Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile. |
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
Because some people don't like to feel they are complicit in cheating. |
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Its not a 'sex site' its a swinging site. There is a difference. Some people have morals and dont feel like fucking someone who disrespects their other half by creeping around behind their back. |
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Lots of people choose not to meet those who are playing without their partner's knowledge and consent because they don't want to get involved in any potential fallout if they are found out.
As for why they keep looking at you - they might just like your pictures and want to perve! |
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Others beat me to it, but I wanted to say that there is a difference between a sex site and a swinging community site.
They might be looking at your profile to see if its still there or you have been caught out and had to delete it. |
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"Lots of people choose not to meet those who are playing without their partner's knowledge and consent because they don't want to get involved in any potential fallout if they are found out.
As for why they keep looking at you - they might just like your pictures and want to perve!"
Potential fall-out is a big reason in my eyes. That and attached people are more likely to mess you around with meets in my experience.
I have moral/personal objections too but my own life has been far from saintly so it would feel hypocritical to harp on about that. |
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
Personal choice ?
As is looking at your pictures ? They may enjoy what they see ? |
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"If swinging is all about couples getting together then all singletons should be banned from joining"
It's not though. No one said it was? Your question was about people cheating not singles anyway? |
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"If swinging is all about couples getting together then all singletons should be banned from joining"
I don't think anybody said it was all about couples, it's more about the understanding that everything undertaken here is done with consent, whether in a relationship or as a 3rd party, all are aware and agree to whatever it is you want to do ? |
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"If swinging is all about couples getting together then all singletons should be banned from joining"
Swinging can involve singles, no one said it can't, but just because you have a single guy account, doesn't make you single. People don't like cheaters.
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So many people judge all singles that are married to be cheating. Im married and get this all the time. Im not but cant be bothered to try and explain it. They never lisen. Just judge. |
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"Its not a 'sex site' its a swinging site. There is a difference. Some people have morals and dont feel like fucking someone who disrespects their other half by creeping around behind their back. "
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I cant answe why they look at you op
But some of us won't meet cheats
Potentially causing someone hurt is not worth it and I wouldn't want it done to me.
Why not concentrate on those who dont care about your marital status.
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
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" It's not a 'sex site' its a swinging site. There is a difference. Some people have morals and dont feel like fucking someone who disrespects their other half by creeping around behind their back. "
THIS |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sure it's the Sydney University rubbish that makes people look over and over again   "
Damn I wondered what I was doing wrong. I shall add that immediately |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could also be the woman looking, because she secretly wants you. Or the man because either he secretly wants you to fuck his wife, or he's a secret bi man and wanks over your pics.
You'll never know. |
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Only the individuals who keep looking at you can explain why they are. Obsessive? You're magnetically alluring? Sex on legs?
After January 1st many struggle with temptation but fight the urge to give in to the forbidden fruit. Maybe your status repels but the sex idea doesn't. |
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
I truly don't know why they keep looking despite refusing to meet you. I suspect one or both must have found you attractive to discuss meeting in the first place.
I suggest you block them, that will prevent them looking. |
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
What is the 'sex site' meaning to you? |
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Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner |
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"Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner "
Hi and bump 10 threads where married or attached women are bleating on about nobody wanting them and I'll do the same for the blokes. I bet I win.
When women do put their head above the parapet about bring attached they generally get the same reaction as the guys. |
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"Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner
Hi and bump 10 threads where married or attached women are bleating on about nobody wanting them and I'll do the same for the blokes. I bet I win.
When women do put their head above the parapet about bring attached they generally get the same reaction as the guys. "
couples have double standards they will happily meet married women but not married men go figure |
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"Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner
Hi and bump 10 threads where married or attached women are bleating on about nobody wanting them and I'll do the same for the blokes. I bet I win.
When women do put their head above the parapet about bring attached they generally get the same reaction as the guys. couples have double standards they will happily meet married women but not married men go figure "
All of them?! Odd
Some men will happily fuck married women yet lose their shit if their partner cheated on them. The world is full of contradiction. |
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"Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner "
Hear hear. But some of us were a wedding ring and wont take it off. But also why lye. Its not fare on the person they meeting. If they dont want to meet married people so be it. |
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over a year ago
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"Op there's lots of supposedly single ladies on here but when you delve deeper there's a partner or husband somewhere in the back ground but naturally no one takes the moral high ground with them but every one assumes because your a single guy your a cheat no one asks why your not telling her and even if they do ask they won't believe you so just move on and either it something on your profile to explain it or just erase the bit about partner "
It doesn't matter why they aren't telling their partner, the fact that they aren't telling them is usually the issue. |
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One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ? |
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If you want a sex site go to one of those ‘apps’ because you will probably have more luck with the type of sex you want, this is totally different in my opinion.
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"One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ? "
I don't agree. The social side may be important for a few people but the vast majority are here for casual sex. "casual" means that you feel no commitment or obligation, hence no obligation to be honest to a casual sex partner.
