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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are having the same problem with couples 
I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.
Think we'll just attend socials for now 
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We are having the same problem with couples
I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.
Think we'll just attend socials for now
Mrs x"
As a couple at least you've got each other |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.
That way you are either right or presently surprised"
Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.
That way you are either right or presently surprised
Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it "
Hugs xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are having the same problem with couples
I'm always left surprised and wondering why we bother being honest.
Think we'll just attend socials for now
Mrs x
As a couple at least you've got each other "
Exactly we're just more suspicious of everyone now
Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here
But every time I am!
Is it just me?
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Nope it’s not just you, the ones I think are genuine then you find out it’s all bullshit. Stupid me |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
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As a couple we hetvlots of messages. But when I look on other sites to play alone (Mrs trying but we both play separately) I’ve had over 60 ghosts, drop outs and cancellations this year. 3 times more than meets.
It knocks my confidence a little more each time but I don’t give up. I’ve met some amazing guys so I’ll keep trying.
Just don’t give up. |
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"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here
But every time I am!
Is it just me?
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In a funny kind of roundabout way your surprise does you credit because it shows you like to think the best of people and/or hope that they're going to treat you with the same consideration and honesty you show them. So of course when that turns out not to be the case you're going to feel sad ... at your judgement being out, at your time being wasted, at being taken for a fool
I'm afraid I'm quite cynical on here. It takes a lot for someone to convince me they're genuinely interested and I stay rather guarded until they do. I don't like being suspicious and appreciate that might be insulting to genuine people so it's a fine line to tread. Ultimately though you do have to try and protect yourself from the BS  |
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By *ancduoCouple
over a year ago
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"That's exactly it!
I feel stupid.
It's not a good feeling "
i know it’s not. I feel stupid. It hurts doesn’t it. It’s meant to be fun. But it still hurts. You will get over it and move on to the next.
Just remember there are real guys out there. It’s just finding them. |
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"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.
That way you are either right or presently surprised
Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it "
Don’t feel sad because of the knobs, there are some truly lovely ppl on here too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There must be some real fucking expert charmers on here messing you lovely ladies and couples about.
Just to be at the point of a possible meet remains a dream for me despite being a gent with all communication.
Unless it’s just me !
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Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?
I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've said this numerous times, but i just don't understand men.
They're great as friends - but romantically/sexually, i find them hard going.
Out of the sexes i thought men were supposed to be the more straight forward, least game playing types. But no. Some (not all!!) can give some (not all!!) women a run for their money.
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"I've said this numerous times, but i just don't understand men.
They're great as friends - but romantically/sexually, i find them hard going.
Out of the sexes i thought men were supposed to be the more straight forward, least game playing types. But no. Some (not all!!) can give some (not all!!) women a run for their money.
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Tell me about it, it's a shit.
There are some nice people out there, hope you find one.
I've decided to not look any more, I have been messed about something chronic. I've made lovely friends here though.xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hope in the human race to be decent and true is a dangerous thing to have
But to give up hope is to let them win.  "
And that, is the toughest battle to fight |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?
I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies."
That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.
Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.
That way you are either right or presently surprised"
No. I'd rather be an optimist. If that means being disappointed every now and then, I'll take that as a price for how I choose to live my life. |
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"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?
I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies.
That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.
Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off. "
Yes i get that. We're all different and we're only human. The emotional fine line between NSA and getting to know someone. Made all that more difficult by being single and open to a relationship.
I was just curious as to whether this is a developed friendship/relationship or just a profile the lady has been chatting to. |
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Know how you feel OP, even as a couple it dose knock you a bit, we just smile and carry on, all the best. X
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Steve just said, bearing in mind your user name. He would never bullshit you, but he would be more than happy to turn up and sweep your chimney. Lol X X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hope! That is why you keep being surprised!
As John Cleese said in the film Clockwise- "Hope is the inability to accept defeat!" "
No. It's refusing to accept defeat. There's a difference.
"Faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here
But every time I am!
Is it just me?
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It's because you're deep in the hope they're being honest.
I'm afraid I'm extremely cynical but neither believe or disbelieve in what they say until time sways me one way or another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always assume everyone is an asshole until they prove otherwise.
That way you are either right or presently surprised
Seems to be the only way on here - but for some reason today I feel sad about it "
Hormones? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hope! That is why you keep being surprised!
As John Cleese said in the film Clockwise- "Hope is the inability to accept defeat!" "
I have been taught not to give people hope but not to squash hope if someone has it (palliative care - teachings change over the years).
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this a guy you've known for some time? Can i ask what they lied about?
I honestly can't imagine being that emotionally involved with someone on here to the point of being upset when discovering they're telling porkies.
That's you. There are some people on here that to enjoy their way of having sex, requires a lot of trust. It can feel quite bad when that trust was misplaced or you feel duped.
Myself, like you might be able to shake it off (I've been taught a lesson or two on here) but I do get why people get pissed off.
Yes i get that. We're all different and we're only human. The emotional fine line between NSA and getting to know someone. Made all that more difficult by being single and open to a relationship.
I was just curious as to whether this is a developed friendship/relationship or just a profile the lady has been chatting to. "
I imagine the sadness is the result of continuous dealing with bs rather than a personal interaction. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I imagine the sadness is the result of continuous dealing with bs rather than a personal interaction."
Exactly this!
I'm really hormonal at the moment and forgot what website this was for a moment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel for you but each time I see this type of thread I see my chances of a meet gallop further over the hills, no matter how many times I retort with not all of us do or are like that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everytime I realise that a man is bullshitting me on here
But every time I am!
Is it just me?
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My apologies on behalf of the ungrateful, ill mannered members of my sex, we are not all like that. I wish you well and support all the comments - keep going, use the block button and when you find that polite one that does turn up, tell us all about it
Dx |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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"Im pretty jaded now. I just presume everyone is bullshitting me now..
And when it turns out they are talking bollocks I go ha! Knew it.
Exactly!  "
It's sad reading through this post..
Good luck to all for finding someone who doesn't bullshit. |
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