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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Erm

Very sad but you seem to have identified part of the problem yourself

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

You feel crap .? ...wonder how she feels after you vented your spleen ....now wonder shes gone .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

This might sound harsh but love to you ( with the scant evidence in front of me ) seems to mean that you can verbally abuse people or use them to vent your immature emotions on and expect them to take it and carrying on as if it doesn't matter.

This is called self love.

You didn't love them enough to respect them or their feelings.

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

You mean you was dumped 5 minutes ago?.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I only said things in anger as I was upset at being dumped if I could take them back I would, "

Just let her go. Learn from it. She has learned that she was right to dump you.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

Did she find out you were on here?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 07:56:23]"

That's easy for you to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only time, and giving yourself distractions to keep the mind occupied elsewhere work in this situation. Friends are a great support network when you feel miserable. They're there for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

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how do you get over this feeling ??? Your 47 not 17 you come here for sympathy. You sir I feel will be disappointed

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

So you where dumped and decided to come on fab to let the world know

Why??

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Oops I assumed it was a teen too.

A grown man saying nasty things because someone no longer wants to be with him......

Verbal abuse..... Own it and stop whinging. Change your bad attitude.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Feel for you. Not nice when it happens.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"So you where dumped and decided to come on fab to let the world know

Why??"

Cos it's easier to piss it out into the ether than admit it to flesh and blood.

Virtual Therapy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Feel for you. Not nice when it happens. "

Being dumped or having nasty things said to you when you tell someone things aren't working ?

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman over a year ago

stourbridge area

Reap what you sow ....lifes a bitch

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Was not looking for sympathy just advice on how others move on, and the nasty thing I said was goodbye, I am not Ito name calling or verbal abuse, but saying goodbye tipped her over the edge, that's my regret

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People say and do stupid things then the mind games start get out get far away ass possible and dont look back x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This might sound harsh but love to you ( with the scant evidence in front of me ) seems to mean that you can verbally abuse people or use them to vent your immature emotions on and expect them to take it and carrying on as if it doesn't matter.

This is called self love.

You didn't love them enough to respect them or their feelings.

Scant evidence is right

In other interpretations... A row was had, emotions were high and regretful things were said.

Human nature at its base level since the beginning of time that echoes every second breakup ever and you're playing the "abuser" card

To the OP, hopefully you can mend ways and enjoy some great makeup sex.

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By *ranimallxl5Man over a year ago

Winchester

Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

Have you told the person you regret what you said?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

Lots of people say things in anger that they regret. For it to end a relationship, well I guess that says a lot about what you said or how often you do it.

Move on. And learn from your behaviour.

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By *s.KerryTV/TS over a year ago

Blackpool

This the wife you had six weeks ago or the girlfriend you had two weeks ago may I ask?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Give it a day or two to calm down and then apologise for the things said.

And then leave it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was not looking for sympathy just advice on how others move on, and the nasty thing I said was goodbye, I am not Ito name calling or verbal abuse, but saying goodbye tipped her over the edge, that's my regret "

You said goodbye in anger and broke up as a result?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I take the verbal abuse back then. BUT.... You say

She dumped you. You said Goodbye. This tipped her over the edge.

Sounds like you are both playing emotional games with each other.

If you want to move on. Don't phone. Don't text. Don't answer calls or texts.

Do something different each day.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age. "

Which bunch of people are you talking about ?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Did she find out you were on here? "

OP were you in an open relationship or playing away ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Should never say things in anger .Always think before you say anything ,as can make it worse .Times a great healer for broken heart .But stop all communication ,no d*unken texts or just calling see how you are .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Now lets imagine it was a woman who posted and see the tone of the replies.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all say things and when we are angry.. that's when the truth comes out..unfortunately that's when it's most venomous

I would make a point of apologising as being on the receiving end it's not nice to hear those things in a certain tone even if it's the truth

I also don't think it matters if your 17 or 40 something..someone telling you they don't want you in their life anymore hurts. Good luck OP and next time be a little more tactful x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Now lets imagine it was a woman who posted and see the tone of the replies....."

