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"friendship" ???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok so when wanting to MEET anyone., i prefer to develop a "friendship" .
Wanting to get to know the other and hopefully learning a little about them in order to have a NICE time laters
Am i strange or wot ?
cant just meet and shag !
But prefer some meaninigful contact, be it sexual preference or having a similar in humour etc
Am i the norm or wot ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok so when wanting to MEET anyone., i prefer to develop a "friendship" .
Wanting to get to know the other and hopefully learning a little about them in order to have a NICE time laters
Am i strange or wot ?
cant just meet and shag !
But prefer some meaninigful contact, be it sexual preference or having a similar in humour etc
Am i the norm or wot ?"
Snap... simples!
If your strange then so are we... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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pretty norm i guess but mayb on the wrong type of site hun, i guess this is more geared for the animalistic. Its full of attitude and arrogance too, guess ul have to decide whether you want to be here, im debating it wiv myself too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"pretty norm i guess but mayb on the wrong type of site hun, i guess this is more geared for the animalistic. Its full of attitude and arrogance too, guess ul have to decide whether you want to be here, im debating it wiv myself too. "
I dont mind the "animilistic"
but when im ok with someone, cant do it "on tap" so to speak.
but yerrrrrr
on right site babes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"pretty norm i guess but mayb on the wrong type of site hun, i guess this is more geared for the animalistic. Its full of attitude and arrogance too, guess ul have to decide whether you want to be here, im debating it wiv myself too. "
Actually mate i aint normally one to have a go but i must say your attitude is bang out of order if you dont like the site go find another one and take your petty gripes with ya x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone I met from here is one of my best friends now, I don't anticipate every woman I meet being like that, but you do, I at least I do, need to have some sort of connection, otherwise you might as well just go on the pull in a bar. |
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By *im53Man
over a year ago
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"pretty norm i guess but mayb on the wrong type of site hun, i guess this is more geared for the animalistic. Its full of attitude and arrogance too, guess ul have to decide whether you want to be here, im debating it wiv myself too. "
with the right attitude you will find this the best sites going
you are doing your self no favours so far |
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"Someone I met from here is one of my best friends now, I don't anticipate every woman I meet being like that, but you do, I at least I do, need to have some sort of connection, otherwise you might as well just go on the pull in a bar."
I agree if you want a quick shag go and pull in a bar.
You make some good friends on here male and female
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok mr "oldgit", have you read some of these profiles man, jeez,i dont wanna meet that sort of person!!??  "
seeing as it you with the issue getting meets, i think you will find its people not wanting to meet your kind, did u have to drug your two meets? |
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By *im53Man
over a year ago
Boldon |
"ok mr "oldgit", have you read some of these profiles man, jeez,i dont wanna meet that sort of person!!?? "
ok mr super catch I have read and met a lot more than you,
and had loads of fun and formed friendships on here
we wont change, but i bet you do if you want to meet some one |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"Ok so when wanting to MEET anyone., i prefer to develop a "friendship" .
Wanting to get to know the other and hopefully learning a little about them in order to have a NICE time laters
Am i strange or wot ?
cant just meet and shag !
But prefer some meaninigful contact, be it sexual preference or having a similar in humour etc
Am i the norm or wot ?"
exactly the same for us too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i can accept that hun, many are to lazy to start with.  "
Ok now you have caused uproar in the forums,what is it that you expect exactly from this site and some of us that have been here a long time may be able to give you some decent advice
if you just came on here to insult and moan then you won't do yourself any favours and you won't make any friends out of the people that use the forums |
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i think for some people swinging offers the opportunity for sex without having to do the friendship bit as well...some really get off on the stranger thing
and for others the social / friendship aspect is more important and getting to know playmates adds an extra dimension to the sex .
there's room for both types ( tho they are unlikely to play together ) but what there's less room for are the nasty comments seen here
each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah i guess i am dude, this post started with waht i thought was a genuine question, but atfer a couple posts, she did a 360. Everyones entitled to an opinion, kitkat, grow up.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah i guess i am dude, this post started with waht i thought was a genuine question, but atfer a couple posts, she did a 360. Everyones entitled to an opinion, kitkat, grow up. "
ok limp dick |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone I met from here is one of my best friends now, I don't anticipate every woman I meet being like that, but you do, I at least I do, need to have some sort of connection, otherwise you might as well just go on the pull in a bar."
