Or rather me allowing other people to take centre stage when I could outshine them if only I was more extroverted. "

Oh come and show me what you can do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Other people.

Or rather me allowing other people to take centre stage when I could outshine them if only I was more extroverted.

Oh come and show me what you can do

I'll perform my private show for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"To have the confidence to go on an actual meet."

What would you lose by going on one and it not working out? What would you gain by going on one and it not working out?

What’s the probability that it will work out?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That’s awesome! What will tomorrow feel like after all that?

Probably wretched!

But I can't stand to spend another weekend on my own x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Years of getting it wrong, learning from various lovers of different types, experience...

What would you say are three values you live by?

Umm...kindness, directness, protecting others against unfairness

I find your choices interesting, and respect them greatly. Thank you.

And thank you too OP for one of the most interesting threads for a while, and for your coaching skills x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Other people.

Or rather me allowing other people to take centre stage when I could outshine them if only I was more extroverted. "

When are you going to allow your head to catch up with your aesthetic that you’ve worked hard for?

Love you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve always had control of my life, I make my decisions and stans by them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because."

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That’s awesome! What will tomorrow feel like after all that?

Probably wretched!

But I can't stand to spend another weekend on my own x"

Good on you. What position do you want to be fucked in (all being well)?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve always had control of my life, I make my decisions and stans by them"

Good ol’ Stan

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Other people.

Or rather me allowing other people to take centre stage when I could outshine them if only I was more extroverted.

When are you going to allow your head to catch up with your aesthetic that you’ve worked hard for?

Love you. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I subscribe to Don Juan in Castaneda’s book about 4 enemies of a man (woman) of knowledge.

Which is odd because the first enemy has closed upon on a little lately.

Thanks OP woke me up a little there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told."

What is it you gain by procrastinating?

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Portion control mostly.

*pats food baby*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should.

What could you do to really celebrate?

I have no idea.

When was the last time you did some free writing? "

It's been too long since I have done any sort of writing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I subscribe to Don Juan in Castaneda’s book about 4 enemies of a man (woman) of knowledge.

Which is odd because the first enemy has closed upon on a little lately.

Thanks OP woke me up a little there.

Excellent. Fear, clarity, power and old age.

What are you afraid of?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Portion control mostly.

*pats food baby*"

What did you eat?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't know what it is that I want, I'm still trying to work that out.

I have been making changes to my life to take back control from the self destructive part of me. The next step is to find a new job, the thing that is stopping me, love.

When did you last congratulate yourself for the change you’ve already made?

I haven't

Perhaps I should.

What could you do to really celebrate?

I have no idea.

When was the last time you did some free writing?

It's been too long since I have done any sort of writing."

What would it be like to try?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

What do I want? To change career and do the thing I always wanted.

What is stopping me? Something always crops up in real life and the things I want are, naturally, the first to go on the back burner.

It doesn't bother me, I don't regret or resent it. I have time, right?

Another thing I want, is some love.

I'm not a bad person, yeah I'm a bit cunty, ok a lot, but I have been dealt a fairly shit hand and I'll not apologise for expressing myself when I am feeling crap.

But, ultimately, I am a good person, people take advantage of that. So I am going to stop allowing myself to be neglected when I need things.

That makes no sense but I know what I mean.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

Also, for all of you getting your shit together and making changes.

Be proud.

You identified what was wrong and you are making an effort to change it.

Most people would run, hide or just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win. "

No one wins every time

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I subscribe to Don Juan in Castaneda’s book about 4 enemies of a man (woman) of knowledge.

Which is odd because the first enemy has closed upon on a little lately.

Thanks OP woke me up a little there.

Excellent. Fear, clarity, power and old age.

What are you afraid of?"

Clarity, it so encompasses fear and power that are either side of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What do I want? To change career and do the thing I always wanted.

What is stopping me? Something always crops up in real life and the things I want are, naturally, the first to go on the back burner.

It doesn't bother me, I don't regret or resent it. I have time, right?

Another thing I want, is some love.

I'm not a bad person, yeah I'm a bit cunty, ok a lot, but I have been dealt a fairly shit hand and I'll not apologise for expressing myself when I am feeling crap.

But, ultimately, I am a good person, people take advantage of that. So I am going to stop allowing myself to be neglected when I need things.

That makes no sense but I know what I mean.

You are

I wish people realised that it’s often the ones people rely on that feel the loneliest themselves. You know who your friends are when things are tough.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Also, for all of you getting your shit together and making changes.

Be proud.

