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By *ackey102 OP Man
over a year ago
South Norfolk |
I'm seeking advice.
If i sent a message and it sat opened for a while in there outbox but didn't get a reply. Would i take that being on the back burner (not meant in a wrong way) for furture reference or should that be a silent note to move on again? |
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Q:There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!
A:It's not rude not to reply.
Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?
So I think you should take it as a no.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always just move on. Then if they do get back its a nice surprise.
I know personally there is no way to predict what my mail reading behaviour means, sometimes I leave them unopened, sometimes I open and delete, sometimes I open and will reply later, sometimes I open and will delete later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Easy answer... when you send a message, delete it from your outbox!
That way if you get a reply it's a nice surprise in your inbox... no point in looking at a read message for days/weeks without it being deleted or replied to.  |
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1 I check profiles before messages
2 sometimes forget to delete and they drop down the list so I don't see them
3 if my attention is captured I tend to reply soon
So yea if they don't reply take that as a no thanks |
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By *ackey102 OP Man
over a year ago
South Norfolk |
"I'm seeking advice.
If i sent a message and it sat opened for a while in there outbox but didn't get a reply. Would i take that being on the back burner (not meant in a wrong way) for furture reference or should that be a silent note to move on again?
To be honest it depends on how many messages the woman has and how often she gets on to clear them. I have a huge backlog of messages which I am trying to deal with but I keep getting distracted by work, life and tho forums   "
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"Always just move on. Then if they do get back its a nice surprise.
I know personally there is no way to predict what my mail reading behaviour means, sometimes I leave them unopened, sometimes I open and delete, sometimes I open and will reply later, sometimes I open and will delete later. "
Yes to the first part of this reply . I sometimes read messages one after the other and then go back to delete them all at once but might miss one. Or I'll read it but am not sure if I want to reply or not so give myself a few days to see how I feel about it later. And then there are those I definitely want to reply to but am simply too busy to sit down and write properly immediately. Other times, I'm afraid I let my inbox build up quite a bit because it can get a bit overwhelming and/or I just don't feel in the mood to read stuff which overall can get a bit depressing. So really ... don't try to second guess how your message is treated and what that might mean. 'Forget' about it as soon as it's sent so if you do get a reply it's a bonus. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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As has already been established OP - it can mean a multitude of things, so it's not worth overthinking too much - if you get a reply then great.
One thing to bear in mind though, a lot of people will look at the profile before even opening a message, and the decide if they want to read it based on that - so it always pays to have a decent profile and pics to increase your chances of a message being read,let alone replied to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As has already been established OP - it can mean a multitude of things, so it's not worth overthinking too much - if you get a reply then great.
One thing to bear in mind though, a lot of people will look at the profile before even opening a message, and the decide if they want to read it based on that - so it always pays to have a decent profile and pics to increase your chances of a message being read,let alone replied to "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No reply is like a silent "I'm not interested". Just keep on searching and trying with people you think you will like instead of sending another message that will get opened and left, at best |
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"Always just move on. Then if they do get back its a nice surprise.
I know personally there is no way to predict what my mail reading behaviour means, sometimes I leave them unopened, sometimes I open and delete, sometimes I open and will reply later, sometimes I open and will delete later. "
exactly this |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
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Maybe some are still considering it, or someone doesnt know how to say thanks but no thanks and worry about offending. I know Ive looked at messages and either not replied cos we have been bombarded and working through them, or not sure if we want to meet and mull it over (no offence but its about timing and atraction and everything else, we all know that), or im still wording the No Thanks.
Always a tough one. I hate ignoring people, but at the same time want to let them down nicely |
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According to the rules on here, you dont send another message.
It gets more complicated when you hit it off with people and move to whatsapp/kik/viber/telegram
When you send them a message and they read it and dont reply, what do you do?
I like to give people every chance, so I personally will message them for a while getting the odd reply. But I have already decided that I will end communication if it does not improve. I just give people a lot of leeway to have a lot of other stuff going on in their life that I am not a priority.
You can only be on the backburner for so long though, unless youre into being ingored etc you shouldn't put up with it long term. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No reply is like a silent "I'm not interested". Just keep on searching and trying with people you think you will like instead of sending another message that will get opened and left, at best"
Not necessarily it's not |
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On the rare ocasions I send a message it's only when the profile seems to fit and if I don't receive a reply within a day and the receiver has been online in the meantime I simply bloc them.That saves me messaging them again and wasting time looking at their profile. |
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Its simple really, dont check your sent box. If someone receives and reads your message and they like the sound of you, will see something in your inbox! The sent items/outbox will just drive you mad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to forget about it. Imagine you've waved at someone on a bus....it's drove off and they didn't wave back.
Sometimes that bus turns around at the interchange and she might make a return journey and get off at the stop near you, and....
You know, this analogy sounded good at the start.
Anyone FAF? |
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By *ackey102 OP Man
over a year ago
South Norfolk |
"Try to forget about it. Imagine you've waved at someone on a bus....it's drove off and they didn't wave back.
Sometimes that bus turns around at the interchange and she might make a return journey and get off at the stop near you, and....
You know, this analogy sounded good at the start.
Anyone FAF? "
Hahahahahahahaha i like it. Thank you |
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By *ackey102 OP Man
over a year ago
South Norfolk |
"Maybe some are still considering it, or someone doesnt know how to say thanks but no thanks and worry about offending. I know Ive looked at messages and either not replied cos we have been bombarded and working through them, or not sure if we want to meet and mull it over (no offence but its about timing and atraction and everything else, we all know that), or im still wording the No Thanks.
Always a tough one. I hate ignoring people, but at the same time want to let them down nicely"
Nicely put thank you |
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By *ackey102 OP Man
over a year ago
South Norfolk |
Thank you all for you're views on this.
I am now going to delete all that ive sent so:-
A, It dont fry my brain thinking of the "what ifs"
B, If I do get a reply then "Tally ho, chocks away" and enjoy.
Thanks again to you all  |
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