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We often say to friends, "We're not swingers because we don't meet couples or even men. We only meet women"
This is a swingers site and originally it was about keys in the fruit bowl and wife swapping but there are so many dynamics on here nowadays, my question is..
What is your definition of Swinging? |
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It's a tricky one. I'd say:
Couples who meet couples - yes.
Couples who meet singles - yes.
Singles who meet couples - probably / sometimes.
Singles who only meet singles - probably not.
Single looking for a shag instead of at the pub / tinder - no.
I think it's more to do with a mindset, than a relationship status.
But ultimately, it doesn't matter, so long as all are having fun and giving each other what they are looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say couples meeting other couples for sex or couples meeting single people for sex. Anything to do with couples I'd say was swinging.
I'm not a swinger as I'm only looking to meet others single people 1on1. |
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I also think it's about being in an open relationship/marriage where other people are invited in to enhance and bring another dynamic and spice to an existing relationship.
The form this varies for everyone.
Being new I was surprised hat the variations to begin with now I find myself saying "whatever blows your hair back"..lol
Go for it as long as its about fun and not hurting other people with malace words or actions.  |
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"I'd say couples meeting other couples for sex or couples meeting single people for sex. Anything to do with couples I'd say was swinging.
I'm not a swinger as I'm only looking to meet others single people 1on1. "
No i don't think a single person looking for a single sexual partner can be considered swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wikipedia (the fount of all knowledge)
defines swinging as 'Non monogamous behaviour in which singles or couples in a commited relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity'.
From that,OP,yes you are swingers.So am I and all the other singles and couples on here. The only ones who aren't,according to that definition,are FBs and FWBs because they are not in a commited relationship.
Sorry,I don't make the rules.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My definition is just to have sexual freedom and be open and honest, also to meet whoever you like as in ladies/gents/transgender etc and explore all the sexual situations that take your fancy  "
Perfect summing up  |
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By *amcubusWoman
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
It does sometimes seem that singles have hijacked this site and Swinging in general. Maybe because of the idea of 'guaranteed' sex due to women on here obviously not being prudish spinsters.
I am only here for exhibitionism. Swinging I do with partner, like I did last night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is a swingers site and originally it was about keys in the fruit bowl and wife swapping but there are so many dynamics on here nowadays, my question is..
What is your definition of Swinging?"
I have read through the site facts and can't find any reference to keys or fruit bowls.
Our definition of swinging is anything that involves more than just ourselves,be that a man,a woman,a couple or yum yum,a crowd  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My definition is just to have sexual freedom and be open and honest, also to meet whoever you like as in ladies/gents/transgender etc and explore all the sexual situations that take your fancy "
I like that definition.
Personally though I don't worry about whether I'm technically a swinger or not. I'm here looking to have fun and explore a bit while I have the opportunity to. I just believe life is too short to not be enjoying ourselves. I'm honest about that and just get on with it. |
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"Wikipedia (the fount of all knowledge)
defines swinging as 'Non monogamous behaviour in which singles or couples in a commited relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity'.
From that,OP,yes you are swingers.So am I and all the other singles and couples on here. The only ones who aren't,according to that definition,are FBs and FWBs because they are not in a commited relationship.
Sorry,I don't make the rules. "
But if you have a FB and/or FWB and you meet others then that makes you a swinger? Because you are still single 
Personally I don't see my self as a swinger as I don't go to clubs or, do threesums foursums or moresums. But the site works for me so happy days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think don't think it really matters if your technically a swinger or not on here. As long as your honest with people about what your looking for and don't lead anyone on it's all good.
