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over a year ago
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My wife and I play as a couple, she is bi and has no trouble in finding playmates, now her thing is to get me to join in with her and if the third party consents play with her woman!!!! What’s the problem I can hear all you blokes asking, Oh there’s no problem but I’ve started to get a bit bored of her choosing the women, don’t get me wrong the ladies she plays with are always top drawer and for a bloke who looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp I shouldn’t complain.
But occasionally it would be nice if I could have some sort of say, if I try she gets all snotty and she thinks I’m looking to go behind her back, yet her latest fantasy and she keeps on about it is for me to go out on a night out pull a woman and bring her home so she can catch me at it and hopefully join in!!!
I accept she is in control and believe me I respect that but hey wouldn’t mind having a say now and again!!! |
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"My wife and I play as a couple, she is bi and has no trouble in finding playmates, now her thing is to get me to join in with her and if the third party consents play with her woman!!!! What’s the problem I can hear all you blokes asking, Oh there’s no problem but I’ve started to get a bit bored of her choosing the women, don’t get me wrong the ladies she plays with are always top drawer and for a bloke who looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp I shouldn’t complain.
But occasionally it would be nice if I could have some sort of say, if I try she gets all snotty and she thinks I’m looking to go behind her back, yet her latest fantasy and she keeps on about it is for me to go out on a night out pull a woman and bring her home so she can catch me at it and hopefully join in!!!
I accept she is in control and believe me I respect that but hey wouldn’t mind having a say now and again!!!"
sounds like your stuck in a bloody nightmare  only joking .your lucky . talk to her more simple |
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"My wife and I play as a couple, she is bi and has no trouble in finding playmates, now her thing is to get me to join in with her and if the third party consents play with her woman!!!! What’s the problem I can hear all you blokes asking, Oh there’s no problem but I’ve started to get a bit bored of her choosing the women, don’t get me wrong the ladies she plays with are always top drawer and for a bloke who looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp I shouldn’t complain.
But occasionally it would be nice if I could have some sort of say, if I try she gets all snotty and she thinks I’m looking to go behind her back, yet her latest fantasy and she keeps on about it is for me to go out on a night out pull a woman and bring her home so she can catch me at it and hopefully join in!!!
I accept she is in control and believe me I respect that but hey wouldn’t mind having a say now and again!!!"
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OP it sounds like you really need a good chat and to sort out between yourselves what is acceptable.
If you don't keep the conversation between you flowing and make sure you are both happy with how things are working out then swinging can damage your relationship instead of enhancing what you have got.
If you can't agree it may be time to take a little break from swinging until you can come to a satisfactory agreement that suits BOTH of you.
You both need to be putting your own relationship first before the fun you can have with others. |
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Its a control thing. ie She needs to feel in control. If i were you I'd keep my mouth shut and do as i were told without question.
We have a very similar relationship except i have no major preference as to who we meet so long as we all get on. For me its important that the two women find eachother attractive. Herr is by anyones standards a very attractive lady and is attracted to goodlooking women so i doubt I'd ever disagree with her final say.
If her fantasy is for you to pick up a lady then go with it if its her pushing it. Easier said than done though if not prearranged i imagine. |
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OP, while I envy your situation I also think you need to speak seriously to your wife as this shouldn’t be just her choice.
Rather than her or you picking playmates, couldn’t you pick someone together? |
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I’ve already gone down the road of talking about it and believe me I find it hard to come to a conclusion of what exactly is going on, I’ll be honest when I first got asked to join in it did not feel right for me at all in fact for a couple of times I just wanted it to finish lively!!! Now I’ve become at ease with the situation I’m enjoying it, but I am finding her demands a bit much lol |
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"Its a control thing. ie She needs to feel in control. If i were you I'd keep my mouth shut and do as i were told without question.
We have a very similar relationship except i have no major preference as to who we meet so long as we all get on. For me its important that the two women find eachother attractive. Herr is by anyones standards a very attractive lady and is attracted to goodlooking women so i doubt I'd ever disagree with her final say.
If her fantasy is for you to pick up a lady then go with it if its her pushing it. Easier said than done though if not prearranged i imagine."
I have to say its usually me(him) on fab so it tends to be me who engages in conversation with anyone before her final say so in that respect we do choose together.
I have to ask. Does she use your couples profile? I'm just wondering what she'll think of your post. And if its only you who comes on here then doesn't that mean you do have a say? |
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"Yes she does use this profile, and she might see this thread. Reason for putting this out there is to see what the majority think!!!!"
I think its much better if you both feel you have an equal input. Sharing is caring so to speak. |
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