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The Dating World

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

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By *arlo82Couple over a year ago

the gym and random places

Oh makes 2 of us!

Neither seem to work for me..... kinda sick of being single now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

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By *.1079Man over a year ago

caistor

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

I know what you mean when I split with my wife I then dated lots of nice girls but not what I wanted.

I decided just to have fun and stay single for good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

I know what you mean when I split with my wife I then dated lots of nice girls but not what I wanted.

I decided just to have fun and stay single for good."

Well as long as it’s working for you that’s all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck."

Lots of men say they would love to find a swinging partner. Have you put that on your profile in the past, and had no luck ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck.

Lots of men say they would love to find a swinging partner. Have you put that on your profile in the past, and had no luck ?

To be honest I’ve added to my profile and deleted.

Let’s be honest the men do not as a rule read profiles lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x"

I may need to have a re think on my profile then,

I’m glad you found happiness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x"

You have nothing to lose by being on here, keep perving and chatting

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I know what you mean.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

"Oh makes 2 of us!

Neither seem to work for me..... kinda sick of being single now "

That makes 3 of us!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi Nirvana, I know how you feel. My last relationship was extremely kinky and one of my worries is the next person just wont be able to stack up to that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x

You have nothing to lose by being on here, keep perving and chatting

No I just think I frustrate some of the men as I stay true to what I want not what they want.

I’m glad it’s not just me, it’s bloody hard work all this dating stuff.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi Nirvana, I know how you feel. My last relationship was extremely kinky and one of my worries is the next person just wont be able to stack up to that."

I get you, my ex was very vanilla and I can’t and won’t go back into a relationship with a vanilla man.

It’s so frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of the reasons I fell for my x was because we were both into the same kink. We had suppressed it for most of our lives and two be able to open ups to someone who understood and felt so passionately about it was like an awakening. it was like I found someone who finally got me, now I don't know how I'll get that again.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm the same, I've been here nearly 10 years and the last 5 have been awful to be honest.

I have been 100% single for about 12 years and wouldn't know where to start on a dating site as from stories I have heard they are just as full of liars as well or are just full on when I certainly couldn't be in that situation straight off the bat.

I used to like being here, but for the last few years I have been made to feel like a free prostitute and therefore have become celibate without planning to be

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One of the reasons I fell for my x was because we were both into the same kink. We had suppressed it for most of our lives and two be able to open ups to someone who understood and felt so passionately about it was like an awakening. it was like I found someone who finally got me, now I don't know how I'll get that again.

That must of been amazing.

I also have a few more taboo kinks and it’s amazing when you speak to someone into the same kink.

I just want more than a sex fix.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess I just want to fall in love with someone into the same kink as me, but it feels like to meet someone once was a miracle, for it to happen a second time is just asking too much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm the same, I've been here nearly 10 years and the last 5 have been awful to be honest.

I used to like being here, but for the last few years I have been made to feel like a free prostitute and therefore have become celibate without planning to be

Yes I hear you, the messages I get sometimes are almost like they are booking an escort.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah it was amazing, thats the thing, we connected emotionally because we had finally found someone, in each other that we could open up to about something that was so personal to us. It was unique to us and us only.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That must of been amazing.

I also have a few more taboo kinks and it’s amazing when you speak to someone into the same kink.

I just want more than a sex fix."

If your kinks are what many consider taboo. Would you have more luck on a more specialised site ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I guess I just want to fall in love with someone into the same kink as me, but it feels like to meet someone once was a miracle, for it to happen a second time is just asking too much."

Do you have on your profile what you’re looking for kink wise. That way at least the right woman may read it and think hmmm he’s a match.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not taboo, its just niche. Its sploshing, which many people aren't into.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x

You have nothing to lose by being on here, keep perving and chatting

No I just think I frustrate some of the men as I stay true to what I want not what they want.

I’m glad it’s not just me, it’s bloody hard work all this dating stuff.

If you haven’t already join our dating thread. It’s on a dating thread where Ads messaged me for the first time, we had been perving each other for ages but didn’t say anything, he saw me say I wanted a date, even though I lived miles away but I took a gamble and now we are 87 days away from our wedding x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That must of been amazing.

I also have a few more taboo kinks and it’s amazing when you speak to someone into the same kink.

I just want more than a sex fix.

If your kinks are what many consider taboo. Would you have more luck on a more specialised site ?"

I have found quite a few people on here, they aren’t bad kinks but I’m very open minded. The issue is finding one guy to enjoy it with

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Don’t give up!! We met here so anything could happen x

You have nothing to lose by being on here, keep perving and chatting

No I just think I frustrate some of the men as I stay true to what I want not what they want.

I’m glad it’s not just me, it’s bloody hard work all this dating stuff.

I’ve tried the dating thread and never get a reply etc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck."

So do you think you want a kinky friend with benefits?

Or a full on relationship with a man who will happily swing with you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck.

So do you think you want a kinky friend with benefits?

Or a full on relationship with a man who will happily swing with you?"

I considered a fwb but I haven’t found anyone right for me.

A swinging relationship would be great.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So just wait untill you come across the man you want? Searching so hard when life is to be enjoyed no?

Good luck whatever happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Its not taboo, its just niche. Its sploshing, which many people aren't into."

