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I go through phases like this, and then when I least expect it... Boom!
I'd only been saying to a Fab friend over coffee a couple of weeks ago that I'd just completely lost interest in even looking anymore, I hadn't felt even the tiniest fanny flutter in months, and didn't know why I was even on.the site still. Then the following day I met someone at a social event and thought 'oh hello'... Lets just say my mojo has been well and truly restored 
It'll come around again OP hang in there xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
I know the feeling, I go into motorcycle showrooms most weeks, and nothing is better than the bike I arrived on. It's very discombobulating  |
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over a year ago
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
You are so not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Now if you were a man over 40 having this discussion with your GP he would ask you about your.....
• stress levels
• sleeping habits
• diet
• Alcohol intake
• exercise regime
• smoking habit
.... erm, so I'm told! |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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Not a big deal , if you don't feel it you don't, particularly if it applies only to here, if it applies to all guys you meet in the real world too it's more of an issue, to be honest, always more of an animal attraction, for lack of better words in the flesh than online,that's my pearl for the day  |
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I don't know about anyone else.. But in my experience its a sense of dejection that leads to mojo loss. You find someone you're attracted to, invest time in building up a rapport with a view to meeting, and then the fickle magpie nature of Fab strikes and suddenly you find they've stopped texting and are pursuing someone else... You brush it off and start over... But then it happens again... And again... And again... the soul destroying repetition eats away at your confidence and finally you think why bother anymore... It'll only end up the same way.
I've got my mojo back for now... But its a delicate thing that needs to be nurtured. Hopefully it'll stick around a while this time  |
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"I don't know about anyone else.. But in my experience its a sense of dejection that leads to mojo loss. You find someone you're attracted to, invest time in building up a rapport with a view to meeting, and then the fickle magpie nature of Fab strikes and suddenly you find they've stopped texting and are pursuing someone else... You brush it off and start over... But then it happens again... And again... And again... the soul destroying repetition eats away at your confidence and finally you think why bother anymore... It'll only end up the same way.
I've got my mojo back for now... But its a delicate thing that needs to be nurtured. Hopefully it'll stick around a while this time "
I thought you were supposed to salute single magpies  |
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"I don't know about anyone else.. But in my experience its a sense of dejection that leads to mojo loss. You find someone you're attracted to, invest time in building up a rapport with a view to meeting, and then the fickle magpie nature of Fab strikes and suddenly you find they've stopped texting and are pursuing someone else... You brush it off and start over... But then it happens again... And again... And again... the soul destroying repetition eats away at your confidence and finally you think why bother anymore... It'll only end up the same way.
I've got my mojo back for now... But its a delicate thing that needs to be nurtured. Hopefully it'll stick around a while this time
I thought you were supposed to salute single magpies "
Hello mister magpie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I co.pletely understand. I am the same... I think a part of me thinks oh they are good looking / they are hot! And then my next thought is but meh he only wants to have sex with me so I move on lol. |
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By *essiCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm really struggling as well! I haven't had sex since March but I can't find anyone that I want to actually invest the time and effort into.
It's not for the lack of trying either  "
March...lucky you...2014 here..feel your pain though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wave in and out of wanting to fuck everyone and then feeling meh ....
Depending on time of the month obvs!
At the moment I'd rather eat all the cheese and crackers, mini party food thingies and all the wine than fuck
Just a fuck is boring - I would rather have a wank - less effort!
I think it's time to move on from Fab soon and look for a few strings
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are in a different age nowadays,so many illnesses around with depression, anxiety,ect I know a lot of people don't even like themselves and me included sometimes,just seems harder to meet someone but I guess we still have to try,can't even chat to most people on here because they might not be in same region, but just to chat even compliment someone and have a decent conversation can help with a lot of things, I know it's a swinging site but just chat be honest and chatting to someone can make them and yourself feel better,so hopefully we all can find someone nice,, oh and manners cost nothing so be nice ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps it's the time of year. Everyone seems to be so busy and preoccupied with Christmas.
We hope you find your mojo soon and also find someone that sets your pulse racing. |
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In the 7 years on and off fab we have never lost our mojo .
But then for us we create scenarios we want to try .... and if it's good we do it again .... if not try something new .
I guess it must get difficult for singles though...maybe they look for more than just lust ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wave in and out of wanting to fuck everyone and then feeling meh ....
Depending on time of the month obvs!
At the moment I'd rather eat all the cheese and crackers, mini party food thingies and all the wine than fuck
Just a fuck is boring - I would rather have a wank - less effort!
