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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Times like these make me think should I be in a relationship; having your own place and a lot of time on your own makes you think a lot about certain things..
Shout out to fellow single fabbers! We can do it!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been single for 10 years. No family nor children. I never feel lonely, I love my own space. If I feel I want to be with people, there are lots of people I can pester  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have been single for 10 years. No family nor children. I never feel lonely, I love my own space. If I feel I want to be with people, there are lots of people I can pester "
Definitely a good way to think and look at things! Thank you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it! |
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!"
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!"
What utter crap. Total and utter crap |
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"Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
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Agree absolutely!
I had two very lonely long term relationships!
Been much happier in the last five years as a singleton!
I vowed that I won’t have a relationship again unless it’s a good one!
Having said that - I have 3 lovely kids and a fantastic family - and there’ll be 11 of us for Christmas dinner at mine tomorrow!
Huge hugs to those who aren’t that lucky! Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
Agree absolutely!
I had two very lonely long term relationships!
Been much happier in the last five years as a singleton!
I vowed that I won’t have a relationship again unless it’s a good one!
Having said that - I have 3 lovely kids and a fantastic family - and there’ll be 11 of us for Christmas dinner at mine tomorrow!
Huge hugs to those who aren’t that lucky! Xxx"
I’ll be on my own tomorrow, I too looking for a good relationship. I hope you have a great day tomorrow. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So everyone was forced into a relationship....and homeless guys had the option to stay in the home where a relationship broke down...I can see a gender perspective coming into play here and I can see the pride of lionesses circling their prey. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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Even though Ive not been in a relationship for 10 years. Having a young son, big wonderful family with 3 sisters who are also my best friends makes me feel lucky.
Merry Christmas to you all |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
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You make my point for me...choose to stay than accept a bit of hardship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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God so right. Done the fake, everything's ok Christmas with the ex and all the family. Never been so lonely in all my life.
10 years on my own at xmas, love it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am not alone for Christmas and I'm glad I'm not.. I like my own company and I'm happy in my own company, but I enjoy the social side of Christmas day and I think it's the only day I would like to at least spend some of it with friends and family.
I know may people spend Christmas alone for many many reasons but it always makes me feel a bit sad.. I have friends who I know will be alone at Christmas,because they want to be and I respect that and sometimes they are alone and can't travel or have no-one to pet sit etc. I always set an extra place at the table Christmas day.. And it's always open house if anyone changes their mind...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
What utter crap. Total and utter crap"
So people are forced into and forced to stay in relationships in this country??? I wonder who's actually talking the crap!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God so right. Done the fake, everything's ok Christmas with the ex and all the family. Never been so lonely in all my life.
10 years on my own at xmas, love it"
Novelty wears off after a bit...particularly if there are extended baron periods. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
What utter crap. Total and utter crap
So people are forced into and forced to stay in relationships in this country??? I wonder who's actually talking the crap!!!!!"
Please dont pm me.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
agreed  "
The grass may not be greener, but are people confusing two different issues of unhappiness in a relationship with the loneliness of not being in one. One issue just devalues the other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its just another day !
And one day you will look back and remember when u posted it """
Just keep smiling ,, yr dat will cum xxxxx"
It is just another day, you're right...that's how you get through it. |
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
You make my point for me...choose to stay than accept a bit of hardship."
I'm not going to get in to a debate about this. Just remember, there are occasions where it is not black and white and I am most definitely a black and white person. There are situations whereby you have to call stalemate til an opportunity comes up that is beneficial to all parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
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This ^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
You make my point for me...choose to stay than accept a bit of hardship.
I'm not going to get in to a debate about this. Just remember, there are occasions where it is not black and white and I am most definitely a black and white person. There are situations whereby you have to call stalemate til an opportunity comes up that is beneficial to all parties. "
I wonder how many of the situations we're advocating are a stalemate because neither party chooses or makes efforts to change anything, or choose to do nothing and just claim to be the victim of a situation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't try and reason with cheaters...
They always have their " reasons "
Yawn!
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If you can't reason with a cheater, it's because one of you is a narcissist! |
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
You make my point for me...choose to stay than accept a bit of hardship.
