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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x"
There are probably 100 times more men than women on here.
If you want hassle free sex, then you are in the wrong place. It's not a sex site. You need to put some effort in and have the right attitude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
Why shouldn't you put effort in?  |
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site
Why shouldn't you put effort in? "
Free prostitures, that’s all we are, bitches should be grateful.  |
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x"
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
Because if you don't put effort in then you won't get anywhere. As you already said, men greatly outnumber women and rightly or wrongly women have the upper hand around here. Put yourself in our shoes. There's two guys vying for your attention. One is making effort to chat and get to know you, the other sees it as a hassle and doesn't see why he should make effort. Who would you choose? |
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site
Why shouldn't you put effort in?
Free prostitures, that’s all we are, bitches should be grateful. "
Hey, Bitch is always grateful 
But yes, an escort agency is hassle free sex...here on fab there are complex human beings (and we think that’s wonderful). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site
Why shouldn't you put effort in?
Free prostitures, that’s all we are, bitches should be grateful.
Hey, Bitch is always grateful
Your blowing it out of proportion I just find it hard going, sorry didn’t want to offend anyone
But yes, an escort agency is hassle free sex...here on fab there are complex human beings (and we think that’s wonderful)."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do."
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No I’m not
Is it still Panto season!
The Ugly Sisters will be along shortly
They have just left lol
And left Prince Charming alone?"
It all depends on what you find charming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do.
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x"
I haven't seen evidence of that. Most people on here are relaxed and confident with what they want and expect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do.
I’ve done ok, it’s just not what I expected. I think people are looking for attention, but who am I to judge anyone x
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x
I haven't seen evidence of that. Most people on here are relaxed and confident with what they want and expect. "
I’ve just found it different from what I expected, everyone has insecurities I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do.
I’ve done ok, it’s just not what I expected. I think people are looking for attention, but who am I to judge anyone x
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x
I haven't seen evidence of that. Most people on here are relaxed and confident with what they want and expect.
I’ve just found it different from what I expected, everyone has insecurities I suppose"
What did you expect? How is it different? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do.
I’ve done ok, it’s just not what I expected. I think people are looking for attention, but who am I to judge anyone x
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x
I haven't seen evidence of that. Most people on here are relaxed and confident with what they want and expect.
I’ve just found it different from what I expected, everyone has insecurities I suppose
What did you expect? How is it different? "
I thought that’s what I was explaining, I joined this because I don’t want a relationship. If I meet someone in real life they always want more. On here people are insecure so love the attention. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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OP.
Whatever reasons you joined here, this is not an Instant Shag site, as some newbie guys seèm to think!
You are in competition with dozens, if not hundreds of other guys all seeking the same.
OK, you have received a Veri within weeks of arriving; very good as it can take guys many months to achieve that level.
But what you have to do is SELL yourself to get somewhere. You have to stand out, to have that "edge" over the others!
It takes Patience, even more Patience and Perseverance too, to succeed.
If you think otherwise then you are deluded and should you be on here at all?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP.
Whatever reasons you joined here, this is not an Instant Shag site, as some newbie guys seèm to think!
You are in competition with dozens, if not hundreds of other guys all seeking the same.
OK, you have received a Veri within weeks of arriving; very good as it can take guys many months to achieve that level.
But what you have to do is SELL yourself to get somewhere. You have to stand out, to have that "edge" over the others!
It takes Patience, even more Patience and Perseverance too, to succeed.
If you think otherwise then you are deluded and should you be on here at all?
Lol I’m not deluded or in competition with anyone, I have always found getting woman easy. I don’t say that in a condescending manner. I came on here to take the feelings away because it’s difficult not hurting people
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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OP. To say that people on here have Insecurities is rather generalist. We all don't. It's a Lifestyle which we enjoy.
At least you have admitted you got the site wrong.
But whatever you say or think, Competition between guys is a daily fact of life on here and elsewhere!
