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How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men are well within their rights to refuse women.... I've been knocked back both on here and off. I don't presume that every man I take a liking to feels the same, however much I might wish they did.
Have I always handled it well? Probably not but I wouldn't abuse said person. I'd get d*unk and moan to my friends  |
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over a year ago
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"Fancy a fuck  
Yes please 
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity  )
Hang on this isn’t that type of thread  "
I know ... sorry
Sometimes you have to just try! |
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"Men are well within their rights to refuse women.... I've been knocked back both on here and off. I don't presume that every man I take a liking to feels the same, however much I might wish they did.
Have I always handled it well? Probably not but I wouldn't abuse said person. I'd get d*unk and moan to my friends "
Yes you seem to have a liking for wine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
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"Fancy a fuck
Yes please
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity )
Hang on this isn’t that type of thread
I know ... sorry
Sometimes you have to just try! "
You need to be first in line on the confessional thread tomorrow  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fancy a fuck
Yes please
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity )
Hang on this isn’t that type of thread
I know ... sorry
Sometimes you have to just try!
You need to be first in line on the confessional thread tomorrow "
Yes ma'am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men are well within their rights to refuse women.... I've been knocked back both on here and off. I don't presume that every man I take a liking to feels the same, however much I might wish they did.
Have I always handled it well? Probably not but I wouldn't abuse said person. I'd get d*unk and moan to my friends
Yes you seem to have a liking for wine "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know about anyone else I just said thank you and left it at that. I’m not that pretentious and think that any man would want to have sex with me and realise I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. But saying that I also don’t ask normally x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
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Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get FAF messages 
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along? "
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
What is? "
Ohh err mumble shuffle...
Sister Lisa will be busy in the morning |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read. "
Sexual market value???
*checks self for price tag....* |
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along?
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three. "
Keep me a leg!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
What is?
Ohh err mumble shuffle...
Sister Lisa will be busy in the morning "
Really I have nothing to confess ... I'm just being me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along?
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three.
Keep me a leg! "
Just the one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fancy a fuck
Yes please
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity )
I would alas your to far
Story of my fab life 
I may get down that way I'll look you up "
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I’ve had a few knock backs to my first messages no big deal. Just leave them too it
Though one guy then did message me to call me a rude (with some obscenities attached) for not thanking him for his reply 
He said no I was going to send another message that could be unwanted |
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along?
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three.
Keep me a leg!
Just the one "
How big is the Dinosaur?? If its a t-rex deffo just the one... |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I think men have every right to refuse a woman if she’s not what they’re interested in, for whatever reason. Nobody likes rejection but if we’re adult enough to be on here we should be able to deal with rejection |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
Sexual market value???
*checks self for price tag....*"
Yeah I read it too
I'm struggling a bit with the idea of people as commodities.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along?
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three.
Keep me a leg!
Just the one
How big is the Dinosaur?? If its a t-rex deffo just the one... "
Oh! A dinosaur leg  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fancy a fuck
Yes please
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity )
I would alas your to far
Story of my fab life
I may get down that way I'll look you up
Why you blushing x"
*whispers* cos I know I'm not that hot |
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"Men get FAF messages
Some do yes, you need to leave your cage more often
Waves from the beach. Ohh it's big out here
How's that fire coming along?
Logs are burning. Dinosaurs roasting and I've just managed to wreck a ship on the rocks so I'll be ok for a drink or three.
Keep me a leg!
Just the one
How big is the Dinosaur?? If its a t-rex deffo just the one...
Oh! A dinosaur leg "
Was there something else on offer? |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too. "
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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About 3 weeks ago I recived a FAF by a lady who was interested in women and couples I said yes but explained I could not do immediately as she wanted it was about 2.00 pm I was still at work and said I could do 5.00 pm we exchanged some messages there was no nasty words.I don't know if I should message her again or weather it was a spur of the moment from her as I am not really what she wants on her profile. |
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By *ork10Man
over a year ago
York |
"Fancy a fuck
Yes please
(Didn't want to waste that opportunity )
I would alas your to far
Story of my fab life
I may get down that way I'll look you up
Why you blushing x
*whispers* cos I know I'm not that hot "
Can't message you just out of age range |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have made contact first and got the silence treatment after sending a cock I mean I face pic. I prefer that to them saying let's meet just because I have a vagina. "
Very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Women send the first message?? That's blown my mind
And people on here tell me to get out more!
What is this out that you speak of? "
It's when pink panther let's you out of the cage |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read. "
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk? |
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Everyone has the right to say no wether you are a man or a woman, if they aren’t for you then no thank you is the only answer you can give surely
The problem starts when said person can’t take that answer and just leave it there |
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Women normally take a knock back hard, but try not to show it and try act as normal as possible.