I think it's time to move on from Fab soon and look for a few strings
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Yep! Just a shag is pointless. You need to laugh about it afterwards together.
It’s not about dating someone, but having a ‘relationship’ that works.
Like your girls, drink wine, eat curry and bitch together..... all about context! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
same for some of us men aswell...havent got excited over someone for ages |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have had some building subsidence, court cases and solicitors to deal with since July, so I am hoping that is playing a factor in things along with cervical cancer scare (again)......when I look at that lol no bloody wonder sex is low on my priorities but I want it to change x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
its at the seaside I'll buy you an ice cream |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
Me either, I look on here regularly but nobody local ever excites me enough for me to want to venture out in the cold to meet them. L |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had some building subsidence, court cases and solicitors to deal with since July, so I am hoping that is playing a factor in things along with cervical cancer scare (again)......when I look at that lol no bloody wonder sex is low on my priorities but I want it to change x"
Hope it's just a scare x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the 7 years on and off fab we have never lost our mojo .
But then for us we create scenarios we want to try .... and if it's good we do it again .... if not try something new .
I guess it must get difficult for singles though...maybe they look for more than just lust ? "
It's a connection I look for. You have that with each other. It's a totally different thing to swing as a couple. You'll bounce off each other and share the experience. Even if one of you is just watching. Can't do that as a single.
Could you still do it as a single? |
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"In the 7 years on and off fab we have never lost our mojo .
But then for us we create scenarios we want to try .... and if it's good we do it again .... if not try something new .
I guess it must get difficult for singles though...maybe they look for more than just lust ?
It's a connection I look for. You have that with each other. It's a totally different thing to swing as a couple. You'll bounce off each other and share the experience. Even if one of you is just watching. Can't do that as a single.
Could you still do it as a single?"
Not a chance!
Neither of us could for the reasons you've outlined .  |
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over a year ago
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"Probably the time of the year. Wait till spring, everyone gets randy in the spring.
Ooh randy, don't think I've used that word for over 20yrs. "
Bonking goes well with randy. A good, spring, randy, bonking session |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the 7 years on and off fab we have never lost our mojo .
But then for us we create scenarios we want to try .... and if it's good we do it again .... if not try something new .
I guess it must get difficult for singles though...maybe they look for more than just lust ?
It's a connection I look for. You have that with each other. It's a totally different thing to swing as a couple. You'll bounce off each other and share the experience. Even if one of you is just watching. Can't do that as a single.
Could you still do it as a single?
Not a chance!
Neither of us could for the reasons you've outlined . "
See it's not necessarily about singles looking for love. Or socials. |
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"Probably the time of the year. Wait till spring, everyone gets randy in the spring.
Ooh randy, don't think I've used that word for over 20yrs.
Bonking goes well with randy. A good, spring, randy, bonking session"
Retro. I like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Less a fab thing. But struggle to feel any spark on any dates. It always feels a bit like hard work ... "
More than happy to help with the work load if it makes it easier for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really, really (really) want it at the moment, but are not actually doing anything positive about getting any  "
well Santa if you really really really really want it you should have it |
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I got fed up with it all ages ago but it’s not the mojo thing
It’s just the hassle of rushing home from work to get prepared and get the house all cosy and then the dreaded phone call
The most stupid excuses that I’ve heard so many times
We get a lot of guys that say I’m not like the others...I’m genuine..hahahahahaha |
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Comforting to know we're not the only ones. But glad to say on the comeback trail. But boy is it hard work on fab. But the genuine nice fabsters do restore the faith.
Hope you all get you mojo going soon. Stay happy whichever way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My mojo is screaming for attention, perhaps it's too noisy and scaring people off...
Peach x
It's got my attention "
That would be the airhorn I've been letting off in your face and the marching band outside your house....seems to have worked 
Peach x |
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"I got fed up with it all ages ago but it’s not the mojo thing
It’s just the hassle of rushing home from work to get prepared and get the house all cosy and then the dreaded phone call
The most stupid excuses that I’ve heard so many times
We get a lot of guys that say I’m not like the others...I’m genuine..hahahahahaha"
I'm not like the others I'm genuine  |
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There’s a few I fancy lots, but getting time to meet is really difficult
Not saying it’s worse than your situation OP, but sometimes it’s crap for all of us.
But I’m still happy to have some Fab friends |
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"I'm really struggling as well! I haven't had sex since March but I can't find anyone that I want to actually invest the time and effort into.