That’s not something I’ve dabbled with, but I wish you luck on your search.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So just wait untill you come across the man you want? Searching so hard when life is to be enjoyed no?

Good luck whatever happens

Not searching hard, I think I’m just frustrated with it all.

Maybe I step it down a little and see comes along

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Happy new year!

I think that some worlds,as you call them op, give us greater abilities to make them tailored to ourselves. Fab probably has less rigidity than many dating sites do. All of these sites are full of unique people but I think there's greater rigidity typically on the part of the typical date site user than there is from Fab people.

Here you can determine the parts of the spectrum that fit your needs and completely live as if none of the rest existed. That spectrum range we can each carve out probably has a greater chance that others are there too, than from a more monochrome dating site user spectrum

That's my take and I also think that a significant number of people will support you readily here, more so than acquaintances from dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol"

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

I think you’ve got the nail on the head there. It’s like there need to be an in between somewhere. What it is or what it’s called I don’t know

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Happy new year!

That's my take and I also think that a significant number of people will support you readily here, more so than acquaintances from dating sites. "

Yes I think you’re right, the dating world is just so frustrating and not very exciting.

I guess I want it all.. I want my cake and a big cherry on top

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

I think you’ve got the nail on the head there. It’s like there need to be an in between somewhere. What it is or what it’s called I don’t know

Yes an inbetween... I think an inbetween would be great.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep, I’m exactly where you are right now!!!!

It’s a tricky one

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored "

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I long to have what I had with my x, which was love and romance, but also a total understanding of what made each other tick because we shared the same passion. So I would love to date someone with the same kink as me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh makes 2 of us!

Neither seem to work for me..... kinda sick of being single now

That makes 3 of us! "

Totally feel you too!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

We never used to but thought ‘fuck it’ and thought we might as well join in, usually we have a habit of killing those things. It’s like a tumble lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Well let me comment for you then

Snog & Shag and Hot as fuck

Ads

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Yes me too, I’m usually ignored for the popular girl

Your profile made me smile lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So it mostly seems like it’s a woman thing, guess that answers my question really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Yes me too, I’m usually ignored for the popular girl

Your profile made me smile lol"

I’m shocked you get passed over too

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What really annoys me is when people try to take advantage of this situation to rip you off.

I'm into sploshing (wet and messy sex) and theres a dating site called Splosh Dating, that advertises that its for people into sploshing. When you sign up you find its just a generic dating site.

So annoying...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Yes me too, I’m usually ignored for the popular girl

Your profile made me smile lol

I’m shocked you get passed over too

Always someone younger slimmer and prettier or who will meet so it is what it is... depressing

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By *hilipepperWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!"

Couldn't agree more!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!"

No youre not to fussy, this is about what you want.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Yes me too, I’m usually ignored for the popular girl

Your profile made me smile lol

I’m shocked you get passed over too

Always someone younger slimmer and prettier or who will meet so it is what it is... depressing "

Well we found love and neither of us are skinny Minnie’s lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

Exactly the reason why I rarely participate in those threads... And when I do, I say I'm in and then I'm afraid to return to the thread in case nobody's responded

Yes me too, I’m usually ignored for the popular girl

Your profile made me smile lol

I’m shocked you get passed over too

Always someone younger slimmer and prettier or who will meet so it is what it is... depressing

Well we found love and neither of us are skinny Minnie’s lol"

It’s lovely to see happiness I’m glad you found each other. There is hope for us all.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored "

I get ignored on all threads, it doesn't matter which one

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

No youre not to fussy, this is about what you want. "

I know what I want but I started telling my friend once what was on the list for my ideal man and she told me I was too fussy

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I totallt get you, im much the same, vanilla dating sites are rubbish but here is not quite hitting the spot.

The dating threads here are good in principle but then one of the stunning popular forum ladies will often join and nobody else gets a look in after that

Yes and at that point I crawl back under my rock lol

We feel the same when doing the snog fuck pass/hot or not threads and we just get ignored

I get ignored on all threads, it doesn't matter which one

Not ignored on this one

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’m the same, and refuse to just meet because I’m horny.

There are some hot men on here but the sex meet alone doesn’t appeal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What really annoys me is when people try to take advantage of this situation to rip you off.

I'm into sploshing (wet and messy sex) and theres a dating site called Splosh Dating, that advertises that its for people into sploshing. When you sign up you find its just a generic dating site.

So annoying..."

You sound disappointed and it must be hard.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

No youre not to fussy, this is about what you want.

I know what I want but I started telling my friend once what was on the list for my ideal man and she told me I was too fussy

Ahhhh but it pays to be fussy, otherwise it’s just like you’re settling for second best and will always be wondering what if

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

No youre not to fussy, this is about what you want.

I know what I want but I started telling my friend once what was on the list for my ideal man and she told me I was too fussy

Ahhhh but it pays to be fussy, otherwise it’s just like you’re settling for second best and will always be wondering what if "

Exactly, we could all meet a guy a day if we wanted to but I for one would rather wait.