The Ladies have the upper hand! They can be choosy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP. To say that people on here have Insecurities is rather generalist. We all don't. It's a Lifestyle which we enjoy.
At least you have admitted you got the site wrong.
But whatever you say or think, Competition between guys is a daily fact of life on here and elsewhere!
The Ladies have the upper hand! They can be choosy."
But your trying to tell me how I should be to be patient and stuff, I came on her because woman are annoying me. Your judging me I’m sorry if I’ve judged people on here. That wasn’t my intention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry but I don't really understand the point of this thread. I think you have been watching too much porn. Fab members are actual people, with feelings and emotions. You say you don't want a relationship and don't want hassle but you need to remember females (and men) are not just lumps of zoombified meat for you to pleasure yourself on.
I think you need a prostitute, they will suck your cock, spit you out and move on to the next man.
Your attitude is all wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP. To say that people on here have Insecurities is rather generalist. We all don't. It's a Lifestyle which we enjoy.
At least you have admitted you got the site wrong.
But whatever you say or think, Competition between guys is a daily fact of life on here and elsewhere!
The Ladies have the upper hand! They can be choosy.
But your trying to tell me how I should be to be patient and stuff, I came on her because woman are annoying me. Your judging me I’m sorry if I’ve judged people on here. That wasn’t my intention "
How are women annoying you? Are they not dropping their knickers fast enough? X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately op women on here have feelings and emotions.
If you are looking purely for sex with no effort, no feelings etc then as previously mentioned you should be paying a prostitute! Women on here are not un paid prostitutes.
I am also not looking for a relationship but that doesn't mean I don't look upon guys on here as living, breathing, feeling human beings. I don't disrespect them either just because I don't wish to spend the rest of my life with them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did I say anything disrespectful?"
No you didnt. You did get the respose I expected tho lol Keep having a laid back appproach. It will serve you well. Good luck OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did I say anything disrespectful?
No you didnt. You did get the respose I expected tho lol Keep having a laid back appproach. It will serve you well. Good luck OP x"
Thanks I will x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you weren’t coming across very well at the start of the thread.
I understand what you’re trying to say but st the end of the day like others have said if you’re not prepared to make effort then it’s unlikeky FAB will work for you. End of. You can disagree all you like but don’t forget we’ve been on here a lot longer than you and know what works and what doesn’t. You’ve only got to scroll down the lists and see half a dozen profile advice threads started from men struggling to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did I say anything disrespectful?"
How about saying people are only on here for attention? Or women are annoying me?
Personally I think that is disrespectful! Just saying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just pay for sex. You get it when you want and no hassle. I do enjoy being here and looking at the pics and reading the forums, is fun. I don't expect to meet anyone. Thankfully im not desperate. |
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
OP why shouldn’t you put effort in to attract a lady?
I think you are going about this all wrong! A lady is not going to be attracted to a man with this attitude. Effort needs to be put into anything we do in life whether it be working or attracting a mate.
Your attitude is all wrong.
Thus is not going to go well for you especially as ladies on here read the forums.
Change your attitude, make an effort and see what results you get, albeit I think you have done no good for yourself by posting this thread.
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So the issues isn't that you can't get meets its that the meets aren't as NSA as you would have thought they would be? Women are looking for more here and you are not?
Yeah, I think that's a frustration a lot of men and women have to be honest but I think again, that's because of the misunderstanding of what the site it.
Swinging is a lifestyle and within that lifestyle it's perfectly reasonable for some people to want to find partners and enjoy the thrill of sharing each other. Those who view fabs as purely a NSA sex sire will always struggle to understand the lifestyle element of it.
Not everyone is looking for a relationship. Make it clear from the outset that it's not something you are looking for, don't string people along and tell them what they want to hear just to get in their knickers (not saying you do but it's a tactic some use) and just enjoy yourself. |
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Maybe try a different site. It's easy for women to get sex here without putting any effort in whatsoever,unfortunately for men it's not the same as there's so many of you.
