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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me. "
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
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Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I asume when I slip a condom on, that the woman is okay with that.  ive never then needed to ask if she's using contraception aswell, are you in the navy? Covering all possibilities and outcomes ( pun Intended)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When you've been chatting for ages and the talk evolves to how he's going to fill me up squirting his spunk into me. And then afterwards I have to say uhmmm well this is actually how it's going to be. |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it?"
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Not if i wear a condom. Would a woman on the pill still not want a guy to wear a condom or would she rather not fall pregant but have a fanny that looks like it has rabbies for weeks? |
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"When you've been chatting for ages and the talk evolves to how he's going to fill me up squirting his spunk into me. And then afterwards I have to say uhmmm well this is actually how it's going to be. "
Haha yes. I talk all kinds of filth that I'd not do in reality, for health reasons etc. I check before meeting that people realise this. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it?.
Not if i wear a condom. Would a woman on the pill still not want a guy to wear a condom or would she rather not fall pregant but have a fanny that looks like it has rabbies for weeks?"
Condoms are quite unreliable - if I was a man having sex with a woman I would check to see if she was another form of protection as well.
I personally have a rule when swinging - two forms of contraception at all times. The vast majority of STI's can be cured, having children is much harder to cure... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it?.
Not if i wear a condom. Would a woman on the pill still not want a guy to wear a condom or would she rather not fall pregant but have a fanny that looks like it has rabbies for weeks?
Condoms are quite unreliable - if I was a man having sex with a woman I would check to see if she was another form of protection as well.
I personally have a rule when swinging - two forms of contraception at all times. The vast majority of STI's can be cured, having children is much harder to cure..."
I have the 2 rules also. Condoms & ive had the snip. I think ive covered myself. Thats me personally but understand you mean in general across the board |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it?.
Not if i wear a condom. Would a woman on the pill still not want a guy to wear a condom or would she rather not fall pregant but have a fanny that looks like it has rabbies for weeks?
Condoms are quite unreliable - if I was a man having sex with a woman I would check to see if she was another form of protection as well.
I personally have a rule when swinging - two forms of contraception at all times. The vast majority of STI's can be cured, having children is much harder to cure...
I have the 2 rules also. Condoms & ive had the snip. I think ive covered myself. Thats me personally but understand you mean in general across the board"
Yeah, fair one! I always make a point of telling people what contraception I'm on. I'd feel pretty reassured if a bloke did that as well. I assume that if he doesn't say anything then he doesn't care about the fact I might get pregnant which hugely puts me off doing anything with him. |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
Whether a woman uses contraception or not, its everyones responsibility to play safe & not pass on. Assuming is a turn off for you but stopping while building up to sex to put a condom on is worse in my eyes but a must
Do you not ask if someone is using other contraception as well before you start getting into it?.
Not if i wear a condom. Would a woman on the pill still not want a guy to wear a condom or would she rather not fall pregant but have a fanny that looks like it has rabbies for weeks?
Condoms are quite unreliable - if I was a man having sex with a woman I would check to see if she was another form of protection as well.
I personally have a rule when swinging - two forms of contraception at all times. The vast majority of STI's can be cured, having children is much harder to cure..."
“Belt and braces” - yep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It honestly hadn't crossed my mind that I'd never been asked that by a potential meet.
I make it clear from the start that we will be using condoms and for me that's all the guy needs to worry about.
Obviously if I was asked I have no concerns sharing what other methods I use but I generally think that's my business and responsibility. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Am I reading this right? I pop a condom on, and she sees me, now because I've not asked her what contraception she uses, I'm not being careful?
I've honestly never asked, but now feel I'm just careless |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Am I reading this right? I pop a condom on, and she sees me, now because I've not asked her what contraception she uses, I'm not being careful?
I've honestly never asked, but now feel I'm just careless "
God....the actual topic always seems to land far away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I reading this right? I pop a condom on, and she sees me, now because I've not asked her what contraception she uses, I'm not being careful?
I've honestly never asked, but now feel I'm just careless
God....the actual topic always seems to land far away."
So what does your opening post ask? (I've already cleared that I'm asking you to help me out and explain, 'am I reading it right?' )
E.g. - Your yet to have a conversation......and if men assuming is a turn off for you.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a swinging site, casual sex so on that basis I’m open about wanting to use condoms but I really dont expect a guy to ask about my contraception (some have, great). Given I would be left “holding the baby” I take that part as my responsibility.