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By *ree2view2uMan over a year ago

Nr Donny

I commented somewhere else, that we should all send pm's with our usernames on pof to each other

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I commented somewhere else, that we should all send pm's with our usernames on pof to each other"

That’s a good idea, could work for those close to each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as I want one thing (relationship or FB), I only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Wow, your 29 with a fabulous figure and you also struggle in this day and age? I might as well totally give up

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as I want one thing (relationship or FB), I only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Wow, your 29 with a fabulous figure and you also struggle in this day and age? I might as well totally give up

Yes, I’m 52 short fat and blonde.

Where’s my duvet

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as I want one thing (relationship or FB), I only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Wow, your 29 with a fabulous figure and you also struggle in this day and age? I might as well totally give up

And you madam have an amazing figure.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer. "

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I'm also incredibly selective when it comes to playmates as its never purely sex for me either... I also have to be stimulated intellectually... The attraction has to be on multiple levels. I tend to favour fwb relationships because of this - its rare someone ticks all the boxes so it just makes sense to keep meeting the ones who do

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as I want one thing (relationship or FB), I only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Wow, your 29 with a fabulous figure and you also struggle in this day and age? I might as well totally give up

Thankyou.. - but yeah very much so. I have been single for almost 4 years now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?"

I dont think we are...but some do make you feel like a freak for wanting it here...it doesnt, it makes us human and all humans need love in their lives x

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?"

I don’t think we are

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?"

Haven't done the dating site thing in a few years... I'm still friends with a couple of guys I dated, we get along really well, but the sexual chemistry was just never quite there. It was actually a guy I met through a dating site who got me into swinging as he knew I was unlikely to meet anyone sexually compatible otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

I dont think we are...but some do make you feel like a freak for wanting it here...it doesnt, it makes us human and all humans need love in their lives x "

Yes you’re right, I’ve seen people shot down before on this subject.

I rarely post now for that reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

So what do we do

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

So what do we do"

Stick the kettle on, make a cuppa tea and get the biscuits out - from a purely relaxational point of view of course - helps clear the mind you know

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

So what do we do

Stick the kettle on, make a cuppa tea and get the biscuits out - from a purely relaxational point of view of course - helps clear the mind you know

I threw all mine a few days ago, decided back to the gym etc.

I have tea... I now want biscuits

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?"

I’m the same, I flit between here and dating apps as would love to meet someone for something more than casual but would love a swinging relationship or something a little unconventional.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Hmmm I joined dating sites recently but the men messaging me offer not much personality.

I’m a feisty naughty lady and I want a naughty man. I’m sure we aren’t askung for much are we?

I’m the same, I flit between here and dating apps as would love to meet someone for something more than casual but would love a swinging relationship or something a little unconventional. "

Me too, had the vanilla and it left me wanting.

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By *akeyousmile30Man over a year ago

greenwich

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

I am sure at some point you will meet someone on fabs or at a club!

Ps your curves are gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

I am sure at some point you will meet someone on fabs or at a club!

Ps your curves are gorgeous "

Aghh thank you

I often wonder if my many curves put men off.

Maybe not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Me too, really struggling to get the balance. Don’t think I got go back to total vanilla but not sure I could have a full on swinging relationship either.

Argh not sure I’ll ever find the happy medium x

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By *icassolifelikeMan over a year ago

Luton

You'll more likely find someone sexually compatible here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Me too, really struggling to get the balance. Don’t think I got go back to total vanilla but not sure I could have a full on swinging relationship either.

Argh not sure I’ll ever find the happy medium x"

I’m sure we all have so much to offer as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You'll more likely find someone sexually compatible here. "

How about compatible for everything else as well?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Me too, really struggling to get the balance. Don’t think I got go back to total vanilla but not sure I could have a full on swinging relationship either.

Argh not sure I’ll ever find the happy medium x

I’m sure we all have so much to offer as well"

Guess we have to not give up hope. I’ve just returned to fab tonight after a few months away, gave dating sites another go during that time. Same old story so here I am again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if you want a swinging type relationship, here is definitely the place to look. Seems to be lots of new couples from meeting on here.

Just be wary as some people will say anything to get a shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dating and dating sites still the same challenge finding the right person for you, be that now, for short or long term...searching better than settling...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Dating and dating sites still the same challenge finding the right person for you, be that now, for short or long term...searching better than settling..."

Totally, I’m never going to settle for wrong .. I want what’s right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dating and dating sites still the same challenge finding the right person for you, be that now, for short or long term...searching better than settling...

Totally, I’m never going to settle for wrong .. I want what’s right "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well I thank you all for the messages, private and on here.

I hope we all find what we are looking for.

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By *icassolifelikeMan over a year ago

Luton

"You'll more likely find someone sexually compatible here.

How about compatible for everything else as well? "

The trouble is where do you find the balance? Sexually compatible, "swinging" lifestyle, more liberal and hedonistic is all well and good. But not much use if your partner doesn't work, can't maintain a dwelling, just about look after themselves let alone someone else.

Then there's those who are perfect in every way but will only have sex on a Saturday and in the missionary position. You can open them up with suggestions etc but will that be enough to maintain a relationship or will you get bored a year in?

There's no right or wrong, just keep searching.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You'll more likely find someone sexually compatible here.

How about compatible for everything else as well?