Maybe looking at your profile a little more will help,you have nice photos so they're ok,but the written stuff could do with bulking out then when someone looks at your profile they will be more inclined to message you.
Good luck. |
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
You might not have sud it explicitly but your attitude implied it.
This site is a community for people who enjoy alternative lifestyles, not a site for getting a quick shag. There are other people looking for insta-shag, but most of them are men so your pool of women is even smaller and they have even more choice of people who just want to send a message saying “want to meet up now.” |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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You’ve just come out of a relationshiip and you think being on here will meet your needs for sex?
I’ve been single for 12 years, don’t want a relationship but I do still enjoy having a conversation with people and then have a social to see if there’s a connection. You’d be as well going to s club and having one night stands if that’s what you’re after.
Personally I quite enjoy seeing someone more than once and having great sex without the love and romance.
Making an effort means chatting on here. The women aren’t going to fall at your feet if that’s what you expected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe try a different site. It's easy for women to get sex here without putting any effort in whatsoever,unfortunately for men it's not the same as there's so many of you.
Maybe looking at your profile a little more will help,you have nice photos so they're ok,but the written stuff could do with bulking out then when someone looks at your profile they will be more inclined to message you.
Good luck."
I agree. I get more dates from a dating site than i ever could on here. Lets face it at 51 i cannot compete with younger guys but on a good dating site i can be more open in who i am and who im looking for. If like me you are looking to settle down at some point then try one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did I say anything disrespectful?
No you didnt. You did get the respose I expected tho lol Keep having a laid back appproach. It will serve you well. Good luck OP x"
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OP you actually seem ok, not disrespectful at all. I agree with your comments. Hope you find someone.  |
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You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...
Hmmm, yup, a lady called 'lone wolf' with no pics and only one veri four months old.. ..
Try Instashag dot com OP!  "
OP didn’t ask for feedback on his profile or his verifications. Naughty!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
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Go gay .. It's the way forward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x"
Sorry dude, if you want hassle free sex you came to the wrong species. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Defo not going gay, I met a girl on here after a few days sorry if I annoyed people had a few drinks and posted a thread. "
As you've probably noticed some people look at your thread just to find something that annoys them. P.s. It is a sex site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Defo not going gay, I met a girl on here after a few days sorry if I annoyed people had a few drinks and posted a thread.
As you've probably noticed some people look at your thread just to find something that annoys them. P.s. It is a sex site "
I know very highly strung people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Defo not going gay, I met a girl on here after a few days sorry if I annoyed people had a few drinks and posted a thread.
As you've probably noticed some people look at your thread just to find something that annoys them. P.s. It is a sex site
I know very highly strung people "
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"Defo not going gay, I met a girl on here after a few days sorry if I annoyed people had a few drinks and posted a thread.
As you've probably noticed some people look at your thread just to find something that annoys them. P.s. It is a sex site
I know very highly strung people "
‘Highly strung people’? Not really OP. More like people with feelings who react to a thread by a guy who thinks this is a sex site and thinks women should just fall at his feet.
Come into the real world OP and you may just get positive results. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha |
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha"
Don't worry about it,it is a sex site to a lot of people women and couple's included. Some swingers just meet socially anyway and never remove one item of clothing,so they're not really swingers anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
Don't worry about it,it is a sex site to a lot of people women and couple's included. Some swingers just meet socially anyway and never remove one item of clothing,so they're not really swingers anyway "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
Don't worry about it,it is a sex site to a lot of people women and couple's included. Some swingers just meet socially anyway and never remove one item of clothing,so they're not really swingers anyway "
I’m not worried just not really sure what I said wrong. It’s actually funny |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha"
It IS a sex site but that doesn't mean it's one where sex is on tap or all the usual conventions of being respectful or considerate go out of the window - nor does it mean that it's easy to get meets just because you're a member. Which is the trap that a lot of single men fall into.
Set your expectations correctly and back those up with the right attitude and a decent profile and there's still no guarantees of anything but you'll stand a better chance of finding the site fulfilling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha"
You said " why should I make an effort?"
