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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone act differently towards some people that you’ve met? I don’t mean in a bitchy way or anything.
I’m naturally a confident person but I’ve noticed that some individuals can make myself unsure of myself and overthink my actions etc.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I think in all aspects of our lives there are some people we feel naturally confident and comfortable around, and others who put us on edge for one reason or another - it's human nature really.
And I think the above is true regardless of whether you like the person or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I am who I am and if that doesn't suit someone else that's not my problem."
No that’s not what I mean, I don’t put on a different persona or anything or try to be something I’m not. It’s difficult to put across in words |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. My behaviour affects their behaviour and vice versa.
I'm not different morally or in my values but people can flumix you or even make you feel different depending on their presence. So I'm different to everyone I guess. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just people you meet off here for sex and a romantic sense or everyday people?"
No not every day sense, in every day sense I never question my actions, I couldn’t do the job I do if I did that. I just find that some people bring out my submissive nature more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do, I'm a chameleon and I fit in with whoever I'm with... I'm still gobby but more so with people I totally hit it of with lol.... Those I don't hit it off with can see a different side to me than what my mates see as I don't like being manipulated and I'm not afraid to say so or let them know they won't be manipulating me any time soon. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Yes. My behaviour affects their behaviour and vice versa.
I'm not different morally or in my values but people can flumix you or even make you feel different depending on their presence. So I'm different to everyone I guess."
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"Does anyone act differently towards some people that you’ve met? I don’t mean in a bitchy way or anything.
I’m naturally a confident person but I’ve noticed that some individuals can make myself unsure of myself and overthink my actions etc.
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I know exactly what you mean and yes it happens to me with certain people. I can't figure out why either  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People should be the same on here as they are in real life .if you chat too someone on here and on your phone .you get a good idea of what person is like.personality comes through ,but if you meet someone in real life who aren't what you thought they were and make you feel negative they arnt who they are and not worth bothering with in real life .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes
My close friends we share everything and anything with, and yes they know i swing and in the bdsm scene
i dont share everything with people, if they respect me i will respect them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People should be the same on here as they are in real life .if you chat too someone on here and on your phone .you get a good idea of what person is like.personality comes through ,but if you meet someone in real life who aren't what you thought they were and make you feel negative they arnt who they are and not worth bothering with in real life . "
Yes I totally see that but that’s not my issue x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone act differently towards some people that you’ve met? I don’t mean in a bitchy way or anything.
I’m naturally a confident person but I’ve noticed that some individuals can make myself unsure of myself and overthink my actions etc.
I know exactly what you mean and yes it happens to me with certain people. I can't figure out why either "
I think it's most noticeable when you warm to someone immediately.
We're all guilty I'm guessing. Sometimes I instantly dislike and mistrust simeine(get it on forum threads  ) then other times I feel like someone is an old friend and my guard is lowered immediately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. I am. They create the atmosphere sometimes (not all the time). And I adjust to how they are acting out. I understand what your asking op, like you, I find it difficult to put into words. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Just people you meet off here for sex and a romantic sense or everyday people?
No not every day sense, in every day sense I never question my actions, I couldn’t do the job I do if I did that. I just find that some people bring out my submissive nature more. "
I've often said we all have people we're naturally submissive too, and those we are naturally dominant with - not necessarily in a D/s way, but just in the way we interact with them.
An example of this being my best friend - have known him a long time and he's the one to take the lead in most things, and will generally take control of a situation - not in any overbearing way, it's just the dynamic of our friendship. Yet there are other friends where I'm the more dominant one (if dominant is the right word), and others still where things are fairly equal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah definitely. I'm the same, naturally Im quite confident and bubbly but certain people can make me feel shy or reluctant to be so open with them.
Not always in a negative way either. Some people just have a way about them that unnerves me in an exciting way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just people you meet off here for sex and a romantic sense or everyday people?
No not every day sense, in every day sense I never question my actions, I couldn’t do the job I do if I did that. I just find that some people bring out my submissive nature more. "
Yeah, everyone gives off different energies and vibes I suppose.
All the guys I've ever met are always tall and naturally very dominant but they all look vulnerable when they're on all fours in a bath tub and you're washing their bum. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just people you meet off here for sex and a romantic sense or everyday people?
No not every day sense, in every day sense I never question my actions, I couldn’t do the job I do if I did that. I just find that some people bring out my submissive nature more.
Yeah, everyone gives off different energies and vibes I suppose.
All the guys I've ever met are always tall and naturally very dominant but they all look vulnerable when they're on all fours in a bath tub and you're washing their bum. "
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I get that..I am or at least try to be pleasant and polite with eveyone .....but with a couple of fab friend I am more flirtatious and a lot more of a tease ....and their responce and interaction makes for a more intresting meet...and greater fun..  |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Does anyone act differently towards some people that you’ve met? I don’t mean in a bitchy way or anything.
I’m naturally a confident person but I’ve noticed that some individuals can make myself unsure of myself and overthink my actions etc.
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Yes. Some people give off a vibe that invites you to dominate the interaction. Conversely some give off the opposite and put you in your place. Just a natural state of affairs. |
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It's natural for people to have varied 'flavours' of who they are and present to others - as well as themselves - that's often context dependent. We're usually our fuller self when with people that we trust and know well and, conversely - a more selectively presented self to others.
Who's the real self? All are real, though a more present fuller you represents more of who you are. But our intelligence is wonderfully displayed when we establish a self-formulation that is potentially most relevant at any given moment - we don't typically consciously do anything to vary ourselves, it's an unconscious activity.
Where we find that our response to others is a certain way, it may be due to having interacted with someone similar before - but the process is often a two way system: Both parties have some involvement in establishing and maintaining it. So it'll likely be you and him doing something op, even if it's just a guy like him that triggers your initial response, he'll likely form some reciprocal interaction back and forth.
If you are aware of it and feel limited, then it's an invitation to potentially transition towards an alternative approach that may be more fulfilling for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think we all present in different ways to different people as part of the connections we may establish and the circumstances in which we meet. It's almost an instinctive reaction to the other person picking up on the feel of any interaction and feedback we give and receive. It's probably even true that at times we present in different ways to any single person who we may know well where the environment mood and circumstances dictate the nature of the way in which we connect. Perhaps it's part of picking up the signals others give out and instinctively knowing how to act in any situation at any given time.
Maybe it's hard wired into us that we in some way acknowledge that the needs desires emotions of both those we know well and those not so well are a key part of establishing the relationship whatever it may be with another and a means to reach mutual understanding or the level of connection that differing situations demand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone act differently towards some people that you’ve met? I don’t mean in a bitchy way or anything.
I’m naturally a confident person but I’ve noticed that some individuals can make myself unsure of myself and overthink my actions etc.
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Yes I find myself constantly battling with this, doubting myself or my confidence at times. |
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