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So we’ve been on here around 2/3 months now and not had much luck at all. 2 meets (neither were great) and the rest of the people we speak to just disappear.
I offered for someone to keep hubby company Saturday night whilst I work (hence the change in profile pic it’s not normally that) but still no interest. So even as a couple or seperate we’re getting nothing :/ |
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
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It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss |
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over a year ago
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss "
Likely you're chatting to fakes
Take a more selective approach in who you're messaging and don't rush into planning a meet |
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss
Likely you're chatting to fakes
Take a more selective approach in who you're messaging and don't rush into planning a meet"
Yes that’s what we thought there seems to be a lot of fakes :/ |
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"It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss "
This is the internet, though. Be guarded about those you talk to - I wouldn't be surprised if most aren't even really women. Honesty is nice and all, but it isn't to be expected online...
Anyway, it's hard to meet single women on here. It's hard for most people, not just you.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss "
Some women are just on here for the ego boost.
Some are men pretending to be women.
What do you mean they tease you? If they want sex chat it's usually just a man wanking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When i see a status proclaiming mrs giving hubby permission to play alone my first gut reaction is ... that is a male only profile ... and if it had couple verifications i would just think they probably broke up and he kept the profile |
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"I guess if you are looking for women to be with the male of the couple, then the same rules apply as to single guys.
Ergo - lose the half-arsed cock shot for starters. "
A lot of people will be wary of meeting the male of a couple alone, if I had a penny for every "couple" where the female wanted the male to have fun while she was out I'd be rocking up to meets in a Bentley not a Hackney! |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"I guess if you are looking for women to be with the male of the couple, then the same rules apply as to single guys.
Ergo - lose the half-arsed cock shot for starters.
A lot of people will be wary of meeting the male of a couple alone, if I had a penny for every "couple" where the female wanted the male to have fun while she was out I'd be rocking up to meets in a Bentley not a Hackney!"
To be honest, I wouldn't meet the female half of a couple alone either - I was just giving a pointer. If a single male on here put the total lack of effort in that the OPs profile shows, he certainly wouldn't be getting meets. |
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If you were looking for guys I’m sure you’d do better.
If you’re looking for a lady or couple to entertain just Mr while Mrs is at work then Mr becomes ‘just another single guy’ amongst the rest of us, subject to the same ratios and competition.
If it’s a single lady you’re looking to join you, then you’re after the single most desired commodity (sorry ladies, crap word I know!) on here and have to stand out over and above all the other couples looking for that elusive single bi lady to join them.
Your best bet is maybe a club or social together?
Anyway good luck! I hope things improve soon! |
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Not all meets go well u can’t like everyone. And in fact one of them was because she didn’t like me (I’m the Mrs btw) which is fine as I said were not for everyone and the second one there was just no attraction there (we like to do a social first)
Cock pic I can take down tbh as profile pic is normally me (thanks to hubby lol) and I don’t want our face pic as profile pic but happy to send privately
We are deffo a genuine couple and happy to cam chat or phone chat or what ever to verify this |
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"I guess if you are looking for women to be with the male of the couple, then the same rules apply as to single guys.
Ergo - lose the half-arsed cock shot for starters.
A lot of people will be wary of meeting the male of a couple alone, if I had a penny for every "couple" where the female wanted the male to have fun while she was out I'd be rocking up to meets in a Bentley not a Hackney!
To be honest, I wouldn't meet the female half of a couple alone either - I was just giving a pointer. If a single male on here put the total lack of effort in that the OPs profile shows, he certainly wouldn't be getting meets. "
 completely agree (sorry had quoted wrong post xx) |
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"If you were looking for guys I’m sure you’d do better.
If you’re looking for a lady or couple to entertain just Mr while Mrs is at work then Mr becomes ‘just another single guy’ amongst the rest of us, subject to the same ratios and competition.
