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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks"
yes suppose it is ,some say jealousy is a wasted emotion but in this life its very real ,did he leave you or did you throw him out ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex husband has the kids (if anyone would like to know the ins and outs please pm me, no big reason lol) and I have them every other weekend and Ads has his kids the other weekends.
I don’t think my not being there has made him more chained to the house if anything his social life has just got better now I’m not around it seems, he’s out every weekend, I doubt he thinks I’m swanning about living the life of Riley while he has them (they are all teenagers) during the week because as I say he social life has improved ten fold lol.
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks"
You haven't moved on properly if you are jealous of him for any reason I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks
You haven't moved on properly if you are jealous of him for any reason I think."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x"
Wise words |
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x"
^ Nail on head !! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x"
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case"
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
Mr2 "
He went to Australia |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
Mr2
He went to Australia "
Oh right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
Mr2
He went to Australia "
So, is that what you are miffed about ?
Or do you want him out of your life but here at traditionally family times 'for the kids' ?
I am not saying that is unreasonable to want that btw
He may have also done one to Oz because that's where he felt he could 'escape' from his shattered life.
Anyway, sorry. None of my business. I'll butt out now. I just feel in a marital breakdown there is always more than one set of emotions to consider. |
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
Mr2
He went to Australia "
So you finished the marriage , and felt lonely .
I see no reason at all for him to be around for you at Christmas .
And the fact that he went to Australia sounds like he has got over things pretty well , which is more than you have . Of course it’s wrong for you to feel jealous of his freedom , but possibly understandable . After all , you are the master of your own destiny , and you created the current situation as I see it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree I think it's the facts he's gone to Oz that's made you feel jealous. You left him remember OP so he's the right to do what he wants with his life exactly like you are doing on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x
Quite possibly but then surely he'd have been around for Christmas if this was the case
He could be waiting for an invite as he may feel that he'd be invading your space if he just turned up.
Mr2
He went to Australia
So, is that what you are miffed about ?
Or do you want him out of your life but here at traditionally family times 'for the kids' ?
I am not saying that is unreasonable to want that btw
He may have also done one to Oz because that's where he felt he could 'escape' from his shattered life.
Anyway, sorry. None of my business. I'll butt out now. I just feel in a marital breakdown there is always more than one set of emotions to consider."
Totally agree with you. No I'm not bothered he's in Oz, I'm bothered the way he went about arranging it all and then when I'd made plans for Christmas and finalised it all he demanded I change it to accommodate his travel plans. I didn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x"
Well put.
I am with my children all week and it's hard doing it all on your own at times, especially when there's no one there to chill out with after a hectic day.
It DOES get easier and I've started to appreciate time on my own. I would like to share this time one day with someone else but for now I'm trying to look at the positives and having tv choice all to myself is actually lovely.
Hope things improve for you soon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here."
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks"
I would think that's a normal feeling to have. But remember, the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.
If it were me I'd be envious the first thing you get to see in the morning is the smiles on your kids faces.
In my opinion, It has nothing to do with you not being over him, as someone stated above. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here."
Really! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks"
No, its a normal emotion, its normal to have emotions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here."
You're so funny  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
Really!"
I wouldn't take any notice of him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all your input. Well most of you anyway
Not feeling quite so woe is me today.
If you're feeling sad, burn some of his stuff. "
I've never hated him, we still get on because of kids, plus there's nothing of his left here.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all your input. Well most of you anyway
Not feeling quite so woe is me today.
If you're feeling sad, burn some of his stuff.
I've never hated him, we still get on because of kids, plus there's nothing of his left here. "
Amicable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all your input. Well most of you anyway
Not feeling quite so woe is me today.
If you're feeling sad, burn some of his stuff.
I've never hated him, we still get on because of kids, plus there's nothing of his left here.
Amicable. "
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I think that since you are the one who ended the relationship that you have no right being pissy with how he now decides to spend his time, if he wants to run off this christmas to escape what is surely now going to be the most difficult time of year for him since you ruined his happiness and destroyed his life and family then you need to keep your selfish shitty opinion to yourself and not give him any shit for it, all that matters now is that he is a decent father to your children, the rest of his life you dont even get an opinion. But also yes its only natural for you to feel this way as you have shared many years with him and had a family together, this will pass in time but move on and allow him to do the same without your crazy jealously getting in the way |
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"You ever considered he could be jealous of your position too ?
