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Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? |
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Grammar will be more important to some than it is to others. I don't care much really and my own grammar isn't up to scratch. I think though that there's a point at which it becomes difficult to understand what's been written, then its important. |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
I think grammer gives an insight into the person using it.
Some people are attracted to the educated and intelligent more than looks. It's about a whole connection.
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"I have found some messages hard to read with bad grammar and spelling. One guy sent two messages and my head hurt  "
This is it. When it’s so bad you can’t understand what they mean then yes it’s important and yes occasionally we get messages like this. |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
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(Sometimes, grammar matters a lot. As it is hard to read a message without it.)  |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
I think grammer gives an insight into the person using it.
Some people are attracted to the educated and intelligent more than looks. It's about a whole connection.
Celestine x"
I think the same about grammar. |
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After being here for years I've come to the conclusion that most of those who say grammar matters to them to such an extent that they will reject people because of it are actually amongst the most ignorant and uneducated oh here. It's like having the biggest car. They think it's a reflection of how wonderful they are.
If someone can talk on the phone and we banter, what would I care if he didn't enter for the Fab Pulitzer ? |
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I hate text speak and (not that I get any!  ) any messages sent lyk dis wud put me ov big tym. it's not difficult to string a half decent sentence together and a few spelling mistakes really doesn't bother me. Conversing like a chav does, however!  |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
I think grammer gives an insight into the person using it.
Some people are attracted to the educated and intelligent more than looks. It's about a whole connection.
Celestine x"
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"I hate text speak and (not that I get any! ) any messages sent lyk dis wud put me ov big tym. it's not difficult to string a half decent sentence together and a few spelling mistakes really doesn't bother me. Conversing like a chav does, however! "
Totally get this....I would really question whether someone that messaged me like this would actually turn me on.... |
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Personally, I would have thought that anybody sending a message on here with the view to sparking a connection, would really "make an effort" to impress on every level... apparently not everyone thinks the same way.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than an ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
I think grammar gives an insight into the person using it.
Some people are attracted to the educated and intelligent more than looks. It's about a whole connection.
Celestine x"
I strictly go for a decent level of grammar when I contact a local man.
To the point that if there is no use of capitalization of their locality I just skip them! Yes, that is Grammar Nazi for you, I admit it!
It is not as much about punctuation or spelling, it is more about coherence and that they have made an effort of communicating about themselves, or what they are looking for.
I suppose the Original Poster refer to 'ugly' as something exterior? Or a photo? I genuinely could not care less! It is, as Celestine says, about level of education and intelligence. That wins me over!
Hence, there is another advantage for me meeting people offline, and not here: I get to let go of my own preconceptions and just meet the person for who they are, for who I have in front of me in that moment! Real Life beats everything! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
Sometimesgrammermattersalotasitshsrdtoreadamessagewithoutit
(Sometimes, grammar matters a lot. As it is hard to read a message without it.) "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't mind if someone isn't top of Literacy class. I met a man from Facebook, years ago, who had written a book. In person he could barely string a sentence together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people won't like this comment but god grammar is important to us. Obviously it doesn't have to be perfect but some people just don't have a clue.
Grammar and punctuation makes a huge difference to some sentences....
The difference between helping your Uncle Jack off a horse, and helping your Uncle jack off a horse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some people won't like this comment but god grammar is important to us. Obviously it doesn't have to be perfect but some people just don't have a clue.
Grammar and punctuation makes a huge difference to some sentences....
The difference between helping your Uncle Jack off a horse, and helping your Uncle jack off a horse."
** good grammar, oh the irony lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I find it terribly amusing when someone calls out another over spelling or grammar, and on checking their profile, find it littered with mistakes.
It's an age old topic here, as regular as the changing of the seasons.
When we're meeting, we're here to shag with hot folk. Not pass an English exam. |
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"I hate text speak and (not that I get any! ) any messages sent lyk dis wud put me ov big tym. it's not difficult to string a half decent sentence together and a few spelling mistakes really doesn't bother me. Conversing like a chav does, however! "
This!
I'm dyslexic, but I always make an effort to write correctly, occasionally my phone takes over & odd words pop in without me noticing.
