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Why so many men on Fab?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex?"
More acceptable culturally acceptable for men to seek casual sex. I think it's changing though, slowly |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex?
More acceptable culturally acceptable for men to seek casual sex. I think it's changing though, slowly "
 it's definitely changing I remember when we started swinging single fems were rarer than hens teeth  |
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"If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex?"
Fab is free to use, maybe this is a factor? Other sites out there cost |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex?
Fab is free to use, maybe this is a factor? Other sites out there cost "
From others experience, I am told it is the same ratio on all. The one's for marrieds seeking affairs, there is a charge for men to use the site, but not for women. More men seek casual illicit sex than women. Sex sells, always has done, always will. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think there's an element of truth in men being more open to casual sex than women, although that is changing over time - I think there's also the "nudge nudge wink wink" factor to consider around men who hear about this site from friends or who stumble across it via sex related searches and think it's a golden ticket to instant sexual gratification.
Whilst there ARE a lot more men than women here, I'd be interested to know what the ratio is of profiles that have been here longer than 6 months and are still active - wouldn't mind betting the divide would not be so big. |
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I suspect that there are many factors. Certainly, most women will have much less problems getting casual sex than most men. Then there is the safety issue to consider... men will generally assume that they are not at risk turning up to meet a stranger, many women will be much more concerned.
Also there is a consensus that men are more able to separate the idea of sex from love, so are more comfortable with looking for sex as a recreational activity.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them  "
I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days."
Then why are there so many men on here that would never date a fab lady? It should be outdated but too many people place importance on the opinions of others to govern their life choices, especially when it comes to things like this. Image is key for most, even regardless of feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Women don't want to be associated with swinging or casual sex. I'm not sure if there are more women on dating sites, but I have heard there are and they have sex on a first date too. |
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"If the population of the UK is split roughly 50/50 between men and women, why are there so many men on Fab compared to women?
Is it down to nature making men more willing to seek sex or is it more acceptable culturally for men to seek casual sex?
Fab is free to use, maybe this is a factor? Other sites out there cost
From others experience, I am told it is the same ratio on all. The one's for marrieds seeking affairs, there is a charge for men to use the site, but not for women. "
I've used the affairs site, and while it is inexplicable why men have to pay such exorbitant fees yet the women are able to use it for free, I can confirm that the ratio of women to men is probably 4:1, and I have been very successful in there  |
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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Surely that's the wrong question to ask? It isn't the abundance of men that's remarkable, it's the shortage of women!
And why is that? I dunno, but I suppose you'd have to ask a lot of women, and you won't get a representative answer by asking the ladies on here, you'd need some way of polling female non-swingers. But it's the same with all "adult dating" sites, it isn't a Fab issue, or a swingers issue.
In my case, I'm in a sexless marriage (my wife lost all interest in sex years ago, and gave me permission to look elsewhere), so that explains why I am here and she is not. How typical is that? I have no idea, but I know that in cases of sex-drive mismatch it's almost always the woman who loses it rather than the man, so I expect something fundamentally biological is at the root of that.
If there is another reason, then I can't imagine what it is. If the number of sexually-frustrated women is anywhere near comparable to the number of sexually-frustrated men, then why do so few of them do something about it? Can it really be social pressure? I don't see it myself, any woman surely knows by now that hordes of men are waiting for her online, and discretion is pretty much guaranteed.
Maybe try to extrapolate from some of the reasons why some of the women on here would refuse to meet some of the men, and just assume that most women have similar concerns? Fear of being assaulted is something which usually bothers women more than it bothers men. But I don't think that can be a major issue, as it shouldn't apply to social meets in public venues.
It is a mystery!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days."
Some people. A lot aren't, and a woman who has lots of sexual partners is a slag/cum dump/other derogatory term. There are people on here who think that too and won't go anywhere near them, even though they pay to go to events/parties to fuck women.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days.
Then why are there so many men on here that would never date a fab lady? It should be outdated but too many people place importance on the opinions of others to govern their life choices, especially when it comes to things like this. Image is key for most, even regardless of feelings."
Well I don't have any facts to prove it, but are men against dating women on fab? Maybe they see the sure as casual sex only, and if considering a more serious date, think that broader area of interests and compatibility is needed for it to be a goid date?
Sex is great but that alone won't make a meaningful and rewarding relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days."
Not intentionally disrespecting you, but only a man would say that. I confide in close male friends, and they admit that deep down, they still regard women who have multiple sexual partners, as 'not partner/wife' material. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days.
Not intentionally disrespecting you, but only a man would say that. I confide in close male friends, and they admit that deep down, they still regard women who have multiple sexual partners, as 'not partner/wife' material."
No offence taken at all 
I guess it depends on the context and I know ladies as personal friends who swing who I would say would make great relationship material...and no not based on their sexual drive.
It's like everything else, all depends on who you ask and in what context? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I think
1. It is more socially acceptable for men to have casual sex, women still often get looked down on.
2. It could be to do with the way men are deemed as sex pests these days if they so much as wolf whistle at some women. Maybe this cuts out all the drama and is more straight to the point for them?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days.
Not intentionally disrespecting you, but only a man would say that. I confide in close male friends, and they admit that deep down, they still regard women who have multiple sexual partners, as 'not partner/wife' material."
Even though a lot of us are also already partners and wives |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men are allowed to like sex, wimen that do are frowned upon, even by the men that fuck them I think that's a dated perception. People are far more open-minded these days.
Not intentionally disrespecting you, but only a man would say that. I confide in close male friends, and they admit that deep down, they still regard women who have multiple sexual partners, as 'not partner/wife' material.
Even though a lot of us are also already partners and wives "
Badoom...nailed it. Sometimes we only listen to the negative opinions we hear. There's a big difference between a person who's lost self respect and sleeping around and someone who's playing the field and having a blast. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of all my female friends most are no longer interested in sex, with or without their husbands. Those partnerless are also not interested in sex either. They are busy with grandchildren, crap TV. Maybe this is also a factor XXX |
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It's possible that women don't need to work so actively to get access to new partners, hence a lower need to promote themselves etc.
Other than that I think many people in our society still have their mindset and behaviors constrained by inappropriate prejudicial attitudes from bygone eras - we often have threads here where many bigoted opinions show how backwards many of us are Imo, including recent posts about transgender equality - where they don't like equality etc. |
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