Were you really expecting a favourable response to that?
You also said the site isnt what you expected
So, what DID you expect
Lots of ladies sitting around waiting to service you at your whim? Without you having to do a thing?
Because, that sure is how you've come across |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
It IS a sex site but that doesn't mean it's one where sex is on tap or all the usual conventions of being respectful or considerate go out of the window - nor does it mean that it's easy to get meets just because you're a member. Which is the trap that a lot of single men fall into.
Set your expectations correctly and back those up with the right attitude and a decent profile and there's still no guarantees of anything but you'll stand a better chance of finding the site fulfilling "
I don’t think I said that, nothing is guaranteed in life. Confidence goes a long way though without that you have no chance. All I said was I’m not in a competition, that’s just a futile way to think |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
It IS a sex site but that doesn't mean it's one where sex is on tap or all the usual conventions of being respectful or considerate go out of the window - nor does it mean that it's easy to get meets just because you're a member. Which is the trap that a lot of single men fall into.
Set your expectations correctly and back those up with the right attitude and a decent profile and there's still no guarantees of anything but you'll stand a better chance of finding the site fulfilling "
Good answer. And an entertaining thread |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
You said " why should I make an effort?"
Were you really expecting a favourable response to that?
You also said the site isnt what you expected
So, what DID you expect
Lots of ladies sitting around waiting to service you at your whim? Without you having to do a thing?
Because, that sure is how you've come across"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
You said " why should I make an effort?"
Were you really expecting a favourable response to that?
You also said the site isnt what you expected
So, what DID you expect
Lots of ladies sitting around waiting to service you at your whim? Without you having to do a thing?
Because, that sure is how you've come across"
I’m not competing with anyone is what I meant. I’ll say again that I didn’t mean to be disrespectful. |
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Op there are some women who want genuine no strings sex and will happily admit it. Unfortunately there is also an attitude prevalent that women who enjoy sex that way are wrong and bad. This leads to them at least wanting the pretence that there is more to their encounters than just physical pleasure.
I wonder if clubs might be the way forward for you. There's the opportunity to chat to women and possibly have sex with them but no onus on either of you to interact outside of that. |
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Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol "
If I wanted to be in a couple then I personally wouldn’t be on here. It’s good to hear everyone’s opinions as long as it’s respectful |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
You said " why should I make an effort?"
Were you really expecting a favourable response to that?
You also said the site isnt what you expected
So, what DID you expect
Lots of ladies sitting around waiting to service you at your whim? Without you having to do a thing?
Because, that sure is how you've come across
I’m not competing with anyone is what I meant. I’ll say again that I didn’t mean to be disrespectful. "
We are ALL competing, my friend. That is life
If you've come on here thinking all you have to do is sit back and do nowt, then you've probably misunderstood the site
Ever so slightly. |
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"Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol
If I wanted to be in a couple then I personally wouldn’t be on here. It’s good to hear everyone’s opinions as long as it’s respectful "
Not really the point i was getting at that lol.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol
I’m getting drained now haha, I know what you meant
If I wanted to be in a couple then I personally wouldn’t be on here. It’s good to hear everyone’s opinions as long as it’s respectful
Not really the point i was getting at that lol.
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"Unfortunately there is also an attitude prevalent that women who enjoy sex that way are wrong and bad. This leads to them at least wanting the pretence that there is more to their encounters "
I like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but I don't really understand the point of this thread. I think you have been watching too much porn. Fab members are actual people, with feelings and emotions. You say you don't want a relationship and don't want hassle but you need to remember females (and men) are not just lumps of zoombified meat for you to pleasure yourself on.
I think you need a prostitute, they will suck your cock, spit you out and move on to the next man.
Your attitude is all wrong."
This. Not hassle,get what you want, walk away... simple.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I cant give you profile advice as you havent asked,however it needs some work/effort.