I not a grammar Nazi, but I can't abide the constant use of text talk, and if punctuation isn't used, so something reads as one continuous sentence, then I struggle to read it, and that would put me off.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The written word is important online, it’s the initial way a person portrays themselves, can be an instantaneous make or break.
If I can’t read / understand the message / forum post, I’ll skip by that and onto the next. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
shows whether they are educated also if any thoughts gone into message ,its an advert you should care about how you come across,opportunities should not be squandered for many |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
Sometimesgrammermattersalotasitshsrdtoreadamessagewithoutit
(Sometimes, grammar matters a lot. As it is hard to read a message without it.)
Surelythatspunctuationnotgrammar"
Yes, I was too lazy to write enough for grammar to show as badly, however the message about poor grasp of the written language and the effect on comprehension was very obvious by missing punctuation, and spacing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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By all means, choose who you want to interact with on here, using what ever preferences you like. If poor grammar or spelling doesn't float your boat, that's ok, just move on.
When you feel that wound up by it, that you have to post about it, little chinks in your armour start to develop and we all get a glimpse of your neurosis and superiority complex.
None of us is perfect, it's part of the human condition!
We all have the rite to exist, imperfections and all, with out someone, who thinks they're a better person because they know the correct way to use apostrophe's and exclamation marks or, all the exceptions to the i before the e rule etc, constantly pointing it out and trying to make those not so good at it feel small! I doubt you are perfect your self in all aspects of life. Try and be a bit more tolerant and understanding.
With out that person with the poor grammar and terrible spelling, your life certainly wouldn't run as smoothly as it does!
If you don't want to fuck them, that's fine but, don't moan about them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's personal choice at the end of the day.
No way is wrong, if you like good grammar or not.
I do think it's more about what people say than if they've missed out an apostrophe.
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Yes and no. It depends on the person you're messaging i suppose. I couldn't care less for it. To be honest. As long as we get the jist of whats being said, then. It doesn't really matter. We are not looking to spend the rest of our lives with people we meet on here. So we give zero fucks about other peoples grammar |
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Although I ensure the grammar and punctuation of my messages is as impeccable as I can achieve, barring getting screwed by my autocarrot, I am not particularly concerned if someone else's is not perfect..
It does annoy me when there are those threads bemoaning others poor grammar in almost a name and shame manner. I find it slightly distasteful and degrading for those who may feel it is aimed at themselves.
Just accept people for what they are, fab is a cross section of society and as such is not exclusive to those that did well academically in English, neither should we assume poor grammar means a lack of education? Who here is able to understand a single thing their GP writes!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another day another grammar police thread.
Most here are not writing War and Peace but trying to communicate in possibly the only way they know how; or in the only way they may be able too.
Can I suggest a that the grammar police take a moment and go look up the definition of...
Tolerance.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't we all just get along.
It seems most forum threads these days quickly descend into us and them arguments.
I am sure that this would not happen if the mode of communication was face to face and not via a screen.
Peace, love and respect to all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" (...) When you feel that wound up by it, that you have to post about it, little chinks in your armour start to develop and we all get a glimpse of your neurosis and superiority complex."
Ouch!
But I can't deny it, I do think that there's something about your point here. Luckily, even us amateur Grammar Nazis are allowed our human flaws!
There's always room for personal development!
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For couples and women, the bottom line is we get tons of messages from men. If someones grammar is all over the place, they come across as a bit thick and that puts us off.
They may not be thick, but we need some filters... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
Depends what you're looking for. If someone has absolutely zero ability to wrote a cohesive message, then no matter how hot they are we're likely gonna struggle exchanging enough messages to ever meet the person, and will likely therefore not bother.
You don't have to be a scholar, just be proficient enough to be understood without needing your message read through five times, as no grammar seriously ruins the tone of a message too and could end up looking bad anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can't we all just get along.
It seems most forum threads these days quickly descend into us and them arguments.
I am sure that this would not happen if the mode of communication was face to face and not via a screen.
Peace, love and respect to all."
Because everyone, us included, has their own bias and agendas. No one wants to feel excluded, so people align themselves (subconsciously) with those they feel share value and qualities they either have it admire.
They then defend these ideologies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've said this before and I'll say it again: My friend uses txt spk, and abridged sentences; he has a degree in English at Oxford University and works for the BBC news. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am sure that this would not happen if the mode of communication was face to face and not via a screen.That's what I said!
