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Would you swing if you weren't single
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many of the guys and girls on here would actually swing if they found a partner.
It seems there are a lot of guys on here who wouldn't be ok with sharing their potential future girlfriend, but I've not seen many girls mention their thoughts on this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i think i would. but it depends on the partner- if he wasn't happy then no. but if he is happy watching... hell yeah  "
Well yeah, a partners willingness is key like, but would you be factoring being open to swinging as a pre-requisite, or just a nice bonus? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a lot would depend on the partner, how they felt about it and where we met. My ex was bisexual, I would have considered sharing and playing with others had we both been in the scene at the time, as we’d played with one of her ‘vanilla’ friends together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm going to keep an eye on this one, I'd been on here as a single before and only rejoined because of a guy I'd been seeing who brought up a threesome, I mentioned this and he was initially excited then I told him a few things I'd gotten up to in the past on here. Let's just say it must've freaked him out as I'm single again. The only reason I haven't deleted my profile again is the chat in the forums... |
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"i think i would. but it depends on the partner- if he wasn't happy then no. but if he is happy watching... hell yeah
Well yeah, a partners willingness is key like, but would you be factoring being open to swinging as a pre-requisite, or just a nice bonus?"
I don't fall in love easily- so it would be a nice bonus. I would like to think that I would only like someone who is generally open minded and non judgemental you really have to to put up with me  ) which might make it more likely for him to be open minded about sex as well. however- it would only be a very very nice bonus  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's a really good question, I think I would be happy if my partner wanted to but would respect if not. A couple dynamic is different and needs to be mutual. |
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IF I were to get in another relationship it would at minimum need to be sexually adventurous, don't think I could go back to completely vanilla again.
Ideally it would be open, providing as others have said, they were OK with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"IF I were to get in another relationship it would at minimum need to be sexually adventurous, don't think I could go back to completely vanilla again.
Ideally it would be open, providing as others have said, they were OK with that. "
Its about communication and honesty I think most committed to the lifestyle are open and honest. If someone has a problem it can be discussed, also the lifestyle can be encouraged if that's what works for both. |
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I've tried it and I'm not too good at it but I'm not sure of that's because we didn't live together so when we saw each other I didn't really want to share him.
I guess as well you have to be totally secure in yourself and trust that the other person loves you truly and won't run off with someone more fun lol that was my biggest issue, that I wasn't good enough. Even though I'm pretty awesome. |
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"I'm going to keep an eye on this one, I'd been on here as a single before and only rejoined because of a guy I'd been seeing who brought up a threesome, I mentioned this and he was initially excited then I told him a few things I'd gotten up to in the past on here. Let's just say it must've freaked him out as I'm single again. The only reason I haven't deleted my profile again is the chat in the forums... "
What a shame!
Though you have to introduce them to this madness a bit at a time!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Depends on the partner surely?
This 
I've had both swinging and monogamous relationships"
This was the point in the question. Do you have a preference for one or the other when it comes to relationships.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I met someone who was as into it as much as I am then I'd be chuffed to bits, I would want to continue having sex with other people and if she did to, and didn't mind me doing it that would be great |
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I don't mind sharing. But found that when it came to meeting my ex partner simply couldnt share me with another man... another woman yes... hell yes... but he got cold feet about a week before our first full swap. |
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"How many of the guys and girls on here would actually swing if they found a partner.
It seems there are a lot of guys on here who wouldn't be ok with sharing their potential future girlfriend, but I've not seen many girls mention their thoughts on this. "
I was sitting in the corner of a sauna at my local club, listening to the conversation between two younger men.
Basically they were saying they loved the club, but would never take their girlfriends to it  |
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"How many of the guys and girls on here would actually swing if they found a partner.
It seems there are a lot of guys on here who wouldn't be ok with sharing their potential future girlfriend, but I've not seen many girls mention their thoughts on this.
I was sitting in the corner of a sauna at my local club, listening to the conversation between two younger men.
Basically they were saying they loved the club, but would never take their girlfriends to it "
It’s this sort of hypocrisy in the scene (in clubs and online) that really irritates me! It’s ok for them to play and share someone’s else’s wife or girlfriend but the thought of it being their partner is a no no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think i could have a cuckold relationship and use the site to find the third man. Me getting extra cock and my partner watching or joining in.