Women tend to look at a profile before deciding if they reply
Miss"
Lol I don’t want profile advice as I’m not on here to Impress. This site was a bit of light relief for me and it’s more intense than real life. Everyone is on here for their own reasons I suppose. |
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"I cant give you profile advice as you havent asked,however it needs some work/effort.
Women tend to look at a profile before deciding if they reply
Miss
Lol I don’t want profile advice as I’m not on here to Impress. This site was a bit of light relief for me and it’s more intense than real life. Everyone is on here for their own reasons I suppose. "
Well i think you have answered yourself why its a hassle |
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"Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol
If I wanted to be in a couple then I personally wouldn’t be on here. It’s good to hear everyone’s opinions as long as it’s respectful "
OP do you think how you come across on here is respectful to women? It is not! |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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Do a bit of research on swingers and their behaviours OP, a little bit of swinging history for good measure too. Not only will you learn some new terminology you'll understand where a lot of people on this thread are coming from thus understanding this place better too. I'd put money on it that once done you'll have a bit more success by tailoring yourself to how fab works. |
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site "
Most things need some effort in life.
If you have no-effort queues of partners some other way, it's potentially wiser for you to pursue that option? Fab doesn't require anyone to exclusively source sex from it, with stiff penalties if you stray into the world. Yet!
We're fortunate in 2018 to have massive opportunities to explore in ways that weren't available some time ago. Get creative, invest - probably effort - and find your niche and style that is a fit for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It appears that you came here for casual sex without strings.
It seems that you hope you can find a woman in the same situation, you find her, message her, you both want the same thing, you fuck, you go your seperate ways.
You state you are not in competition with anyone else. Trying to be noticed above the clamour of cock pics and fancy a fuck messages requires a modicum of effort. If you sit back and hope the ladies will find you, you will have a long wait.
The other posters here have made out a multitude of reasonable comments. You can take it or leave it.
Ask yourself why should a lady choose you over someone else?
Are you happy for women to view you as a pole of convenience to ride whenever the urge hits, or do you want a woman to take an interest in you beyond a fuck.
Lots of guys are supremely successful, but they will have had to do something to ensure their success.
Think about what you want.
Putting effort in elsewhere is often (not always but often) an indication of the amount of effort you will put into a meet. Not everyone likes a lazy fuck. |
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha"
It's all things to all different people, used to get arsey when people said 'it's a sex site' but it can be that and other things to each of us either as singles or couples..
Someone saying it's a sex site does not mean they lack respect for others, some of whom which this aspect (like many others) is seen as some sort of hallowed and exalted pursuit where one has to show deference and such like..
We were all newbies once and no matter what we call this and enjoy that and as long as we treat others with respect for how or what they do then surely that's OK?.. |
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
It's all things to all different people, used to get arsey when people said 'it's a sex site' but it can be that and other things to each of us either as singles or couples..
Someone saying it's a sex site does not mean they lack respect for others, some of whom which this aspect (like many others) is seen as some sort of hallowed and exalted pursuit where one has to show deference and such like..
We were all newbies once and no matter what we call this and enjoy that and as long as we treat others with respect for how or what they do then surely that's OK?.. "
Yes. So much insistence on the correct way of swinging. There's only one correct way and that's what's correct for the individual. |
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over a year ago
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"I came on here for relaxed no hassle sex, but it’s pretty obvious there are about 10 times more men than woman. That then makes getting sex hassle on here, and in real life I get hassle. Caught in a quandary x
You joined 5 weeks ago and already have a veri good veri...pics are nice and clear too. You’re already doing better than most single men ever do.
I’m not trying to out do anyone, pulling woman isn’t an issue. I obviously thought this was no pressure everyone comfortable in their own skin but it’s the opposite x"
Where on this site does it say that this site is a hassle free place, to get laid easily? You sound like you are looking for a rub, without having to do anything to make an effort. There are sites where you can find that. You may be a little poorer, but it's certainly less hassle. Please don't misconstrue high sex drive or being a little more liberal minded for 'will shag anything'.... you are definitely on the wrong site, if that is what you expected. |
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"Sorry I did think this was a sex site. I only said that after getting condescending comments. It’s a bit like a kid starting a new school and a wee clique bullying him. I apologise if I offended anyone it wasn’t my intention haha
It's all things to all different people, used to get arsey when people said 'it's a sex site' but it can be that and other things to each of us either as singles or couples..