If it’s a single lady you’re looking to join you, then you’re after the single most desired commodity (sorry ladies, crap word I know!) on here and have to stand out over and above all the other couples looking for that elusive single bi lady to join them.
Your best bet is maybe a club or social together?
Anyway good luck! I hope things improve soon!"
Yes your deffo right there. We want a lady to join us as a couple but I work such unsociable hours (nights mainly) that I feel bad hubby is always on his own and could maybe do with a little lady company whilst I can’t give it to him |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"I guess if you are looking for women to be with the male of the couple, then the same rules apply as to single guys.
Ergo - lose the half-arsed cock shot for starters.
A lot of people will be wary of meeting the male of a couple alone, if I had a penny for every "couple" where the female wanted the male to have fun while she was out I'd be rocking up to meets in a Bentley not a Hackney!
To be honest, I wouldn't meet the female half of a couple alone either - I was just giving a pointer. If a single male on here put the total lack of effort in that the OPs profile shows, he certainly wouldn't be getting meets.
completely agree (sorry had quoted wrong post xx)"
Ok, I'll let you off....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss "
This happens to a lot unfortunately. Most likely they were either fakes or never intended to meet. Just kept chatting for as long as they could, before the knew it was time to back off. There's nothing wrong with either of you, so please don't take it as a personal slight. It's sometimes the way it is on here |
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"So we’ve been on here around 2/3 months now and not had much luck at all. 2 meets (neither were great) and the rest of the people we speak to just disappear.
I offered for someone to keep hubby company Saturday night whilst I work (hence the change in profile pic it’s not normally that) but still no interest. So even as a couple or seperate we’re getting nothing :/ "
I've been on here just about a year and have had 3 or 4 meets but that's because I'm as fussy as fuck  |
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"Two meets in 2/3 months is successful for here, maybe need to readjust expectations that there will be lots of single females interested in meeting.
It’s more of th fact they chat to us tease us message arranging meets and seem really interested then just disappear. We’re not for everyone which is fine but a bit of honesty doesn’t go a miss "
Yep, totally agree. Personally, I love spending two hours getting ready, for someone who then blocks me! |
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If I ever decided to meet a couple (unlikely but may not be impossible some point in the future), then I'd definitely want to see photo of the couple both together. Not just the lady on her own nor the hubby on his own.
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"I’m sure your two meets will be so pleased of your not great reference."
Exactly what I was thinking.
Fuck em and then tell us they’re a shit fuck. Charming. |
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"So we’ve been on here around 2/3 months now and not had much luck at all. 2 meets (neither were great) and the rest of the people we speak to just disappear.
I offered for someone to keep hubby company Saturday night whilst I work (hence the change in profile pic it’s not normally that) but still no interest. So even as a couple or seperate we’re getting nothing :/ "
join the club!
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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As a single lady..... I wouldn't be interested sorry to say. Why would I want to amuse someone else's man while his Mrs was at work?
It's a bit of a "what do I get out of this" mentality but I'd be entertaining someone else's partner who wouldn't be able to meet drop of a hat or have something tangible so what's the point. A lot of us singles woukd be happy with a fwb but not to be someone's entertainment |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"As a single lady..... I wouldn't be interested sorry to say. Why would I want to amuse someone else's man while his Mrs was at work?
It's a bit of a "what do I get out of this" mentality but I'd be entertaining someone else's partner who wouldn't be able to meet drop of a hat or have something tangible so what's the point. A lot of us singles woukd be happy with a fwb but not to be someone's entertainment "
Quite.
This is partly why I said I wouldn't want to meet the female half of a couple if the roles were reversed.
I'm not just some second rate penis for if/when the hubby can't be there.
Just because someone is a swinger doesn't mean they have no pride or standards. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
"As a single lady..... I wouldn't be interested sorry to say. Why would I want to amuse someone else's man while his Mrs was at work?