It's not for the lack of trying either "
Always seems loads of hot tottie up there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it!
Yep"
Ah, the ol' hibernating mojo. Hellish |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm really struggling as well! I haven't had sex since March but I can't find anyone that I want to actually invest the time and effort into.
It's not for the lack of trying either
Always seems loads of hot tottie up there "
I wish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am just having a 'meh' at the moment.
Your only down the road... want to help each other out??? 
It is the season of goodwill after all "
Yes it is .. but your profile is private |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" And then my next thought is but meh he only wants to have sex with me so I move on lol.
You know this is a swinging site, right?"
Yeah but swinging isn't just about wham bam thank you maam. It's about getting to know each other, makes friends interesting conversation, socialising. Ect |
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"I am just having a 'meh' at the moment.
Your only down the road... want to help each other out???
It is the season of goodwill after all
Yes it is .. but your profile is private "
It shouldn't be. That said I just fall outside of your upper age limit at 39 so it sucks to be me! |
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"I am just having a 'meh' at the moment.
Your only down the road... want to help each other out???
It is the season of goodwill after all
Yes it is .. but your profile is private
It shouldn't be. That said I just fall outside of your upper age limit at 39 so it sucks to be me! "
I can still see you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got to the same point, there was only one person that I really got excited about meeting. The thought of meeting anyone new just wasn't appealing enough to make the time and effort required seem worthwhile.
Now I'm excited about meeting others with that person as that makes it a totally different dynamic. |
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"I am just having a 'meh' at the moment.
Your only down the road... want to help each other out???
It is the season of goodwill after all
Yes it is .. but your profile is private
It shouldn't be. That said I just fall outside of your upper age limit at 39 so it sucks to be me!
I can still see you "
Now that IS good news |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it!
Yep
Ah, the ol' hibernating mojo. Hellish "
*waves*
How do? |
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it!
Yep
Ah, the ol' hibernating mojo. Hellish
*waves*
How do? "
Oi oi! I'm not too bad thank you. Hope you're well Miss Estella |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nobody knows where my mojo has gone...."
But Judy left the same time
Why was he holding her hand
When he's supposed to be mine?
It's my mojo and I'll cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
You would cry too, if it happened to you |
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"Nobody knows where my mojo has gone....
But Judy left the same time
Why was he holding her hand
When he's supposed to be mine?
It's my mojo and I'll cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
You would cry too, if it happened to you "
I do,
I cry wank,dry wank
Try and revive wank
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"Nobody knows where my mojo has gone....
But Judy left the same time
Why was he holding her hand
When he's supposed to be mine?
It's my mojo and I'll cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
Cry if I want to
You would cry too, if it happened to you
I do,
I cry wank,dry wank
Try and revive wank
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You need a hand with that |
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it!
Yep
Ah, the ol' hibernating mojo. Hellish
*waves*
How do?
Oi oi! I'm not too bad thank you. Hope you're well Miss Estella "
Well....but you know all about that. |
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
Omg I thought it was just me that was broken. My whole sex drive and desire had gone on strike! |
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"Starting to feel like the ice maiden.
Just don’t look at anyone now days and feel the ‘pwoooaaaarrrr’ anymore!
Mojo is hiding and I can’t find it! "
It’s not just you, many of us are the same. It’ll come back...hopefully.
In honesty I’m the Same.... |
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"I'm really struggling as well! I haven't had sex since March but I can't find anyone that I want to actually invest the time and effort into.
It's not for the lack of trying either
Always seems loads of hot tottie up there
I wish "
Feeling exactly the same! |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I want something amazing. I want some mutually mind blowing adventures.
I feel very uninspired at the moment though. I doubt this is the place for me.
Attended a social event recently and while everyone else said how great it was, I was bored, couldn't wait to leave and honestly felt like people were looking at me as if I had two heads. |
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"I don't know about anyone else.. But in my experience its a sense of dejection that leads to mojo loss. You find someone you're attracted to, invest time in building up a rapport with a view to meeting, and then the fickle magpie nature of Fab strikes and suddenly you find they've stopped texting and are pursuing someone else... You brush it off and start over... But then it happens again... And again... And again... the soul destroying repetition eats away at your confidence and finally you think why bother anymore... It'll only end up the same way.
I've got my mojo back for now... But its a delicate thing that needs to be nurtured. Hopefully it'll stick around a while this time "
Having had the displeasure of chatting to a load of fake profiles doesn't help. It makes you question why bother if most people who chat to you are fake. |
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