There's no right or wrong, just keep searching. "

All very valid points,

Thank you for your input

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I posted in the dating thread I wasn’t really expecting anything to come off it, just a nice date that didn’t involve sex, I had met a few men for dates from other sites but they didn’t work out as a relationship, not because I was a swinger but they just wasn’t the right man for me (and I also had a very controlling ex husband that was still controlling me at that point).

So when Ads messaged me and we seemed to hit it off straight away from the first couple of messages I knew he was different, when we met for our date we fully knew it was going to be more than one date, when we had been together about a month (and with added confidence to say fuck off to my ex husband trying to control my life) we were walking to the train station and we said we didn’t want to swing together, we wanted to just bedn together, even though we met on here, I just found myself wanting him all to myself and vice versa, we were very happy with that.

But over time our relationship has changed, while I don’t want to shag another man, I want to shag another woman and I want him to shag another woman but only with me there, I think we needed that time to discover what we both wanted and get to know each other properly first and then introduce the swing side to our relationship, instead of going head first into it, we wanted to be solid first as a couple and we did have a few problems early last year but through those issues we both talked at length about what we both wanted now and I have to say we are stronger and happier than ever, so my advice is if you do find someone off here, get to know them first, talk lots and then decide what you both want, talking is key because you are being honest with each other and that is probably the greatest thing ever, is honesty.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I posted in the dating thread I wasn’t really expecting anything to come off it, just a nice date that didn’t involve sex, I had met a few men for dates from other sites but they didn’t work out as a relationship, not because I was a swinger but they just wasn’t the right man for me (and I also had a very controlling ex husband that was still controlling me at that point).

Geeky x"

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

If might not be here but somewhere my cock of an ex met his missus on tinder for goodnesssake! Lots of people have met here so it’s not actually that rare it’s just finding that person, I mean if you were just a regular user of fab and not come in the forums you wouldn’t have that platform to meet people with the same intention as yourself, in the forums you do x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Geeky x"

You my sweet have found what so many of us are looking for. You both sound lovely, like you I had a bad ex and trust will be my biggest issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

So very glad I posted, great input thank you

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By *icearmsMan over a year ago

KIDLINGTON

Been a very interesting thread... glad I've followed it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Been a very interesting thread... glad I've followed it. "

I’m glad you did as well

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Could of written this myself. It seems that as soon as i want one thing (relationship or FB), i only ever end up with a guy who wants the opposite.

Sometimes I think maybe im trying too hard - but how else do you meet people these days! I honestly want to give up. But I'm lonely

Me too

But not lonely enough to just meet for sex as that would make me feel worse.

It’s very hard I know, wish I had the answer.

If you figure it out, let me know!!

I never met anyone who ticked even half the boxes in the dating world...

Yes sadly that's my experience too, though we live in hope lol!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

Sometimes that phrase is true though, I had given up hope then he pops up but I think it’s quite rare.

Do you get out socially? And try old school ways off meeting people? Sadly where I used to live I was always ‘the sad old fat bird’ that men wouldn’t look at me at the start of the night and then by the end the old beer goggles came on and I was attractive, living in a small village didn’t help me meeting people the old way, so internet was perfect for me to reach a ‘wider audience’ but I also have to say, Ads and I lived 50 miles apart at the start so it was a mission for the first 8 months of our relationship and sadly one of us had to give up our lives in order for us to be together x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

Sometimes that phrase is true though, I had given up hope then he pops up but I think it’s quite rare.

But i think you get to a stage where you're never not looking, or is that just me?

No i rarely go out. I have a young child and just 1 friend, who isn't local. Hence why i go to the swing clubs really, as it gets me out.. and I dont mind going alone. Its an anxious kinda night, but i know people aren't going to care too much about my personality there (as tragic as that sounds), so it's almost less pressure.

I agree the internet widens the potential, and im more than ok with that - for the right guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

Sometimes that phrase is true though, I had given up hope then he pops up but I think it’s quite rare.

Your story has made me smile, thank you for sharing.

Half my issue is not getting out, school run and home and at weekends when he’s at dads I hibernate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

Sometimes that phrase is true though, I had given up hope then he pops up but I think it’s quite rare.

But i think you get to a stage where you're never not looking, or is that just me?

I agree the internet widens the potential, and im more than ok with that - for the right guy. "

Maybe your right maybe subconsciously we are all looking when we are single, it’s very hard to find that someone but sometimes they pop up when you least expect it but I am a big believer in fate etc and Ads and I paths have crossed in a manor of speaking so many times that something pulled us together x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Geeky x

I love this

See, hope is out there!!

..somewhere

Yeah i guess so!

I've returned to Tinder, but have little faith. I won't return to Pof due to an issue i had to take to the police.

I honestly don't want to be faced with paying for internet dating, ffs.

Sick to the back teeth of hearing *the right one will come along when you stop looking*

Sometimes that phrase is true though, I had given up hope then he pops up but I think it’s quite rare.

But i think you get to a stage where you're never not looking, or is that just me?

I agree the internet widens the potential, and im more than ok with that - for the right guy.

You sound so perfect for each other

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By *eady and Willing 9Man over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck.

Lots of men say they would love to find a swinging partner. Have you put that on your profile in the past, and had no luck ?

To be honest I’ve added to my profile and deleted.

