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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Asking how someone is. ?
Always wonder why people get upset over this lol
The answe will always be ‘fine’. What’s next?"
Aww that's good. You got much planned for today? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are we talking as opening message to someone? It's maybe a tad overused.
How about a little description of who you are and what you want with added humour
If you meant out in the street, as long as it was said in a polite and uncreepy way, I'd happily respond with a 'very good thanks' 
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I wouldn't worry about it OP. The person who takes you up on your advances won't care how you start the conversation as long as its polite.
The ones who get upset are the ones who probably wouldn't meet you anyway. |
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"Asking how someone is. ?
Always wonder why people get upset over this lol
The answe will always be ‘fine’. What’s next?"
An ice breaker maybe. I ask it. If I get ignored on a straight forward hello then I know the person is not interested. Nice and easy and polite |
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Nothing wrong with it, you have to start somewhere.
If the third and fourth messages continue to be one liners it becomes clear the conversations going nowhere but it is possible to build on a short introduction. |
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Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think about it. If you are messaging someone on this site you are supposed to be selling yourself.
Can you imagine a more boring intro and turn off than "hows u"?
Then read that, or variations thereupon, tens of times a day and tell me how enthused you are about answering it.
We are fine, too, thanks. |
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"Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss"
The clue there is ‘dealing with customers’ not looking for sexual encounters, good ones. |
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"Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss
The clue there is ‘dealing with customers’ not looking for sexual encounters, good ones."
On the tube, in way into office in building site wherever , people will always say hello how are you. You will be attracted to the profile or u wont be. A freindly greeting has absoloutely nothing to do with it . Just another little power trip fot online heros |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss
The clue there is ‘dealing with customers’ not looking for sexual encounters, good ones.
On the tube, in way into office in building site wherever , people will always say hello how are you. You will be attracted to the profile or u wont be. A freindly greeting has absoloutely nothing to do with it . Just another little power trip fot online heros"
Not exactly sure what you think is the power trip? The fact that people don't reply to a "Hi how are you?" type message?
On the face of it and in an every day situation, ignoring someone who you pass in the street and says "Hi how are you?" could be seen as rude (and I say could because there are situations where ignoring it even then wouldn't be rude).
Now take that and put it into a situation where you arrive home from work and open Fab to find 20-30 (or a lot more) "Hi, how are you?" or similar type messages - and are faced with the choice of replying to each with something equally banal (and awaiting the next exciting reply ad infinitum) or picking the ones that interest you to reply to and ignoring the rest - I know what I'd do, and it certainly wouldn't be wasting my time replying to each "Hi, how are you?" with a "Fine thanks, you?" 
Rather than bemoaning how others choose to manage their time and profiles on here, perhaps it would be better to focus on making the best possible use of our own time - that's exactly what I do and have absolutely no complaints.
If someone chooses not to respond to me, I accept it and move on, and don't for a second think that person is on a power trip |
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It's because it is completely unimaginative, and is ideal as a copy and paste message.
Also it throws the onus back onto the receiver, and gives the impression that the conversation will be dozens of one liners. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't worry about it OP. The person who takes you up on your advances won't care how you start the conversation as long as its polite.
The ones who get upset are the ones who probably wouldn't meet you anyway."
This exactly, it can get boring in your box all the time, but let’s be far in a club would you expect someone to approach you and not say hi first and just crack on telling you what they are into etc? |
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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago
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"Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss
The clue there is ‘dealing with customers’ not looking for sexual encounters, good ones.
On the tube, in way into office in building site wherever , people will always say hello how are you. You will be attracted to the profile or u wont be. A freindly greeting has absoloutely nothing to do with it . Just another little power trip fot online heros"
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Most working people , dealing with customers and colleagues will be asked hi how are you ? 50 times a day also . But because there not hid behind a keyboard they just say, fine thanks , you ?
Sad people who power trip on the internet. Really is there loss
The clue there is ‘dealing with customers’ not looking for sexual encounters, good ones.