I'd say the same thing.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age. "

He's a single guy - what do you expect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Now lets imagine it was a woman who posted and see the tone of the replies.....

I'd say the same thing. "

Me too

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Thmk you the advice did get better, I am not a nasty person and I appreciate the positive messages posted and the people who apologised

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age.

He's a single guy - what do you expect.

My replies are based on what the O.P. said in his O.P. Not on his gender or marital status.

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Feel for you. Not nice when it happens.

Being dumped or having nasty things said to you when you tell someone things aren't working ?"

Both! Being dumped isnt nice and hearing or saying nasty things you dont mean in an argument!

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Well that certainly got some comments some good some bad, but all interesting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

If she was a fb and you guys were playing on here together then why even fall for her in the first place it's inevitable she will like someone els unless your in a proper stable relationship.!

If you were in a proper relationship away from fab and she didn't know you were messing around on here then you deserve to be dumped for cheating.

Grow a pair and move on.!

Plenty of fish in the sea.

Learn from this.!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all say things and when we are angry.. that's when the truth comes out..unfortunately that's when it's most venomous

I would make a point of apologising as being on the receiving end it's not nice to hear those things in a certain tone even if it's the truth

I also don't think it matters if your 17 or 40 something..someone telling you they don't want you in their life anymore hurts. Good luck OP and next time be a little more tactful x"

Probably worse at 40, dumped at 17 and you still have an abundance of single people your age.

Older you are the less single people around.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"This the wife you had six weeks ago or the girlfriend you had two weeks ago may I ask?

This

The wife who likes showering with guys at the local gym or the girlfriend who likes to go topless and get looked at - or even did you manage to find the Hotwife girlfriend you were looking for two days ago?

Think it's important to let us know which OP as the advice may vary depending which it was

Whilst it's never nice to be dumped - as someone said up thread sometimes you reap what you sow.

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Yes you are possibly right when you are older it's not as easy to meet someone and bizarrely as it may seem you get more selective too

But thanks for your observation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My God nastiness at its best no matter if your 15 or 53 break ups are painful and we all says things in anger

The OP certainly didn't need the nastiness some of you lot gave him and like someone said if the OP had been a woman then the comments would have been full of sympathy

Try to apologise Op tell her that you said things in the heat of the moment good luck

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

The previous posts were fantasies but I get where you are coming from maybe my feelings for here were a fantasy too,

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"My God nastiness at its best no matter if your 15 or 53 break ups are painful and we all says things in anger

The OP certainly didn't need the nastiness some of you lot gave him and like someone said if the OP had been a woman then the comments would have been full of sympathy

Try to apologise Op tell her that you said things in the heat of the moment good luck"

Who was nasty ?

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

You just been dumped and you have a single profile already? That was quick work.

wait

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This the wife you had six weeks ago or the girlfriend you had two weeks ago may I ask?

This

Think it's important to let us know which OP as the advice may vary depending which it was

Whilst it's never nice to be dumped - as someone said up thread sometimes you reap what you sow."

That's stuff that was written in stories and fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]"

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We all say things and when we are angry.. that's when the truth comes out..unfortunately that's when it's most venomous

I would make a point of apologising as being on the receiving end it's not nice to hear those things in a certain tone even if it's the truth

I also don't think it matters if your 17 or 40 something..someone telling you they don't want you in their life anymore hurts. Good luck OP and next time be a little more tactful x

Probably worse at 40, dumped at 17 and you still have an abundance of single people your age.

Older you are the less single people around. "

Ano. You think you don't have the strength to meet someone again when your in your 40's. I seriously wouldn't be in another relationship at this age if I wasn't already in one x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty"

No you are right it wasn't a lecture so I deleted the post.

It is one hell of an assumption though. I don't see any nastiness. I do see a lot of sound advice.

