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"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" sorry to hear this. i have tried playing this way on my own, but i cant enjoy it because i cant have eyes in the back of my head and you need them. you need to find that person you can trust, that's the difficult bit, because people would rather play than have some sort of responsibility towards you. i hope you try again if and when you find a fwb or play partner x | |||
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"I usually eat 2-3 pringles at once so no judgement from me as I'm greedy too "Only 2 or 3???  | |||
"I usually eat 2-3 pringles at once so no judgement from me as I'm greedy too
Only 2 or 3??? "Amateur, I know  | |||
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"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself." most guys are great and totally respectful, but it only takes one to ruin the experience, but its worth the risk if youve never done it x | |||
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"I usually eat 2-3 pringles at once so no judgement from me as I'm greedy too
Only 2 or 3???
Amateur, I know "Poor effort! I can knock off a whole tube in one sitting! | |||
It doesn't matter what they think. They are the ones 'fucking a machine'. You're having fun. x | |||
"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" It's really sad to see something like this. It's a general rule of thumb that selfish people tend to ruin things for a lot of other people. We're a couple and we'd quite like to try this scenario one day, but we will be ensuring that any guy invited is not a complete wanker, and understands what we expect respect to look like. Obviously that's a bit easier when they're being told by another guy, because a lot of these dickhead fellas don't have the balls to piss off another guy. As for self esteem issues, I really don't think you should be worried about that at all. A lot of the single guys in the scene are doing it for the cheap thrill side of things, and whilst your facilitating that aspect, they're not looking for partner material for the most part, so no matter how amazing you might be, they're unlikely to appreciate it. I would put money in this not being a you problem, more just a selfish, ignorant asshole problem. | |||
"I usually eat 2-3 pringles at once so no judgement from me as I'm greedy too " | |||
"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself.most guys are great and totally respectful, but it only takes one to ruin the experience, but its worth the risk if youve never done it x" Our ideal scenario would be 3 guys that we'd played with before. Personally, i (husband) took part in a MMMF a few weeks back and to be honest i didn't like it half as much as a MMF I'd done with the same people (minus one). I can imagine it might be more exciting for the female but from a male perspective it was an administration headache. | |||
"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself." Definitely wouldn't write it off. It can be an absolutely fantastic experience. But the best ones tend to be at someone's home I. And even at those I still felt pretty worthless afterwards at times x | |||
"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself. Definitely wouldn't write it off. It can be an absolutely fantastic experience. But the best ones tend to be at someone's home I. And even at those I still felt pretty worthless afterwards at times x" Is that like a submissive "come down" though? I know little about BDSM but my understanding is that people sort of need aftercare from the dom to prevent that kind of shitty feeling | |||
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"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself. Definitely wouldn't write it off. It can be an absolutely fantastic experience. But the best ones tend to be at someone's home I. And even at those I still felt pretty worthless afterwards at times x Is that like a submissive "come down" though? I know little about BDSM but my understanding is that people sort of need aftercare from the dom to prevent that kind of shitty feeling" No wasn't like that. Could get bit rough at times, but quite like rough  | |||
"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself.most guys are great and totally respectful, but it only takes one to ruin the experience, but its worth the risk if youve never done it x Our ideal scenario would be 3 guys that we'd played with before. Personally, i (husband) took part in a MMMF a few weeks back and to be honest i didn't like it half as much as a MMF I'd done with the same people (minus one). I can imagine it might be more exciting for the female but from a male perspective it was an administration headache. " Administration headache I like that. It very much depends on who's there I guess. The better ones were where the guys all clicked together really well and it wasn't a non stop sex frenzy, there was also lots of banter going on x | |||
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"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself.most guys are great and totally respectful, but it only takes one to ruin the experience, but its worth the risk if youve never done it x Our ideal scenario would be 3 guys that we'd played with before. Personally, i (husband) took part in a MMMF a few weeks back and to be honest i didn't like it half as much as a MMF I'd done with the same people (minus one). I can imagine it might be more exciting for the female but from a male perspective it was an administration headache. Administration headache I like that. It very much depends on who's there I guess. The better ones were where the guys all clicked together really well and it wasn't a non stop sex frenzy, there was also lots of banter going on x"In a MMF we did a mixture of me 1 on 1 with her and him watching, vice versa and then DV and DP together. But in a MMMF you felt it would be selfish to do any position that would block access, which are generally my favourite ones. | |||