On the tube, in way into office in building site wherever , people will always say hello how are you. You will be attracted to the profile or u wont be. A freindly greeting has absoloutely nothing to do with it . Just another little power trip fot online heros
Not exactly sure what you think is the power trip? The fact that people don't reply to a "Hi how are you?" type message?
On the face of it and in an every day situation, ignoring someone who you pass in the street and says "Hi how are you?" could be seen as rude (and I say could because there are situations where ignoring it even then wouldn't be rude).
Now take that and put it into a situation where you arrive home from work and open Fab to find 20-30 (or a lot more) "Hi, how are you?" or similar type messages - and are faced with the choice of replying to each with something equally banal (and awaiting the next exciting reply ad infinitum) or picking the ones that interest you to reply to and ignoring the rest - I know what I'd do, and it certainly wouldn't be wasting my time replying to each "Hi, how are you?" with a "Fine thanks, you?"
Rather than bemoaning how others choose to manage their time and profiles on here, perhaps it would be better to focus on making the best possible use of our own time - that's exactly what I do and have absolutely no complaints.
If someone chooses not to respond to me, I accept it and move on, and don't for a second think that person is on a power trip "
Plus, I have found, replying back and forth hi, how are you, what are you up to and other chatty things then leads some people to think you’re interested and so when you do let them know you’re not, you get abuse for wasting their time. |
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By *alpolyCouple
over a year ago
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If people just say Hi or Hi how are you, we tend just to ignore them, those that have read are profile and show some sort of empathy, we will respond to, but only if we like their profile
You are your profile
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Asking how someone is. ?
Always wonder why people get upset over this lol
The answe will always be ‘fine’. What’s next?
Aww that's good. You got much planned for today?
Not much. You?"
Just doing rock, paper scissors with Mr to see who's going to scrape the car lol
Did you try the chocolate brownie recipe? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs"
Exactly, people are always saying they'd like a no thanks reply, but how can you reply "no thanks" if they've just asked how you are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Exactly, people are always saying they'd like a no thanks reply, but how can you reply "no thanks" if they've just asked how you are "
Just say I'm great thanks. Your not for me tho. Have a lovely day x |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Exactly, people are always saying they'd like a no thanks reply, but how can you reply "no thanks" if they've just asked how you are
Just say I'm great thanks. Your not for me tho. Have a lovely day x"
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Exactly, people are always saying they'd like a no thanks reply, but how can you reply "no thanks" if they've just asked how you are
Just say I'm great thanks. Your not for me tho. Have a lovely day x
I'm copy/pasting this right now "
Then you get ‘I was only asking you how you were, I don’t want to meet you, fat bitch’ |
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"I wouldn't worry about it OP. The person who takes you up on your advances won't care how you start the conversation as long as its polite.
The ones who get upset are the ones who probably wouldn't meet you anyway.
This exactly, it can get boring in your box all the time, but let’s be far in a club would you expect someone to approach you and not say hi first and just crack on telling you what they are into etc?"
Yep. Anything other than "Hi, hows it going?" Would be considered odd in the real world yet some people expect an indepth and thoughtful first message on here. But i do understand if you're getting 50,70,100 "hi hows it going?" Messages a day it could get monotonous. |
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By *icearmsMan
over a year ago
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I do feel breaking the ice is the hardest thing to do....
If you were in a bar and someone started a conversation with hi how are you? Would it piss you off?
In my eyes it's gotta be better than fancy a fuck.... and shoes an element of politeness about the person.. .
For the record I would not only put hi how are you? I would add more.. but it's a fine way to start.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely hi how are you is more something you say to a friend and not at point of 1st point of contact. I get how receiving numerous amounts of these a day would get annoying.
Referencing something from the profile or whatever it was that compelled you to message might be a better way to go about things.. |
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs"
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers???? "
No you haven’t missed the point of this site, plenty of people are actively searching for what you describe. However, the reason we have profile on Fab is more to keep in touch with fellow swingers, find out about parties etc. Occasionally we will meet privately, but that would never happen as a result of random people trying to make conversation.