So..... I'm asking. Where's the nasty posts ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty"

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

What I would do is buy her flowers with a note that says "I know I have lost you but as much as my heart is breaking I wish you all the best. I apologise for the things I said. They were cruel and untrue and you did not deserve to hear them. I hope in time you can forgive me.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice. "

Well we all see things differently so fair enough

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple over a year ago

Edinburgh.

The boy who cried “wolf”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up."

That's spot on x

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Fucking hell. If a woman said that there would be offers of tea and cake in seconds.

I can’t offer advice OP ... only you know what happened and healing takes time.

But I would suggest you don’t look to find the answer with this lot.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

Well we all see things differently so fair enough "

I see 4 posts that were uncalled for x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up."

I'd agree as long as he doesn't expect it to win her back.

P.S. ......... that song goes..... 'So if I broke your heart last night it's because I love you most of all.' .......

As an old sloppy song it stands up. As a dictum for someone to live their life by it's a croc of shit if you actually consider what it means.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

Well we all see things differently so fair enough

I see 4 posts that were uncalled for x"

Sorry 5 x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you where dumped and decided to come on fab to let the world know

Why??"

Exactly !!!!! Stop attention seeking !!!!! If you get dumped the last thing You think about is posting it on here ???

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Thank you Yossarin,

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Fucking hell. If a woman said that there would be offers of tea and cake in seconds.

I can’t offer advice OP ... only you know what happened and healing takes time.

But I would suggest you don’t look to find the answer with this lot.

V x "

That's about three or four posts that think it's okay to refer to other posters as 'this lot' ...

Are ....... this lot ..... just people with opinions different from yours ?

I'm not part of 'any lot' .... im sitting in my own house.

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By *lmostthereMan over a year ago

Southampton

Sheesh. This went downhill.

OP. Sorry to hear.

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Was not looking for sympathy over this just view points and so far they have been varied and some rather lively for a Sunday morning, thank you all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

Well we all see things differently so fair enough

I see 4 posts that were uncalled for x

Sorry 5 x"

Just our opinion though x

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

Worse things happen at sea

so said my old nan

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fucking hell. If a woman said that there would be offers of tea and cake in seconds.

I can’t offer advice OP ... only you know what happened and healing takes time.

But I would suggest you don’t look to find the answer with this lot.

V x

That's about three or four posts that think it's okay to refer to other posters as 'this lot' ...

Are ....... this lot ..... just people with opinions different from yours ?

I'm not part of 'any lot' .... im sitting in my own house."

I can confirm this. Sat in tree opposite with binoculars.

You’re never alone when you have a stalker

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Would just like to point out I've had my Fab profile for years, never met anyone else whilst with my ex, although posted on the forums a few times. Maybe I should not have done that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fucking hell. If a woman said that there would be offers of tea and cake in seconds.

I can’t offer advice OP ... only you know what happened and healing takes time.

But I would suggest you don’t look to find the answer with this lot.

V x

That's about three or four posts that think it's okay to refer to other posters as 'this lot' ...

Are ....... this lot ..... just people with opinions different from yours ?

I'm not part of 'any lot' .... im sitting in my own house."

Oh right I should have named the four or five then

Noted for next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Worse things happen at sea

so said my old nan

I used to say that a lot when we’re in the gulf on HMS Invincible.

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By *esparate danMan over a year ago

glasgow

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

So back to the matter in hand ..why were you angry with her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up.

I'd agree as long as he doesn't expect it to win her back.

P.S. ......... that song goes..... 'So if I broke your heart last night it's because I love you most of all.' .......

As an old sloppy song it stands up. As a dictum for someone to live their life by it's a croc of shit if you actually consider what it means. "

I don't think it was ever meant as an excuse for verbal abuse. It basically says that with true love comes passion and with passion the heart over rules the mind. "That hasty word you can't recall" comes out before you can stop it. The point is he wants to recall it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pour yourself a large drink and crack on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

Well we all see things differently so fair enough

I see 4 posts that were uncalled for x

Sorry 5 x

Just our opinion though x"

I'm as blunt as a hammer and even I went fuck sake at some of them lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up.

