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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was thinking about this earlier. I added new pics and categorised them. I realised I was putting myself into a searchable box.
I get a lot of "love a BBW" mail and I can't help but think am I just a tick in a box of types of women on a bucketlist?
I tend not to engage in what I'm into chat with someone til I know them better, I haven't ticked any interests on my profile because I don't want to meet someone just because we have the same interests.
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Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
Sometimes based on the discussions in the forum, I think it's more of the later than the former. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We offer ourselves up as sex objects by our pictures/text no doubt. It's making the effort to make sure we don't feel as such when we message/meet that makes a difference to me. I'm meeting a person. |
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"We offer ourselves up as sex objects by our pictures/text no doubt. It's making the effort to make sure we don't feel as such when we message/meet that makes a difference to me. I'm meeting a person. "
Bqmg on. Some want to be used as a sex object,no doubt,but not all do  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was thinking about this earlier. I added new pics and categorised them. I realised I was putting myself into a searchable box.
I get a lot of "love a BBW" mail and I can't help but think am I just a tick in a box of types of women on a bucketlist?
I tend not to engage in what I'm into chat with someone til I know them better, I haven't ticked any interests on my profile because I don't want to meet someone just because we have the same interests.
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I do the same. I find that no matter what I tick or say on my profile, the same people say they are into it. Seems like they say they're into the same things just to get a 'foot in the door'.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face . "
Not me, I'm shit at sex which is why there needs to be the connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?"
Speak for yourself. I expect at least a cup of tea for payment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face . "
oh you blocked me. Im sad now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dream of being someone's sex object 
Apologies if I made being a sex object sound like a bad thing. 
Some do like it ... some don't. "
I'm used to the general tone of the forum with people looking down on you because you do things differently. Nothing to apologise for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face . oh you blocked me. Im sad now"
Must be a reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face . oh you blocked me. Im sad now
Must be a reason "
well i just clocked your new pic and came to perv but i cant  |
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
Yes
Yes
Yes
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone's different, however I won't play with anyone whose company I haven't enjoyed...
I find the act of intimacy with a complete stranger lacking somewhat... In a threesome type scenario, I would need to be friendly with at least one of the other two people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Speak for yourself. I expect at least a cup of tea for payment"
I buy my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face . "
In crap at sex. I kiss well though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face .
Good kissing leads too good sex
In crap at sex. I kiss well though "
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
I think as individuals we portray how we want to be perceived or treated. That’s no different in this environment, some do it better than others. Your profile is your shop window, lie you will be found out, bat shit crazy doesn’t take long to show itself. Therefore, if you’re being treated in a certain manner repeatedly maybe look at your profile or your behaviour and ask yourself why that’s happening if it makes you unhappy. You can influence your experience and how you’re perceived |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There needs to be a connection, because otherwise if it's just sex for the sake of it it might as well just be elaborate masturbation. "
I've had incredible sex 'for the sake of sex' with women I've known very little about.
Getting to know someone certainly has its benefits but a genuine physical attraction and good chemistry can lead to great nsa sex. |
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face .
In crap at sex. I kiss well though "
Well I guess it depends on what one defines sex as really .
A meet with someone who kisses well , who enjoys intimacy and eroticism is always going to be a winner as far as we are concerned .
Someone who just fucks is ok on occasion , but never as good as a real connection on a sexual level . |
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
Well, I'm looking for sex. To attract someone for this I need to try to make myself as appealing as possible to get them to think of me as someone they would like to have sex with. So, yes it does, in my opinion, mean that I turn (or try to) myself into a "sex object".
When I look at men's profiles most of the time it's to see if they are someone I would like to have sex with (sometimes it's from reading a forum post and wanting to work them out a bit more before replying). So really, quite frankly, I am looking at them as a sex object, a person "object" to have sex with.
I find NSA actually more satisfying than masturbating so have no problem with this, I don't need to be friends with someone to have satisfying sex.
Is that a bad thing? I guess it depends on if they are looking for sex or friends I guess. |
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I think the internet and apps have pushed perceptions this way - and the swiping has particularly done this. Over emphasis upon the visual and lots of porn viewing inflates it more.
Each of us can manage it, filtering for those who perceive us in the way that we prefer. But it's useful to be mindful of just being little more than a visual tool in the flesh that enhances another's dreams and fantasies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think alot of men do the talk and talk is all it is .Too many think they are great at sex .
But alot don't engage the brain to spark a interest from a women to get attention and a actual interest too meet face too face .
In crap at sex. I kiss well though
Well I guess it depends on what one defines sex as really .
A meet with someone who kisses well , who enjoys intimacy and eroticism is always going to be a winner as far as we are concerned .
Someone who just fucks is ok on occasion , but never as good as a real connection on a sexual level ."
I agree.. also, your comment somehow seems to have stirred a little horniness within me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never think of anyone as an object.
Putting pics and profiles on here or anywhere is always the easy part but that human interaction with another person is what makes the sex worth sharing.
Or maybe I'm just doing it wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?
Well, I'm looking for sex. To attract someone for this I need to try to make myself as appealing as possible to get them to think of me as someone they would like to have sex with. So, yes it does, in my opinion, mean that I turn (or try to) myself into a "sex object".
When I look at men's profiles most of the time it's to see if they are someone I would like to have sex with (sometimes it's from reading a forum post and wanting to work them out a bit more before replying). So really, quite frankly, I am looking at them as a sex object, a person "object" to have sex with.
I find NSA actually more satisfying than masturbating so have no problem with this, I don't need to be friends with someone to have satisfying sex.