No other women would be allowed to get their mitts on my fella though. I'm very territorial. Although i'd happily let my fella be sucked or fucked by another man as I watched.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think i could have a cuckold relationship and use the site to find the third man. Me getting extra cock and my partner watching or joining in.
No other women would be allowed to get their mitts on my fella though. I'm very territorial. Although i'd happily let my fella be sucked or fucked by another man as I watched.
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This for me |
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"I think i could have a cuckold relationship and use the site to find the third man. Me getting extra cock and my partner watching or joining in.
No other women would be allowed to get their mitts on my fella though. I'm very territorial. Although i'd happily let my fella be sucked or fucked by another man as I watched.
This for me "
This is for me as well, would love a partner to have as much as she wants while I watch !!!
Xx |
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"I think i could have a cuckold relationship and use the site to find the third man. Me getting extra cock and my partner watching or joining in.
No other women would be allowed to get their mitts on my fella though. I'm very territorial. Although i'd happily let my fella be sucked or fucked by another man as I watched.
My dream scenario !!!
How much cock could you handle ??
Xxx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lice swinging as part of a couple (although it's rare I do with my current girlfriend) but as a single I've never swung. I've used this amd other sites to hook up but to me that's not swinging amd group sex as a singleton has never appealed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been in 2 swinging relationships But I don’t need to swing in a relationship but as I enjoy woman and I don’t suffer jealousy when we play with woman together so I get the best of both worlds |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been on here both with the ex husband and as a single. My ex would never have done full swap with a man with me, fine meeting females.
If everyone is on the same wave length would definitely be here as a couple |
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I did with my ex, we met as two single swingers. I doubt I would again. I would explore poly but doubt swinging is for me anymore. It feels empty or at least has done for some time. I don’t think its always felt empty, but it does now and I need more than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably wouldn't, no. I doubt I'd settle down with a swinger this time round. I don't see myself as a proper swinger anymore. I'm more of a dabbler now . |
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"I think i could have a cuckold relationship and use the site to find the third man. Me getting extra cock and my partner watching or joining in.
No other women would be allowed to get their mitts on my fella though. I'm very territorial. Although i'd happily let my fella be sucked or fucked by another man as I watched.
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Always considered myself straight but recently come to think with the right woman this would be an option |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We decided when we got together we didn’t want to share, we obviously have our fantasy ‘swap’ life and when in the throes of passion but we wouldn’t actually fuilfil it.
Geeky x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If my long term partner wanted a serious relationship we would probably keep meeting other people.
If I net someone who wanted a monogamous relationship, I could do that too.
If I'm getting sex and intimacy from someone I don't need to look elsewhere.
As sex isn't about a cock in my hole I'd probably be happy with one man filling it, who cared about me, than multiple men who only want the hole. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't crave sex enough to want it with loads of different people so probably not.
I want good sex with just one person and that has been something I've not found for a long time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Conversely I don't think I would swing but certainly not use online dating or hook up sites if I was single. It all feels a bit false a lot of the time, and being fed a line to get in your pants.
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Depends on the partner. I was dating a girl briefly and I mentioned this site. Freaked her out so I’m still single.
I should probably keep quiet in future. Swinging and sharing sexual partners is definitely not the norm. Majority of people would be shocked and disgusted I fear. |
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"Conversely I don't think I would swing but certainly not use online dating or hook up sites if I was single. It all feels a bit false a lot of the time, and being fed a line to get in your pants.
Ginger "
That's what I like about fab - far more honest and generally people here better behaved too. I initially started off on online dating apps and sites and got fed up with people claiming to be looking for a serious/monogamous relationship but a few messages in not only was it likely they were looking for a ons but I'd say about half were married/co-habiting, And I don't mean open marriages. Often they weren't properly telling me they were married/CH they'd let slip something then when outright asked either
A they'd vanish
B they'd badly try to backpedal
Or worse
C "well what do you care you said you only wanted something casual"  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How many of the guys and girls on here would actually swing if they found a partner.
It seems there are a lot of guys on here who wouldn't be ok with sharing their potential future girlfriend, but I've not seen many girls mention their thoughts on this.
I was sitting in the corner of a sauna at my local club, listening to the conversation between two younger men.
Basically they were saying they loved the club, but would never take their girlfriends to it
It’s this sort of hypocrisy in the scene (in clubs and online) that really irritates me! It’s ok for them to play and share someone’s else’s wife or girlfriend but the thought of it being their partner is a no no."
It's how I see it too, but I understand that these guys might also fulfill a specific role. |
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