It's a bit of a "what do I get out of this" mentality but I'd be entertaining someone else's partner who wouldn't be able to meet drop of a hat or have something tangible so what's the point. A lot of us singles woukd be happy with a fwb but not to be someone's entertainment
Quite.
This is partly why I said I wouldn't want to meet the female half of a couple if the roles were reversed.
I'm not just some second rate penis for if/when the hubby can't be there.
Just because someone is a swinger doesn't mean they have no pride or standards. "
In a nutshell!! Glad to hear it from a male too |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"As a single lady..... I wouldn't be interested sorry to say. Why would I want to amuse someone else's man while his Mrs was at work?
It's a bit of a "what do I get out of this" mentality but I'd be entertaining someone else's partner who wouldn't be able to meet drop of a hat or have something tangible so what's the point. A lot of us singles woukd be happy with a fwb but not to be someone's entertainment
Quite.
This is partly why I said I wouldn't want to meet the female half of a couple if the roles were reversed.
I'm not just some second rate penis for if/when the hubby can't be there.
Just because someone is a swinger doesn't mean they have no pride or standards.
In a nutshell!! Glad to hear it from a male too "
Thanks.
I'm nothing if not obstinate.  |
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To be bluntly honest it sounds like you’re just after a glorified sex toy
And as a bi lady if I wanted to meet a couple it’s for both of them (that attraction to both halves is hard to find in my 6 years on fab I’ve only once met a couple through fab alone for that reason) and it’s seems that’s rarely how you have the time to play, if I just want a guy there’s plenty of singles ones to choose from |
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As others have said, a couple hunting for a Unicorn is like searching for the Holy Grail. It’s probably easier being a single straight male...(I’ve done both so can compare).
Why not start with clubs and socialising and go from there? |
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"I’m sure your two meets will be so pleased of your not great reference.
Exactly what I was thinking.
Fuck em and then tell us they’re a shit fuck. Charming. "
Did anyone say they were a naughty meet no your jumping to conclusions there aren’t you and the fact that one didn’t like us and said that and the other we didn’t click |
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"If I ever decided to meet a couple (unlikely but may not be impossible some point in the future), then I'd definitely want to see photo of the couple both together. Not just the lady on her own nor the hubby on his own.
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We keep those in our private collection as they are face pics, once we are confident the person is just a pic collector we will send them.
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"I’m sure your two meets will be so pleased of your not great reference.
Exactly what I was thinking.
Fuck em and then tell us they’re a shit fuck. Charming. "
Didn't name and shame. |
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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago
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One quick look at your profile and alarm bells ring, fake.
No matter what the woman carries the guy, only to look for a woman and a couples profile that wants your husband to play alone, it's never going to happen.
As a couple if you want to play with another woman your going to have to accept the fact that you need to meet couples even if it's own partners only as far as the guys are concerned, maybe even as far as soft swap.
We have been here only a short time, struggling to get time out with babysitters and we have not had a shortage of meets, most have been at social nights and four pre organised. Probably could have a couple every week but Vanilla life takes over.
It's not all about the sex, it's a swingers site and that involves a lot of socialising. Where hear for the Social side and if we get play it's a bonus. |
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"So we’ve been on here around 2/3 months now and not had much luck at all. 2 meets (neither were great) and the rest of the people we speak to just disappear.
I offered for someone to keep hubby company Saturday night whilst I work (hence the change in profile pic it’s not normally that) but still no interest. So even as a couple or seperate we’re getting nothing :/ "
Why don't you want to meet other couples? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have found it harder than we thought to find a female to join us but we are happy just to go with the flow and be patient, we’ve found a lot of fakes too but we can identify them a bit easier now and we have some filters on and this has cut down on the messages we were getting from ‘females’.
A great piece of advice we were given was to get ourselves down to a club, which we’ve done now. It was a daytime event as our first time and while we didn’t play we still met lots of people and had a nice time.
I think some people who sign up think you will get a ‘fuck a second’ but it reallt doesn’t work that way, time is your friend.
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