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Desparatley want the mrs to swing.
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
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Why not go to the Town House on a wednesday night. Not with the goal of swinging but purely for the social side and to play together. Let her know she's in full control. If it feels right for her then it will open new doors. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Have tried swingers club in playa del ingles 2x2. We got to the door and she couldnt go in. At home S is so mega horny when thinking about it it .. it drives me crazy she wont do the real thing. Im 100 % sure she'll love it |
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"Sounds bad but my wife who I love is so near to taking the plunge, but is frightened to take the last leap.  "
Give her time and space. Let her know you'll go at her pace and don't use the word desperate.
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"Have tried swingers club in playa del ingles 2x2. We got to the door and she couldnt go in. At home S is so mega horny when thinking about it it .. it drives me crazy she wont do the real thing. Im 100 % sure she'll love it"
You can't ever be 100% sure that someone else will enjoy swinging. You're coming across as pushy although that might nor be your intention. She might feel more comfortable if you back off. |
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"That word desperate... think if being honest I am. I see all you lot enjoinng the life.. imagine your lives with out it."
We can imagine that quite easily.
Very few swingers are at it night and day though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That word desperate... think if being honest I am. I see all you lot enjoinng the life.. imagine your lives with out it."
Fairly easy to imagine life without swinging, we only have occasional meets and have sex everyday with each other.
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"When we fantasise about it she will have the most explosive orgasms the like she would not have during sex with me.....????"
Not everyone wants to turn their fantasy in to reality.
You know her better than us though. Find out if she is just scared of taking the final step or she is going along with it because she knows you're desperate and its driving you crazy (that's a lot of pressure).
If it's the former reassure her, discuss her fears, read about it on the net etc. If it's the latter you're going to have to back off.
Whichever it turns out to be I hope it works out well for all concerned. |
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"Have tried swingers club in playa del ingles 2x2. We got to the door and she couldnt go in. At home S is so mega horny when thinking about it it .. it drives me crazy she wont do the real thing. Im 100 % sure she'll love it"
I can recommend a club in London that she may feel better going to, it's so very friendly both me and my husband were just like your wife after a lot of research we took the plunge and visited this club and we were amazed at how relaxed and friendly it was,at first it was like sitting in the pub chatting with strangers, after a couple of hours of watching what was going on we ended up so horney that we joined in with some fun all under the guidance of the regulars it was great there was not an ounce of pressure  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When we fantasise about it she will have the most explosive orgasms the like she would not have during sex with me.....????
Not everyone wants to turn their fantasy in to reality.
You know her better than us though. Find out if she is just scared of taking the final step or she is going along with it because she knows you're desperate and its driving you crazy (that's a lot of pressure).
If it's the former reassure her, discuss her fears, read about it on the net etc. If it's the latter you're going to have to back off.
Whichever it turns out to be I hope it works out well for all concerned."
Completely agree with this. To fantasize about it is one thing, doing it is quite another. Please dont try and push her further than she wants to go, it may do more harm than you realise. I hope you both get what you want and everyone is happy |
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OP, back off and let her decide at her own pace and if she doesn't then accept it..
show her a bit of respect rather than putting up a thread such as this which the way its worded will only put pressure on her..
There is nothing more off putting than when it is obvious that one person in a couple does not want to play.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've spent the last 2 years going to clubs as part of a couple....we've played with others twice! There's no pressure to play...but it's a great way to loosen up and approach swinging gently. |
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"We have a joint profile.. she knows about it and we have many fantasies togeher about the many replies. She just wont go the final jump... so to say."
The fact you both share many fantasies is a good sign... But I'd say you need to be more patient with her.
the excitement the fantasies bring to your sex life at present should be enough to keep you going until she is ready to enter a club.
Hubby and I have been married 16 yrs... I found out about his interest in this over 10 yrs ago. I'd say it's been a gradual build up... I hated the first club we visited to the point I lost interest in the scene altogether. Eventually got into using this site properly almost 4 yrs ago. Had our first mmf. Got a little freaked out (him).. Took a break... Tried a club again... and again. You get the picture. I'm way more comfortable with it all now but it's not a huge focus in our lives (mainly due to time and distance)
Just don't expect all your fantasises to be fulfilled once you've got her into a club. Expect there could be ups and downs. Most of all... Let her set the pace.
Good luck!
Sara |
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