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Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs   hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman? |
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over a year ago
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Dates make me shudder. The risk is too great of the man being horrified that I like sex with the lights on and him then telling everyone. I'd rather just stay single.  |
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"Dates make me shudder. The risk is too great of the man being horrified that I like sex with the lights on and him then telling everyone. I'd rather just stay single. "
With the lights on?! Weirdo 
I worry it's too soon but I do feel the need to be special to someone and have someone to love. |
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"Dates make me shudder. The risk is too great of the man being horrified that I like sex with the lights on and him then telling everyone. I'd rather just stay single.
With the lights on?! Weirdo
I worry it's too soon but I do feel the need to be special to someone and have someone to love."
It's difficult. He might be a raging kinkster and desperate to tie you to his kitchen table. Or he might be happy with sex on birthdays and xmas. 
Lights on and socks on! I'm well weird.  |
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Date 5 is, I would say, an acceptable point at which to start the kinky fuckery 
Having said that however, I'm shit at dating so 5 dates could take me anywhere between a week and 6 months to achieve |
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Played the dating game quite well this summer.
One girl I met made it clear that she does not do sex until the fifth date and I found that put undue pressure on the fifth date.
I think just go with the flow see where you end up. Good luck.
What’s he cooking? |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I think this is lovely! I'd also imagine he must quite like you because he's taking his time and being a gent.
Enjoy the day, dont over think. If it feels right, then make a move. Maybe hes shy!
Pack toothbrush, maybe a bit too soon for the strap on..
Good luck! |
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Wear your nice lingerie Evie and pack your condoms and some "gentle" toys..... leave the 14 inch strap on for when/if you know he's into that
Go have an amazing date! And let us know how you get on |
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Good luck OP!
Hope if you do have sex today it’s nice and full of potential
I’d say no rules about when, just do things when it feels right for both of you. A little anticipation is lovely most times.
That said, I’ve dated, taking my time... and I’m both cases where it stretched to over 2 months no nookie... it wasn’t all because the man was a gentleman.. it was because he had penis problems! 
One would always come in under 2mins and was really puritanical about it. The other was impotent, and when he could get it up, was still weak.
So now.. I don’t wait anything longer than a month, just in case it’s a waste of my time.
But, I’d say.., come over I’ll cook a meal for you is usually a good sign that he’d like dessert |
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I’m shocking, have a terrible habit of fucking on first dates... hats off to you for waiting so long... having said that if he doesn’t attempt to get in your knickers tonight after inviting you to his for dinner I would say time to move along. Either way have a lovely evening x |
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ave given up dating and finding love. Last man i tried to have a relationship wit was only intrested in hes friend and would only come and see me if hes mate wasnt in. |
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"Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman? "
If a women made me wait because of some pre-decided number of dates.....I wouldn't. |
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"Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman?
If a women made me wait because of some pre-decided number of dates.....I wouldn't. "
Lucky escape for her then. I haven't made him wait for any amount of dates it just hasn't happened before the 5th one. |
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"Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman?
If a women made me wait because of some pre-decided number of dates.....I wouldn't.
Lucky escape for her then. I haven't made him wait for any amount of dates it just hasn't happened before the 5th one. "
It's not a pre-decided number then is it? |
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"Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman?
If a women made me wait because of some pre-decided number of dates.....I wouldn't.
Lucky escape for her then. I haven't made him wait for any amount of dates it just hasn't happened before the 5th one.
It's not a pre-decided number then is it?"
No...thats what I said |
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"Got a date this afternoon... Date no 5 in fact with a non swinger.
Things are being taken rather slow, or perhaps I'm just used to the wham bang of fab meets lol a few little picks if kisses but no full on snogs yet.
We are off to the cinema today then back to his and he is cooking for me. I'm hoping things might move on as need to see if we are compatible sexually before getting too committed lol
Now.... I haven't had any for a while so just spent the last 20 minutes shaving my legs hope it's not time wasted haha
How many dates do you give it before making a move and should the move be made by the man or the woman?
If a women made me wait because of some pre-decided number of dates.....I wouldn't.
Lucky escape for her then. I haven't made him wait for any amount of dates it just hasn't happened before the 5th one.
It's not a pre-decided number then is it?
No...thats what I said "
I know what you said. I was answering your original question. 'How many dates do you.....'.
If I sense a women has a structured pre determined amount then she's not for me. I want a women who is confident enough in herself to go with the flow however long or short that may be. |
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"Dates make me shudder. The risk is too great of the man being horrified that I like sex with the lights on and him then telling everyone. I'd rather just stay single. "
Love sex with the lights on here also. |
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"My rule of thumb is: if he doesn't want to rip your clothes off by date three, it's not worth the effort!
Hope you get lucky..."
I have completely the opposite view. It's really offputting for a girl to want to sleep with me after seeing a movie and having a meal, and be my girlfriend after having sex.
I mean I still dont know the girl. Why bother. |
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"Ok I'll ask then.....how was the food!?
Glad the dating is going well  "
Food was lovely too x home made lasagne and not home made cheesecake.
He even took me to perve on aquaman before hand as we went to see justice league lol |
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