Offical statistics show that 85% of people in the 30 to 50 age group (which covers most on here) are married or live with a partner. I don't see any reason why why swingers should differ from that statistic and if that's right the inevitable conclusion is that most allegedly single people on here are attached.
Men will lie about it but because they know if they are honest their already low chances of a meet go down massively
Women are less likely to lie because their very high chance of a meet will not be significantly effected.
What always amuses me are those who demand honesty from attached people. They are deceiving their partners. Why would they be honest here? |
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"But ignorance is bliss they say what you don't know can't hurt "
That's quite a common saying. It's blatantly not true though. You might not know that someone has dropped arsenic in your drink but it'll still kill you. |
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over a year ago
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I feel it's not good for my personal khama, if I meet someone who I know is cheating.
I don't judge people, it is up to each individual.
I just don't engage sexually if I know they have a experience, o is unaware..
I know some people really get off on it, but for me anything like that actually ruins the experience because I only want to bring pleasure and the fact that one day my actions may have hurt somebody, ruins the moment for me. |
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"But ignorance is bliss they say what you don't know can't hurt
That's quite a common saying. It's blatantly not true though. You might not know that someone has dropped arsenic in your drink but it'll still kill you."
And I would suggest the vast majority of partners will know, even if only sub-consciously - that is how intuition functions.
And consider this - once you break marriage vows, the marriage contract is broken, whether the other party knows yet or not. |
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"One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ?
I don't agree. The social side may be important for a few people but the vast majority are here for casual sex. "casual" means that you feel no commitment or obligation, hence no obligation to be honest to a casual sex partner.
Offical statistics show that 85% of people in the 30 to 50 age group (which covers most on here) are married or live with a partner. I don't see any reason why why swingers should differ from that statistic and if that's right the inevitable conclusion is that most allegedly single people on here are attached.
Men will lie about it but because they know if they are honest their already low chances of a meet go down massively
Women are less likely to lie because their very high chance of a meet will not be significantly effected.
What always amuses me are those who demand honesty from attached people. They are deceiving their partners. Why would they be honest here? "
Always tickles me when attached people claim to be honest with anonymous strangers on a sex site...and you can pretty it up all you like but it is a site to meet others for casual no strings sex. Yet, are happy to be anything but towards their significant other.
Equally unrealistic, deluded and ridiculous are those who are happy to meet attached people because they were "honest" with them.
As adults who we choose to fuck is our own business...get on with it and spare us the drama.
If people who don't want to meet you look at your profile and it upsets you op, block them, the world will still turn and you can get on with your life without drama and angst! |
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"One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ?
I don't agree. The social side may be important for a few people but the vast majority are here for casual sex. "casual" means that you feel no commitment or obligation, hence no obligation to be honest to a casual sex partner.
Offical statistics show that 85% of people in the 30 to 50 age group (which covers most on here) are married or live with a partner. I don't see any reason why why swingers should differ from that statistic and if that's right the inevitable conclusion is that most allegedly single people on here are attached.
Men will lie about it but because they know if they are honest their already low chances of a meet go down massively
Women are less likely to lie because their very high chance of a meet will not be significantly effected.
What always amuses me are those who demand honesty from attached people. They are deceiving their partners. Why would they be honest here?
Always tickles me when attached people claim to be honest with anonymous strangers on a sex site...and you can pretty it up all you like but it is a site to meet others for casual no strings sex. Yet, are happy to be anything but towards their significant other.
Equally unrealistic, deluded and ridiculous are those who are happy to meet attached people because they were "honest" with them.
As adults who we choose to fuck is our own business...get on with it and spare us the drama.
If people who don't want to meet you look at your profile and it upsets you op, block them, the world will still turn and you can get on with your life without drama and angst! "
Bit ironic to say who we choose to fuck is our own business and then go on to say those who meet attached people are unrealistic, deluded and ridiculous  |
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"I think many attached people with unaware partners are more honest with strangers. Its easier and unwanted consequences are fewer."
Unless the partners drops arsenic in their coffee, then the consequences would become apparent. Just referring to one of your previous posts that tickled me |
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"If swinging is all about couples getting together then all singletons should be banned from joining"
Sounds like you're having a good moan because you're not getting what you want.
You'll more than likely have even less success now. |
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"I think many attached people with unaware partners are more honest with strangers. Its easier and unwanted consequences are fewer.
Unless the partners drops arsenic in their coffee, then the consequences would become apparent. Just referring to one of your previous posts that tickled me "
cliches frequently make me smile. What you don't know won't hurt you or the truth never hurt anybody. Which is it to be? |
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"Can someone explain to me seeing that this is basically a sex site that why just because I have someone in the background (A female partner who is not into sex) as it has been put,they being a couple will not be prepared to meet up and yet they or one of them keep looking at my profile."
