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I was telling someone the other day about a time where my flatmate and I watched the same TV channel for 3 days because I confiscated the remote until she washed the dishes.
Are you that stubborn? Do you get hung up on stupid things or do you only dig your heels in when it matters?
Does it make a difference who the other person is?
Incidentally our stalemate ended when one of our friends did the dishes when he came to visit, god knows how long it would've lasted otherwise! |
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Too right!
There is a suitcase in the spare bedroom that hubby not unpacked and neither have I! Been there since August! Why? Because I did all the unpacking and washing and got fucking fed up! So he can un pack his own case!!
It was the same with the glass by his table in the Lounge, got left there a week as he wouldn't take it to the kitchen and wash it up!! |
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I can be stubborn but situations depend upon my objectives - relationships are usually much more important than being difficult for no purpose other than forcing someone to change. Better outcomes are usually achieved by good communication rather than pressure . And if there's a high cost of being stubborn, it can be fruitless. But I can have enormous tenacity if something is important and I'm willing to pay the price. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Too right!
There is a suitcase in the spare bedroom that hubby not unpacked and neither have I! Been there since August! Why? Because I did all the unpacking and washing and got fucking fed up! So he can un pack his own case!!
It was the same with the glass by his table in the Lounge, got left there a week as he wouldn't take it to the kitchen and wash it up!! "
 Im so glad its not just me! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can be stubborn but situations depend upon my objectives - relationships are usually much more important than being difficult for no purpose other than forcing someone to change. Better outcomes are usually achieved by good communication rather than pressure . And if there's a high cost of being stubborn, it can be fruitless. But I can have enormous tenacity if something is important and I'm willing to pay the price. "
Yeah Im the same. Im much more flexible and willing to compromise when it's something important at stake. |
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"I was telling someone the other day about a time where my flatmate and I watched the same TV channel for 3 days because I confiscated the remote until she washed the dishes.
Are you that stubborn? Do you get hung up on stupid things or do you only dig your heels in when it matters?
Does it make a difference who the other person is?
Incidentally our stalemate ended when one of our friends did the dishes when he came to visit, god knows how long it would've lasted otherwise! "
Hold up, you left a lot in the air there.
Why wouldn't she wash up?
Why couldn't you change the channel and watch what you wanted?
How awkward was it sat on the couch together by day 3?
How did she react after she'd done the dishes?
Why don't you get a dishwasher? |
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I hold a grudge forever but I'd just get on with it. They'd never know my smile was a grimace. 
Spent hours with a couple that weren't speaking to each other. I find that odd. |
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"You shouldn’t need to bring in stubborn sanctions; foster a paradigm of empathy on both sides.
And threaten to come for them while they sleep on day 2  "
I like your style! |
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"I was telling someone the other day about a time where my flatmate and I watched the same TV channel for 3 days because I confiscated the remote until she washed the dishes.
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How did she turn it on and off without the remote? If she did it manually then she would have been able to change the channels!
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Life's too short to get caught up in petty squabbles borne out of stubbornness. I fight for the big things but I like a quiet life too much to dig my heels in over the not so important stuff. |
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Why wouldn't she wash up?
Because she was super lazy and knew if she left it long enough id do them
Why couldn't you change the channel and watch what you wanted?
I don't really watch TV. I read. I didn't care what was on nor was I missing anything.
How awkward was it sat on the couch together by day 3?
Weirdly we just continued on as normal, neither of us mentioned the TV.
How did she react after she'd done the dishes?
Our friend was on my side so I think she did feel bad. She was slightly more tidy for a week or so after.
Why don't you get a dishwasher?
It was a rented flat. She has one in her new place though, it never ever gets emptied. |
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"I was telling someone the other day about a time where my flatmate and I watched the same TV channel for 3 days because I confiscated the remote until she washed the dishes.
How did she turn it on and off without the remote? If she did it manually then she would have been able to change the channels!
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It was the remote for the freeview box. The TV had a separate one. |
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"Why wouldn't she wash up?
Because she was super lazy and knew if she left it long enough id do them
Why couldn't you change the channel and watch what you wanted?
I don't really watch TV. I read. I didn't care what was on nor was I missing anything.
How awkward was it sat on the couch together by day 3?
Weirdly we just continued on as normal, neither of us mentioned the TV.
How did she react after she'd done the dishes?
Our friend was on my side so I think she did feel bad. She was slightly more tidy for a week or so after.
Why don't you get a dishwasher?
It was a rented flat. She has one in her new place though, it never ever gets emptied. "
You did the right thing in my opinion although i think i would have escalated the situation before day 3. I admire your perseverance. |
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Hmmmmm some things just aren’t worth being stubborn about. I’m stubborn if I really want something and I know it’s achievable. I’m more stubborn when I’m in protective mode, I hate seeing friends hurt or being hurt  |
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"Too right!
There is a suitcase in the spare bedroom that hubby not unpacked and neither have I! Been there since August! Why? Because I did all the unpacking and washing and got fucking fed up! So he can un pack his own case!!
It was the same with the glass by his table in the Lounge, got left there a week as he wouldn't take it to the kitchen and wash it up!! "
Do you share mowing the lawn, washing the car, doing DIY around the house? Not being flippant or sexist just wondering.  |
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"Life's too short to get caught up in petty squabbles borne out of stubbornness. I fight for the big things but I like a quiet life too much to dig my heels in over the not so important stuff. "
Hate pointless tit for tat bickering, it's childish. |
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"I was telling someone the other day about a time where my flatmate and I watched the same TV channel for 3 days because I confiscated the remote until she washed the dishes.
How did she turn it on and off without the remote? If she did it manually then she would have been able to change the channels!
It was the remote for the freeview box. The TV had a separate one. "
Ahhhhh!
She must have suffered, even if she didn't show it. |
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