The more lengthier guys probably figure it out quickly anyway, I’m given to believe the coil can be felt  |
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In the none-swinging world, when we were both younger and having casual sex, there was always an unwritten assumption that, if the female didn’t ask you to wear a condom then she was using another form of contraception. That’s how we both understood it and we grew up in very different places. It sort of made sense as most female contraceptions are invisible and therefore, and it saved a potentially mood-ruining conversation! |
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I agree with other posters, it's my responsibility as a female to ensure I'm using contraception. I've been asked previously, but other times I've not. It's all good asking, but it's easy enough to lie, not like the man can see all forms of contraception, but at least we can see a condom. Yes you're right, condoms aren't always effective, but neither are contraception. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Am I reading this right? I pop a condom on, and she sees me, now because I've not asked her what contraception she uses, I'm not being careful?
I've honestly never asked, but now feel I'm just careless
God....the actual topic always seems to land far away.
So what does your opening post ask? (I've already cleared that I'm asking you to help me out and explain, 'am I reading it right?' )
E.g. - Your yet to have a conversation......and if men assuming is a turn off for you.....
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Forgive me for not being as wide awake as you. I have not asked anything in my post. I posted my experiences that no man and I mean no man has ever asked whether I'm using some form of contraception. I have always been the one to mention it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never assume that a woman is on contraception and always use a condom even if she has told me she is on the pill I still use a condom. I do the same during the early stages of a relationship too. However it does surprise me the amount of woman who see me taking out a condom and say "oh its ok we dont need that, im on the pill" seriously guys if your that stupid then you deserve to catch clymidia and god knows what else, this is a swinging site and god knows where your chosen partner has been before you, being on the pill doesnt protect you from shit, shouldn't this be common sense? |
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"I never assume that a woman is on contraception and always use a condom even if she has told me she is on the pill I still use a condom. I do the same during the early stages of a relationship too. However it does surprise me the amount of woman who see me taking out a condom and say "oh its ok we dont need that, im on the pill" seriously guys if your that stupid then you deserve to catch clymidia and god knows what else, this is a swinging site and god knows where your chosen partner has been before you, being on the pill doesnt protect you from shit, shouldn't this be common sense?"
No good reason to call people stupid! |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me. "
I had asked a woman who said she was on the pill , however I had used condom as well the condom split I was upset/ annoyed about that but then was told she had lied and wasn't on the pill,
Obviously cleaned up went and got morning after pill with her and followed up by several pregnancy tests and both of us sex screen as well
I know a lot of blokes would just have walked / run away but contraception as well as sexual health is everyone's responsibility as far as I'm concerned |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Am I reading this right? I pop a condom on, and she sees me, now because I've not asked her what contraception she uses, I'm not being careful?
I've honestly never asked, but now feel I'm just careless
God....the actual topic always seems to land far away.
So what does your opening post ask? (I've already cleared that I'm asking you to help me out and explain, 'am I reading it right?' )
E.g. - Your yet to have a conversation......and if men assuming is a turn off for you.....
Forgive me for not being as wide awake as you. I have not asked anything in my post. I posted my experiences that no man and I mean no man has ever asked whether I'm using some form of contraception. I have always been the one to mention it. "
By wearing a condom, I'd be protecting myself first, and then them second. And I'd expect the same if a woman was using something also.
I find it a real big turn on when a women trusts me, when I've got confidence that she's making safe decisions etc.
Before this thread, I'd not actually considered what my assuming (and I do assume, I have to believe what I'm told) what might that might be veiwed as.
I might go to the bareback thread, I understand that more 
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"I never assume that a woman is on contraception and always use a condom even if she has told me she is on the pill I still use a condom. I do the same during the early stages of a relationship too. However it does surprise me the amount of woman who see me taking out a condom and say "oh its ok we dont need that, im on the pill" seriously guys if your that stupid then you deserve to catch clymidia and god knows what else, this is a swinging site and god knows where your chosen partner has been before you, being on the pill doesnt protect you from shit, shouldn't this be common sense?
No good reason to call people stupid! "
Sorry to be controversial but it does make them sound stupid because the reason he is putting on a condom is to protect himself and potentially his sexual partner, he isn’t putting it on to prevent pregnancy  |
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We’ve just been discussing this, it’s irrelevant what a woman does or doesn’t disclose regarding her use of contraception unless you are intending bareback. Even then as mentioned by another poster ppl lie about these things. A condom is visible and can’t be lied about, it’s there or it isn’t. Therefore I completely understand why a man wouldn’t ask beyond agreeing condoms will be used during sex.