There are many guys who appear to be having a great time of it, whereas in actual fact they are putting on a mask of enjoyment to cover up the fact they'd like to be in the comfort of their home enjoying time with their wife & kids
Sorry you felt crap last night
Hope today is brighter for you x"
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks"
I totaly understand how you feel.
I resented my ex for a lot of years after we split, it wasn't a healthy relationship & I was the one to end it.
But being left to raise 3 children, 1 with several physical disabilities, practically single handed, while he went back to a happy single life, wasn't what I'd expected.
It took me a long time to realise that by feeling that way, he was still effectively controlling my life.
And that was a power I wasn't prepared let him continue having.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks
I totaly understand how you feel.
I resented my ex for a lot of years after we split, it wasn't a healthy relationship & I was the one to end it.
But being left to raise 3 children, 1 with several physical disabilities, practically single handed, while he went back to a happy single life, wasn't what I'd expected.
It took me a long time to realise that by feeling that way, he was still effectively controlling my life.
And that was a power I wasn't prepared let him continue having.
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Thank you, that's exactly it. I am not jealous of what he's doing or whom he's doing it with but just the fact that he can without having to think of his responsibilities first.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for."
boring.getta grip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for.
boring.getta grip."
and many happy returns of the year to you too! |
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We feel our emotions and use them to make our unique interpretations and meaning. We're not wrong, we're human. We have choices and can use this emotional prompt and inspiration to pursue our life as we wish to.
Ideally well steer our life to make it more fitting for us and where we wish to steer our life to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for.
boring.getta grip."
Gosh you're cheery aren't you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for.
boring.getta grip.
Gosh you're cheery aren't you"
he's like a little new year sparkly firework isn't he!...happy new year, and this one will be better hun! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here.
there is no need to be so nasty. uncalled for.
boring.getta grip.
Gosh you're cheery aren't you
he's like a little new year sparkly firework isn't he!...happy new year, and this one will be better hun!"
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't feed the troll 
You have every right to feel how you're feeling OP.
You're the one stuck with kids while he gets to live the life of a single man!
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Stuck with the kids?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't feed the troll
You have every right to feel how you're feeling OP.
You're the one stuck with kids while he gets to live the life of a single man!
Stuck with the kids? "
Yep!
Kids suck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't feed the troll
You have every right to feel how you're feeling OP.
You're the one stuck with kids while he gets to live the life of a single man!
Stuck with the kids?
Yep!
Kids suck "
Adults suck a lot more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't feed the troll
You have every right to feel how you're feeling OP.
You're the one stuck with kids while he gets to live the life of a single man!
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Did he choose to be a single man? Do you think he'll be enjoying being a part time dad? Sorry you feel like that op but you made your bed now you need to lie in it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it wrong that I feel jealous over my ex husbands freedom, as in generally being able to live like he's no responsibilities?
and yes sadly this is a woe is me thread, sorry folks
I totaly understand how you feel.
I resented my ex for a lot of years after we split, it wasn't a healthy relationship & I was the one to end it.
But being left to raise 3 children, 1 with several physical disabilities, practically single handed, while he went back to a happy single life, wasn't what I'd expected.
It took me a long time to realise that by feeling that way, he was still effectively controlling my life.
And that was a power I wasn't prepared let him continue having.
Thank you, that's exactly it. I am not jealous of what he's doing or whom he's doing it with but just the fact that he can without having to think of his responsibilities first.
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Does he share childcare the rest of the time? The kids will see how he is when they grow up. |
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Some of these comments are shocking...
Us mere outsiders have no idea what their relationship was like, so the whole "you dumped him so everything is your fault" attitude is really uncalled for.
O.P, you are entitled to your own feelings, especially if he's not pulling his weight with his share of responsibilities. x |
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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago
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"get on with looking after kids instead of maudlin on here.
your decision.
your problem.
i hope your ex finds a decent woman as he'll not find one on here."
excuse me. There are plenty of decent Women on here OP being one of them you don't know her story so no need to be rude !! |
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