I'm not going to get in to a debate about this. Just remember, there are occasions where it is not black and white and I am most definitely a black and white person. There are situations whereby you have to call stalemate til an opportunity comes up that is beneficial to all parties.
I wonder how many of the situations we're advocating are a stalemate because neither party chooses or makes efforts to change anything, or choose to do nothing and just claim to be the victim of a situation?"
As I said I'm not doing the debate thing. I have seen various friends in various situations. Some have a positive outcome, most don't and that is down to being tied to a financial situation. Grey. Not black or white |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
Or are financially bound to it... everyone has a different story...
You make my point for me...choose to stay than accept a bit of hardship.
I'm not going to get in to a debate about this. Just remember, there are occasions where it is not black and white and I am most definitely a black and white person. There are situations whereby you have to call stalemate til an opportunity comes up that is beneficial to all parties.
I wonder how many of the situations we're advocating are a stalemate because neither party chooses or makes efforts to change anything, or choose to do nothing and just claim to be the victim of a situation?
As I said I'm not doing the debate thing. I have seen various friends in various situations. Some have a positive outcome, most don't and that is down to being tied to a financial situation. Grey. Not black or white"
I don't disagree with your point. I hate to use the cliché the world is 50 shades of grey....partnership in life stems from survival, not comfort - that's a bonus. Think Maslot's hierarchy of needs. I think the desire to not suffer hardship of any sort clouds people's desire for personal contentment. |
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
What utter crap. Total and utter crap"
I'd have to agree with him. We do have free will. When I left my husband I had lost 80% of my sight. There was no guarantee it would return.
I could remain "safe and unhappy" or gamble with uncertainty and happiness. I was financially secure to start again without forcing a sale of the marital home. I had to maintain a base for my girls in case everything went tits up.
It didn't, majority of my sight came back and I'm happy.
I recognise it's not easy for everyone to walk away, but the reality is we can! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
What utter crap. Total and utter crap
I'd have to agree with him. We do have free will. When I left my husband I had lost 80% of my sight. There was no guarantee it would return.
I could remain "safe and unhappy" or gamble with uncertainty and happiness. I was financially secure to start again without forcing a sale of the marital home. I had to maintain a base for my girls in case everything went tits up.
It didn't, majority of my sight came back and I'm happy.
I recognise it's not easy for everyone to walk away, but the reality is we can!"
You still had a secure home for you and your children then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, i do also sometimes thing it would be lovely to have someone. I dont mind being single as i would rather that than be with someone that is not right for me. I live in hope that i can meet the right lady to enjoy the swinging life with and someone who can accept my bi side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, i do also sometimes thing it would be lovely to have someone. I dont mind being single as i would rather that than be with someone that is not right for me. I live in hope that i can meet the right lady to enjoy the swinging life with and someone who can accept my bi side. "
I’m sure they are out there somewhere |
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"No one forces anyone into a relationship and no one forces anyone to stay in one. Those who choose to stay in one and say they are unhappy want their cake and eat it!
What utter crap. Total and utter crap
I'd have to agree with him. We do have free will. When I left my husband I had lost 80% of my sight. There was no guarantee it would return.
I could remain "safe and unhappy" or gamble with uncertainty and happiness. I was financially secure to start again without forcing a sale of the marital home. I had to maintain a base for my girls in case everything went tits up.
It didn't, majority of my sight came back and I'm happy.
I recognise it's not easy for everyone to walk away, but the reality is we can!
You still had a secure home for you and your children then?"
Don't think my ex husband would have taken a blind wife back or my employer keep me on if I were blind. Also don't think Santander would have allowed me to stay in my house if I didn't have a job to pay the mortgage.
My children had a safety net, I didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I,d like a man for Christmas. Naked under the tree, wrapped in shinny wrapping paper with a bow on. X"
Cor in this weather I hope you leave your heating on or he’ll be frozen by the time you got up
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"Be grateful what you have as the grass isn't always greener. It can be a much lonelier place in a unhappy relationship/marriage here people feel trapped and unable to escape.
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Oh dear. Doesn't sound good there.
We've been married nearly 30 years and have never been happier.
Hope you can work through your problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I,d like a man for Christmas. Naked under the tree, wrapped in shinny wrapping paper with a bow on. X
Cor in this weather I hope you leave your heating on or he’ll be frozen by the time you got up
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