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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?"
Make our own club, I’m sure there’ll be lots of fun to be had  |
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?
Make our own club, I’m sure there’ll be lots of fun to be had "
Can I join  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wikipedia defines a swinger as “Swinging, sometimes called wife swapping or partner swapping, is a non-monogamous behavior in which both singles and partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.“
Of course who’s to say Wiki is the authority on such things but there’s nothing in that to suggest it’s a couples only activity! |
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So anyone who's single and goes out on the pull on a Saturday night is a 'swinger'?
Do me a favour.
When I was younger and single I was a very successful puller. Was I a swinger? Of course not. I was a promiscuous single guy.
There's a difference. As a single you can find other single shags on aby number of dating sites. That doesn't make it swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So anyone who's single and goes out on the pull on a Saturday night is a 'swinger'?
Do me a favour.
When I was younger and single I was a very successful puller. Was I a swinger? Of course not. I was a promiscuous single guy.
There's a difference. As a single you can find other single shags on aby number of dating sites. That doesn't make it swinging."
If you can't tell the difference between being here and being out on the pull, then I'm not going put much stock in your opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single... not fab single
Straight ...not fab straight..
But why is it that so many feel the need to put other people in boxes and determine what they believe others should do to meet their own blinkered prejudices...
Less labels more acceptance of difference perhaps? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So anyone who's single and goes out on the pull on a Saturday night is a 'swinger'?
Do me a favour.
When I was younger and single I was a very successful puller. Was I a swinger? Of course not. I was a promiscuous single guy.
There's a difference. As a single you can find other single shags on aby number of dating sites. That doesn't make it swinging.
If you can't tell the difference between being here and being out on the pull, then I'm not going put much stock in your opinion."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people want to be put into boxes? 
If it comes to it, because I'm single I'm therefore not a swinger so i class myself as a fucker  "
Fuckers unite |
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We started here as singles. I wasn’t looking for anyone, was actually content on my own. Got talking to Frank (aka Throbbing hood 777) in the forum, met 2 months later & getting married later this year.
Would never look down on singles - how do you have a threesome otherwise???
Seriously, the singles are needed just as much as couples
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?"
Is there an elite ? Swinging to us is playing with different people single as well as married |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?"
I often wonder what these couples would call themselves if, heaven forbid, they found themselves single again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?
I often wonder what these couples would call themselves if, heaven forbid, they found themselves single again"
Errrm. ..single   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?
I often wonder what these couples would call themselves if, heaven forbid, they found themselves single again
Errrm. ..single "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?
Is there an elite ? Swinging to us is playing with different people single as well as married "
Exactly! |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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Having been in a couple and obviously a single fem....there are differences. Altho what I never understood were couples who refused to meet fb couples.
As a single of late I've felt a lot of couples want me for their amusement. I'm lucky I'm friends with some amazing couples on here (90% platonic) and that's fine because you can't fancy everyone.
I love the social scene whether single or coupled but in answer to the OP's original comment yeah a night for single swingers would be ace. Clubs exclude single men a lot imo so why not have something for the singles?!?
NB not the same as going into town and pulling!!!!!!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Having been in a couple and obviously a single fem....there are differences. Altho what I never understood were couples who refused to meet fb couples.
As a single of late I've felt a lot of couples want me for their amusement. I'm lucky I'm friends with some amazing couples on here (90% platonic) and that's fine because you can't fancy everyone.
I love the social scene whether single or coupled but in answer to the OP's original comment yeah a night for single swingers would be ace. Clubs exclude single men a lot imo so why not have something for the singles?!?
NB not the same as going into town and pulling!!!!!!!
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I think some clubs do singles nights. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve always embraced singles on the swing scene. We don’t enjoy couples only parties, and much prefer a setting where there are a mixture of couples and singles, or even singles who have paired up for the night. However, my issue with a lot of single men on Fab is that they are not swingers, but use this site because they believe it gives them access to easy sex. Whereas they have every right to be here, it makes it more difficult to identify who the single swingers are. I don’t regard it that there is an elite, but I do regard it that there needs to be a like-mind within swinging. Couples who only play with couples, I guess they are swinging in the more traditional sense, which obviously would not include singles. But they have the right to swing that way, and their choice does not make them elitist.
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"So anyone who's single and goes out on the pull on a Saturday night is a 'swinger'?
Do me a favour.
When I was younger and single I was a very successful puller. Was I a swinger? Of course not. I was a promiscuous single guy.
There's a difference. As a single you can find other single shags on aby number of dating sites. That doesn't make it swinging.
If you can't tell the difference between being here and being out on the pull, then I'm not going put much stock in your opinion.
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100% this!! It’s about the attitude, the approach to it. The Friday night ‘bar pullers’ are the ones who join fab & expect a shag just for joining. Single Swingers are the ones who want to experience the social & sexual side, try group play, fet play, possibly bi curious, cuck play ... and anything else that takes their fancy.
