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Anyone want more than just sex?
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By *nntoinette OP Couple
over a year ago
West Dunbartonshire |
Anyone just want to spend time with someone. I met someone last week. He was a lovley guy, every thing went well. However there was no cuddling, no real connection apart from the deed itself.
Why is eberyone in a hurry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's so impersonal to just shag and run.
Others feel differently but I'm the type that will actually enjoy going out on a date and spending the night together.
Just me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with feelings to an extent. It’s part of the connection. Friendship. Trust etc. Doesn’t mean you fall madly in love after a meet or two "
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
North Oxfordshire |
"I think it's so impersonal to just shag and run.
Others feel differently but I'm the type that will actually enjoy going out on a date and spending the night together.
Just me... "
I reserve dating for my partners, and swinging for just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been thinking a lot about this recently .pondering it .
I would like a friend Who I could walk with , share friendship laughs, chats, dinner at times and see how things go .
I'm not to keen on the term friends with benefits but I guess that's what I would like . Sex isn't every thing (shock horror I know )
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
I don’t know. Met a couple who were affectionate etc but they are now in relationships. Doesn’t have to be a serious relationship on here but connection and affection helps with winding down and as someone said it usually leads to more fun . Just makes the whole meet all round pleasure. |
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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago
under my rock cleethorpes |
"Some men seem to think that if they hang around for more than a few minutes after they spunk, 'feelings' will arise.  "
This
I had a meet where the guy turned out to be a douch, he was fine while talking but when we met the sex started instantly (and badly I might add) and he was gone almost as soon as he’d cum, he only stayed long enough to have a smoke, the meet lasted half an hour at the most and left me extremely frustrated especially seeing as I didn’t get to cum either, it made me feel horrible and used |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome. "
I once joined an affair site thinking the married men would make more of an effort because they'd be missing affection. How wrong I was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome. "
I would. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
North Oxfordshire |
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I once joined an affair site thinking the married men would make more of an effort because they'd be missing affection. How wrong I was. "
If they won't give affection to the person they swore to devote their lives to, what makes you think they'd treat some random person off the internet any better? |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
We have always been open to seeing a regular lady for the more general date type stuff as well as the usual shopping & hanging out. For that to work though they'd need to be close by.
If we found one we'd probably hide our profile on here.
We don't think there are many that want that on here though?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men seem to think that if they hang around for more than a few minutes after they spunk, 'feelings' will arise.
This
I had a meet where the guy turned out to be a douch, he was fine while talking but when we met the sex started instantly (and badly I might add) and he was gone almost as soon as he’d cum, he only stayed long enough to have a smoke, the meet lasted half an hour at the most and left me extremely frustrated especially seeing as I didn’t get to cum either, it made me feel horrible and used "
I had the same. Hugs... x
I wonder if the men are the ones more scared of catching the feels. I hear some of them have hearts n stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome.
I once joined an affair site thinking the married men would make more of an effort because they'd be missing affection. How wrong I was. "
I'm thinking I'm having bad karma cos I fucked a married guy. Knew he had a girlfriend but didn't know he'd married that girlfriend in the 3 years since I last met him! |
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The kissing before and kissing and cuddles after are all part of a meet..
There's got to be a connection otherwise I may as well be down the gym getting sweaty, it'd be no more than a mechanical action. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome.
I would. "
Then you're part of a rare few  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once joined an affair site thinking the married men would make more of an effort because they'd be missing affection. How wrong I was.
If they won't give affection to the person they swore to devote their lives to, what makes you think they'd treat some random person off the internet any better?"
Desperation.
2 people make a marriage. Doesn't always mean the cheating party is the one withholding affection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome. "
There are some
But most arent actively looking... its just something that kinda happens |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Basically you have to put the groundwork in before agreeing to meet to find someone on the same page. It takes me months of chatting to potentials while I suss out if we're compatible. Not one of my meets in 5 years has been a disappointment. There are plenty of people in this site. All looking for different things. You don't find compatible people in a hurry. |
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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago
Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;) |
No Connection, No sex. It's simple. If I can't laugh, joke, enjoy someone's company then I sure as hell cant get a hard on just for the sake of it.