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Sorry if I am guilty of plagiarism, it was unintentional. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
Depends what you're looking for. If someone has absolutely zero ability to wrote a cohesive message, then no matter how hot they are we're likely gonna struggle exchanging enough messages to ever meet the person, and will likely therefore not bother.
You don't have to be a scholar, just be proficient enough to be understood without needing your message read through five times, as no grammar seriously ruins the tone of a message too and could end up looking bad anyway."
Do you mean coherent? |
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Gives a clue on the type of person you might be meeting.
In my experience a correctly spelt message, with good grammer and substance to the message tells me alot about a person.
Text talk, poor spelling and "wana fuck me mrs" says to me "theirs a pitball in the hallway, disused sofa on the front garden, jeremy kyle is the family hero and sunday best means clean trekies ! |
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"Gives a clue on the type of person you might be meeting.
In my experience a correctly spelt message, with good grammer and substance to the message tells me alot about a person.
Text talk, poor spelling and "wana fuck me mrs" says to me "theirs a pitball in the hallway, disused sofa on the front garden, jeremy kyle is the family hero and sunday best means clean trekies !"
What's a pitball? ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" (...) When you feel that wound up by it, that you have to post about it, little chinks in your armour start to develop and we all get a glimpse of your neurosis and superiority complex.
Ouch!
But I can't deny it, I do think that there's something about your point here. Luckily, even us amateur Grammar Nazis are allowed our human flaws!
There's always room for personal development!
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Absolutely!
Grammar is important and, I think it's fine to use it as a filter. Not so cool to make a point about how useless one views others who aren't so good at something.
I think some people's personal development programs should concentrate more on the self and less on others and, perhaps include a little more tolerance and a lot less criticism.
I my self am a work in progress!
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" ... Text talk, poor spelling and "wana fuck me mrs"
They even call you Mrs? I never get that in my messages! "
I do believe that was in the form the question "would you care to procreate with my good lady wife" but I do believe he intended it to say "madam, would you care to procreate in a safe manner, with oneself?"
I can see where poor punctuation could cause a level of confusion... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No, cohesive was correct, it should have just been followed by sentance not message.
Explanation:
"Coherence is based more on the logic of the ideas and how they are presented rather than on the language that is used to express these ideas. "Cohesion" refers to the degree to which sentences (or even different parts of one sentence) are connected so that the flow of ideas is easy to follow."
If I get lost reading a message due to its lack of clear structure, I switch off. Admittedly I shouldn't have used the word message instead of sentance though haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
I think grammer gives an insight into the person using it.
Some people are attracted to the educated and intelligent more than looks. It's about a whole connection.
What about spelling grammar correctly?
Celestine x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"[Removed by poster at 13/12/17 13:43:18]
No, cohesive was correct, it should have just been followed by sentance not message.
No, it should have been followed by sentence. "
Clearly I've typed this wrong enough times that my suggestion is wrong hahaha. Silly me. Touchè. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a woman messaged me and said "i wont ta suk yer dick dash"
Should i.....
A. Say"sorry but your grammar is bad,no thanks".....or
B."get those luscious red shiny lips around my throbbing cock" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman messaged me and said "i wont ta suk yer dick dash"
Should i.....
A. Say"sorry but your grammar is bad,no thanks".....or
B."get those luscious red shiny lips around my throbbing cock""
Never been that lucky so I cannot help you with you quandary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a woman messaged me and said "i wont ta suk yer dick dash"
Should i.....
A. Say"sorry but your grammar is bad,no thanks".....or
B."get those luscious red shiny lips around my throbbing cock""
Depends. If you were part of a couple, and a guy said "ay fela Ur girl is gawjus fancy letin her cum and suk my jucy cock?"
Who's you want her anywhere near him?
If you'd be bothered in those circumstances, but not in the one you mentioned, then maybe it's just that you value quantity over quality when it comes to your own pleasure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gives a clue on the type of person you might be meeting.
In my experience a correctly spelt message, with good grammer and substance to the message tells me alot about a person.