I’m also one of the ‘best of both worlds’ camp; I love having full swap with my partner, or group play where he’ll watch me with more than one guy ... I also love when we play separately & tell each other about it as well as going to clubs with friends & having a great social night & maybe a little bit of fun too!!
I was reasonably successful in the pulling stakes in my younger days & this is poles apart!!
People who think swinging is only for couples are still in the ‘pampas grass, keys in the bowl’ mentality IMO.
No one has the right to look down on anyone for how they live their life or choose to describe themselves! |
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By *omaMan
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?"
Elite? . . .you're something special then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?
Elite? . . .you're something special then?"
I think it’s called irony |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Behold the field where I cultivate my fucks. For it is barren and no fucks have been given forth
If I worried about peoples opinions I would have put an offer in on Hine's cave and retired there.
Some people like to feel better about themselves by labelling others as somehow inferior. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
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We've never looked down on anyone or judged anyone else on anything.
We met here as singles and quickly fell into a relationship. We're a stag and vixen couple so singles are kind of essential to our fun. More the merrier, I say
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs"
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least."
I don’t know, maybe. I’ve noticed a lot of posts where couples have been accused of saying that. I’ve been accused of saying it too, but I was misinterpreted. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least.
I don’t know, maybe. I’ve noticed a lot of posts where couples have been accused of saying that. I’ve been accused of saying it too, but I was misinterpreted. "
O no. The post's I am refering too where pretty blatant. Not suggesting you have said that btw.
Thing is if people think that way then that is their right. But as with any freedom of speech people have a right to think knobhead lol.
As I said earlier plenty of couples happy to meet singles so It's not something I am too concerned about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s just jealousy.
Us singles get to choose who we fuck, couples have to get the permission of their other halves who they fuck 
Permission Is not needed here, I do as I please and so does he.  "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least."
I'm certainly not saying ALL couples are elitist, just some.
Some couples don't meet singles but they are still respectful of others.
The OP was merely asking how the Elite expect anyone new to join their close cliquey ranks.
I don't want to join them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least.
I'm certainly not saying ALL couples are elitist, just some.
Some couples don't meet singles but they are still respectful of others.
The OP was merely asking how the Elite expect anyone new to join their close cliquey ranks.
I don't want to join them. "
"Elite?" Are they another version of the clique?
Maybe fab and many other things in the world would be better without the need some feel to label everything...
Wanders back into the man cave wondering why there is a queue outside of...no labels... just people.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least.
I'm certainly not saying ALL couples are elitist, just some.
Some couples don't meet singles but they are still respectful of others.
The OP was merely asking how the Elite expect anyone new to join their close cliquey ranks.
I don't want to join them. "
I have to admit that within the swing scene I was not aware that there was an elite clique. Parties that we’ve been regular at have always encouraged and welcomed new faces, as indeed we were welcomed when we were new. I find the swing scene is ever evolving.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The words ‘inferior’ and ‘superior’ have been used rather a lot in this thread. But saying someone is or isn’t a swinger is expressing a statement of fact (maybe opinion, as there is discrepancy as to what swinging is). But I don’t see what that has to do with superiority or inferiority. If we reject a man because he isn’t a swinger why would it be assumed we are looking down on him? All it means is that we have a different agenda and therefore it would be a bad match. If a couple who only meet other couples and hold to a more traditional definition of swinging, it doesn’t mean they are looking down on singles who are not part of what they consider to be swinging. Surely people’s preferences can be respected without being accused of thinking they are superior?
Mrs
There have been plenty of forum posts saying singles shouldn't be on here. That is surely a lack of respect at the very least.
I'm certainly not saying ALL couples are elitist, just some.
Some couples don't meet singles but they are still respectful of others.
The OP was merely asking how the Elite expect anyone new to join their close cliquey ranks.
I don't want to join them.
I have to admit that within the swing scene I was not aware that there was an elite clique. Parties that we’ve been regular at have always encouraged and welcomed new faces, as indeed we were welcomed when we were new. I find the swing scene is ever evolving.
Mrs "
Some are 'less welcoming', but some people are absolutely lovely. I agree it's ever evolving. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without us singles where would you swingers get your 3somes x
From couples with one very disappointed partner "
But that's a 4some with someone left out lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without us singles where would you swingers get your 3somes x
From couples with one very disappointed partner
But that's a 4some with someone left out lol x"
Meh, tomayto tomato |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Many swinging couples look down on singles as they aren't 'true swingers'.
They also frequently rant about it being unacceptable for single people to be looking for a swinging partner.
How can singles join the Swinging Elite?"
Not is SH we love a single...but then we meet as a couple and separately maybe that’s why we see it different?
I love a sexy single guy...yums
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