Let’s be honest the men do not as a rule read profiles lol."

So you want to find a guy to swing with and be in a relationship,but you've deleted it off your profile because men don't read them? Lol. Are you being serious,this is an very early April fools yeah?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck.

Lots of men say they would love to find a swinging partner. Have you put that on your profile in the past, and had no luck ?

To be honest I’ve added to my profile and deleted.

Let’s be honest the men do not as a rule read profiles lol.

So you want to find a guy to swing with and be in a relationship,but you've deleted it off your profile because men don't read them? Lol. Are you being serious,this is an very early April fools yeah?

Come on you have to be a mind reader

It was yes and I did delete yes because I got too many men telling me to leave and use a dating site etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What a fascinating thread and quite an insight into human sexuality in terms of female and male sexual strategies.

As soon as you put the title 'dating' into the equation the thread becomes dominated by the female with very few comments from men.

I was once at a party with a single fem who told me that she found fab addictive because she regularly got mail. In the 'normal' dating world she put far more effort into her profile, bio and photos and she hardly got any mail at all - and this was on the so called premium sites too.

I suspect there are quite a few women on here that secretly hope to find Mr Right hence the many, many comments re 'not putting up with sub standard' in this thread.

It's also supply and demand. There are many, many guys on here and relatively speaking the ladies are in short supply. So, they can be very direct, specific and almost rude in their communication, profile text and still get mailed, a lot! Scarcity creates value.

At the end of the day we're all driven by our evolutionary heritage and biology.

Eggs are precious and have a shelf life. Sperm is cheap, plentiful and ready to go pretty much any time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What a fascinating thread and quite an insight into human sexuality in terms of female and male sexual strategies.

As soon as you put the title 'dating' into the equation the thread becomes dominated by the female with very few comments from men.

I suspect there are quite a few women on here that secretly hope to find Mr Right hence the many, many comments re 'not putting up with sub standard' in this thread.

At the end of the day we're all driven by our evolutionary heritage and biology.

Eggs are precious and have a shelf life. Sperm is cheap, plentiful and ready to go pretty much any time."

Interesting reply, thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What a fascinating thread and quite an insight into human sexuality in terms of female and male sexual strategies.

As soon as you put the title 'dating' into the equation the thread becomes dominated by the female with very few comments from men.

I suspect there are quite a few women on here that secretly hope to find Mr Right hence the many, many comments re 'not putting up with sub standard' in this thread.

At the end of the day we're all driven by our evolutionary heritage and biology.

Eggs are precious and have a shelf life. Sperm is cheap, plentiful and ready to go pretty much any time."

Interesting points

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Badonkadonk, if I may say, your profile is a case in point.

It is very, very direct and almost projects an exasperation with the calibre and quantity of mail you receive. You could probably be far ruder and still receive loads of mail.

Even the most sexually liberated and free thinking heterosuxual ladies are hypergamous and seek quality and perceived good mating indicators over sheer numbers.

The sheer plentiful supply of sperm a guy possesses means our strategy is the opposite.

Women need the attention to filter the good from the bad - as they see it. Men just need to get their genes, via sperm, out there.

How mating male profiles do you see with 'just chatting, not meeting' displayed?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Badonkadonk, if I may say, your profile is a case in point.

It is very, very direct and almost projects an exasperation with the calibre and quantity of mail you receive. You could probably be far ruder and still receive loads of mail.

Even the most sexually liberated and free thinking heterosuxual ladies are hypergamous and seek quality and perceived good mating indicators over sheer numbers.

The sheer plentiful supply of sperm a guy possesses means our strategy is the opposite.

Women need the attention to filter the good from the bad - as they see it. Men just need to get their genes, via sperm, out there.

How mating male profiles do you see with 'just chatting, not meeting' displayed?"

Absolutely. It is fair warning. Although probably precisely why i attract the have-a-go-hero-super-dickhead-types.

Meh.

Im at a loss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For starters, men are visual creatures. Our mating indicators are acquired through our eyes - fertility via youth and physical beauty.

Yes, the profile will be read and ignored mostly. Ever get the feeling your profile just has not been read at all? Or someone says they didn't think what you said you wanted was that important anyway?

Why do men display so many cock pics? Because we mistakenly think women are like us, namely visual and would want to see that.

Also look at the profiles of ladies on here. There is generally far more emphasis on 'connection' and 'social' and not being here for just a fuck. Also the relationship status of the men is more important to the women. No 'players' no cheats no married men - usually.

But, come on, most of the desirable and high calibre guys on here are attached or married. Hell, quite a few on dating sites are too.

Dating site analysis for POF and OK cupid revealed a statistical anomaly. Women considered 80% of men on these sites to be less than average in terms of suitability - which is in itself a mathematical nonsense.

Guys however rated women more consistently with a correct mathematical average.

All very interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"For starters, men are visual creatures. Our mating indicators are acquired through our eyes - fertility via youth and physical beauty.

Why do men display so many cock pics? Because we mistakenly think women are like us, namely visual and would want to see that.

But, come on, most of the desirable and high calibre guys on here are attached or married. Hell, quite a few on dating sites are too.

Guys however rated women more consistently with a correct mathematical average.

All very interesting."

You sir are interesting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now that is indeed a compliment.