I'd agree as long as he doesn't expect it to win her back.

P.S. ......... that song goes..... 'So if I broke your heart last night it's because I love you most of all.' .......

As an old sloppy song it stands up. As a dictum for someone to live their life by it's a croc of shit if you actually consider what it means.

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"Worse things happen at sea

so said my old nan

I used to say that a lot when we’re in the gulf on HMS Invincible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by. "

The poor guy's heart is breaking and on top of it he feels guilty too. Come on guys!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by. "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd go buy a big tub of iced cream, I'd put my favourite movie on and I'd sulk all day.

The feeling of hurt won't last forever. I'd probably apologise for what ever was said as well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

Just loving how all the woman and couples assumed HE was the ass hole here right away and judged him extreamly harshly for it

If it had been a woman she would have had not but sympathy and word of encouragement and support, yet a man is treated as though he is a small child throwing a temper tantrum....typical

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by. "

Mate your halo needs polishing it’s called a laugh

if you post things like this it fair game

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 08:34:21]

Wasn't a lecture it was my opinion and if you read back through the thread I'm sure that you will see who was nasty

No I can't see who was nasty. So I'll settle for it just being your opinion.

I see all that was said as advice.

Well we all see things differently so fair enough

I see 4 posts that were uncalled for x

Sorry 5 x

Just our opinion though x

I'm as blunt as a hammer and even I went fuck sake at some of them lol x"

Lol glad to hear it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

It's shit, but sadly is life. We all say things we regret but if you apologise and mean it she may think again .... everyone makes mistakes, a decent person will forgive a mistake - unless it is something you have done repeatedly ... that might make a difference

It is hard to deal with/get through but I wish you luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by.

The poor guy's heart is breaking and on top of it he feels guilty too. Come on guys!"

Soz

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Without analysising the posts I'd say that the men are more compassionate on here than the women, I mean the one who have added posts that is, which I find different to what i would have expected .

No doubt I'll now receive a new batch of abuse , I mean comments Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there's a sympathy shag thead somewhere. You might get one OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by.

Mate your halo needs polishing it’s called a laugh

if you post things like this it fair game

I've always preferred not to laugh at other people's pain.

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by.

Mate your halo needs polishing it’s called a laugh

if you post things like this it fair game

I've always preferred not to laugh at other people's pain. "

He got dumped he’s not dead

happens to us all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

do u know why u got dumped ?

so we can help

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

Get back on the saddle op

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"So you where dumped and decided to come on fab to let the world know

Why??

Exactly !!!!! Stop attention seeking !!!!! If you get dumped the last thing You think about is posting it on here ??? "

There's no way you'd say this to a woman. There would have been 20 posts saying "hugz" by now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything"

Yet most act like it costs them their body weight in gold

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Welcome back to the single male world lots of endless messaging and rejection until you get lucky again lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So you where dumped and decided to come on fab to let the world know

Why??

Exactly !!!!! Stop attention seeking !!!!! If you get dumped the last thing You think about is posting it on here ???

There's no way you'd say this to a woman. There would have been 20 posts saying "hugz" by now.

Basically exactly what i said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by. "

Had he been cheating on her he does have a single guys profile not a couples

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Can't believe some of the answers in here.

What a lack of EQ from some of you.

Yes this is a site for meeting people for sex but for gods sake to lay into a guy and basically say "Deal with it"... after he's asked for advice.

Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything and if you can't think of anything nice to say scroll by. "

I have scant sympathy for anyone on this site who has a partner and sneaking behind their back who then has the temerity to post seeking sympathy after being dumped for being an arse.

Just goes to show the brass neck of some people. Certain things keep to yourself.

