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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
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The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.
You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?
When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
Asking for a friend
The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.
You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?
When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?
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It’s a no then  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
Asking for a friend "
The regular squeeze might have done when he chose to message me but luckily I turned out to be fantastic so it was a punt worth taking. So tell your 'friend' nothing ventured, nothing gained. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wanders in reads thread...
Where do I start.
Perhaps it's a good job your friend didn't come and ask the question himself!...
Still perhaps with friends like that....
Wanders back to man cave shaking head in bemusement... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get so many messages here that I’ve had to narrow my acceptance criteria significantly.
If you’re not getting that many offers you’re doing it wrong  "
Wow ... so men on here tell fibs ... they usually say they don't get many (or any!) messages.
I'll not be writing to Adam anymore 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
Asking for a friend
The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.
You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?
When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?
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This thread could make an excellent filter for exactly the reasons outlined above. |
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My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully) "
That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.
Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet |
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully) "
thats more prefrences thou |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)
thats more prefrences thou"
Grammar police  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)
thats more prefrences thou
Grammar police "
no not at all |
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)
That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.
Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet "
I'm fairly happy with the number of meets I've had in my time here.
As for the difference between standards and preferences, I'd say my standards are fairly low.
Safe sex, honesty and being a decent person. When I'm hoping to spend a long time with a person, I can be more picky. |
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"My standards for who I will meet on fab are different to the standards I use on dating sites where I am looking for a long-term relationship.
Because I don't care if my fab friend is or isn't a vegan who watches soaps, what he, she or they do at weekends etc.
My interest is for the time we will spend together, which is probably an evening, as opposed to a life time (hopefully)
That’s what I meant before everyone who jumped on the desperation band wagon.
Thank you bud. Top man but will you get a meet "
Should have explained yourself better then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forget Fab. Lots of guys lower their preferences when it's getting to the end of the night in a night club!
Maybe they're not as attractive to the women they aspire to as they think or there's not many women.
These things usually come down to numbers and competition.
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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Anyone who says that if they lined up Ten potential meets they wouldn't work down in order of attractivness until they got a result is kidding themselves. The other factors like personality and compatibility will alter placings obviously. But essentially you're subconciously ranking everyone you potentially wish to meet.
When you join a site like this the first thing you have got to do is find your feet. Part of that process may very well include learning that you have less chance of meeting the ladies that should really be risiding in the playboy mansion than you thought. Or one of many other characteristics.
I don't see this as lowering your standards at all. I see it more about learning about yourself and discovering who you find attractive to the point of wanting to have sex with them.
You can call bullshit on me. But I will tell you now if I go with someone who I don't find attractive I am not going to enjoy the experience and neither are they. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't believe in lowering standards just to get a meet, I'd prefer to be patient and meet people that are on my wavelength and have chemistry with.
Now I don't have many meets and I'd prefer it that way, it's about quality and not quantity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal! "
We will in hope |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal!
We live in hope "
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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
Asking for a friend "
Oh dear ... pity any poor lady that ‘your friend’ might or has met being made to feel that she was a lower standard grading  |
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"Boys, did you have to lower your standards in order to meet people on here?
Asking for a friend
The lowering-your-standards question is dripping with arrogance and self-deception.
You’ve mentally ranked the women and decided what “level” you’re worthy of?
When you get no responses you “drop your standards” to deign to consider the lesser women but, all the while, reassure yourself that you’re out of their league and doing them a favour?
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This!
You won't be for everyone, don't assume you are. however amazing you think you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I have been told to lower my standards a few times on here but I like to keep true to me, it keeps you feeling good about your self, I'd rather not meet anyone than settle for less, still not met anyone yet though lol but iam fine with it, just know when I do get a meet it will be unreal!
We live in hope "
always hopeful man, they day will come eventually! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Anyone who says that if they lined up Ten potential meets they wouldn't work down in order of attractivness until they got a result is kidding themselves. The other factors like personality and compatibility will alter placings obviously. But essentially you're subconciously ranking everyone you potentially wish to meet.
When you join a site like this the first thing you have got to do is find your feet. Part of that process may very well include learning that you have less chance of meeting the ladies that should really be risiding in the playboy mansion than you thought. Or one of many other characteristics.
I don't see this as lowering your standards at all. I see it more about learning about yourself and discovering who you find attractive to the point of wanting to have sex with them.
You can call bullshit on me. But I will tell you now if I go with someone who I don't find attractive I am not going to enjoy the experience and neither are they."
Completely, totally and utterly agree with this xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm looking for something meaningful so my standards are high. Whether the guys are dropping thiers to meet me I don't know. They all cum in the end anyway. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I think if you lower your standards you must be getting a bit desperate for a shag tbh. I'd be gutted if I found out someone had lowered theirs to meet me.
I rather get the Doxy out than lower mine!!
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I assume you really mean preferences? We all have different preferences whether it be a certain body type, age range etc etc. We personally wouldn’t choose to play with somebody outside our preferences as we wish to play with people that we find attractive. |
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