I find topics such as this very, very interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Now that is indeed a compliment.

I find topics such as this very, very interesting."

You're very knowledgeable I'll give you that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you very much. The dance that is man meets woman is so fascinating.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I just can help but wonder how often the "one" is right in frout of us within our everyday lifes but we dont notice due to having our eyes and minds focused on our phones and the world within it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I just can help but wonder how often the "one" is right in frout of us within our everyday lifes but we dont notice due to having our eyes and minds focused on our phones and the world within it.

Yes a valid point, how often do we look up and really see

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The dating world terrifies me. Whilst I'm not against a relationship it isn't going to be conventional. I KNOW I will never live with someone or get married again. I wouldn't even want to see them all the time. But I would want them to be exclusive to me. Which I'm not sure is entirely fair for me to ask. I would also be worried about getting to know someone and finding out we aren't sexually compatible (like my marriage was) .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The 'one' is something of a myth. There are many people in the world that we would have areas of compatibility with to varying degrees.

There is no one perfect fit. The best relationships tend to be when the trade-off is negotiated and understood the best. Doesn't matter who it is. When the love hormones die down, and they always do, what you're left with a good compromise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The dating world terrifies me. Whilst I'm not against a relationship it isn't going to be conventional. I KNOW I will never live with someone or get married again. I wouldn't even want to see them all the time. But I would want them to be exclusive to me. Which I'm not sure is entirely fair for me to ask. I would also be worried about getting to know someone and finding out we aren't sexually compatible (like my marriage was) . "

It seems a lot of us feel the same way, very sad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's quite a list. Be prepared to be disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This site allows us to explore, play and experiment. For me though, and as I state in my profile, there is nothing like 1-2-1 sensual sex, love making, cuddling, spooning, caressing, kissing and total exclusivity with a partner. God do I miss that.

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By *uncouple3030Couple over a year ago

Belfast:Dublin

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

Couldn't agree more!

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know how you feel OP, both dating websites and here feel like they don’t meet what I’m looking for! Can’t work out if I’m just too fussy!

Couldn't agree more!

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls. "

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Omg I’ve read this with fascination. I planned to start dating this year and now think I shouldn’t bother. I feel like you op and don’t really know the answer either. I really do hope you find love x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread."

Id rather be alone that settle for someone I don’t love

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's quite a list. Be prepared to be disappointed."

Story of my life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread.

Id rather be alone that settle for someone I don’t love "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

Happy new year everyone

Have you tried first dates? They never had a swinger on the show and I’m sure there is market for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm still nursing a broken heart. Nothing the girl did to me, she is a wonderful person, I just wasn't what she needed. But I was crazy about her, so I'm trying to move forward as I know she'll never come back to me. I'm just wondering is getting back into the dating game at this stage a good idea? We broke up in early November and we were together for 10 months.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm still nursing a broken heart. Nothing the girl did to me, she is a wonderful person, I just wasn't what she needed. But I was crazy about her, so I'm trying to move forward as I know she'll never come back to me. I'm just wondering is getting back into the dating game at this stage a good idea? We broke up in early November and we were together for 10 months."

Well I personally think it may put potential ladies off if they know you’re still hung up on someone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread.

Id rather be alone that settle for someone I don’t love "

I agree with that. However, the longer the list of 'requirements' the more likely that being alone is the outcome. The extent to which that is acceptable can also vary over time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not so much hung up, I accepted we may never even speak again.

I just can't switch off feelings like a switch. But I'm trying to move past them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You WILL be fine. The best thing you can do right now is read 'The Rational Male' by Rollo Tomassi. It will open your eyes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread.

Id rather be alone that settle for someone I don’t love

I agree with that. However, the longer the list of 'requirements' the more likely that being alone is the outcome. The extent to which that is acceptable can also vary over time."

I don’t think I have a long list of requirements

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being fussy girls.

Agreed, but then you can't complain when your standards result in remaining alone. If you are ok with that, fine. However, that's not the vibe I pick up in the thread.

Id rather be alone that settle for someone I don’t love

I agree with that. However, the longer the list of 'requirements' the more likely that being alone is the outcome. The extent to which that is acceptable can also vary over time.

I don’t think I have a long list of requirements "

I never said that you personally did. It's a theme on the thread. It's also hard to convey the list on a hidden profile.

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By * poison xWoman over a year ago

Aberdeen

"Omg I’ve read this with fascination. I planned to start dating this year and now think I shouldn’t bother. I feel like you op and don’t really know the answer either. I really do hope you find love x"

Absolutely!

I joined a few sites last year and lasted a couple of weeks... Only so much time to sift through the inbox deleting messages from people who clearly never read the profile.

After a solo festive period I was tempted to rejoin... Think I'll leave it a while longer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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I had a similar experience, the lady I was seeing at the time of our friendly end to what we had suggested Fab. I have tried the "vanilla" dating sites and was fed up of no replies for a divorced single father raising children. I some how found a site where I could look for the occasional connection. Some meets turned into fwb status but then fizzled out due to the fact I returned to work full time and couldn't get the time off to maintain them. So things moved on I become more work controlled with just the weekends free to see my children and be a dad. All the time looking for the elusive partner. I met one woman who was an hours drive away and then spent time with her at weekend's (children late teens by this time). I never seemed to be able to strike the balance I was looking for. So after another argument I left and left Fab and fb after being trolled. Now I'm back looking for a fwb as I'm back at work and only free at weekends.