Never mind op...I'm sure you'll be over her in time for the pre Christmas dinner date you're looking for!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Without analysising the posts I'd say that the men are more compassionate on here than the women, I mean the one who have added posts that is, which I find different to what i would have expected .

No doubt I'll now receive a new batch of abuse , I mean comments Lol "

Wow! Should rethink what I said ... I wasn't abusive at all

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"Compassion and kindness doesn't cost you anything

Yet most act like it costs them their body weight in gold"

lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

Have you told the person you regret what you said?"

Yes, this one! Nothings final. Get back in touch and text her

Its a bastard feeling at any age.

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

I posted on the forum for a date for my Christmas do a few weeks ago as things were looking real bad for our relationship then but I won her back, my post was more in jest that time to see if I got any replies, I got one reply and this was only a conversation comment anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP the reason for her dumping you is irrelevant to me. You say you love her and that's all that really matters to me. Maybe I'm just an incurable romantic.

We've all messed up sometimes. I've done so many things that I've done to hurt people I deeply loved I feel really ashamed of myself. But thats life. You learn from your mistakes and that's how you grow as a human being.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age. "

Heartbroken !! He was on here looking to fuck others.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

So your first port of call when things go array is fab...okie dokie.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age.

Heartbroken !! He was on here looking to fuck others.

...a salient point some have conveniently overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

"The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *icky-discoMan over a year ago

oxford

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age.

Heartbroken !! He was on here looking to fuck others.

Aren’t we all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did she find out you were on here? "

I’m sure that thought entered a few people’s minds...profile over a year old.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Time is a great healer, the pain will subside as time goes By, just don't dwell on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jesus what a caring bunch of people. I am sorry mate, being heartbroken is shit at any age.

Heartbroken !! He was on here looking to fuck others.

My girlfriend and I are head over heels in love. We both have singles profiles on fab.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"This the wife you had six weeks ago or the girlfriend you had two weeks ago may I ask?

This

Think it's important to let us know which OP as the advice may vary depending which it was

Whilst it's never nice to be dumped - as someone said up thread sometimes you reap what you sow.

That's stuff that was written in stories and fantasies. "

Fair point although the way they were written they don't read like either, more statements of factual events - so you can understand the conclusion drawn

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

But then you met her ?? U can’t say I was like that before I met her so it’s ok to carry on with a single profile. It’s like me saying I had a fuck buddy before I met my boyfriend so it’s ok to carry on ? And didn’t you put a post up yesterday morning

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

OP you posted the following two days ago in a thread you started:

"Do any couples want a boyfriend for the wife to go out with for social meets plus maybe more maybe even attend a club or just plain sex?"

Was that before or after you had been dumped?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The single guy profile has been on here long before I met her I've not cheated on her on here or elsewhere.

And yesterday it was somthimg on the lines of “ sleeping with tv ???

OP you posted the following two days ago in a thread you started:

"Do any couples want a boyfriend for the wife to go out with for social meets plus maybe more maybe even attend a club or just plain sex?"

Was that before or after you had been dumped?

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

It was After I had been dumped and it was just to see what other people thought as we had discussed her having fun in a club and I was turned on by the thought even though I loved her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It was After I had been dumped and it was just to see what other people thought as we had discussed her having fun in a club and I was turned on by the thought even though I loved her "

And after or before your Tv thread ???

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple over a year ago

Falkirk

"It was After I had been dumped and it was just to see what other people thought as we had discussed her having fun in a club and I was turned on by the thought even though I loved her

And after or before your Tv thread ???"

FFS OP you dropped yourself in this one.

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By *esparate danMan over a year ago

glasgow

So why.did you get dumped

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up."

Well said!

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"It was After I had been dumped and it was just to see what other people thought as we had discussed her having fun in a club and I was turned on by the thought even though I loved her "

But that post suggests YOU were looking for a wife to meet for YOU - not for a guy to meet your girlfriend!!

