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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his! 
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone... 
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? |
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I certainly don’t. I much prefer meeting in clubs where I feel somewhat safer.
I’d never meet at my home as I’d rather keep this side of my life away from the prying eyes of my neighbors. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I certainly don’t. I much prefer meeting in clubs where I feel somewhat safer.
I’d never meet at my home as I’d rather keep this side of my life away from the prying eyes of my neighbors. "
It’s a good option! And I may do next weekend.
Sometimes, I just find the options are more attractive on here.
I don’t mind being in his home or mine... but not until we’ve had a social in a public place...
So, I have time to assess in a safe location.. |
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I watched the end of a program last week (a 999 Whats Your Emergency type) in which a woman had been chatting to a guy on a dating site and agreed to travel to him by train to spend the weekend. When she arrived he wasn't the guy in the pictures but she still went ahead . She was found at the train station some hours later in a collapsed state. The emergency services think her drink was spiked.
She was a mature woman who on the face of it seemed sensible but I was aghast that she considered agreeing to spend the weekend at the home of a stranger and still went ahead when it became clear he had misrepresented himself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? "
I would never expact that, i always suggest meeting for a social and spend a little time getting to know someone first and when both comfortable progress things a little.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I watched the end of a program last week (a 999 Whats Your Emergency type) in which a woman had been chatting to a guy on a dating site and agreed to travel to him by train to spend the weekend. When she arrived he wasn't the guy in the pictures but she still went ahead . She was found at the train station some hours later in a collapsed state. The emergency services think her drink was spiked.
She was a mature woman who on the face of it seemed sensible but I was aghast that she considered agreeing to spend the weekend at the home of a stranger and still went ahead when it became clear he had misrepresented himself. "
Wow! That’s really scary! I think I’m extra careful as I watched a programme this week about a teenager who wound up assaulted and murdered, and a police officer who was murdered and hacked to pieces.
I thought.... no chances! I’m sticking to the rules.
Lots of lovely people on here... but I’m sure there are sickos too  |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I recently had a message from a man who informed me that he lives in a very private secluded farmhouse set in trees and that it’s a perfect safe location for first time meets.
I couldn’t think of a less safe location to meet a complete stranger for the first time! |
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"I watched the end of a program last week (a 999 Whats Your Emergency type) in which a woman had been chatting to a guy on a dating site and agreed to travel to him by train to spend the weekend. When she arrived he wasn't the guy in the pictures but she still went ahead . She was found at the train station some hours later in a collapsed state. The emergency services think her drink was spiked.
She was a mature woman who on the face of it seemed sensible but I was aghast that she considered agreeing to spend the weekend at the home of a stranger and still went ahead when it became clear he had misrepresented himself.
Wow! That’s really scary! I think I’m extra careful as I watched a programme this week about a teenager who wound up assaulted and murdered, and a police officer who was murdered and hacked to pieces.
I thought.... no chances! I’m sticking to the rules.
Lots of lovely people on here... but I’m sure there are sickos too "
She hadn't been assaulted in any way but it was frightening for her. She ended up in hospital.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I watched the end of a program last week (a 999 Whats Your Emergency type) in which a woman had been chatting to a guy on a dating site and agreed to travel to him by train to spend the weekend. When she arrived he wasn't the guy in the pictures but she still went ahead . She was found at the train station some hours later in a collapsed state. The emergency services think her drink was spiked.
She was a mature woman who on the face of it seemed sensible but I was aghast that she considered agreeing to spend the weekend at the home of a stranger and still went ahead when it became clear he had misrepresented himself.
Wow! That’s really scary! I think I’m extra careful as I watched a programme this week about a teenager who wound up assaulted and murdered, and a police officer who was murdered and hacked to pieces.
I thought.... no chances! I’m sticking to the rules.
Lots of lovely people on here... but I’m sure there are sickos too
She hadn't been assaulted in any way but it was frightening for her. She ended up in hospital.
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I saw that to. Definitely made me think about safety even more than I already did!!
Poor woman. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I watched the end of a program last week (a 999 Whats Your Emergency type) in which a woman had been chatting to a guy on a dating site and agreed to travel to him by train to spend the weekend. When she arrived he wasn't the guy in the pictures but she still went ahead . She was found at the train station some hours later in a collapsed state. The emergency services think her drink was spiked.
She was a mature woman who on the face of it seemed sensible but I was aghast that she considered agreeing to spend the weekend at the home of a stranger and still went ahead when it became clear he had misrepresented himself.
Wow! That’s really scary! I think I’m extra careful as I watched a programme this week about a teenager who wound up assaulted and murdered, and a police officer who was murdered and hacked to pieces.
I thought.... no chances! I’m sticking to the rules.