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"Thanks for sharing your experience OP that was very insightful and we've had concerns about the same issues, you've sort of confirmed our concerns. We would like a group scenario eventually but i think your post stresses the importance of who is in the group rather than the excitement coming from the scenario by itself.most guys are great and totally respectful, but it only takes one to ruin the experience, but its worth the risk if youve never done it x Our ideal scenario would be 3 guys that we'd played with before. Personally, i (husband) took part in a MMMF a few weeks back and to be honest i didn't like it half as much as a MMF I'd done with the same people (minus one). I can imagine it might be more exciting for the female but from a male perspective it was an administration headache. " i was with a dom and went to a club as sub and played with five or six guys and it was a fantastic experience, but that's how i prefer it, i go as a sub to a club with a dom (who obviously i trust and have a dynamic with anyway)ive played with three guys on my own, not in subspace and while it wasnt bad, it wasn't the greatest for me personally. doesnt mean i wont do it again, but most single guys want you to themselves when you go out, they arent all that keen to share if you are single. id love to do it with those ive played with before and trust, but i feel in my mind, thats a bit odd, dont know why, just do. | |||
"Dare I say it may be the people you invited, if the men cared for you it would have a form of respect rather than just seeing you as a lump of meat.? I would suggest you have a trusted group of men who would crawl over broken glass for you and keep to them, x" The men who care are extremely limited on here and guess the only way to find that out is the hard way x | |||
"Perhaps try it in a different setting? I've participated in several of these from 3-10 guys. All were in a private setting, ie, a house. From that perspective you have more control. More control over the guys you invite. Also have one guy you trust implicitly to look after you and make sure any rules are followed. It would be a shame if you have to stop something you enjoy op. " Been to both club and private party. Private party definitely has been better for me, but it's not a confidence booster when the host gets the thank you messages (which he totally deserves btw), and I get nothing or a load of bullocks. Definitely need to stop this greedy girl like right now, my responses are starting to lean towards "I hate all men"  | |||
"Dare I say it may be the people you invited, if the men cared for you it would have a form of respect rather than just seeing you as a lump of meat.? I would suggest you have a trusted group of men who would crawl over broken glass for you and keep to them, x, The men who care are extremely limited on here and guess the only way to find that out is the hard way x" Your a good looking lass so you should be able to find some good men, who are not up their own arses who will think of you first best of luck x | |||
"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" Great post. Well done Op for writing it. | |||
"Dare I say it may be the people you invited, if the men cared for you it would have a form of respect rather than just seeing you as a lump of meat.? I would suggest you have a trusted group of men who would crawl over broken glass for you and keep to them, x, The men who care are extremely limited on here and guess the only way to find that out is the hard way x Your a good looking lass so you should be able to find some good men, who are not up their own arses who will think of you first best of luck x" In the large gangbang type scenario many of the men who are not connected with the women passed that moment are selfish and don't necessarily value her highly. | |||
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"Dare I say it may be the people you invited, if the men cared for you it would have a form of respect rather than just seeing you as a lump of meat.? I would suggest you have a trusted group of men who would crawl over broken glass for you and keep to them, x The men who care are extremely limited on here and guess the only way to find that out is the hard way x" We have been lucky, we go to a club fairly regularly and have made friends with some of the guys that are also regulars. They treat both of us with respect and have introduced us to more guys that also respectful... | |||
"This is a scenario I would very much like to try but fear the experience that you’ve had and wouldn’t want that. Thank you for sharing x" Never meant to put anyone off, but the confident person I was up until a few months ago seems to have disappeared, because of this. She'll be back though! No doubt about it. And if you make sure you have a few reliable, respectful guys joining you, you'll be in for a hell of a ride
I know I must be sending mixed messages across, don't mean to. But I guess most things have their ups and downs x | |||
"Thank you for posting. I'm keen to try this and wouldn't have anyone with me. " If you're at a club maybe give them a wee heads up. I'm sure one of them will keep an eye out for you. Especially if it's your first time and you've not got a chaperone x | |||
