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over a year ago
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Well well, I joined this site to become more confident with women. A little about me i was a virgin up until 20, i was shy and not very talkative.only slept with 2 people so far 3rd invluding this women. Well i met a women on here double my age around 40 41 she was amazing a bit shy at first but then opened up in bed to a whole different women which i loved ofcourse lol...Surprisingly i was the more confident one when talking to her and she told me about her past i believe she is a strong and courages women. Well after that meet i put up a meet sign as i was horny as usual, young blood lol didn't get no luck finding anyone though thats me and my luck...well she messaged me saying she doesnt want to see me anymore as im looking for other women...i felt really bad and understood where she was coming from and i hate to see any women upset...i value women they are an amazing creation ( a bit crazy at times) but are we not all lol. I feel really bad i am a positive person. So is that my fault or is it one of those get hit and go agian im not sure would love to here your opnion on this would help me for the future. Mind any spelling mistakes my first forum so it might be a bit cringy lol hopefully looking to do more with good or bad experience. Xox |
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"Well then say goodbye to her and wish her well. No-one can dictate to you who you see unless you've both agreed otherwise."
Yeah i have wished her luck for the future and hope she finds someone better than me and someone who is loyal. I agreed meeting her again but not that i won't see other women. I joined this site for the vety reason dont think im ready for a relationship. Thanks for the reply xx |
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"Well then say goodbye to her and wish her well. No-one can dictate to you who you see unless you've both agreed otherwise.
Yeah i have wished her luck for the future and hope she finds someone better than me and someone who is loyal. I agreed meeting her again but not that i won't see other women. I joined this site for the vety reason dont think im ready for a relationship. Thanks for the reply xx"
It's not a case of her finding someone better than you,you both have different need's thats all. |
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You've done nothing wrong. Your on a swinging site for hookups this women is in her 40's and I'm sure is a women of the world. If she wants to meet then get funny about you meeting others then perhaps she should be on a dating site instead. Carry on mi ol mucka! Smash and dash!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol"
Mate your 25. Don't take on more than you can chew lol run for the hills and enjoy the meet ups! |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol"
It sounds to me like she's in the wrong place and can't expect guys on here looking for NSA sex to be exclusive. You've done nothing wrong, don't feel bad. Say sorry you're not looking for the same things and wish her well. |
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"Well well, I joined this site to become more confident with women. A little about me i was a virgin up until 20, i was shy and not very talkative.only slept with 2 people so far 3rd invluding this women. Well i met a women on here double my age around 40 41 she was amazing a bit shy at first but then opened up in bed to a whole different women which i loved ofcourse lol...Surprisingly i was the more confident one when talking to her and she told me about her past i believe she is a strong and courages women. Well after that meet i put up a meet sign as i was horny as usual, young blood lol didn't get no luck finding anyone though thats me and my luck...well she messaged me saying she doesnt want to see me anymore as im looking for other women...i felt really bad and understood where she was coming from and i hate to see any women upset...i value women they are an amazing creation ( a bit crazy at times) but are we not all lol. I feel really bad i am a positive person. So is that my fault or is it one of those get hit and go agian im not sure would love to here your opnion on this would help me for the future. Mind any spelling mistakes my first forum so it might be a bit cringy lol hopefully looking to do more with good or bad experience. Xox "
Not surprised she's jealous. You're gorgeous but as others have said unless you had an agreement you've done nothing wrong OP. I hope (and I know you will) that you'll find other lucky ladies. Great body!  |
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I'm sorry she been thought It, but remember it's her past to deal with. She has no right to be jealous or possessive with you.
As long as you are decent and respectful with how you let her down I don't see anything wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry she been thought It, but remember it's her past to deal with. She has no right to be jealous or possessive with you.
As long as you are decent and respectful with how you let her down I don't see anything wrong."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well then say goodbye to her and wish her well. No-one can dictate to you who you see unless you've both agreed otherwise.
Yeah i have wished her luck for the future and hope she finds someone better than me and someone who is loyal. I agreed meeting her again but not that i won't see other women. I joined this site for the vety reason dont think im ready for a relationship. Thanks for the reply xx
It's not a case of her finding someone better than you,you both have different need's thats all."
Yes that very true thanks for the advice x |
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Warning bells sounding! You need to be very clear with her that you are not her boyfriend/support. It's often better to just walk away from these situations. |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol
It sounds to me like she's in the wrong place and can't expect guys on here looking for NSA sex to be exclusive. You've done nothing wrong, don't feel bad. Say sorry you're not looking for the same things and wish her well."