IMO sex is the greatest intimacy you can share with another, if prelude is lifeless how can the main event be anything. Intimacy doesn't = feelings |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No Connection, No sex. It's simple. If I can't laugh, joke, enjoy someone's company then I sure as hell cant get a hard on just for the sake of it.
IMO sex is the greatest intimacy you can share with another, if prelude is lifeless how can the main event be anything. Intimacy doesn't = feelings"
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"Some men seem to think that if they hang around for more than a few minutes after they spunk, 'feelings' will arise.
This
I had a meet where the guy turned out to be a douch, he was fine while talking but when we met the sex started instantly (and badly I might add) and he was gone almost as soon as he’d cum, he only stayed long enough to have a smoke, the meet lasted half an hour at the most and left me extremely frustrated especially seeing as I didn’t get to cum either, it made me feel horrible and used "
Ugghhh.  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
L has had stunning meets in clubs, me I don’t tend to play.
I have to have a certain level connection.
Instant doesn’t do it for me.
Now, fun at a deeper level, hell yes, that makes me growl.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I met and fell for someone in here I couldn't share them.
It would be totally monogamous with everything that comes with it. "
This is why I'm so careful about who I meet. I would avoid you like the plague |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I want an experience not a fuck. I expect conversation and connection and that includes physical.
I want to feel comfortable being a bit affectionate and having a cuddle after. I like the random post sex banter! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes.
If there in no connection what's the point. If you get inside my mind make me laugh smile drag me out of the man cave then the sex is far better because of that shared connection.
But then if two people find that connection it's always going to be a more complete experience and maybe even more than a fleeting fuck today gone tomorrow thing.
It's hard to find maybe especially here where the sex is a driving force that runs through all interactions but without that connection the rest can often be reduced to just friction.
Maybe I just do this wrong but unless it's a girl I want to spend time with as well as rip off her clothes then maybe both of us are missing something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I am looking for a friend with benefits ... with friendship comes genuine affection.
I miss my old regular fwb for that reason   "
Not all of us are after cold quick gratification. The better you know someone, you are more likely to please each other... |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"This is why I am looking for a friend with benefits ... with friendship comes genuine affection.
I miss my old regular fwb for that reason "
same. Had 2 in the past, one ended this week cos he found THE ONE and it’s hard to find another. I’m not looking for love. A regular fb you connect with is ideal. Other meets are fun. Don’t get me wrong. I like one offs too. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
It’s a minefield. I prefer to meet the same people if there’s a connection. Makes for much better fun and the kissing and cuddles are a must for me too.
I’ve been fortunate to have some fab friends who do enjoy going for dinner, drinks, coffee, etc. Maybe something will come out if it but not actively looking for a long term partner.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had a number of playmates over the years who have joined us both for threeesome fun and one-to-one with me. I enjoy and, to a certain extent, encourage the emotions that go with it. However, not being available for more, these guys know it can’t go anywhere so I don’t think they worry so much about giving me back a bit more in return. And because I’m in a happy marriage, any feelings I have for any of my lovers are well controlled. So it’s win win all round - NSA but with a little bit more.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I am looking for a friend with benefits ... with friendship comes genuine affection.
I miss my old regular fwb for that reason
Not all of us are after cold quick gratification. The better you know someone, you are more likely to please each other..."
A man who understands
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Would love something more than just sex but so few people actually connect with me on the deep level I need. Until then just sex serves a purpose, albeit way less satisfying.
It’s a bit like eating well or eating junk. You might crave junk but it’s nitritionally low value so you need more and more. It’s actually it’s the good stuff that satisfies. Full of food analogies tonight, I must be hungry! |
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there's probably only about 1% of the people that use this site that genuinely want a connection I'm afraid OP. This is predominantly a sex site and for some odd reason people can engage in sex without connection. Something I've only learnt since being on fab. This is why I don't tend to meet lots of people because if the connection isn't there then neither will I. Being single it would be ideal to meet someone but I would always be in a monogamous relationship no doubt about it. |
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"I'm starting to think that this place isn't the best place to find someone meaningful. Yes singles have met and become couples but couples that swing together. I don't think there's guys on here that really want a monogamous relationship.
If you do all the intimacy stuff with a guy off here you run the risk of developing feelings that aren't welcome. "
If you are seeking a monogamous relationship I'm almost certain that fab is the wrong place to be looking for it.