Like the OP said there's so many different dynamics on here it just makes it all more interesting. There's still plenty of actual swingers here anyway. |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
A single looking for sex with other singles can also be considered swinging, unless they plan to make a full relationship of it. In fact, anyone who doesn't have a monogamous sex life without cheating is a swinger. Of course, that is only our personal definition. |
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"A single looking for sex with other singles can also be considered swinging, unless they plan to make a full relationship of it. In fact, anyone who doesn't have a monogamous sex life without cheating is a swinger. Of course, that is only our personal definition. "
I don't think single looking for single is considered swinging. I think suggesting to a single single person who is looking for one night stands and not committed to any one sexual partner that they are a swinger... i think they'd consider it laughable. Especially if they are not familiar with sites like this. Unless the word swinger has been watered down and overused that much that its now a widely socially acceptable term. |
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I think it's when your partner goes and has a sexual experience with someone else and comes back (clues in the name) I wouldn't class myself as a swinger as we only meet single guys in a mmf scenario and meeting someone else doesn't interest me in the slightest x |
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"We often say to friends, "We're not swingers because we don't meet couples or even men. We only meet women"
This is a swingers site and originally it was about keys in the fruit bowl and wife swapping but there are so many dynamics on here nowadays, my question is..
What is your definition of Swinging?"
I can't help but read this and think of all the sub divisions of bi thread the other week. It's like saying I'm not bi but I'll have my cock sucked by a man, it's all a continuum from nothing to everything. I think if you meet women you still are swingers, just your version of it. Just like women who just do top half fun only or the bi selfish just take, on some level they still partake in bisexual sex |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"It's a tricky one. I'd say:
Couples who meet couples - yes.
Couples who meet singles - yes.
Singles who meet couples - probably / sometimes.
Singles who only meet singles - probably not.
Single looking for a shag instead of at the pub / tinder - no.
I think it's more to do with a mindset, than a relationship status.
But ultimately, it doesn't matter, so long as all are having fun and giving each other what they are looking for."
Can you explain the difference between this comments I'm confused..
"Couples who meet singles - yes.
Singles who meet couples - probably / sometimes." |
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I don't consider myself swinger... I meet individuals I have a connection with, have sex if the chemistry is right, and usually form lasting fun friendships... Which, when you think about it, is what most single people do anyway in social situations...
Going to probably be controversial here... But from conversations I've had with couples who meet other couples or singles, the focus of their meets seem to be more about adding a little spice to their own sex lives... more about the reclaim sex afterwards than the meet itself, and I think that probably fits in with the traditional definitions of swinging |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
Befor i joind the site i allways thort of swinging with keys in the fruit bowl at a party then all the ladies pik thar.... "victims" 1 by 1 Lol
Since joing this site I'm now not Shor wot swinging is apart from haveing lots of partners as ive never seen a key party advert on hear lol |
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Can you explain the difference between this comments I'm confused..
"Couples who meet singles - yes.
Singles who meet couples - probably / sometimes." "
The couple who bring in a single, I'd say the couple were swingers.
The single joining the couple, maybe as they are still engaging in a shared situation as opposed to a 1:1 meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Befor i joind the site i allways thort of swinging with keys in the fruit bowl at a party then all the ladies pik thar.... "victims" 1 by 1 Lol
Since joing this site I'm now not Shor wot swinging is apart from haveing lots of partners as ive never seen a key party advert on hear lol "
I would like to do the key in a fruit bowl thing and pick my victim....that practice needs reviving XXX |
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"Pretty much anything other than purely meeting for 1 on 1 sex. To me that's not swinging even if facilitated n a swinging site
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Last week my partner knew I was going to have sex at home with a man and said he would make sure he didn't pop in and interrupt us. Afterwards I told him all about what we got up to. Isn't that swinging although the enounter was one on one? |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
"A single looking for sex with other singles can also be considered swinging, unless they plan to make a full relationship of it. In fact, anyone who doesn't have a monogamous sex life without cheating is a swinger. Of course, that is only our personal definition.
I don't think single looking for single is considered swinging. I think suggesting to a single single person who is looking for one night stands and not committed to any one sexual partner that they are a swinger... i think they'd consider it laughable. Especially if they are not familiar with sites like this. Unless the word swinger has been watered down and overused that much that its now a widely socially acceptable term."
As mentioned, our definition is as we understand the term. As per the thread, we are offering our opinion without the intent of thrusting it upon others. Varying views are what makes interesting reading. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Befor i joind the site i allways thort of swinging with keys in the fruit bowl at a party then all the ladies pik thar.... "victims" 1 by 1 Lol
Since joing this site I'm now not Shor wot swinging is apart from haveing lots of partners as ive never seen a key party advert on hear lol
I would like to do the key in a fruit bowl thing and pick my victim....that practice needs reviving XXX"
Mabey we need to try and plan a key party sumwear sumtime then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it's when your partner goes and has a sexual experience with someone else and comes back (clues in the name)
This is your definition of Swinging?"