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers???? "
oh dear you opened up the "this is not dial a ride" can of worms hahaha but to be fair it is a sex site I for one am not on here to meet friends that's what reality is for. |
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????
No you haven’t missed the point of this site, plenty of people are actively searching for what you describe. However, the reason we have profile on Fab is more to keep in touch with fellow swingers, find out about parties etc. Occasionally we will meet privately, but that would never happen as a result of random people trying to make conversation.
Mrs"
So a bit like a coterie then, or are you saying that no-one on fab meets anywhere except at clubs or parties? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????
oh dear you opened up the "this is not dial a ride" can of worms hahaha but to be fair it is a sex site I for one am not on here to meet friends that's what reality is for."
Yup some people use it as a sex site and wouldn’t dream of becoming friends with the people they fuck, and others use it as a swinging site and hence embrace combining friendship with sex.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????
No you haven’t missed the point of this site, plenty of people are actively searching for what you describe. However, the reason we have profile on Fab is more to keep in touch with fellow swingers, find out about parties etc. Occasionally we will meet privately, but that would never happen as a result of random people trying to make conversation.
Mrs
So a bit like a coterie then, or are you saying that no-one on fab meets anywhere except at clubs or parties?"
No I only explained how we use this site. But we are honest about it on our profile. |
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????
No you haven’t missed the point of this site, plenty of people are actively searching for what you describe. However, the reason we have profile on Fab is more to keep in touch with fellow swingers, find out about parties etc. Occasionally we will meet privately, but that would never happen as a result of random people trying to make conversation.
Mrs
So a bit like a coterie then, or are you saying that no-one on fab meets anywhere except at clubs or parties?
No I only explained how we use this site. But we are honest about it on our profile. "
But this was a random message (post) and you're conversing with me!
What is the difference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t really like it when people say ‘how are you’. I’m then left in a dilemma as to whether to ignore (and be branded as rude for ignoring) or to reply with ‘fine thanks’ and be drawn into a conversation we didn’t want to have. Understand that it’s a conversation opener, but we just don’t enjoy chatting with strangers on the internet.
Mrs
Have I missed the point of this site?
I thought it was about contacting people you don't yet know (I'll call them strangers for now) for the purpose of arranging meetings for the possibility of indulging in sexual activity with these strangers.
But you don't want to talk to strangers????
No you haven’t missed the point of this site, plenty of people are actively searching for what you describe. However, the reason we have profile on Fab is more to keep in touch with fellow swingers, find out about parties etc. Occasionally we will meet privately, but that would never happen as a result of random people trying to make conversation.
Mrs
So a bit like a coterie then, or are you saying that no-one on fab meets anywhere except at clubs or parties?
No I only explained how we use this site. But we are honest about it on our profile.
But this was a random message (post) and you're conversing with me!
What is the difference?"
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People should always endeavour to make an initial message interesting. There isn't any harm in asking 'how are you' as part of a message but also make it a bit more than just that... throw in a compliment or two... discuss the persons profile to demonstrate you've engaged... tell them you've fabbed some of their photographs... ask them if they'd like to have a chat and a flirt to see whether they'd be interested in having any fun should there be chemistry...
A lot of people (mostly men I have to say) really don't bother putting in any effort and then complain as to why they're not getting any meet ups. It's actually annoying me now the number of people posting in forums complaining about not getting meets and I've only been on the forum actively using and reading for like 3 days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People should always endeavour to make an initial message interesting. There isn't any harm in asking 'how are you' as part of a message but also make it a bit more than just that... throw in a compliment or two... discuss the persons profile to demonstrate you've engaged... tell them you've fabbed some of their photographs... ask them if they'd like to have a chat and a flirt to see whether they'd be interested in having any fun should there be chemistry...