Whilst there are plenty of people who would like a relationship with someone they met on here very few of them would want it to be completely monogamous.
Swinging and monogamy are not happy bedfellows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just keep it to wham bam thank you mam lol most i have met do also. Not the place for affection or intimacy i don't think . "
I'm still trying for it though.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve had a number of playmates over the years who have joined us both for threeesome fun and one-to-one with me. I enjoy and, to a certain extent, encourage the emotions that go with it. However, not being available for more, these guys know it can’t go anywhere so I don’t think they worry so much about giving me back a bit more in return. And because I’m in a happy marriage, any feelings I have for any of my lovers are well controlled. So it’s win win all round - NSA but with a little bit more.
Mrs"
Hmmm that's given me a wicked idea!
I might pretend that I'm married but playing away without permission, then all the single guys will meet me without the fear that I'll catch feelings cos I'm already married to someone but they might subconsciously want to steal me away from my husband mwhahahaha! |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
"Yes.
If there in no connection what's the point. If you get inside my mind make me laugh smile drag me out of the man cave then the sex is far better because of that shared connection.
But then if two people find that connection it's always going to be a more complete experience and maybe even more than a fleeting fuck today gone tomorrow thing.
It's hard to find maybe especially here where the sex is a driving force that runs through all interactions but without that connection the rest can often be reduced to just friction.
Maybe I just do this wrong but unless it's a girl I want to spend time with as well as rip off her clothes then maybe both of us are missing something."
Im with the hine in the cave on this one...spot on! |
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"We’ve had a number of playmates over the years who have joined us both for threeesome fun and one-to-one with me. I enjoy and, to a certain extent, encourage the emotions that go with it. However, not being available for more, these guys know it can’t go anywhere so I don’t think they worry so much about giving me back a bit more in return. And because I’m in a happy marriage, any feelings I have for any of my lovers are well controlled. So it’s win win all round - NSA but with a little bit more.
Mrs
Hmmm that's given me a wicked idea!
I might pretend that I'm married but playing away without permission, then all the single guys will meet me without the fear that I'll catch feelings cos I'm already married to someone but they might subconsciously want to steal me away from my husband mwhahahaha!"
Deviously cunning plan!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
If there in no connection what's the point. If you get inside my mind make me laugh smile drag me out of the man cave then the sex is far better because of that shared connection.
But then if two people find that connection it's always going to be a more complete experience and maybe even more than a fleeting fuck today gone tomorrow thing.
It's hard to find maybe especially here where the sex is a driving force that runs through all interactions but without that connection the rest can often be reduced to just friction.
Maybe I just do this wrong but unless it's a girl I want to spend time with as well as rip off her clothes then maybe both of us are missing something.
Im with the hine in the cave on this one...spot on! "
Your in the man cave ... where?
It's dark in here tonight |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes.
If there in no connection what's the point. If you get inside my mind make me laugh smile drag me out of the man cave then the sex is far better because of that shared connection.
But then if two people find that connection it's always going to be a more complete experience and maybe even more than a fleeting fuck today gone tomorrow thing.
It's hard to find maybe especially here where the sex is a driving force that runs through all interactions but without that connection the rest can often be reduced to just friction.
Maybe I just do this wrong but unless it's a girl I want to spend time with as well as rip off her clothes then maybe both of us are missing something.
Im with the hine in the cave on this one...spot on!
Your in the man cave ... where? My the fire
It's dark in here tonight "
freezing too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
If there in no connection what's the point. If you get inside my mind make me laugh smile drag me out of the man cave then the sex is far better because of that shared connection.
But then if two people find that connection it's always going to be a more complete experience and maybe even more than a fleeting fuck today gone tomorrow thing.
It's hard to find maybe especially here where the sex is a driving force that runs through all interactions but without that connection the rest can often be reduced to just friction.
Maybe I just do this wrong but unless it's a girl I want to spend time with as well as rip off her clothes then maybe both of us are missing something.
Im with the hine in the cave on this one...spot on!
Your in the man cave ... where? My the fire
It's dark in here tonight freezing too "
Come over here next to the fire. I'll throw another log on it.