Either way if it was after you'd been dumped - then it would suggest, to me at least, that you weren't quite as distraught at being dumped as you are portraying here.

And IF as you suggest it was you looking for someone to meet your ex-girlfriend then that's more than a little weird don't you think?

Or perhaps this whole thread belongs with your others in the "Stories & Fantasies" section

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Sorry you have feelings of regret and sadness op. I like the following Wendy Cope poem Two Cures for Love and feel it applies in this situation

1. Don’t see him. Don’t phone or write a letter.

2. The easy way: get to know him better.

Learn and move on but give yourself time to lick your wounds.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look"

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping "

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

I got dumped because it was going wrong for the last few weeks in fact she almost dumped me about 2/3 weeks ago but we got it back on but it wasn't the same. She seemed a bit cold sometimes.

I am shy and a private person, yes no doubt I'll get more abuse saying that, as how can I be on here then? Because I am the person I'd prefer to be on here brave and outgoing, but it's easier on line face to face I lack confidence until I get to know someone, to get back to the point I was nervous about introducing eg to my family and she thought I was ashamed of her, I wasn't though it was because I didn't want then to judge her the girl I was in love with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

The debate about Sony and Samsung is that the storeys don’t match up,, so read the whole thread

not just the last few lines x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I got dumped because it was going wrong for the last few weeks in fact she almost dumped me about 2/3 weeks ago but we got it back on but it wasn't the same. She seemed a bit cold sometimes.

It sounds to me like the classic cause of many a break up applies her...bad communication.

If you can or want to repair things try. If not look at what went wrong and why. Learn from it and try not to make similar mistakes. Few break ups are one person's fault.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"OP you're a human being an if you've said or done things that you regret you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last.

We all mess up. It's what you do afterwards that separates the men from the boys.

There is an old song called "You only hurt the ones you love" that baically sums it all up.

I'd agree as long as he doesn't expect it to win her back.

P.S. ......... that song goes..... 'So if I broke your heart last night it's because I love you most of all.' .......

As an old sloppy song it stands up. As a dictum for someone to live their life by it's a croc of shit if you actually consider what it means.

Yeah ..... that line comes back to me now.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Perhaps we should give op the chance to fully explain the situation before everyone slates him as he hasn't made it very clear.

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By *innerdate OP Man over a year ago

Leigh

Relationships are complicated and sometimes the smallest stone can make the largest ripple

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

True let him explain he has a storey everyday so we should let him finish this storey aswell.. I’m off happy Sunday everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP I'd quit whilst you're ahead, by explaining your situation you're just giving people more ammunition.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"True let him explain he has a storey everyday so we should let him finish this storey aswell.. I’m off happy Sunday everyone x"

I went before you.

It's all meandering convolution with a saintly brigade throwing stones at non believers.

And on that note Duncan ...... im out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

The debate about Sony and Samsung is that the storeys don’t match up,, so read the whole thread

not just the last few lines x"

Just got a Sony 4k for the bedroom. They don't do bluetooth pairing with headphones. VERY disappointed about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP once you have got over your heartache might I suggest you find your next true love here on fab. Non swingers and swingers are like vampires and mortals. In my opinion the two species don't mix.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"OP once you have got over your heartache might I suggest you find your next true love here on fab. Non swingers and swingers are like vampires and mortals. In my opinion the two species don't mix."

Did you miss the bit where he claimed both he and the girlfriend had single profiles?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 10:22:55]"

Too late Sam. I read it. It'll cost to keep me quiet.

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

Sorry to hear it OP but it's a blessing you're on here then for over a year so you should still just carry on fucking other men's wives instead, life too short so fill your boots.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP once you have got over your heartache might I suggest you find your next true love here on fab. Non swingers and swingers are like vampires and mortals. In my opinion the two species don't mix.

Did you miss the bit where he claimed both he and the girlfriend had single profiles?"