Me personally (Pink) I’ve always disclosed that I’m not using any form of female contraception because I like to be open. I use an app to monitor my menstrual cycle and would even send a screenshot when arranging a meet. Despite condoms I wouldn’t meet when ovulating and I always provide the condoms. I choose to protect myself not worry or get turned off because the male isn’t asking about my contraception. My body, my contraception, my app and I will readily bring up the subject.
Being in a relationship and no longer swinging is a whole different ball game. However, being open, honest and safe is still OUR priority. We regularly discuss contraception and other topics relating to maintaining good sexual health.
A man has no control over female contraception and them enquiring about it is pointless, them discussing condoms is far more meaningful and something they can/will use.
Pink & Swing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me. "
Another thing for guys to second guess.
I always use condoms. I have had the snip. I am fairly certain that is mentioned on my profile (or it will do by the end of today).
Will you assume I haven't had the snip and therefor assume I haven't given pregnancy risk a second thought? It cuts both ways... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Stupid of them to assume all women on here are responsible and don't want to get pregnant.
Only an idiot would risk getting lumbered with a stranger's baby. |
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It's not something we've ever encountered or discussed with playmates.
I had the snip years ago, well before we started swinging. We always play safe, but Bun went on Depo just in case of mis-haps.
I pesonally have never heard anyone ask anyone else about contraception, I guess people assume the condom is good enough or they do assume the woman is taking additional precautions. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I've never been asked, in this world. I have always volunteered that I don't have a womb, especially as condoms have split, come off and even got temporarily lost in me.
When I was fecund I fell pregnant on every form of contraception used. Belt and braces would have helped prevent this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why should a man worry about contraception? Sti's sure. But anything else surely her responsibility..  "
And if she gets pregnant she only has herself to blame, for not taking precautions. |
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head."
That’s what makes being a necessity that a guy shows an interest in a female’s contraception farcical |
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I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too. |
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head."
Well hopefully he would still put a condom on |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
I had asked a woman who said she was on the pill , however I had used condom as well the condom split I was upset/ annoyed about that but then was told she had lied and wasn't on the pill,
Obviously cleaned up went and got morning after pill with her and followed up by several pregnancy tests and both of us sex screen as well
I know a lot of blokes would just have walked / run away but contraception as well as sexual health is everyone's responsibility as far as I'm concerned "
all this behind your wife's back? |
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head."
Use 2 condoms? |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
I had asked a woman who said she was on the pill , however I had used condom as well the condom split I was upset/ annoyed about that but then was told she had lied and wasn't on the pill,
Obviously cleaned up went and got morning after pill with her and followed up by several pregnancy tests and both of us sex screen as well
I know a lot of blokes would just have walked / run away but contraception as well as sexual health is everyone's responsibility as far as I'm concerned all this behind your wife's back?"
That subject isn’t what this thread is about |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
Use 2 condoms? "
A family member has always done that. He's never had an accident.
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
Well hopefully he would still put a condom on "
You know there are plenty who wouldn’t bother to do that. |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too. "
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
Use 2 condoms?
A family member has always done that. He's never had an accident.
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I was kidding...although I've turned the ribbed ones inside out so I get the pleasure
I might try 3, make it nice and tight. And thinker fit her, win-win.  |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here."
I think she ment in addition to condoms etc. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
Use 2 condoms?
A family member has always done that. He's never had an accident.
I was kidding...although I've turned the ribbed ones inside out so I get the pleasure
I might try 3, make it nice and tight. And thinker fit her, win-win. "
Get seven and do a twist on the dance of the seven veils. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here."
Coming on here was a real eye-opener. I didn't know it was a thing. |
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
Use 2 condoms?
A family member has always done that. He's never had an accident.
I was kidding...although I've turned the ribbed ones inside out so I get the pleasure
I might try 3, make it nice and tight. And thinker fit her, win-win.
Get seven and do a twist on the dance of the seven veils."
On my cock not my head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So a bloke asks a woman if she’s on any form of contraception and she says sure I am, but isn’t and is actually lying.
Play that scenario out in your head.
That’s what makes being a necessity that a guy shows an interest in a female’s contraception farcical "
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here."
That has crossed my mind yes, but then they would have their condom |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here.
Coming on here was a real eye-opener. I didn't know it was a thing."
I've learned allsorts from being on here. Sometime I forget I'm supposed to look surprised -and therefore innocent- when someone mentions anything sex wise that's any more raunchy than 'doing it on birthdays and xmas'.