yer aint met me yet but your me mate |
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"sprite r u one of his two meets??? LOLOLLxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx  "
nope and not defending him either ..hence the comment about nasty comments not being needed. I do think some people meet n shag and others prefer friendship thats all x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally agree with you, friendship aswell as sex, love the sex but so much better when you have a rapport, some passion and able to have a decent conversation, have some laughs ,and depending on what kind of sex your about to have, at least some trust lol. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think its great that you can form friendships and then possible have sex! Regardless what site your on there isnt one you dont talk to the other person and get to know or how else would you meet???  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What i said was ...
i prefer to meet on a more personal level. and get to know someone.
I think good sex comes from forming some sort of connection myself.
Tho i dont rule out instantanious quickie sex if thats what happens or otherwise
As for making "friends"
thats a bonus
and yes, this is the right site though reading your comments "sausage"...
It maybe not yours ?????
who knows eh ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have friends on ere that im never gonna meet cos of the distance but we chat regular in chatrooms and msn...so its not always bout sex...
but i dont think ur doing yourself any favours by being so negative, people will pick up on that and steer clear, and your not helping the rest of genuine single guys, people will think they all the same...
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"Ok so when wanting to MEET anyone., i prefer to develop a "friendship" .
Wanting to get to know the other and hopefully learning a little about them in order to have a NICE time laters
Am i strange or wot ?
cant just meet and shag !
But prefer some meaninigful contact, be it sexual preference or having a similar in humour etc
Am i the norm or wot ?"
I think you are right. Much better to get to know them a bit first online or have nothing to say. Also getting to know them online you can see if you like them as person and not just somebody to fuck. You can't just go by somebodies photo. If you do when you meet them they be horrible as a person, full of themselves etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok so when wanting to MEET anyone., i prefer to develop a "friendship" .
Wanting to get to know the other and hopefully learning a little about them in order to have a NICE time laters
Am i strange or wot ?
cant just meet and shag !
But prefer some meaninigful contact, be it sexual preference or having a similar in humour etc
Am i the norm or wot ?"
I could not agree more. I have to get to know the person first. I once met a guy because he looked hot in his profile pic. I met him and he was sexy but an absolute dick. No personality and loved himself. I made my excuses and left the pub after about 30 mintues. I am not shallow. I go for more than looks. Sure I like hot guys but give me an ordinary guy with a personality over a hot guy without a personality anyday. Swinging it not just about sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"pretty norm i guess but mayb on the wrong type of site hun, i guess this is more geared for the animalistic. Its full of attitude and arrogance too, guess ul have to decide whether you want to be here, im debating it wiv myself too. "
YOU are on the wrong site. I also prefer to get to know they guy first. Yes I like sex and swinging but I am not a piece of meat. |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
Okay, my take:
I joined (like most people) to explore sexual adventures with others (I for one have NEVER believed anyone that said "I became a swinger to make new friends" as I believe you don't have to be a swinger to make friends) but in the process found friends among the people I've met (both played and not played with (reasons irrelevant).
Now some prefer "friendship first", depending what each person defines as friendships (some prefer the swinging without involving their personal or private lives, whilst some don't appreciate propositions if you haven't asked how their kids and Aunt Bessie are doing) and what durations these can take (some prefer to develop things over a month.. some you're still meeting up with regularly for coffee whilst developing the friendship - yet a year later you still haven't "progressed to play")
I don't think the debate of "Friendship or Fuck First" is a clear cut one, it depends with each person. I appreciate the friendships, but I'm still primarily here to play. I enjoy the social aspect (I hate saying "social side" - since when did swinging have a "side" and how many "sides" are there?) however I'd hate for anyone to think "as long as he's socialising he;s happy", yet I don't want to give the impression "if he ain't fucking, he ain't happy".
For me its about striking the balance on a person by person basis. Its hard ('scuse the pun) to play with a stranger, but that doesn't mean I need ot know their life history in order to play with them. In a club or party for instance, a name where from, playing experience and general turn-ons are usually enough to know if there's potential for more (either there, or note the number/email for future contact) but its not set in stone.
Just my thoughts, sorry for waffling. |
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