Block them. |
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over a year ago
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"If swinging is all about couples getting together then all singletons should be banned from joining
Sounds like you're having a good moan because you're not getting what you want.
You'll more than likely have even less success now."
To be fair that was in answer to another posters post |
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"One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ? "
For some it is. People use the site for different things |
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"I think many attached people with unaware partners are more honest with strangers. Its easier and unwanted consequences are fewer."
To a degree. If you are an attached man and are honest about it, your chances of a meet will drop substantially. Hence unwanted consequences.
My view is that most attached men lie about it. |
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"One thing that comes to light is you refer to it as a sex site I probably thought of it the same when I first came on as a singe guy but found that it's far from it !!
The social side and the respect side have a massive part to play in having a fun time ?
So a quick jump and go it is not ?
I don't agree. The social side may be important for a few people but the vast majority are here for casual sex. "casual" means that you feel no commitment or obligation, hence no obligation to be honest to a casual sex partner.
Offical statistics show that 85% of people in the 30 to 50 age group (which covers most on here) are married or live with a partner. I don't see any reason why why swingers should differ from that statistic and if that's right the inevitable conclusion is that most allegedly single people on here are attached.
Men will lie about it but because they know if they are honest their already low chances of a meet go down massively
Women are less likely to lie because their very high chance of a meet will not be significantly effected.
What always amuses me are those who demand honesty from attached people. They are deceiving their partners. Why would they be honest here?
Always tickles me when attached people claim to be honest with anonymous strangers on a sex site...and you can pretty it up all you like but it is a site to meet others for casual no strings sex. Yet, are happy to be anything but towards their significant other.
Equally unrealistic, deluded and ridiculous are those who are happy to meet attached people because they were "honest" with them.
As adults who we choose to fuck is our own business...get on with it and spare us the drama.
If people who don't want to meet you look at your profile and it upsets you op, block them, the world will still turn and you can get on with your life without drama and angst!
Bit ironic to say who we choose to fuck is our own business and then go on to say those who meet attached people are unrealistic, deluded and ridiculous "
No I didn't! Deluded to expect honesty from people who owe them nothing: big difference. |
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1) Fabswinger's is not a sex site.
2)It's not just about couple's.
3) Freedom of choice, means you win some you loose some, live with it we all have to.
Culturally swinging is about the building of friendship's and socialising with like minded people, this may or may not lead to sharing one's intimate moments with other's it may not, It is not about sex it's about indulging ones desire to express ones sexuality with other's who share a similar or the same interest's or indeed exploring other thing's with other's that one wouldn't or could not do otherwise.
Sex site's are for one off meet's of a casual nature where people can arrange to meet for mutual gratification of a common itch lol.
There has been an influx of people whom think that swing site's are another form of sex site's, they are usually the ones who do the most complaining because they are not getting any sex.
As for cheating, if you are here without your partner's knowledge or agreement (verification of said agreement by phone is usually required) then very few couples for moral reason's will meet with you .
The reason it seems to be dominated by couple's is quite simple really, it's all about trust,respect and discretion , most couples are in a stable relationship and enjoy the lifestyle and the freedom to be their sexual selves, and the fact that you are less likely to run into the wannabe's or faker's and time waster's, as these couple's tent to network among themselves as they know and trust each other and have a understanding for what they want or expect from their playmates. |
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"I think many attached people with unaware partners are more honest with strangers. Its easier and unwanted consequences are fewer.
To a degree. If you are an attached man and are honest about it, your chances of a meet will drop substantially. Hence unwanted consequences.
My view is that most attached men lie about it. "
not only men lie about it we recently met a woman (with her FWB) only to see that she was wearing a wedding ring, now don't get us wrong we are not judgemental in any form, but the last thing we need is drama in our life (we both have teenage kid's,,,,,drama enough for any adult lol ).
Let's not get sexist and paint men as habitual liar's when women are equally adept to lying as men, we are totally honest in our approach to swinging and with those we swing with, it is respectful and trustworthy if one can be open and honest with other's, it is then their choice if they play with us or not, if not then move on, no harm no foul |
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"I think many attached people with unaware partners are more honest with strangers. Its easier and unwanted consequences are fewer.
To a degree. If you are an attached man and are honest about it, your chances of a meet will drop substantially. Hence unwanted consequences.
My view is that most attached men lie about it.
not only men lie about it we recently met a woman (with her FWB) only to see that she was wearing a wedding ring, now don't get us wrong we are not judgemental in any form, but the last thing we need is drama in our life (we both have teenage kid's,,,,,drama enough for any adult lol ).
Let's not get sexist and paint men as habitual liar's when women are equally adept to lying as men, we are totally honest in our approach to swinging and with those we swing with, it is respectful and trustworthy if one can be open and honest with other's, it is then their choice if they play with us or not, if not then move on, no harm no foul "
I am sure there is no difference between men and women in terms of general propensity to lie. However men will lie more on here as the consequences of telling the truth for attached men are greater than for attached women. |
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