Someone saying it's a sex site does not mean they lack respect for others, some of whom which this aspect (like many others) is seen as some sort of hallowed and exalted pursuit where one has to show deference and such like..
We were all newbies once and no matter what we call this and enjoy that and as long as we treat others with respect for how or what they do then surely that's OK?..
Yes. So much insistence on the correct way of swinging. There's only one correct way and that's what's correct for the individual."
At times it reminds me of seeing some drivers attitudes to learners or those on a P plate, respect that occasionally some on here do go out of their way to be muppets and treat women on the site as 'easy meat' and then get rightly slapped down verbally..
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"Op there are some women who want genuine no strings sex and will happily admit it. Unfortunately there is also an attitude prevalent that women who enjoy sex that way are wrong and bad. This leads to them at least wanting the pretence that there is more to their encounters than just physical pleasure.
I wonder if clubs might be the way forward for you. There's the opportunity to chat to women and possibly have sex with them but no onus on either of you to interact outside of that."
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"Being in a couple is best in here, obviously that's not what you're looking for but just as your frustration grows with women not acting the way you percieved they would on here the same goes for the women and couples expecting men to behave as they see fit..
Everybody gets frustrated but being in a couple you can vent it between each other, everybody else has the forums or friends they have made on here.
Perhaps bear that in mind next time lol
If I wanted to be in a couple then I personally wouldn’t be on here. It’s good to hear everyone’s opinions as long as it’s respectful
OP do you think how you come across on here is respectful to women? It is not! "
I think he is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP
My first impression (from experience as a single male and as part of a couple) your post reads like you expected this to be a hook-up site. I accept my impression may be totally off the mark.
Even with the user base being a 100:10:1 men:couples:ladies ratio it is still a site created for and aimed at swingers. The first page before you login or signup says "Welcome to FabSwingers, a free website created for swingers by a genuine swinging couple." - and "swingers" is in bold.
By your own admition you're a single guy looking for uncomplicated sex after a breakup. That in itself gives a clue. You are by any definition a fuckboy, not a swinger. Playing in a chess tournament using the rules for checkers isn't going to get you very far... treat the other people you're trying to communicate with as swingers then you'll get a better experience.
I also wonder if once you find another relationship. Are you the type of male who is perfectly ok fucking other guys partners but jealous as hell when it comes to your? That type of male (again not a swinger) is a dime a dozen on here and couples can see though and avoid them in a heartbeat.
Again, sorry if I'm off the mark. |
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My first impression (from experience as a single male and as part of a couple) your post reads like you expected this to be a hook-up site. I accept my impression may be totally off the mark.
Even with the user base being a 100:10:1 men:couples:ladies ratio it is still a site created for and aimed at swingers. The first page before you login or signup says "Welcome to FabSwingers, a free website created for swingers by a genuine swinging couple." - and "swingers" is in bold.
By your own admition you're a single guy looking for uncomplicated sex after a breakup. That in itself gives a clue. You are by any definition a fuckboy, not a swinger. Playing in a chess tournament using the rules for checkers isn't going to get you very far... "
Haha, I like this analogy!!
And many of us, even if we are not swingers per se, are fed up with chequers and want to play chess!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Listen everyone is trying to work me out or at least make a judgement because of a post I made with a drink in me. Probably for the 5th time now I apologise if I offended anyone. Although a number of people have made a good fist of at least being condescending to me but life’s very short and no one gets it right all the time, so let’s move on if that’s ok lol. |
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over a year ago
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"Lol I just wat a bit of fun, why should I put effort in and what is the right attitude. I didn’t say it was a sex site .
Go gay .. It's the way forward "
I should |
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