As most of the profiles I read state won't meet smokers and not looking for single guys for the genuine ones like myself I feel like I'm in the same place. Vanilla don't cut it anymore and Fab isn't quite there. I go to the clubs on my profile just to get out and socialise if anything happens while I'm there its a bonus.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple over a year ago

East Mids

I met my wife to be on fab! It will happen stop looking and enjoy life...... it will happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Other than the few exceptions I think trying to find a relationship on here is a recipe for disaster!

Online dating/ hook ups/ swinging etc .. is so superficial.

Most people come on here to escape their daily lives and want a bit of a thrill.

Most don't want this to be their life - we all have a life outside of Fab that consists of all the boring stuff that is necessary for us to survive.

The people in here don't want a part of that ...

It's escapism.

I'd love to meet someone - but like many on this thread I don't think a conventional relationship would work anymore

I don't want to live with anyone or be involved with their kids or exes or families ( shudder

)

But I'd love someone to go out with, share holidays and special occasions with - have decent sex with.

But it seems it's all or nothing - and the majority of desirable " single men" on here already have a wife or partner to share thise things with - they're just here to get their dick wet.

It's depressing.

Pof and other sites like it are full of all the same people.

But I live in hope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This place isn't for me, but, there are lots of people that do pull me towards them, and there attitude and character helps form new friendships that help get through a day/week and the journey of our lives.

I think it's odd that anyone would I intentionally look for a relationship on here (after all what we understand swinging to be), but you might find anything anywhere, and l...l.., (the l word) pops up anywhere. Good luck to those looking for it.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"I long to have what I had with my x, which was love and romance, but also a total understanding of what made each other tick because we shared the same passion. So I would love to date someone with the same kink as me."

I thought I had this. I thought we were perfect for each other but he thought otherwise I guess lol I still think we are in a lot of ways but so much has gone on between us and not all of it good.

Be careful what you wish for. Sometimes relationships formed here can work (and there have been a few weddings I've seen happen here) but sometimes it can lead to heartache.

Having said that, dating on non swinging sites can lead to issues as well.... When do you tell them about this side of you for example?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I thought I had this. I thought we were perfect for each other but he thought otherwise I guess lol I still think we are in a lot of ways but so much has gone on between us and not all of it good.

Never go back x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

I thought I had this. I thought we were perfect for each other but he thought otherwise I guess lol I still think we are in a lot of ways but so much has gone on between us and not all of it good.

Never go back x "

I know sweetheart x x x

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

"Other than the few exceptions I think trying to find a relationship on here is a recipe for disaster!

Online dating/ hook ups/ swinging etc .. is so superficial.

Most people come on here to escape their daily lives and want a bit of a thrill.

Most don't want this to be their life - we all have a life outside of Fab that consists of all the boring stuff that is necessary for us to survive.

The people in here don't want a part of that ...

It's escapism.

I'd love to meet someone - but like many on this thread I don't think a conventional relationship would work anymore

I don't want to live with anyone or be involved with their kids or exes or families ( shudder

)

But I'd love someone to go out with, share holidays and special occasions with - have decent sex with.

But it seems it's all or nothing - and the majority of desirable " single men" on here already have a wife or partner to share thise things with - they're just here to get their dick wet.

It's depressing.

Pof and other sites like it are full of all the same people.

But I live in hope

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I think it’s good and also reassuring that many of us feel the same way about ‘dating’ and the need (craving?) for something in between dating sites and fab.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Why should it be? If the intent pool consists of a far higher percentage of the men who cannot sustain or don't want a relationship in the real world, then women, who are more concerned with character and intent, will reflect that.

Marriages break down for many reasons so it seems entirely logical to me that women on dating sites will be statistically average in terms of looks, which is the main criteria of men solely after sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it’s good and also reassuring that many of us feel the same way about ‘dating’ and the need (craving?) for something in between dating sites and fab. "

It’s quite sad though isn’t it that we all feel the same yet can’t find what we want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'Dating'

*shudders

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I think it’s good and also reassuring that many of us feel the same way about ‘dating’ and the need (craving?) for something in between dating sites and fab.

It’s quite sad though isn’t it that we all feel the same yet can’t find what we want

Sad? It's bloody annoying! lol Still, this thread has been an eye opener

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Having joined a few dating sites I must say I’m running back to Fab wondering if I’m going to be single forever.

The vanilla world isn’t for me, and Fab isn’t quite right for me so what do I do.

I have some lovely friends on here so it’s totally worth staying here and hoping I find someone who wants similar to me.

Or I give up and I’m not ready for that yet.

It’s all rather depressing.

I agree with you having the same

Happy new year everyone

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By *ardiffCoupleNJCouple over a year ago

Pontypridd/Rhyfelin

"Why isn't Fab quite right for you ? What do you seek that is not on here ?

I guess having been in a relationship for 33 years I’m only used to one man.

I would love a kinky one on one man and then play as a couple. However going from one guy to the next just isn’t me.

But nor is the vanilla world.