A lot of people (mostly men I have to say) really don't bother putting in any effort and then complain as to why they're not getting any meet ups. It's actually annoying me now the number of people posting in forums complaining about not getting meets and I've only been on the forum actively using and reading for like 3 days. "
And then you get the single guys who send 18k words describing what, how where and when they are going to do to your wife whilst you sit on the sofa having a cuppa.
The main ones that then complain they put loads of effort in just to be ignored.
Like somebody said earlier for us (clearly not everybody) Hi I saw your profile, check mine out if you like me get back to me is enough for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because of the amount of times you get asked it each day
How are you
What you up to
Hi sexy (even though its a couples account)
Here's my pic. (That's it a pic with no words)
Suck my cock (again even though its a couples account)
Fancy going on cam
Heres my number phone me darling (again even though it's a couples account )
Do you want to see my cock on cam
I'm just passing Boothstown now I can come and fuck you now
We get a lot of messages that just presume Diane is online even though its a couples account usually Hi sexy fancy a chat ..I usually reply back sorry fella I am straight and not into guys
In most cases its just a case of them not reading a profile and seeing what they are and what they are looking for and how they work |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Asking how someone is. ?
Always wonder why people get upset over this lol"
Unfortunately as a couple or single lady on here we probably get asked it numerous times a day ..you as a single guy probably rarely get asked it..it just become repetitive and boring and time consuming in replying to all the how r you's |
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"People should always endeavour to make an initial message interesting. There isn't any harm in asking 'how are you' as part of a message but also make it a bit more than just that... throw in a compliment or two... discuss the persons profile to demonstrate you've engaged... tell them you've fabbed some of their photographs... ask them if they'd like to have a chat and a flirt to see whether they'd be interested in having any fun should there be chemistry...
A lot of people (mostly men I have to say) really don't bother putting in any effort and then complain as to why they're not getting any meet ups. It's actually annoying me now the number of people posting in forums complaining about not getting meets and I've only been on the forum actively using and reading for like 3 days. "
And when a person "endeavours" to post a well thought out interesting message it gets bulk deleted along with all the others. Hence be concise send a quick message. The recipient will check your profile "or not" and will respond if they like what they see not if they think you are a wordsmith. |
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"People should always endeavour to make an initial message interesting. There isn't any harm in asking 'how are you' as part of a message but also make it a bit more than just that... throw in a compliment or two... discuss the persons profile to demonstrate you've engaged... tell them you've fabbed some of their photographs... ask them if they'd like to have a chat and a flirt to see whether they'd be interested in having any fun should there be chemistry...
A lot of people (mostly men I have to say) really don't bother putting in any effort and then complain as to why they're not getting any meet ups. It's actually annoying me now the number of people posting in forums complaining about not getting meets and I've only been on the forum actively using and reading for like 3 days.
And when a person "endeavours" to post a well thought out interesting message it gets bulk deleted along with all the others. Hence be concise send a quick message. The recipient will check your profile "or not" and will respond if they like what they see not if they think you are a wordsmith. "
And as the saying goes....
The truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
A quick look at the pic and, if you're lucky, a fleeting glimpse of the profile; your fate is then sealed. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"People should always endeavour to make an initial message interesting. There isn't any harm in asking 'how are you' as part of a message but also make it a bit more than just that... throw in a compliment or two... discuss the persons profile to demonstrate you've engaged... tell them you've fabbed some of their photographs... ask them if they'd like to have a chat and a flirt to see whether they'd be interested in having any fun should there be chemistry...
A lot of people (mostly men I have to say) really don't bother putting in any effort and then complain as to why they're not getting any meet ups. It's actually annoying me now the number of people posting in forums complaining about not getting meets and I've only been on the forum actively using and reading for like 3 days.
And when a person "endeavours" to post a well thought out interesting message it gets bulk deleted along with all the others. Hence be concise send a quick message. The recipient will check your profile "or not" and will respond if they like what they see not if they think you are a wordsmith. "
The key is getting the balance right between well thought out and interesting and short and sweet - a one liner is unlikely to impress or interest in a lot of cases, especially if it amounts to "Hi how are you?" or similar - on the other extreme War & Peace is potentially doomed too (especially if it's uninteresting).