"Felching... what's that....?" |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here.
I think she ment in addition to condoms etc. "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here.
Coming on here was a real eye-opener. I didn't know it was a thing.
I've learned allsorts from being on here. Sometime I forget I'm supposed to look surprised -and therefore innocent- when someone mentions anything sex wise that's any more raunchy than 'doing it on birthdays and xmas'.
"Felching... what's that....?""
I was a bit shocked that the 13 year olds knew what bukkake is. I always have the excuse of having worked in sexual health, so I can look innocent and knowledgeable. |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here.
Coming on here was a real eye-opener. I didn't know it was a thing.
I've learned allsorts from being on here. Sometime I forget I'm supposed to look surprised -and therefore innocent- when someone mentions anything sex wise that's any more raunchy than 'doing it on birthdays and xmas'.
"Felching... what's that....?"
I was a bit shocked that the 13 year olds knew what bukkake is. I always have the excuse of having worked in sexual health, so I can look innocent and knowledgeable."
Crikey that would shock me too! The wonders of accessible porn and Google though...
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I’d be concerned that if I asked if the lady was on the pill then she would assume I wanted to play bareback, and would therefore not be interested.
Now it’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation.
All this concern might affect a guys ability to stand to attention.
It’s s fecking mine field!!
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I've never had a guy ask me what contraception I am on, on this site, and I would never expect him to. 
After all if condoms are being used, why ask? I am on the implant but that is for my own peace of mind plus I have no periods so it is win win |
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"I’d be concerned that if I asked if the lady was on the pill then she would assume I wanted to play bareback, and would therefore not be interested.
Now it’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t situation.
All this concern might affect a guys ability to stand to attention.
It’s s fecking mine field!!
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That's a fair point. |
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"Unless you've had the snip bag up, it's that simple
Do vasectomies protect against sti's? Gonna get me one. "
If you've not had one, you have to give it them up the bum. I think that's the latest medical advice  |
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over a year ago
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"Unless you've had the snip bag up, it's that simple
Do vasectomies protect against sti's? Gonna get me one.
If you've not had one, you have to give it them up the bum. I think that's the latest medical advice "
I'm a giver. Even better if medical advice says I have to. |
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"Unless you've had the snip bag up, it's that simple
Do vasectomies protect against sti's? Gonna get me one.
If you've not had one, you have to give it them up the bum. I think that's the latest medical advice
I'm a giver. Even better if medical advice says I have to. "
My medical experts inform me that doing it that way, he will have a very low chance of becoming pregnant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's never crossed my mind to tell anyone I'm on the pill and I don't think I've ever been asked. I see that as my responsibility as well as having a supply of condoms! My sexual health is my responsibility and so is not getting pregnant.
If I wasn't using any other form of contraception (except condoms) then I would tell a potential partner because I would also be using extra spermicide for extra protection.
I'm not that uptight that I'd be offended or turned off by someone assuming I was using another form of contraception. |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me.
I had asked a woman who said she was on the pill , however I had used condom as well the condom split I was upset/ annoyed about that but then was told she had lied and wasn't on the pill,
Obviously cleaned up went and got morning after pill with her and followed up by several pregnancy tests and both of us sex screen as well
I know a lot of blokes would just have walked / run away but contraception as well as sexual health is everyone's responsibility as far as I'm concerned all this behind your wife's back?"
That's not the thread what I'm on about is personal responsibility for protection against pregnancy and sti,s no doubt the slagging off will follow |
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"I love how men naturally assume that a woman is using contraception. I've yet to have a conversation with a man who will ask me if I'm using anything. For me, assuming anything, is a turn off for me. "
Perfectly entitled to your opinion but i find this a strange complaint to make
Contrary to what this thread would have you believe , condoms when used correctly are 98% effective
So knowing that no sex is safe (for sex or pregnancy) i would be pretty hapy with those odds as a guy and probably not be asking about additional methods of contraception either
In fact to be honest i think it would be a bit cheeky of a prospective meet to insinuate its my responsibility to cover his remaining 2% risk ...i take the pill for me ... for my peace of mind, for my convenience ... for my health ... its not really anyone elses business unless I volunteer the information  |
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"I'm not on any contraception so do inform meets of this, I usually ask if they have had the snip, just so in my mind I know if there is that extra safety net there too.
They could lie about that too. Plenty of people with breeding fetish’s here.
I think she ment in addition to condoms etc.
I did yes x"
...and if the condom splits? |
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