Snuggle up its warmer that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes you just have to ask for a cuddle .I think because of the site we are on, some people do just want sex . I'm happy doing either just sex , a date , something fun whatever. All you need to do is say . Also after I've had sex I like more sex. |
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By *arkRichMan
over a year ago
Manchester City Centre |
I’m always up for a cuddle...
Seems like a wasted opportunity if you don’t...
Doesn’t have to be weird, and doesn’t mean you’re gonna get clingy if you want one...
However... some girls can take it the wrong way, so I think that’s why guys might do one... either they don’t want a cling-on... or they don’t wanna seem like one themselves and put yhe other person off a second meet...
Always best to be open and upfront with people... that way you’re more likely to get what you want |
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"I have been thinking a lot about this recently .pondering it .
I would like a friend Who I could walk with , share friendship laughs, chats, dinner at times and see how things go .
I'm not to keen on the term friends with benefits but I guess that's what I would like . Sex isn't every thing (shock horror I know )
Taff"
This is something id like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
What concept?"
Swinging. There are so many that say if they meet someone they won't be here/ won't share... and complain they can't meet anyone for deep meaningful relationships... well to me that isn't swinging so you can't really complain when you don't find what you want or when people won't meet you because they they don't want the same as you. |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
Most of my meets were in the day and usually I accomodated, ergo a mealtime would occur and I was having something to eat, and if you were there, you were too because I'm not having my lunch whilst you just watch me.... |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
What concept?
Swinging. There are so many that say if they meet someone they won't be here/ won't share... and complain they can't meet anyone for deep meaningful relationships... well to me that isn't swinging so you can't really complain when you don't find what you want or when people won't meet you because they they don't want the same as you. "
we have been swinging for 10 years. We are not looking for deep meaningful relationships. But swinging doesn’t have to be cold and clinical either |
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By *andaCouple
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
What concept?
Swinging. There are so many that say if they meet someone they won't be here/ won't share... and complain they can't meet anyone for deep meaningful relationships... well to me that isn't swinging so you can't really complain when you don't find what you want or when people won't meet you because they they don't want the same as you. we have been swinging for 10 years. We are not looking for deep meaningful relationships. But swinging doesn’t have to be cold and clinical either"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
What concept?
Swinging. There are so many that say if they meet someone they won't be here/ won't share... and complain they can't meet anyone for deep meaningful relationships... well to me that isn't swinging so you can't really complain when you don't find what you want or when people won't meet you because they they don't want the same as you. we have been swinging for 10 years. We are not looking for deep meaningful relationships. But swinging doesn’t have to be cold and clinical either"
I didn't say it did. I was referring to specifically those that commented in the way I specified  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!"
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc "
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one". |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc "
Yeah - to me 'social side' doesn't imply kisses, cuddles, and meaningful moments. It means socialising with people, getting out and about and meeting people. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one"."
But you and Clem have always made it quite clear that you never do socials!
So I think that is a bit of a fib there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one"."
Ahh ok I'm with you!
I know couples that met on here or similar sites and are now living together, I don't think singletons should come to a site like this looking for a relationship but if it happens then fair enough BUT I'm sure if they then leave the site for monogamous relationship it will end in tears xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
But you and Clem have always made it quite clear that you never do socials!
So I think that is a bit of a fib there "
Just because I don't meet for pure socials doesn't mean I don't enjoy a social side. Jeez you lot really do see black and white!! |
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By *ak777Man
over a year ago
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wish this site was on 25 ago when i was younger i was very naive lost a partner and stared dating lots of women now looking for mate tv lady but most on this site seem experience no fool like a old fool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although yes, I'm ultimately looking for intimacy with one lady I also want to have a close friendship as well first. I don't particularly like the phrase but a true fwb I suppose is what I'm after, but with the emphasis on friend. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
But you and Clem have always made it quite clear that you never do socials!
So I think that is a bit of a fib there
Just because I don't meet for pure socials doesn't mean I don't enjoy a social side. Jeez you lot really do see black and white!!"
Hardly, I'm only quoting back what you have both said, it doesn't make me the bad guy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d like a girlfriend / fwb for more than just sex- although I’d like us to still be into clubs and events.
Unfortunately the fly in the ointment for me is Aspergers. I can’t be continuously around someone as It becomes too much so it’s either a fwb or eternal single life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
But you and Clem have always made it quite clear that you never do socials!