They are not like men they wont message you back saying "ya fat ugly cunt, didnt want you anyway". They might message a friend saying they got rejected though. |
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"I think men have every right to refuse a woman if she’s not what they’re interested in, for whatever reason. Nobody likes rejection but if we’re adult enough to be on here we should be able to deal with rejection "
It shouldn't even be someone's opinion. IT IS ACCEPTABLE for a man to reject a woman. |
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I’ve had the odd ‘no thanks’ from a message in my time on here but it doesn’t bother me at all!
Very few people are everyone’s type - why would that bother me?
Luckily for every guy who doesn’t want to meet me there are plenty who will - so I’m fine either way! X |
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Why would a man feel like he has to say yes regardless? It's a vag, they're common as fuck, loads of them, they're not rare or special particularly
Sit up, beg, roll over, heel? No thanks, I prefer not to climb any pedestals for the sake of sex that won't be any better than with anyone down here |
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over a year ago
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same."
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid. 
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return. |
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"Women normally take a knock back hard, but try not to show it and try act as normal as possible.
They are not like men they wont message you back saying "ya fat ugly cunt, didnt want you anyway". They might message a friend saying they got rejected though."
Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone |
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"Why would a man feel like he has to say yes regardless? It's a vag, they're common as fuck, loads of them, they're not rare or special particularly
Sit up, beg, roll over, heel? No thanks, I prefer not to climb any pedestals for the sake of sex that won't be any better than with anyone down here "
Good for you sweetie!
TBH I think the women on here would be far better off if all guys were the same! Xx |
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"I think men have every right to refuse a woman if she’s not what they’re interested in, for whatever reason. Nobody likes rejection but if we’re adult enough to be on here we should be able to deal with rejection
It shouldn't even be someone's opinion. IT IS ACCEPTABLE for a man to reject a woman. "
Of course it is ... both ways around ... so long as whoever is rejecting is not abusive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh yeah, even when I was sweetness and light, I'd get knocked back. Sometimes even when the bloke was the one to first approach.
No biggie. I'd be disappointed but block and move on. |
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This is something I have to deal with a lot as I've pretty much sacked meeting on here as all I ever get is the complete not rights or just plain old liers and let me tel you when it comes to a knock back women are ruthless. Guess that saying about a woman scorned is alive and kicking especially on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk?"
I don't think it will be an organised revolution, rather an increase in violent crime. TImothy Mcveigh and Elliot Rodger are two such (extreme) examples of what happens to some men when their desires aren't fulfilled. (Let me just say that in no way are women to blame for any of this - in fact it is entirely mens fault). Most guys will just suffer silently and continue commiting suicide, but I think society will descend into chaos in a number of ways, one of them being violent crime. When your value as a male is continually devalued, your rights are taken from you, your opportunities stripped and the legal system is against you, there's only so much the population can take before it decides enough is enough. |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk?
I don't think it will be an organised revolution, rather an increase in violent crime. TImothy Mcveigh and Elliot Rodger are two such (extreme) examples of what happens to some men when their desires aren't fulfilled. (Let me just say that in no way are women to blame for any of this - in fact it is entirely mens fault). Most guys will just suffer silently and continue commiting suicide, but I think society will descend into chaos in a number of ways, one of them being violent crime. When your value as a male is continually devalued, your rights are taken from you, your opportunities stripped and the legal system is against you, there's only so much the population can take before it decides enough is enough. "
But society hasn't descended into chaos before now? Not sure why it'd be different for men than women. |
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return. "
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context. |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk?
I don't think it will be an organised revolution, rather an increase in violent crime. TImothy Mcveigh and Elliot Rodger are two such (extreme) examples of what happens to some men when their desires aren't fulfilled. (Let me just say that in no way are women to blame for any of this - in fact it is entirely mens fault). Most guys will just suffer silently and continue commiting suicide, but I think society will descend into chaos in a number of ways, one of them being violent crime. When your value as a male is continually devalued, your rights are taken from you, your opportunities stripped and the legal system is against you, there's only so much the population can take before it decides enough is enough.
But society hasn't descended into chaos before now? Not sure why it'd be different for men than women."
Never before in history have men been the subject of regulation when it comes to their sexuality.
Womens choices are subsidized while mens are regulated. |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk?
I don't think it will be an organised revolution, rather an increase in violent crime. TImothy Mcveigh and Elliot Rodger are two such (extreme) examples of what happens to some men when their desires aren't fulfilled. (Let me just say that in no way are women to blame for any of this - in fact it is entirely mens fault). Most guys will just suffer silently and continue commiting suicide, but I think society will descend into chaos in a number of ways, one of them being violent crime. When your value as a male is continually devalued, your rights are taken from you, your opportunities stripped and the legal system is against you, there's only so much the population can take before it decides enough is enough. "
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure."