For a first message a brief intro, detailing why you're messaging and what attracted you to that person's profile, and a little about yourself is all that is needed - not too much, not too little.
I think I've sent 5 totally unsolicited messages (i.e. not to people I already know or off the back of a forum post) in my time on here - all but one have received a response. |
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I cover hi how are you quite well i think i simply reply,
"Shite but thanks for asking"
"How are you finding fab" on the other hand always leaves me a bit taxed.
Should i not be finding it?
Were we banned?
Did you all move in the middle of the night without telling us and every subsequent message of "how are you finding fab" only leads me to further believe there is a conspiracy afoot where everybody waits for us to go to sleep and sneaks off again in the middle of the night like some mass exodus of kinky refugees.. |
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"I cover hi how are you quite well i think i simply reply,
"Shite but thanks for asking"
"How are you finding fab" on the other hand always leaves me a bit taxed.
Should i not be finding it?
Were we banned?
Did you all move in the middle of the night without telling us and every subsequent message of "how are you finding fab" only leads me to further believe there is a conspiracy afoot where everybody waits for us to go to sleep and sneaks off again in the middle of the night like some mass exodus of kinky refugees.. "
Aah yes the secret midnight orgy to which some of us weren't invited. Evidence at last! |
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I normally don't reply to one liner messages like that.
But today, I did
I replied to several.... I'm having a shit morning, the world can go do one. How are you?
Funny..... They didn't reply back |
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"I normally don't reply to one liner messages like that.
But today, I did
I replied to several.... I'm having a shit morning, the world can go do one. How are you?
Funny..... They didn't reply back "
Perhaps they're all in shock! |
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"I normally don't reply to one liner messages like that.
But today, I did
I replied to several.... I'm having a shit morning, the world can go do one. How are you?
Funny..... They didn't reply back
Perhaps they're all in shock! "
3 were read & deleted... Omg! I know how men feel now!
1 still unread.
The other has since replied, reckons he has the perfect way to cheer me up - offered to rip my pants off & shag me within an inch of my life.
Think I'll stay grumpy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I normally don't reply to one liner messages like that.
But today, I did
I replied to several.... I'm having a shit morning, the world can go do one. How are you?
Funny..... They didn't reply back
Perhaps they're all in shock!
3 were read & deleted... Omg! I know how men feel now!
1 still unread.
The other has since replied, reckons he has the perfect way to cheer me up - offered to rip my pants off & shag me within an inch of my life.
Think I'll stay grumpy! "
You got my txt then |
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And when a person "endeavours" to post a well thought out interesting message it gets bulk deleted along with all the others. Hence be concise send a quick message. The recipient will check your profile "or not" and will respond if they like what they see not if they think you are a wordsmith. "
I didn't say anything about length of message or anything like that.. I often find it rather easy to keep it short, to the point and interesting. |
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"I normally don't reply to one liner messages like that.
But today, I did
I replied to several.... I'm having a shit morning, the world can go do one. How are you?
Funny..... They didn't reply back
Perhaps they're all in shock!
3 were read & deleted... Omg! I know how men feel now! ....
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Want to know how men really feel? Give me a call. You can feel me anytime! |
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Firstly, it’s just a one liner, shows little interest
Secondly, I get asked so many times a day it’s really boring to answer, so all you’ll get is ‘fine thanks’ if I reply at all.
Thirdly. If I’m feeling ill or a bit low I have to lie because you won’t want to know about my troubles.
All of the above mean I don’t get a good first impression of you.
It doesn’t take much longer to say hi and point out why we’d get on. Assuming you’ve read my profile first of course!!
With this approach I get a much better first impression |
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By *andK78Couple
over a year ago
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Instead of asking the question maybe go with a statement like...
Hope your having a wonderful day,,, followed by your message...
Little more thoughtful or the person you are messaging and not just a ping pong question. |
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