"I know I must be sending mixed messages across, don't mean to. But I guess most things have their ups and downs x" No what your saying makes perfect sense I’d definitely want at least a couple of men I very much trusted to be there x Hope your confidence bounces back quickly x | |||
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"I know what you mean. It's a scenario I've played with before, but I just ended up feeling like I was there as a service to the men rather than for my own enjoyment. For that reason I realised it's not for me - and that's ok you don't have to like everything. You are perfectly entitled to pick and choose what you want off the menu. "More picky and choosy than ever | |||
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"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" What an excellent example of cognitive self reflection. | |||
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"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" My wife felt exactly the same way after attending a couple of gg nights at clubs . We stopped and all was good again . There are certainly women who love this , but not us . More recently we have been re thinking the whole dogging thing again as it seems to be going the same way , crowds of guys expecting a bj every time we are out . Not only is that not what we are looking for , but the expectation on the part of the guys is spoiling it . So it’s not just single women who feel the same way . | |||
"Hey Pringles, Don’t be down on yourself. You are clearly bright, thoughtful and articulate. I think we can all get ourselves into difficulties if we think of ourselves as only one thing. Most/all of us are multi-faceted. So, one small part of you might go for the raw full-on sex, another is your intellectual side, another your emotional side etc. In a greedy girls scenario you really are likely to be treated without much care, beause it’s all about the sex. But I would bet that some (admittedly not all) of the same guys would treat you far more respectfully in every other scenario. Don’t hate men just because of this and don’t hate yourself just because once in a while you like to go a little bit mad and let rip. It doesn't define you, it’s a small part of you. And of course, as other posters have said, if it’s no longer something your comfortable with, then it’s time to stop. " Love this. And so true about all aspects of fab. | |||
"I usually eat 2-3 pringles at once so no judgement from me as I'm greedy too
Only 2 or 3??? "In his defence though once he has popped, he can't stop. | |||
"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x My wife felt exactly the same way after attending a couple of gg nights at clubs . We stopped and all was good again . There are certainly women who love this , but not us . More recently we have been re thinking the whole dogging thing again as it seems to be going the same way , crowds of guys expecting a bj every time we are out . Not only is that not what we are looking for , but the expectation on the part of the guys is spoiling it . So it’s not just single women who feel the same way ." On the odd occasion we have been dogging, we have arranged to meet with a guy we know and a guy off of Fab that has caught Frisky's eye. We then park in a corner and anyone else who comes across us is told it's a private meet... | |||
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"Dare I say it may be the people you invited, if the men cared for you it would have a form of respect rather than just seeing you as a lump of meat.? I would suggest you have a trusted group of men who would crawl over broken glass for you and keep to them, x" I think you might be on to something here. At the club you in general don't know who'll be there and at a private party it was my fwb who organised the entire thing, invites the guys ( and in all fairness, he chooses pretty darn good - had a few very pleasant surprises when one very handsome guy after the next appears ) and he hosts at his place. But with the exception of 1 or 2, I don't really chat to the guys before hand and don't meet them until the night, so they might think all I want is to get my brains screwed out and that's it x | |||
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"Either that or someone to bounce music choices off..! " Think I'll be going for music choices again for a while | |||
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"It's not good to hear this. It's something I'd love to try but fear what's happened to you. Don't let it get to you though. It's a reflection of them not of you. Maybe you just need to pick who you meet in future x" It'll be different for everybody though. How I feel about it afterwards, doesn't mean you'll feel the same. And there were times where I was still grinning for the next 2 days, because it was such an amazing night. Just make sure you choose the right people x | |||
"Pringles (don't know your first name sorry!) I read your post with interest and know exactly where you are coming from. I Have never played more than a 3 some in the past but in my early days on fab I played with a few guys who I felt definitely used me for sex and no more making me feel pretty low afterwards. This scenario happened twice on fab and like you I knew it had to stop. The last straw for me was being "thanked for a great time", like I was some sort of hooker. I have a very high sex drive but now I am very very choosy with guys and will not consider playing unless I have got to know them and there is great mutual mental/physical chemistry. It's refreshing to read of someone speaking for what I suspect a great many ladies feel on fab but don't want to admit to. Good luck with your meets in the future. X " Thanks Tracey. Definitely think key for me is to get to know the people before hand and not jump straight in there. Hopefully catch you at CJs some time. We've been there on the same nights quite a few times, but never actually met x | |||