Text talk, poor spelling and "wana fuck me mrs" says to me "theirs a pitball in the hallway, disused sofa on the front garden, jeremy kyle is the family hero and sunday best means clean trekies ! What's a pitball? ? "
Its a staffy type dog that is brilliant at playing football! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Bad grammar isn't an issue as we all have different levels of ability.
But, what we can't stand is text talk, it can take more effort decifering a simple sentence than is needed. |
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"Gives a clue on the type of person you might be meeting.
In my experience a correctly spelt message, with good grammer and substance to the message tells me alot about a person.
Text talk, poor spelling and "wana fuck me mrs" says to me "theirs a pitball in the hallway, disused sofa on the front garden, jeremy kyle is the family hero and sunday best means clean trekies !"
Does it tell you to NOT meet with them because you bat for the other side.
Seriously, this message is a prime example of someone who cannot write English calling others out.
Allow me.
It gives a clue to the type of person you might meet. In my experience a correctly spelt message,with good grammar and substance,tells me a lot about a person.
Text talk, poor spelling and 'Wana fuck me Mrs?' suggests to me, there is a pit bull in the hallway, a disused sofa in the front garden, Jeremy Kyle is the family hero and Sunday-best means clean trackies!
You're so un-fuckable now. |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
For those of us who are ugly, good grammar is all we’ve got |
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"How many folk would be moaning if; Tom Hardy, Idris Elba were actually Dyslexic?"
Being dyslexic and using bad grammar are two completely different things. |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
For those of us who are ugly, good grammar is all we’ve got "
ROLF!
I like your thinking! And I can identify with it too! |
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"How many folk would be moaning if; Tom Hardy, Idris Elba were actually Dyslexic?
Being dyslexic and using bad grammar are two completely different things."
I have dyslexia and struggle massively with gramma and spellings. The amount of profiles you see moaning “dont contact if you dont no the diffrence between your you’re ect, who cares doesnt make that person any less attractive in my eyes!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not part of the Grammar Police, we all miss mistakes or bloody auto correct catches us out, but there's nothing wrong with making a concerted effort though. But for those that won't or can't see your efforts, sod 'em, probably not worth meeting anyway if they're that up themselves. |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it?
For those of us who are ugly, good grammar is all we’ve got
ROLF!
I like your thinking! And I can identify with it too!"
That's me too. Actually not quite the only thing I've got. |
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"How many folk would be moaning if; Tom Hardy, Idris Elba were actually Dyslexic?
Being dyslexic and using bad grammar are two completely different things.
I have dyslexia and struggle massively with gramma and spellings. The amount of profiles you see moaning “dont contact if you dont no the diffrence between your you’re ect, who cares doesnt make that person any less attractive in my eyes!!! "
Makes for a cracking filter though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always enjoy visualising a grammar nazi meeting someone in a club, and having an awesome night. To then receive a misspelt, grammar crash of a message the next day "
Happens to amateur Grammar Nazis too!
Softens me up a bit each time. |
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
I don't think anyone expects perfect grammar, but it's nice to be able to read a sentence and not have to guess at what was meant.
Grammar is just a way to try and increase comprehension through context.
For example
Let's eat gran.
Let's eat, gran.
I love her period
I love her, period.
Man meat tastes so good!
Man, meat tastes so good!
These are obviously just one type of example, but grammar fails can really fuck up the meaning of a sentence. You can seriously misrepresent yourself if you're not careful, and it's hard to come back from saying the wrong thing if someone takes offence. |
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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago
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"Grammar will be more important to some than it is to others. I don't care much really and my own grammar isn't up to scratch. I think though that there's a point at which it becomes difficult to understand what's been written, then its important."
sometime the only conclusion you can reach is that they must be mad d*unk....spelling matters a tad |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"When it takes longer for you to read than it did for them to write, that can be more than a little annoying."
How would you know how long it took to write it?
Unless you are referring to text speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is grammar important when messaging? I don’t see why there is fuss. Surely a hot man with bad grammar is better than a ugly man with ok grammar? I don’t get it? "
Grammar can be important but people asking questions and then falling off the site is more important as to what's up with you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When it takes longer for you to read than it did for them to write, that can be more than a little annoying.
How would you know how long it took to write it?
Unless you are referring to text speak. "
Txt speak was what I had in mind with that point. |
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