So I think that is a bit of a fib there
Just because I don't meet for pure socials doesn't mean I don't enjoy a social side. Jeez you lot really do see black and white!!
Hardly, I'm only quoting back what you have both said, it doesn't make me the bad guy!"
What I've said is I don't meet for socials. I wouldn't meet someone for a drink and that's it. I've never met for a social before meeting for sex. That doesn't mean I haven't and don't enjoy the social side... |
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
Ahh ok I'm with you!
I know couples that met on here or similar sites and are now living together, I don't think singletons should come to a site like this looking for a relationship but if it happens then fair enough BUT I'm sure if they then leave the site for monogamous relationship it will end in tears xx "
No reason it should if that's what they both want. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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I have sat and had a drink with ladies that I have met. I played on xbox with one of them between sex lol. We have had post sex chat and cuddles etc. Not one of them thought I wanted anything more than a good time nor did they insinuate they did. Just have a laugh and chill. Robot wham bam is not for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Got admit has to be a connection for me. Just split up with a women on here as couldn’t be myself and if I even looked at another women in a club I got daggers. Luckily over last couple of weeks i’ve now met a great sexy women we have had 3 meets no playing yet but connection is unbelievable just click. Spent couple nights at her house and stayed over cuddling all night. For me each meet has got better and better there isn’t a rush for sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
Ahh ok I'm with you!
I know couples that met on here or similar sites and are now living together, I don't think singletons should come to a site like this looking for a relationship but if it happens then fair enough BUT I'm sure if they then leave the site for monogamous relationship it will end in tears xx
No reason it should if that's what they both want."
Hmmmmm maybe but if they're both genuine swingers I think it would be difficult to shake that lifestyle off |
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"I just keep it to wham bam thank you mam lol most i have met do also. Not the place for affection or intimacy i don't think . "
I was starting to feel like a freak, thank god it’s not just me then !! Yes as the fem I don’t want emotional connections with any meets. Okay I’m happy to kiss, but I’m not into cuddling at all - that’s strictly reserved for Sir. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with feelings to an extent. It’s part of the connection. Friendship. Trust etc. Doesn’t mean you fall madly in love after a meet or two "
I agree. This is why I prefer to chat for a while so we can have that frank discussion. Whilst I want chemistry to make the time spent together and sex more fun, it can never be love. |
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"As I suspected. Forum folk really don't buy into the concept of swinging!
Explain your concept to swinging ??
Because I've always thought the social side to swinging was almost as important as the sex. Hence why so many of us go to clubs and enjoy dancing, drinking etc
Yes I agree social is important. As I said above I was referring to those looking for relationships and won't continue when they've found "the one".
But you and Clem have always made it quite clear that you never do socials!
So I think that is a bit of a fib there
Just because I don't meet for pure socials doesn't mean I don't enjoy a social side. Jeez you lot really do see black and white!!
Hardly, I'm only quoting back what you have both said, it doesn't make me the bad guy!"
I thought exactly the same to be honest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not even sure how I ended up on here tbh! The swinging scene doesn't interest me and I've never been a detail shagger so I guess I'm pretty much just an old school romantic. I really want to settle down with someone who I'm smitten with and who rocks my world who I can start a family with but that just ain't happening and I'm beginning to lose hope.
I do miss regular intimacy though and a FWB who wouldn't mind waking up to a cuddle or going out for for a meal, drinks and a giggle would be great. But am I just describing a long-term partner there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I’m clearly looking for the impossible on here "
I'm forever hopeful but I'm not trying to look, I will specifly message guys as they can not message me. If there ok after some time I will meet them.
One day you never know, I might just get lucky
One thing for sure I don't need all this but i would prefer if we could include it at times  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not even sure how I ended up on here tbh! The swinging scene doesn't interest me and I've never been a detail shagger so I guess I'm pretty much just an old school romantic. I really want to settle down with someone who I'm smitten with and who rocks my world who I can start a family with but that just ain't happening and I'm beginning to lose hope.
I do miss regular intimacy though and a FWB who wouldn't mind waking up to a cuddle or going out for for a meal, drinks and a giggle would be great. But am I just describing a long-term partner there? "
*Serial shagger! |
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