Yes thank you very much much appreciated |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Well well, I joined this site to become more confident with women. A little about me i was a virgin up until 20, i was shy and not very talkative.only slept with 2 people so far 3rd invluding this women. Well i met a women on here double my age around 40 41 she was amazing a bit shy at first but then opened up in bed to a whole different women which i loved ofcourse lol...Surprisingly i was the more confident one when talking to her and she told me about her past i believe she is a strong and courages women. Well after that meet i put up a meet sign as i was horny as usual, young blood lol didn't get no luck finding anyone though thats me and my luck...well she messaged me saying she doesnt want to see me anymore as im looking for other women...i felt really bad and understood where she was coming from and i hate to see any women upset...i value women they are an amazing creation ( a bit crazy at times) but are we not all lol. I feel really bad i am a positive person. So is that my fault or is it one of those get hit and go agian im not sure would love to here your opnion on this would help me for the future. Mind any spelling mistakes my first forum so it might be a bit cringy lol hopefully looking to do more with good or bad experience. Xox
Not surprised she's jealous. You're gorgeous but as others have said unless you had an agreement you've done nothing wrong OP. I hope (and I know you will) that you'll find other lucky ladies. Great body! "
Thanks mate much appreciated hahahah |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm sorry she been thought It, but remember it's her past to deal with. She has no right to be jealous or possessive with you.
As long as you are decent and respectful with how you let her down I don't see anything wrong."
Yeah I've been upfront with her and told her just waiting what she has to say thanks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Warning bells sounding! You need to be very clear with her that you are not her boyfriend/support. It's often better to just walk away from these situations."
Im glad you replied thanks for the advice. Will keep it in the future always a new experience |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Welcome to the forum OP . If I were you, I would try not to feel guilty about anything. There was no talk of exclusivity before you put the meet up. This woman should have explained that exclusivity was what she was looking for. You've done nothing wrong at all. You are a young man. It is sad that this woman has had a troubled past, but that is not your cross to bare. You shouldn't feel like you've added to her stresses. As this is a swinging site at the end of the day. If you are not looking to meet up with just one person, saying goodbye is definitely the best option. You are both clearly looking for different things. You seem to have acted respectively, that's all you can do in this situation . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun  "
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun "
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun "
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Welcome to the forum OP . If I were you, I would try not to feel guilty about anything. There was no talk of exclusivity before you put the meet up. This woman should have explained that exclusivity was what she was looking for. You've done nothing wrong at all. You are a young man. It is sad that this woman has had a troubled past, but that is not your cross to bare. You shouldn't feel like you've added to her stresses. As this is a swinging site at the end of the day. If you are not looking to meet up with just one person, saying goodbye is definitely the best option. You are both clearly looking for different things. You seem to have acted respectively, that's all you can do in this situation ."
Thank you...yes never joined this site to be attached to someone it was only play for me no serious stuff. Thanks for the advice much appreciated x |
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"Warning bells sounding! You need to be very clear with her that you are not her boyfriend/support. It's often better to just walk away from these situations.
Im glad you replied thanks for the advice. Will keep it in the future always a new experience "
run and keep running, have no contact with this woman as she'll mess with your head, you're young live life have fun and don't burden yourself with guilt. |
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here."
The problem is probably just because it's a single bloke and new one! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Warning bells sounding! You need to be very clear with her that you are not her boyfriend/support. It's often better to just walk away from these situations.
Im glad you replied thanks for the advice. Will keep it in the future always a new experience
run and keep running, have no contact with this woman as she'll mess with your head, you're young live life have fun and don't burden yourself with guilt."
Thanks for the advice much appreciated hopefully she understands where im coming from aswell |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here.
The problem is probably just because it's a single bloke and new one! "
No comment! 
Btw, OP, keep going and have some fun mate you're already way ahead of most of the guys on here by getting a meet.
Just play gentle and try not to hog all the local ladies to yourself. One word of advice if I may.... the ladies on here really don't like guys that look after their bodies. I'd let yourself go a little and pile on 3 or 4 stone as the ladies love something to grab onto. Limit your baths/showers to once a week as your natural aroma will be a big turn on.
Good luck mate. |
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here.
The problem is probably just because it's a single bloke and new one!
No comment!
Btw, OP, keep going and have some fun mate you're already way ahead of most of the guys on here by getting a meet.
Just play gentle and try not to hog all the local ladies to yourself. One word of advice if I may.... the ladies on here really don't like guys that look after their bodies. I'd let yourself go a little and pile on 3 or 4 stone as the ladies love something to grab onto. Limit your baths/showers to once a week as your natural aroma will be a big turn on.
Good luck mate."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh airing dirty laundry on a forum thread....such fun
What's the problem? Am I missing something he hasn't named names and I've read far worse threads that get overlooked.
There are plenty of other threads from people asking for advice so I don't see an issue here.
The problem is probably just because it's a single bloke and new one!
No comment!
Btw, OP, keep going and have some fun mate you're already way ahead of most of the guys on here by getting a meet.
Just play gentle and try not to hog all the local ladies to yourself. One word of advice if I may.... the ladies on here really don't like guys that look after their bodies. I'd let yourself go a little and pile on 3 or 4 stone as the ladies love something to grab onto. Limit your baths/showers to once a week as your natural aroma will be a big turn on.
Good luck mate."
Hahaha great advice will take into account for them 'ladies' and you too sir have a good day |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You are on a swinging site.