So I feel stuck."

Same as you....after 33 years of marriage, didn't want endless meets with opposite sex but wanted something a bit more kinky. Cut a long story short, met someone in the vanilla world who has turned out to be just that person....and we just love good clean swinging fun....together!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think its better to get out meeting people face to face .Doing different things maybe Dance clubs eating clubs there is loads of different clubs out there Where you meet different people and lots meet like that. I don't think dating sites and sites like this are the only way as you just never know when you may meet the right person. I think its good to get off the net and in the real world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to have to date. Why can't i just walk into Asda and spy a hottie in the bread aisle, our eyes meeting as we squish the loaves for freshness, our eyebrows raise as we realise we're mutually compatible.

All the faff of going on dating sites, getting despondent as nobody seems to be looking for romance, just "fun", feeling a bit alarmed that you don't fancy anyone in your age range, (mostly because they are lying about their true age and are probably at least 10 years older!), the endless dates, having to make chit chat or appear exciting, vivacious, immense fun to be around blah blah when you're none of those things.

It's just a drag!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's guys on pof that message saying I'm on here and there's guys here saying they've seen me on pof.

I don't think this is the place to find anything other than an NSA fuck. Yes people have gone on to meet someone and have a relationship but they're still here in a swinging relationship which isn't something I'd want. I want a guy that only wants to fuck me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't want to have to date. Why can't i just walk into Asda and spy a hottie in the bread aisle, our eyes meeting as we squish the loaves for freshness, our eyebrows raise as we realise we're mutually compatible.

It's just a drag!!

I actually agree x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Amazing to wake up to see the thread still going.

I have had many messages from both men and woman to say thank you for starting the thread.

It’s been a total eye opener that’s for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interesting thread!

I have never been on any dating sites. This is the only site I am on. Have made some really good friendships that go beyond sex/swinging, but still single.

You just never know what could happen...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Interesting thread!

I have never been on any dating sites. This is the only site I am on. Have made some really good friendships that go beyond sex/swinging, but still single.

You just never know what could happen..."

I have tried a few but find the men not very honest about intentions. And so many lie about their age, just leaves me not feeling I can trust anything I read.

I too have found good friends on here but they are just friends.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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You WILL be fine. The best thing you can do right now is read 'The Rational Male' by Rollo Tomassi. It will open your eyes."

I checked out a few (male) reviews on Amazon:

" It's a book that promotes unhealthy relationships. It never talks about a healthy relationship with yourself. It only talks about how you can use the external world of women to boost your ego to a point where you can feel secure in your skin.

It doesn't teach you a thing or two about becoming a healthy human being.....

This book is so bad in that it tells you to go and get all the women so that you finally may think you're enough. That you may finally feel 'alpha'. Yet In that journey there is only strife. It's a place where women will not feel safe around you, nor men. Nor will you ever feel safe around them, because it's a single winners game, which means everyone else is a loser. And lest you want to be in the loser group you always have to be on edge.

A book like this basicly keeps you in a forever loop trying to fill that void by covering it up with layers of tricks and manipulations. External world adaptations for your internal problem.

But that's not what eventually gives anyone a healthy and sustainable relationship........"

"Early into the book, I noticed an overtly pseudo-academic tone with little to no preamble into the areas it was meant to discuss. What I got was a long-winded rant which somehow painted women out to be almost a conspiratory group leading men by the nose (completely ignoring the fact that women has had a subordinate position in pretty much any country throughout a great deal of our history), while somehow managing to excuse the men as helpless victims of their libido. "

Nah, don't think I'll bother!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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I am sure not. I do worry about the increasing trend towards people wanting the benefits of a relationship (such as fidelity and loyalty) without any of the responsibilities or commitments. I think the two are inseparable and whilst I wish you luck in finding what you want, I don't think it is necessarily healthy to want that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Frisky you crack me up

Men that are "players" or wannabes are one of the reasons why women on dating websites are so distrustful.

Well I won't speak for all women ... I'm distrustful.

I'm under no illusion that any man on here would give up having the chance to shag multiple women would want to be monogamous with me

And I'm not sure I want a swinging relationship.

I don't know - I want what we all want - an honest relationship where we don't play games.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

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Frisky you crack me up

Men that are "players" or wannabes are one of the reasons why women on dating websites are so distrustful.

Well I won't speak for all women ... I'm distrustful.

I'm under no illusion that any man on here would give up having the chance to shag multiple women would want to be monogamous with me

And I'm not sure I want a swinging relationship.

I don't know - I want what we all want - an honest relationship where we don't play games."

You and me both. But don't sell yourself short - there are men on here who would rather be in a monogamous relationship with someone exactly like you!! They are a minority and they tend not to stay on the site long, but they are here - here, there and everywhere.

I didn't come here looking for a relationship, same as I don't go to my local supermarket, or a gig, or a dance looking for one.

But hey, hope springs eternal!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I’ve had a little abuse, men staring woman like me shouldn’t be on here.

Gee thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve had a little abuse, men staring woman like me shouldn’t be on here.

Gee thanks

Stating.. sorry I didn’t check before posting

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I’ve had a little abuse, men staring woman like me shouldn’t be on here.

Gee thanks

Ah ignore em, idiots!

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