You identified what was wrong and you are making an effort to change it.

Most people would run, hide or just ignore."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told.

What is it you gain by procrastinating?"

I gain absolutely nothing, but its a hard habit to break.

It has got worse since I started a new job. My old job was Managing Reactive Maintenance so it was high pressure, of the cuff works. My new job is the total opposite.

I think subliminally I miss the pressure of the old job and leave everything till the last.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I subscribe to Don Juan in Castaneda’s book about 4 enemies of a man (woman) of knowledge.

Which is odd because the first enemy has closed upon on a little lately.

Thanks OP woke me up a little there.

Excellent. Fear, clarity, power and old age.

What are you afraid of?

Clarity, it so encompasses fear and power that are either side of it."

So very true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told.

What is it you gain by procrastinating?

I gain absolutely nothing, but its a hard habit to break.

It has got worse since I started a new job. My old job was Managing Reactive Maintenance so it was high pressure, of the cuff works. My new job is the total opposite.

I think subliminally I miss the pressure of the old job and leave everything till the last."

What can you do to find other ways of having the pressure that you seek?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What do I want? To change career and do the thing I always wanted.

What is stopping me? Something always crops up in real life and the things I want are, naturally, the first to go on the back burner.

It doesn't bother me, I don't regret or resent it. I have time, right?

Another thing I want, is some love.

I'm not a bad person, yeah I'm a bit cunty, ok a lot, but I have been dealt a fairly shit hand and I'll not apologise for expressing myself when I am feeling crap.

But, ultimately, I am a good person, people take advantage of that. So I am going to stop allowing myself to be neglected when I need things.

That makes no sense but I know what I mean.

Real life is just like here. But with added humanity. I know what you mean too...i think.

But the only time any of us is guaranteed is now. Not tomorrow or next week or next year.

We get only one chance at life. You may not regret or resent stuff that gets in the way today.

But if you don't follow your dream whatever it may be one day you will.

Those who love you will accept that. Those who don't...maybe they are not a problem.

But today know if you want it you can make it happen.

Whatever it is... take that first step today. The rest will follow x

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Portion control mostly.

*pats food baby*

What did you eat?

Too much?!

It was a relatively stir fry but could probably have fed two!

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Portion control mostly.

*pats food baby*

What did you eat?

Too much?!

It was a relatively heathy stir fry but could probably have fed two!

Fixed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it. "

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Portion control mostly.

*pats food baby*

What did you eat?

Too much?!

It was a relatively stir fry but could probably have fed two!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told.

What is it you gain by procrastinating?

I gain absolutely nothing, but its a hard habit to break.

It has got worse since I started a new job. My old job was Managing Reactive Maintenance so it was high pressure, of the cuff works. My new job is the total opposite.

I think subliminally I miss the pressure of the old job and leave everything till the last.

What can you do to find other ways of having the pressure that you seek? "

I'm reading a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It was recommended to me, to be honest, I'm not feeling it to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?"

All of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I am the King of procrastination.

My procrastination, procrastinates if the truth be told.

What is it you gain by procrastinating?

I gain absolutely nothing, but its a hard habit to break.

It has got worse since I started a new job. My old job was Managing Reactive Maintenance so it was high pressure, of the cuff works. My new job is the total opposite.

I think subliminally I miss the pressure of the old job and leave everything till the last.

What can you do to find other ways of having the pressure that you seek?

I'm reading a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. It was recommended to me, to be honest, I'm not feeling it to be honest.

It bored me!

If there were no barriers, what are five things you’d like to do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless

What do you or would you write about?"

A load of rubbish mostly, but I'm working on my self belief too

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless

What do you or would you write about?

A load of rubbish mostly, but I'm working on my self belief too

Maybe you could write to no-hopers on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless

What do you or would you write about?

A load of rubbish mostly, but I'm working on my self belief too

Maybe you could write to no-hopers on Fab?

If you need something to help you sleep I have plenty that will get you snoring

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Complacency. Too set in my ways. Too many other little things pulling me in all different directions so when I get some rare time to do things I want, I just flop and be lazy instead.

I'm generally more motivated with the sunshine and light nights mind

That makes sense. What is it you would want if you were feeling more motivated?

I'd like simply to be able to sit down and write. To have time to get into the mindset and just go for it, without worrying about the million and one other things that are more important.

And to be strong enough to put down the distractions of here and twitter etc that are to easy to fall into in a quiet moment .

it's all hopeless

What do you or would you write about?