You can do what you want.
You aren't in a relationship with her.
Do what you want."
I totally agree with you...but its best to leave on good terms than bad? |
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Just hope that she hasn't been watching the film fatal attraction 
On a serious note The only woman who messaged me first this year made it clear that she wanted more than no strings fun&sex and the chance of sex was very tempting but I wouldn't lie to get it
She had lots of veris so I guess she'd started out on fab looking for and having no strings fun but then her situation must have changed and she then wanted more(fair play to her)
I think with your situation you've just got to remain honest and even though you sound concerned about her past it's not your making and she might be playing on it to try to keep you
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"You are on a swinging site.
You can do what you want.
You aren't in a relationship with her.
Do what you want.
I totally agree with you...but its best to leave on good terms than bad? "
Make sure you ask for a nice veri |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You are on a swinging site.
You can do what you want.
You aren't in a relationship with her.
Do what you want.
I totally agree with you...but its best to leave on good terms than bad?
Make sure you ask for a nice veri "
Thanks,Yeah ask for a veri and get my ass kicked ill wait for another lol |
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"You are on a swinging site.
You can do what you want.
You aren't in a relationship with her.
Do what you want.
I totally agree with you...but its best to leave on good terms than bad?
Make sure you ask for a nice veri
Thanks,Yeah ask for a veri and get my ass kicked ill wait for another lol"
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol"
Don't take on other people's issues and set out what you want!
At her age, off loading her baggage on someone she's met for a casual hookup makes me feel she has problems she won't solve here.
You've done nothing wrong. Enjoy the hedonism of the site and ensure you meet people who are looking for what you're offering.
Have fun! |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol
Don't take on other people's issues and set out what you want!
At her age, off loading her baggage on someone she's met for a casual hookup makes me feel she has problems she won't solve here.
You've done nothing wrong. Enjoy the hedonism of the site and ensure you meet people who are looking for what you're offering.
Have fun!"
Thanks for the advice very helpful. Yes will do still a newbie but can't wait for this adventure to unfold in my life. |
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When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself |
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"Mate. Why didnt she varie you. Did she really want to see you again"
Im not sure...and yes was supposed to be at hers this friday and saturday. But i posted a meet she said she didn't like me being with anyone else but her. |
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself "
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad? |
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad?"
Hi mate,
It might be that you're younger but try to stop worrying so much and don't try to over analyse things.
Quite simply you and the woman are both on a swingers site and I'm believing you that there was never any mention of exclusivity so you had sex and now she's started to go bunny boiler on you.
Get out there and fill your boots |
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad?
Hi mate,
It might be that you're younger but try to stop worrying so much and don't try to over analyse things.
Quite simply you and the woman are both on a swingers site and I'm believing you that there was never any mention of exclusivity so you had sex and now she's started to go bunny boiler on you.
Get out there and fill your boots "
Thank will do have a nice day |
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad?"
Whether I think it's bad or not is largely irrelevant. But she met you one weekend, you'd made plans for the following weekend amd you wanted to fuck someone else in between. There are plenty of people on here that do not want to be just another notch on someone's bedpost. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. I don't think you did anything wrong, but I don't think she did either. |
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad?
Whether I think it's bad or not is largely irrelevant. But she met you one weekend, you'd made plans for the following weekend amd you wanted to fuck someone else in between. There are plenty of people on here that do not want to be just another notch on someone's bedpost. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. I don't think you did anything wrong, but I don't think she did either. "
Yeah mixed feelings about it...a week without action is tought. |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol"
OP nothing to feel badly about, you’re young you want fun, most of us are here for fun that’s the point. Don’t take on someone else’s life issues it can be toxic if you’re not on the same page x
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"When you say "after thst meet I put up another meet sign", just how long after are we talking about? I assume you mean days but it reads as if it was almost instantaneous, and if (stressing the if) it was then personally I get her point. Yes it's a swinging site, yes it's no strings, but if I had a meet and by the time i went to verify them they were already looking for another one then I'd feel pretty shit about myself
I met her on saturday and posted on tuesday is that bad?
Whether I think it's bad or not is largely irrelevant. But she met you one weekend, you'd made plans for the following weekend amd you wanted to fuck someone else in between. There are plenty of people on here that do not want to be just another notch on someone's bedpost. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. I don't think you did anything wrong, but I don't think she did either.
Yeah mixed feelings about it...a week without action is tought."
A week?!?! Haha the naivety of youth. Poor lad... you might have to recalibrate your expectations in a few years time! |
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"Yeah we didn't agree on it but i feel bad shes had a tough past and me leaving her would make it worse. Its crap being a man at times the urges are a mind fuckery we see a women and chase lol
OP nothing to feel badly about, you’re young you want fun, most of us are here for fun that’s the point. Don’t take on someone else’s life issues it can be toxic if you’re not on the same page x
MrsK x"
Great words of wisdom Mrs K much appreciated x |
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