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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Definition for this thread: an ex may be fuck buddy/ friend with benefits/ relationship - someone you had sex with.
If your ex starts a new relationship, can you still be friends with them if you both still have a strong sexual chemistry/ spark with them? Or should you end your friendship (contact with them) as the 'spark' may be considered cheating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think a 'spark' is cheating. However, sexual chemistry or not, it's unlikely that staying friends with an ex will end well. I'm sure it happens! However, no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm still friends with my ex fiancé. She broke up with me for the guy she is married to now. He is an alright guy. It is possible to be friends with your ex, still. I mean I am friends with most of the women o have had more than a years relationship with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t think possessing the spark is cheating, but I’d still end contact as quite frankly one or the other of us would be hurting (in this scenario likely me if they have moved on). I think friendship can only work after there’s been time apart to re-set the interaction, and most of the time during that time comes the realisation that friendship may not be possible. This could just be me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm on good terms with most of the exes in my life, but there is no sexual feelings for any of them.
My motto is: "You're out of my life and you're out of my fanny". It's a motto that has served me well when those 3am "i'm horny" texts roll in.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A sparks not cheating. I’m friends with my ex. Weirdly I hated him a couple of months ago but got over that now and hoping we can continue being friends.
However I’m also friends with my previous ex and the last ex didn’t like the friendship I had with the previous ex so that was hard at times |
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"Staying friend's with an ex is not great for your present relationship I find."
Exactly this .
A current partner is highly unlikely to see you maintaining a friendship with an ex as a good thing are they ?
I know it’s better to stay civil when kids are involved , but otherwise it’s a pretty selfish thing to do to a new partner . They may not understand that it is purely platonic , and let’s face it , it often isn’t is it ? |
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
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I’m friends with exes, both long and short termers. Some people find it odd that for example we both took our son out for a birthday day out with his friends without inviting our partners. We’ve been broken up 10 years now without incident so I’m not sure what they thought was going to happen!
As for more short term FB types, yeah definitely be friends with them, as I have been. Just because you had a sexual ‘relationship’ once doesn’t mean you’re going to jump them every time you’re in their company.
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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago
Lincoln |
"I’m friends with exes, both long and short termers. Some people find it odd that for example we both took our son out for a birthday day out with his friends without inviting our partners. We’ve been broken up 10 years now without incident so I’m not sure what they thought was going to happen!
As for more short term FB types, yeah definitely be friends with them, as I have been. Just because you had a sexual ‘relationship’ once doesn’t mean you’re going to jump them every time you’re in their company.
TB"
I have no issues with TB and any friendship with any guy, ex or not!!! Totally trust her to be honest with me and I do the same for her.
It’s this trust which makes this such an awesome relationship  
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My closest friend is a former fwb. After we had been seeing each other almost daily for a year we decided we didn't want the sex anymore because we valued the friendship and thought that it was to important to risk.
We have had an entirely platonic relationship for over 4 years with nothing more than a hug and a kiss on the cheek. We socialise regularly and are each invited to family celebrations, the most recent being his mum's 90th birthday and my sister's wedding.
I have had a proper relationship since and my best friend was the first person I introduced him to. My partner was fully aware of our former relationship and it didn't cause any problems.
He is one of the few people in real life who knows I am on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Staying friend's with an ex is not great for your present relationship I find.
Exactly this .
A current partner is highly unlikely to see you maintaining a friendship with an ex as a good thing are they ?
I know it’s better to stay civil when kids are involved , but otherwise it’s a pretty selfish thing to do to a new partner . They may not understand that it is purely platonic , and let’s face it , it often isn’t is it ?"
Good point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm friends with my second husband. I don't want to be but he contacts me fairly regularly and I don't have the heart to not talk to him.
I'm friends with most of my ex boyfriends but only when they're single. As soon as they get a girlfriend we stop talking. |
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It's possible.
I'm still good friends with several ex boyfriends.
30yrs on, I still chat regularly with my 'first love'
When I met my eldest sons dads new GF, I told him I'd buy a new hat, he laughed... It took 10yrs but one of my happiest moments watching my son give the Best Man's speech.
Think it depends on whether you were friends as well as lovers, and you can keep the friendship going
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Staying friend's with an ex is not great for your present relationship I find.
Exactly this .
A current partner is highly unlikely to see you maintaining a friendship with an ex as a good thing are they ?
I know it’s better to stay civil when kids are involved , but otherwise it’s a pretty selfish thing to do to a new partner . They may not understand that it is purely platonic , and let’s face it , it often isn’t is it ?"
Totally agree. Was going to post something along similar lines but you’ve summed it up perfectly. Would just like to add that the time taken up by the ex is time taken away from your current partner, would feel pretty guilty and wrong for doing that.  |
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It’s a tricky one. My male best friend is an ex and we have worked really hard over the years to keep our friendship when we have been in relationships. It’s not easy on the new girlfriend or boyfriend and sometimes we have to take a back seat from each other for a while and understand that things change. But we love each other dearly and always find a way to make it work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I still speak to a few of my ex's, mainly because they were good friends before anything else happened. So after things didn't work out and as long as neither had don't anything really cuntish then why not go back to that. |
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Me and my ex got back together as were practically neighbours for it to fail again miserable.
I asked to stay friends as we lived so close but it’s not happening.. definately can’t be friends with an ex  |
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"Definition for this thread: an ex may be fuck buddy/ friend with benefits/ relationship - someone you had sex with.
If your ex starts a new relationship, can you still be friends with them if you both still have a strong sexual chemistry/ spark with them? Or should you end your friendship (contact with them) as the 'spark' may be considered cheating?"
It doesn't work for me... he was the best fuck I have ever had.... as much as we argue and disagree... the minute I seee him... and he touches me.... omfg.....its hard core!!!... simples... am trying to avoid.,, yet I have needs  ..... |
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"Definition for this thread: an ex may be fuck buddy/ friend with benefits/ relationship - someone you had sex with.
If your ex starts a new relationship, can you still be friends with them if you both still have a strong sexual chemistry/ spark with them? Or should you end your friendship (contact with them) as the 'spark' may be considered cheating?
And we see each other at least once a week lol....
It doesn't work for me... he was the best fuck I have ever had.... as much as we argue and disagree... the minute I seee him... and he touches me.... omfg.....its hard core!!!... simples... am trying to avoid.,, yet I have needs ..... "
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