A load of rubbish mostly, but I'm working on my self belief too

Who has self belief that you admire, what is it that they do differently?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get a job and an active sex life looking for both at min

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Listening to Sonic Youth and drinking cheap cider is currently getting in the way of my life goals.

On the other hand, what are Saturday nights for?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Get a job and an active sex life looking for both at min"

And what can you do differently to help you make progress?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Listening to Sonic Youth and drinking cheap cider is currently getting in the way of my life goals.

On the other hand, what are Saturday nights for?"

Word.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Listening to Sonic Youth and drinking cheap cider is currently getting in the way of my life goals.

On the other hand, what are Saturday nights for?"

Saturday evening well spent if you ask me, kool thing...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

dying to decorate my little one bed house

ive got the paint and materials

i know how to do it , sugar soap the walls , rub and fill here and there , cut in edges and corners with a brush then roll

i'll do it in a week

ive a new 3 piece suite sitting here un wrapped ready for lounge and new bed and mattress still boxed and un wrapped

every night i lay in bed , right , start tomorrow.

every day i put it off..........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get a job and an active sex life looking for both at min

And what can you do differently to help you make progress?"

Nothing lol apply for jobs daily Mrs lost her sex drive joined here but either to old or not old enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt? "

good god you're efficient at making me self examine - i get hurt by others letting me down - maybe they dont have the same levels of loyalty- honest-trust as myself - or maybe they dont feel as much for me as i do for them -

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it. "

That's it exactly yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"dying to decorate my little one bed house

ive got the paint and materials

i know how to do it , sugar soap the walls , rub and fill here and there , cut in edges and corners with a brush then roll

i'll do it in a week

ive a new 3 piece suite sitting here un wrapped ready for lounge and new bed and mattress still boxed and un wrapped

every night i lay in bed , right , start tomorrow.

every day i put it off..........

What can you do now to make tomorrow different?

What will you feel about yourself if you accomplish something tomorrow?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Get a job and an active sex life looking for both at min

And what can you do differently to help you make progress?

Nothing lol apply for jobs daily Mrs lost her sex drive joined here but either to old or not old enough "

Nothing?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it. "

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them? "

i might lose them - 2 sides to that - 1 is i am worth more - the other is acceptance on my side that we dont all feel/act the same levels - so do i do without or put up/savour/ make do with what i do have - or

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Why would you feel guilt for something that others do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Why would you feel guilt for something that others do? "

for making them change maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it. "

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?"

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?"

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx"

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?"

Id like to know your secret aswell! I constantly worry about the smallest things definatly wasted energy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Twat

What a wonderful attitude, how did you manage to get there?

Id like to know your secret aswell! I constantly worry about the smallest things definatly wasted energy

What would you use the energy for instead?

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?"

Hum?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum? "

Father.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out. "

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

If I could grant anyone a wish, what would it be?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx"

Fine

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father."

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx

Fine

*smiles* when a woman says fine... you just know it's....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?"

more than likely - i get told this all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx

Fine

*smiles* when a woman says fine... you just know it's...."

Apologies x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time"

Would you like another suggestion from me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx

Fine

*smiles* when a woman says fine... you just know it's....

Apologies x"

Never Apologise never explain

Never say never

And never give up seeking answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The one thing I want? The Swedish ladies beach volleyball team.

What’s stopping me? The global restraining order!

But seriously - what I would like is a life by the coast. What’s stopping me is commitments here and the lack of financial clout to up sticks and move on a whim.

But enough about me. You posed the question OP, what is your answer?

New things. Fear.

The only thing to fear is fear itself...

Scuttles off back into the man cave....

Wishing it was that easy ...

Well, exactly.

So why are you finding it difficult OP?

Because.

Nice swerve OP

But as you posed the question there is a reason for seeking the experiences of others...

But not necessarily a correlation between the others experience and your own....

Yes. Quite

I wonder what your like when you play poker ..

Happy. I win.

No one wins every time

I only play when I will win.

And there you have it.

How much of life do we miss if we only ever bet when there is no risk?

All of it.

Then why only play when you know you will win OP?

I don’t win, Hine. Xx

Then step out of the Estella cave and play... and no I don't mean sex!

It hurts even putting my head out.

But it hurts more not to?

The hurt it only stops when we face our fears and know we can defeat them ...even if it hurts to do so xx

Fine

*smiles* when a woman says fine... you just know it's....

Apologies x

Never Apologise never explain

Never say never

And never give up seeking answers "

I only agree with the last statement.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I recently made a very difficult and life changing decision...

And then I carried it through. Honestly I don’t know why I waited so long.