Yeah didn't see that. Still can't. Too distracted by the Samsung Sony debate.....

But then can't understand why the fab CSI team has him on the stand cross examining him on his moral standards.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"[Removed by poster at 26/11/17 10:22:55]

Too late Sam. I read it. It'll cost to keep me quiet. "

Pm me your demands

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

The op isn't asking for advice or comments on his profile.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

The debate about Sony and Samsung is that the storeys don’t match up,, so read the whole thread

not just the last few lines x

Just got a Sony 4k for the bedroom. They don't do bluetooth pairing with headphones. VERY disappointed about that

Bluetooth is a pain is the ass, either you leave it paired all the time and it eats your battery or you don't and inevitably you get pairing issues. The only reason I'd want headphones is to listen to porn but then you tend to make a lot more noise because you don't realise how loud you are being, so you can't get away with it either way

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"OP once you have got over your heartache might I suggest you find your next true love here on fab. Non swingers and swingers are like vampires and mortals. In my opinion the two species don't mix.

Did you miss the bit where he claimed both he and the girlfriend had single profiles?

Yeah didn't see that. Still can't. Too distracted by the Samsung Sony debate.....

But then can't understand why the fab CSI team has him on the stand cross examining him on his moral standards. "

If I started a thread seeking someone's husband for a Christmas date next week after being on site over a year then a thread about being dumped by boyfriend I'd never mentioned I honestly would not expect a "there, there diddums" response.

Then again, I don't have a brass neck or the imagination to add and subtract from my story as it suits.

Passes the time on a lazy Sunday morning though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

The debate about Sony and Samsung is that the storeys don’t match up,, so read the whole thread

not just the last few lines x

Just got a Sony 4k for the bedroom. They don't do bluetooth pairing with headphones. VERY disappointed about that

We have a Samsung in the lounge and it works beautifully. How long have you been working for Sony?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

how do you get over this feeling ??? Your 47 not 17 you come here for sympathy. You sir I feel will be disappointed "

Why? Because he is a man? Plenty of women have started threads before now and had advice on how to get over being dumped

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

This is called self love.

You didn't love them enough to respect them or their feelings.

Scant evidence is right

In other interpretations... A row was had, emotions were high and regretful things were said.

Human nature at its base level since the beginning of time that echoes every second breakup ever and you're playing the "abuser" card

To the OP, hopefully you can mend ways and enjoy some great makeup sex."

Thanks for saying what I was about to write. I don't think there is anyone who can say they havn't got upset when hurt and said things they regret, even the perfect people amongst us

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Good morning people, I've just been dumped and I feel crap, how do other people get over this feeling, it's horrible when you loved them, and said things in anger to them and then regret it

how do you get over this feeling ??? Your 47 not 17 you come here for sympathy. You sir I feel will be disappointed

Why? Because he is a man? Plenty of women have started threads before now and had advice on how to get over being dumped"

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I've never wanted to sleep

With a TV, however fit they may look

Listen did I say you did ?!!! Your saying that !!!!

All I said was was it before or after your TV thread,... your the one talking about sleeping and not sleeping

What does a debate between samsung and sony 4k TVs have to do with any of this?

The debate about Sony and Samsung is that the storeys don’t match up,, so read the whole thread

not just the last few lines x

Just got a Sony 4k for the bedroom. They don't do bluetooth pairing with headphones. VERY disappointed about that

We have a Samsung in the lounge and it works beautifully. How long have you been working for Sony?

Which model?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

After reading the rest of the thread,the next time someone starts a thread saying the forum isn't a friendly place and people say it is ..I will show them this thread. If this was a woman posting this there would be a whole different reaction.

To the people who offered advice or understanding, you stood out from the nastiness.

To the OP. I am going to shut this now as it isn't going to help you, I hope you manage to read the advice given but I am sure you will find lots of nicer advice on threads where a woman started a thread asking the same thing.

Here is one of the more recent ones for you to read.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/688323

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