Yeah x |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"We often say to friends, "We're not swingers because we don't meet couples or even men. We only meet women"
This is a swingers site and originally it was about keys in the fruit bowl and wife swapping but there are so many dynamics on here nowadays, my question is..
What is your definition of Swinging?"
There's been loads of threads about swinging definitions over the years. |
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"A single looking for sex with other singles can also be considered swinging, unless they plan to make a full relationship of it. In fact, anyone who doesn't have a monogamous sex life without cheating is a swinger. Of course, that is only our personal definition.
I don't think single looking for single is considered swinging. I think suggesting to a single single person who is looking for one night stands and not committed to any one sexual partner that they are a swinger... i think they'd consider it laughable. Especially if they are not familiar with sites like this. Unless the word swinger has been watered down and overused that much that its now a widely socially acceptable term.
As mentioned, our definition is as we understand the term. As per the thread, we are offering our opinion without the intent of thrusting it upon others. Varying views are what makes interesting reading. "
You're right. And theres plenty here disagree with our definition which makes interesting conversation |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
yumsville |
I don't think marital status has much to do with swinging. I think it depends much more on sexual outlook.
Anybody can go out, use apps or sites and pull someone new each day of the week if they wanted. But it doesn't mean you'll be easy with 'an ex' pulling someone else. With swinging it's a given that each has as much right to do what they want, with whoever they want, without hangups. |
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"I don't think marital status has much to do with swinging. I think it depends much more on sexual outlook.
Anybody can go out, use apps or sites and pull someone new each day of the week if they wanted. But it doesn't mean you'll be easy with 'an ex' pulling someone else. With swinging it's a given that each has as much right to do what they want, with whoever they want, without hangups. "
Yeah i get that. More about the way you view the sexual act. Purely a fun activity. |
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My definition of swinging is; consensual sex between three or more persons, or between two persons whereby the partner(s) of either is aware and approves.
I think that covers most scenarios.
I don't see single lady meeting single man as 'swinging'. That's just dating for casual sex. That would make you a swinger if you went out on a Saturday, pulled and got laid. Swinging has to involve at least three people in some capacity. |
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"Every opinion offered here is as valid as any other. One thing we all agree on though - it's having sex purely for fun. "
It's Saturday night and the pubs and clubs of the UK will be packed with thousands of 20-somethings looking for a quick fumble or a one-night stand.
Does that make them swingers?
If it does, it basically means almost everybody in the UK has been a swinger at some stage. |
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"My definition of swinging is; consensual sex between three or more persons, or between two persons whereby the partner(s) of either is aware and approves.
I think that covers most scenarios.
I don't see single lady meeting single man as 'swinging'. That's just dating for casual sex. That would make you a swinger if you went out on a Saturday, pulled and got laid. Swinging has to involve at least three people in some capacity."
I agree totally with your description of swinging. |
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"Every opinion offered here is as valid as any other. One thing we all agree on though - it's having sex purely for fun.
It's Saturday night and the pubs and clubs of the UK will be packed with thousands of 20-somethings looking for a quick fumble or a one-night stand.
Does that make them swingers?
If it does, it basically means almost everybody in the UK has been a swinger at some stage."
I think sex is definitely less of a taboo among the younger generation. Same sex marriage is the norm, promiscuity is wide spread. Theres now a variety of definitions for the word swinger. Maybe its the word swinger that is outdated. It cunjures up the old image of keys in the bowl which most agree is history. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"My definition is just to have sexual freedom and be open and honest, also to meet whoever you like as in ladies/gents/transgender etc and explore all the sexual situations that take your fancy "
Didn't bother reading any other replies to be honest. |
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"My definition is just to have sexual freedom and be open and honest, also to meet whoever you like as in ladies/gents/transgender etc and explore all the sexual situations that take your fancy
Didn't bother reading any other replies to be honest."
I nailed it |
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