Stop mucking about and make it happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I recently made a very difficult and life changing decision...

And then I carried it through. Honestly I don’t know why I waited so long.

Stop mucking about and make it happen. "

Mackafacker.

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X"

Rephrase?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase? "

What are you afraid of?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I recently made a very difficult and life changing decision...

And then I carried it through. Honestly I don’t know why I waited so long.

Stop mucking about and make it happen.

Mackafacker."

BooMackasha

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase?

What are you afraid of?"

The weight of my own expectation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I recently made a very difficult and life changing decision...

And then I carried it through. Honestly I don’t know why I waited so long.

Stop mucking about and make it happen.

Mackafacker.

BooMackasha"

Well slap me with a Mackerel

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase?

What are you afraid of?

The weight of my own expectation. "

What does that mean?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?"

go on - confront my demons

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase?

What are you afraid of?

The weight of my own expectation.

What does that mean?"

It means that can never quite reach what I am aiming for.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

I want a cream horn

I stole a car and I now have a cream horn

2 actually

I made that happen.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase?

What are you afraid of?

The weight of my own expectation.

What does that mean?

It means that can never quite reach what I am aiming for. "

Is this where we sing S Club 7?

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

"I want a cream horn

I stole a car and I now have a cream horn

2 actually

I made that happen."

Do you still have two or did you smush one into your face whilst on the run from the law?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"I want a cream horn

I stole a car and I now have a cream horn

2 actually

I made that happen.

Do you still have two or did you smush one into your face whilst on the run from the law? "

I would never smush them

I like to lick the cream then nibble the top until it's narrow enough to get my lips around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons "

I gently pose this, on the understanding that it a ‘my wonder’ and not necessarily ‘your fact’ - my question is...do you show yourself the love, compassion and care that you do others...and if not, when did you decide you weren’t worth as much?

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know what I want. I just spend too much time thinking about not having it rather than doing something about it.

When will you stop comparing yourself to him?

Hum?

Father.

He was a cunt. I *do* compare myself to him because I sure as hell won't be as shit a father as he was.

My question was phrased wrongly. X

Rephrase?

What are you afraid of?

The weight of my own expectation.

What does that mean?

It means that can never quite reach what I am aiming for. "

And how do you feel about that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?"

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was -

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was - "

If you saw someone else in your situation, what would you suggest they do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was -

If you saw someone else in your situation, what would you suggest they do?"

difficult to say - confront it earlier rather than later - save themselves years of angst

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was -

If you saw someone else in your situation, what would you suggest they do?

difficult to say - confront it earlier rather than later - save themselves years of angst"

What would you say to them now, rather than then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was -

If you saw someone else in your situation, what would you suggest they do?

difficult to say - confront it earlier rather than later - save themselves years of angst

What would you say to them now, rather than then?"

my thoughts throughout the evening have drifted from general to a specific - now i would just ask them why they did it - very complex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What I would like most is not be single, what’s stopping me - I attracted to all the wrong men

What I can do about this , stop looking !!! I will find it when I’m ready

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get a job and an active sex life looking for both at min

And what can you do differently to help you make progress?

Nothing lol apply for jobs daily Mrs lost her sex drive joined here but either to old or not old enough

Nothing?"

At a loss to think of anything else I can do

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"my worst fault is that i give too much of myself to others in general - dont think i will stop this though as its more part of my make-up rather than a bad habit

What would you lose by believing you could change things?

That’s wording it very well.

What do you lose by giving too much of yourself to others?

How is it you get hurt?

What would happen if you said that to them?

they might apologise and change - would i then feel guilt or relief

Yes. You talk about guilt and putting up/making do with. What does reading that back, tell you?

im too soft by half - a mug - silly for putting up with -

That’s interesting. What would someone else who loves you possibly say? Would they use those words?

more than likely - i get told this all the time

Would you like another suggestion from me?

go on - confront my demons

Also, are you angry or are you hurt?

depends which situation - the main one i am focussing on was a hurt that over lifetime has flowed between anger hurt disbelief - began as a pushed so far back in my mind it was like it never was -

If you saw someone else in your situation, what would you suggest they do?

difficult to say - confront it earlier rather than later - save themselves years of angst

What would you say to them now, rather than then?

my thoughts throughout the evening have drifted from general to a specific - now i would just ask them why they did it - very complex "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What I would like most is not be single, what’s stopping me - I attracted to all the wrong men

What I can do about this , stop looking !!! I will find it when I’m ready

I hope you do. Xx

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