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"Very very good post from ellen. She has shone light and given me personal advice which resort Big hugs xxx " Please don't take my "advice" too seriously, probably not the best person to give it just now. Except for that 3sum!! Take my advice on that one | |||
"Pringles (don't know your first name sorry!) I read your post with interest and know exactly where you are coming from. I Have never played more than a 3 some in the past but in my early days on fab I played with a few guys who I felt definitely used me for sex and no more making me feel pretty low afterwards. This scenario happened twice on fab and like you I knew it had to stop. The last straw for me was being "thanked for a great time", like I was some sort of hooker. I have a very high sex drive but now I am very very choosy with guys and will not consider playing unless I have got to know them and there is great mutual mental/physical chemistry. It's refreshing to read of someone speaking for what I suspect a great many ladies feel on fab but don't want to admit to. Good luck with your meets in the future. X Thanks Tracey. Definitely think key for me is to get to know the people before hand and not jump straight in there. Hopefully catch you at CJs some time. We've been there on the same nights quite a few times, but never actually met x" Yep we must have a wee catch up sometime! X | |||
"Been venturing into the greedy girls scenarios. Not dozens of guys, really don't fancy the orderly queue of people waiting their turn. More of a group activity - 3,4, maybe 5 guys. The first few times it was absolutely amazing! Such a turn on to have these guys all over me. And they looked after me as well. I already knew some of the guys who were there and stayed in touch with them afterwards and I was thoroughly enjoying myself. The last few times were different though. I was a convenience to the people I played with. And people who were meant to keep their distance were crowding around, some even trying to jump in when I was looking the other way. And as someone described it - I'm a machine that doesn't stop. I'm sure he meant well, but kind of gives you a good idea how people look at you at these things. After this happened once I kind of figured next time will be better, so wasn't going to give up yet. Especially after the fantastic times before, it's definitely worth another go. After a few more attempts I've thrown in the towel, before I reach that "I hate all men" state. It's not done my ego any good, pretty low on self esteem and confidence and managed to alienate the one friend I met through this adult dating malarkey, who wouldn't walk out as soon as he's done. Please refrain yourselves from comments like "what did you expect", although I know quite a few of you would love to rub it in. But I know there are quite a few females who are curious about this and keen to try. Guess if you have got a few guys there you already know, it is definitely worth a try, but just be careful it might be a pretty serious headfuck (no pun intended). I think if you're a couple and want to do this it'll be different, when you've got someone who won't forget about you as soon as it is over and done with. But single females, who already are looked upon as slags by many people on these sites and in the clubs, you might want to reconsider. By all means I don't want to put anyone off, because I have had some of the best times at these events, but be aware it can very much work against you and to my fellow single females, please make sure you've got someone with you who you know and trust. One on ones only for me, maybe a 3sum at some point. But greedy girl no more. x" nothing wrong with chnaging what you want out of swinging, you wouldn't be growing and i am sure post people working out that what they may have wanted at the beginning is not what you want now..... grow and evolve.... i was happy to put up with certain behaviours at the beginning that I absolutely don't now! and that is from learning to not put myself in certain situations and having the confidence in myself that i know me best and applying that, and not letting other people trying to dissuade me.... at the end of the day, we all have our individual journeys....... | |||
"Pringles (don't know your first name sorry!) I read your post with interest and know exactly where you are coming from. I Have never played more than a 3 some in the past but in my early days on fab I played with a few guys who I felt definitely used me for sex and no more making me feel pretty low afterwards. This scenario happened twice on fab and like you I knew it had to stop. The last straw for me was being "thanked for a great time", like I was some sort of hooker. I have a very high sex drive but now I am very very choosy with guys and will not consider playing unless I have got to know them and there is great mutual mental/physical chemistry. It's refreshing to read of someone speaking for what I suspect a great many ladies feel on fab but don't want to admit to. Good luck with your meets in the future. X Thanks Tracey. Definitely think key for me is to get to know the people before hand and not jump straight in there. Hopefully catch you at CJs some time. We've been there on the same nights quite a few times, but never actually met x Yep we must have a wee catch up sometime! X" Thursday!!! I'll see you on Thursday x | |||