That's the reason social media has become so prolific. Snapchat/insta/twitter/facebook, all platforms used by women for instant validation and attention. They use likes/comments/subscribes as a currency in a fucked up ponzi scheme to magically inflate their value in the sexual marketplace. And the weak willed desperate men feeding them are to blame. |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read.
I read it all. What violent revolution do you imagine will happen from the menfolk?
I don't think it will be an organised revolution, rather an increase in violent crime. TImothy Mcveigh and Elliot Rodger are two such (extreme) examples of what happens to some men when their desires aren't fulfilled. (Let me just say that in no way are women to blame for any of this - in fact it is entirely mens fault). Most guys will just suffer silently and continue commiting suicide, but I think society will descend into chaos in a number of ways, one of them being violent crime. When your value as a male is continually devalued, your rights are taken from you, your opportunities stripped and the legal system is against you, there's only so much the population can take before it decides enough is enough.
But society hasn't descended into chaos before now? Not sure why it'd be different for men than women.
Never before in history have men been the subject of regulation when it comes to their sexuality.
Womens choices are subsidized while mens are regulated. "
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure."
No most msygonistic men just like to believe that’s the case |
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context."
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words. |
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"On a more intelligent note... I hope.
Men have choices too. And while no one enjoys being turned down I don't think men or women are that different and maybe our reactions are not thst different, even if they may be expressed differently.
If there's no connection no attraction none of the triggers that make people relate to each other then both men and women are likely to make judgements about others on what they read see or even feel about a girl.
Those intangibles may be different between men and women the triggers may be different but they do drive our connections.
If you don't get inside my mind make my tackle tremble my brain race and my imagination run wild then where is the incentive to meet?
If you do...
Nope, a lot of men have no choices at all. I'm one of them. I'be been here 6 months now and never received a message from a woman.
Go to my profile to find out why there are so many men like this.
One of the reasons men can't take no for an answer is because they are turned down by women who are actually lower in sexual market value than they are. Most women are easily able to punch well above their weight. If your'e interested in why this is just have a a read. "
Blimey. Some must be very strong then |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane "
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo "
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case "
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By *abs..Woman
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure."
Most? Of course you have no evidence to back that up. |
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"I think men have every right to refuse a woman if she’s not what they’re interested in, for whatever reason. Nobody likes rejection but if we’re adult enough to be on here we should be able to deal with rejection
It shouldn't even be someone's opinion. IT IS ACCEPTABLE for a man to reject a woman. "
My opinion doesn’t make it right or wrong, I was merely giving my opinion. Obviously men can reject whoever they want. That would be what’s known as common sense and therefore a given. |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Most? Of course you have no evidence to back that up. "
Perhaps he would like to share that evidence? |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Most? Of course you have no evidence to back that up.
Perhaps he would like to share that evidence?"
I doubt it. Sweeping generalisations are the way we like to work on the forums. If it’s on here it must be true |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case
Wibble "
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"Never had a knock back
For arguments sake let’s say you did, how would you respond? Do you think men have the right to say no without getting abuse? "
Of course they do. |
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context.
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words."
Indeed, doesn't make much sense! |
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I've been told by a few male friends on here that they've received a torrent of verbal abuse back from some women when they've replied with a 'thanks but no thanks'. |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case
Wibble
Wobble "
Are you back on the subject of punching above weight? |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case
Wibble
Wobble
Are you back on the subject of punching above weight? "
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context.
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words.
Indeed, doesn't make much sense!"
Wrong. just because a woman posts a naked pic doesn’t mean she’s entitled to be spoken to like a slapper, heaven forbid she’s posts it’s because despite the flaws she’s knows she has she accepts herself and is proud to show that hey. The attention she gets from such a pic could be considered merely a bonus not a necessity |
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In reality it's not down to gender though is it, it's down to personality.
On here I'd say the "supply & demand " dictates the awful behaviour shown by some people, male / female & couples. |
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context.
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words.
Indeed, doesn't make much sense!
Wrong. just because a woman posts a naked pic doesn’t mean she’s entitled to be spoken to like a slapper, heaven forbid she’s posts it’s because despite the flaws she’s knows she has she accepts herself and is proud to show that hey. The attention she gets from such a pic could be considered merely a bonus not a necessity "
I think we all know it's never acceptable to speak to someone like a slapper. Even on fab..... |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case
Wibble
Wobble
Are you back on the subject of punching above weight?
No nobody's above my weight "
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context.
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words.
Indeed, doesn't make much sense!
Wrong. just because a woman posts a naked pic doesn’t mean she’s entitled to be spoken to like a slapper, heaven forbid she’s posts it’s because despite the flaws she’s knows she has she accepts herself and is proud to show that hey. The attention she gets from such a pic could be considered merely a bonus not a necessity
I think we all know it's never acceptable to speak to someone like a slapper. Even on fab....."