Lots of lovely people on here... but I’m sure there are sickos too
She hadn't been assaulted in any way but it was frightening for her. She ended up in hospital.
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At least that’s good... but I’d say ending up drugged and in hospital wasn’t her plan for the night out! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I recently had a message from a man who informed me that he lives in a very private secluded farmhouse set in trees and that it’s a perfect safe location for first time meets.
I couldn’t think of a less safe location to meet a complete stranger for the first time! "
Woah! |
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"I recently had a message from a man who informed me that he lives in a very private secluded farmhouse set in trees and that it’s a perfect safe location for first time meets.
I couldn’t think of a less safe location to meet a complete stranger for the first time! "
Sounds like the Texas chainsaw massacre film lol |
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"I recently had a message from a man who informed me that he lives in a very private secluded farmhouse set in trees and that it’s a perfect safe location for first time meets.
I couldn’t think of a less safe location to meet a complete stranger for the first time! "
Even I wouldn’t go even if Marilyn Monroe was there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there is always a risk and not just for women, we know a guy who got battered with a baseball bat in a couples home on a meet.
I don’t blame people for wanting to meet in clubs. |
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When i was a single man i wouldn't of had a first meet at my home.
As a couple who only meets women we always suggest a public environment or a club. We want whoever we meet to feel safe and comfortable. Any man pushing to come to your home should be given a wide berth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Nothing I do would ever be immediate no. It does make me laugh how many messages you get saying meet up now at theirs etc, and from blank profiles too sometimes!
Just really do have to trust your gut instinct and have the confidence to turn away if it's not right I guess.
I try not to read these stories as I don't think I'd ever meet anyone. I'm am mindful of what can happen though, and remember lessons we learnt from our night clubbing days about safety |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think there is always a risk and not just for women, we know a guy who got battered with a baseball bat in a couples home on a meet.
I don’t blame people for wanting to meet in clubs. "
A baseball bat! poor thing, how awful.
A guy I met told me something similar had happened to him, with the wife trying to make the husband jealous and the man trying to start a fight with him.
Luckily he got out before it escalated into a full fledged scrap.
He said that was it for him going directly to anyone’s home, without the social.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When i was a single man i wouldn't of had a first meet at my home.
As a couple who only meets women we always suggest a public environment or a club. We want whoever we meet to feel safe and comfortable. Any man pushing to come to your home should be given a wide berth."
Yep, I thought so. Blocked him immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there is always a risk and not just for women, we know a guy who got battered with a baseball bat in a couples home on a meet.
I don’t blame people for wanting to meet in clubs.
A baseball bat! poor thing, how awful.
A guy I met told me something similar had happened to him, with the wife trying to make the husband jealous and the man trying to start a fight with him.
Luckily he got out before it escalated into a full fledged scrap.
He said that was it for him going directly to anyone’s home, without the social.
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Ooh god, some people’s behaviour is shocking, you would think they wouldn’t want police round their house- considering the situation, it would definitely be a dailymail special! Xx |
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? "
i have done in he past, was quite good fun really but i admit that now a days i am more cautious although nothing bad ever happened to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? "
Socials, are the way to go, club or public place, cams good, but face to face is important.
if someone says their cam is not working, alarm bells. No pics on profile, no verifications. There are so many things you can do to protect yourself.
Tell someone where your going, if not close friends someone who you know about the scene and you can trust.
Think that is an idea, a telephone/text service which you message with you who you are and who your meeting and where you are. Then periodically text you to see if your okay, totally discreet, if you are not okay they call the police. I think I got an idea now!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex?
Socials, are the way to go, club or public place, cams good, but face to face is important.
if someone says their cam is not working, alarm bells. No pics on profile, no verifications. There are so many things you can do to protect yourself.
Tell someone where your going, if not close friends someone who you know about the scene and you can trust.
Think that is an idea, a telephone/text service which you message with you who you are and who your meeting and where you are. Then periodically text you to see if your okay, totally discreet, if you are not okay they call the police. I think I got an idea now! "
It’s a decent idea... as may not want to clue my friends into my nocturnal activities (sometimes daytime) |
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"Some men expect an immediate invitation to my home... or that I would come straight to his!
After exchanging a few one line message... after 2mins on a phone call?
Do single women actually take these risks with strangers from off the internet? Off a sex/dating site?
Although I think couples might be more willing to take the chance as there are two of them, I’d be quite worried...
And the insinuation is that I’m uptight/prudish or paranoid! In my mind you could be anyone...
And I wonder would he think it was okay if it were his sister.. mother.... niece meeting a man for sex? "
But aren’t we all whores, legs spread, shag ready, wet and willing at all times? Our safety and choices are utterly irrevellent. |
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