"Maybe come back to it when you feel the itch for overwhelming attention creep back. It's a shame to hear these types of play can go either way. Certainly for the main person involved. " The itch is here!! Loooove being the centre of attention But I'll also have all attention with just 1 or 2 guys and that'll do me absolutely fine for now x | |||
"Pringles (don't know your first name sorry!) I read your post with interest and know exactly where you are coming from. I Have never played more than a 3 some in the past but in my early days on fab I played with a few guys who I felt definitely used me for sex and no more making me feel pretty low afterwards. This scenario happened twice on fab and like you I knew it had to stop. The last straw for me was being "thanked for a great time", like I was some sort of hooker. I have a very high sex drive but now I am very very choosy with guys and will not consider playing unless I have got to know them and there is great mutual mental/physical chemistry. It's refreshing to read of someone speaking for what I suspect a great many ladies feel on fab but don't want to admit to. Good luck with your meets in the future. X Thanks Tracey. Definitely think key for me is to get to know the people before hand and not jump straight in there. Hopefully catch you at CJs some time. We've been there on the same nights quite a few times, but never actually met x Yep we must have a wee catch up sometime! X Thursday!!! I'll see you on Thursday x" See you then. Will be arriving after 10 though. With a royal Stewart mini kilt and black or red top! X | |||
"We are going to our first greedy girls event tonight. Purely by chance are we are suddenly free and decided to go to Abfabs. Never really been interested in greedy girl events but it might be interesting and at least I have Clift who looks after me x" How was your night? Hope it was as amazing and mind blowing as my first time greedy girl x | |||
"Pringles (don't know your first name sorry!) I read your post with interest and know exactly where you are coming from. I Have never played more than a 3 some in the past but in my early days on fab I played with a few guys who I felt definitely used me for sex and no more making me feel pretty low afterwards. This scenario happened twice on fab and like you I knew it had to stop. The last straw for me was being "thanked for a great time", like I was some sort of hooker. I have a very high sex drive but now I am very very choosy with guys and will not consider playing unless I have got to know them and there is great mutual mental/physical chemistry. It's refreshing to read of someone speaking for what I suspect a great many ladies feel on fab but don't want to admit to. Good luck with your meets in the future. X Thanks Tracey. Definitely think key for me is to get to know the people before hand and not jump straight in there. Hopefully catch you at CJs some time. We've been there on the same nights quite a few times, but never actually met x" I organise and host GangBangs, at my place. I think the key to a successful meet, is to find out the requirements, of the couple, or single fem. I then ask the couple, or single fem, to arrive at my place first. Then the guys arrive one by one, and we all have a social, for everyone to relax, and get to know each other. When the lady is comfortable, she then goes and changes into some sexy things. Which gives her husband/boyfriend, time to tell the guys what is expected of them,and the lady's "limits, and no-no' s" This means everyone is singing off the same hymn sheet so to speak. I have been holding meets for about 10 years, and never had a problem. Maybe, my way is worth a try, but whatever, best wishes, for the future. | |||
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"I've recently been asked to organise a 7-10 man GB for lady in a couple so I think you're doing alright lol would recommend a private room at a club though. Enjoy "Sorry, who's doing alright? Not sure who you're referring to Good luck organising your gangbang x | |||
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"It's not my thing a club .most men are disrespectful and rude . I went once and I hated for reasons like you op. I think because men pay to get in they expect sex and not bothered who with. I watched and observed of course some msy be different but i didn't see this .I think if a women wants a few men just organise it yourself with friends not strangers ." Msy lol ment to say men .My phone just makes words up .  | |||
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"I honestly don't think the guys mean bad and I really don't want to point fingers at all of them (besides the ones that are actual ignorant, prejudiced and really don't get it). I can understand how a lot of them would think all I want is cock. Lots and lots of it. And in all honesty I do at times. And after it's over and done with we all go on our merry way again. But I also need the personal touch and social part of it. For a lot of women it might not be this way. They might be quite happy to just go for it and not think about the guys twice after. And that's absolutely fine as well, not judging anyone here, male of female (again, with the exception of the guys going behind your back what a slag you are and think we don't know they're doing it. And they're in general the desperados who don't get any anyway). I think it's only been in the last few days I've come to realise where I went wrong, so now I know that I can easily fix it. Either don't go for it - which is where I am just now, or when I'm ready for it again only guys I know and have a connection with x" And by all means not all of them made me feel this way. Had some of the best times ever at a greedy girl event x | |||
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