Unfortunately it would seem a good proportion don’t - trust me |
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Ive had no problems saying bo thanks. Not to sound big headed, have received message from couples & ladies saying 'meet now wife is horny'
When its up like that 'a demand, like im some sort of performing monkey' ive no problem saying piss off no matter who it is
Guys deserve respect too |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane
Cuckoo cuckoo
I rest my case
Wibble
Wobble
Are you back on the subject of punching above weight?
No nobody's above my weight "
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"Never had a knock back
For arguments sake let’s say you did, how would you respond? Do you think men have the right to say no without getting abuse? "
I always block their profile whenever I’ve turned someone down, so never received any abuse |
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I just think men that say no are in the minority, because the majority establish a certain expectation bucking that norm can be awkward and a bit of a shock to the rejected party when it happens. |
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"How is it received?
Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too.
I think it's just people rather than gender. I've turned people down politely and they've got shirty or tried to change my mind as well as accepting it gracefully. I've also been turned down, always politely, and would like to think I fall into the graceful category. There is no point in doing otherwise in my opinion; I've been on the receiving end of those who forget that there is a person on the other end of a profile with a real life and choices so I don't understand why anyone else wouldn't at least try and do the same.
It's scary how many people forget there's a real person behind every profile. Or maybe they just don't care as long as they get laid.
To answer the OP- I think many women get an unrealistic view of their attractiveness due to the attention they get on here. Ego trips etc. Hypocrisy indeed when they slag off men for treating them like sex objects but do the same in return.
Nail on the head there! And the most ironic part of all this? The women complaining about being objectified and used are objectifying themselves. Just go to fuckbook/snapfuck/instafuck etc. Tits and asses everywhere with no context.
Naked/ semi naked pics and sex chat on profiles but then demanding a chat about something original and non sexual with a minimum of 180 words.
Indeed, doesn't make much sense!
Wrong. just because a woman posts a naked pic doesn’t mean she’s entitled to be spoken to like a slapper, heaven forbid she’s posts it’s because despite the flaws she’s knows she has she accepts herself and is proud to show that hey. The attention she gets from such a pic could be considered merely a bonus not a necessity "
Who said that women should be spoken to like a slapper? |
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"Only an insecure woman will take a knock back like that th rest of us think “ok onto the next” as we know we can be for everyone
Most women on here are insecure.
Or insane "
Insane? Moi? Kinda!!
Insecure? Used to be but NOT any more ... very happy in my skin now even though it ain't perfect |
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"Men get FAF messages
They most certainly do "
Usually from other guys, until you work out the privacy settings for your mailbox. The last one I received was;
“Wank/suck fun?”
I sorted my message filters after that |
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Do you feel like you’re supposed to say yes regardless?
Any other thoughts on the subject or negative things you’ve experienced after saying no?
I've had a few conversations on this topic in the past couple of days. I was quite shocked to discover that ‘no’ really isn’t acceptable when a guy receives a FAF from a female. There are many threads with women complaining about men not accepting no gracefully and it appears women are just as guilty. I don’t just mean via messages but at group socials too. "
I say no thanks on a regular. Ain't arsed what they believe how I should respond. Life's too set for dat s@#t |
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I've politely declined advances from women and found they have acted gracefully, I've had a few men act up when declining but I disagree all Fab men are twats as was stated earlier there are many decent guys here |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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Read the forums regularly and you can see pretty obvious examples where men are treated as inferior beings. Thankfully that hasn't hapened in this thread.
Props to Lex for being honest both on his profile and in this thread about his thoughts. I for one can see where he is coming from. I don't agree entirely and I don't share the doom and gloom view but there is something in what he says for sure. |
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I don’t believe I have ever been offended and taken it personally when rejected. I just see it as a two way street. In the same way I decline the advances of others, they have the right to do the same.
It’s when they don’t decline and stand you up that’s an issue. But that’s a different thread lol |
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I would never expect a man to say yes to my advances. I have a lot of respect for males on this site. I may joke about the odd message, but all in all, I've met and spoken to some lovely guys on here. I've never messaged FAF on here. I always put an effort into my messages, if I text first. If they were not interested, I wouldn't be abusive. We are all entitled to have our preferences respected. Just like some are not my type, so am I not theirs. I accept that as a given and would just move on the next profile that caught my attention
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We can't all be everyone's cup of tea. I very rarely make the first move on here, whether it be by winking or a message, and often get ignored, which is fine as I just presume that I'm not what they are looking for. It's really not the end of the world that some faceless random from a sex website doesn't want to chat, so there really is no need to get stroppy about it. |
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Many, many reasons why anyone would say no its surely about respecting that ad moving on?
I suppose the issue is how somebody says no? Which is a slightly different question.
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