Is that a bad thing? I guess it depends on if they are looking for sex or friends I guess."
I think your last sentence says it all- it needs to be a mutual arrangement. If one is looking for more than the other, then it won't work. |
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It's like when you go to a nudist beach, rock hard cock throbbing out of your pants looking around from the shelter of the bush.
But after a while it becomes your norm.
So you up the ante. You get naked yourself and man its exciting, but then it becomes normal.
Before long youre naked on your bed sprawled out like a star fish, while people stand over you peeing on you while the bottom of your feet are tickled with feathers.
We are all on this journey together, and we are all at different stages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's like when you go to a nudist beach, rock hard cock throbbing out of your pants looking around from the shelter of the bush.
But after a while it becomes your norm.
So you up the ante. You get naked yourself and man its exciting, but then it becomes normal.
Before long youre naked on your bed sprawled out like a star fish, while people stand over you peeing on you while the bottom of your feet are tickled with feathers.
We are all on this journey together, and we are all at different stages."
I think I might be headed in the wrong direction, by the sounds of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think the Internet does that, or even dating sites. I think fab does it and the majority of men and many women on fab do it.
Fab is the embodiment of the saying 'women have sex to be loved'. In my opinion |
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
In answer to your questions,
I'd never have sex with a 'stranger' it just wouldn't work for me
I prefer to get to know someone, messages, phone, social first.
I do look behind the profile, I want a connection, know the person as a person, never just as a warm body for a quick shag.
I know from the messages I get, that the majority of people who view my pics & profiles don't though.
I don't like graphic photos, I take time over mine, subtle & tasteful, but still sexy & maybe provocative.
I'm not an object, I have feelings & emotions, if a first message comes accross as a 'fancy a fuck' then it's a case of SeeYa.
I'm not here for that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think the Internet does that, or even dating sites. I think fab does it and the majority of men and many women on fab do it.
Fab is the embodiment of the saying 'women have sex to be loved'. In my opinion "
Maybe to feel loved, I don't think sex makes anyone fall in love. Would you not agree? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
Well what do you think OP? Do you look at our profiles and think we are just an object for sex for you to use or do you think we might actually be people too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Errrrrmmmm..
Well sometimes I quite liked being treated like a sex object.
I enjoy fucking strangers and get a thrill from last minute fuck frenzies.
But other times I like a connection and to share myself sexually with someone I consider a friend.
Putting naked pictures on the internet with a list of sex acts I perform gives me a cheap thrill
And gets me away from my otherwise boring life!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
No. You are sex subjects.
For a full explanation of this read my thesis recently submitted to Sydney University.....
Hey! Why are you all blocking me!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't think the Internet does that, or even dating sites. I think fab does it and the majority of men and many women on fab do it.
Fab is the embodiment of the saying 'women have sex to be loved'. In my opinion
Maybe to feel loved, I don't think sex makes anyone fall in love. Would you not agree? "
Too pedantic for me I'm afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a sexual being with a heart, a mind and soul and some kinky f'ed up fantasises that need realising lol... My 3d-ness is multi dimensional and I like being connected with... Treat me like an object 24/7 and see what you get! (That'd be not much tbh lol) |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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I allways see people not objects.
Think its 1 resoun i carnt get a meet on hear cos ,most, no all but most on hear seem to want to be treetrd like a object.
No one seems to wants a date these days....
Thay just seem to want to be sumones quik fuk then go off for the next ,,better,, fuk.
So guys like me with no or litall experience don't stand a chance.
And the 1s that do seem to want mor than just a quik fuk are to far away to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We're all just objectified by others initially. We're identified as someone to satisfy someone else's need (they aren't contacting you out of goodness of their hearts!).
It's when you meet you that suddenly you become a human being, and reality sinks in. But that can be an awful ling way down the line. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" We're all just objectified by others initially. We're identified as someone to satisfy someone else's need (they aren't contacting you out of goodness of their hearts!).
It's when you meet you that suddenly you become a human being, and reality sinks in. But that can be an awful ling way down the line."
No one's made me cum during a one to one or group sessions in many years now so I don't choose people to sort me out specifically, I choose people because they seem like fun, or they make me horny or we just get on... I can make myself cum pretty easily so I'm covered on that front lol...
I do tend to sexually objectify love interests tho but I don't find love interests very often, 3 in 7 years and I'm currently focussing on one of them lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers? "
I have been careful in my profile to not be explcit. Fab is a journey for me, not a destination.
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Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?"
My naked/explicit pics are friends only. To get on my friends list, a connection needs to be established. I don't view myself as a sex object, or particularly sexy. The pics are to give people and idea of my physical form.
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Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?"
The profile is a shop window that I will peruse. I always look for what the person is,not what they will do.
I may be playing Fab wrong, but it works for me. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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do i see myself as a sex object.... nope, I hope what i am selling to people is the best "me" i can be!
do i see others as sex objects... nah, because i have to get to know people first before i jump 5 or 6 steps forward
some people can act purely on the physical... and if that is you then go on going!
me... my brain needs to be stimulated as well as my body.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does the internet reduce you to just a list of sex acts that you're willing to perform for free with strangers?
Does having explicit/ semi naked pics of your body on public show reduce you to a sex object?
Do you look behind the profiles and see a human being or are they all just sex objects to fulfil your fantasies?
Well what do you think OP? Do you look at our profiles and think we are just an object for sex for you to use or do you think we might actually be people too? "
I see the person behind the profile. Even 'fakes' or ones with no pics or text. It's a person behind it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"do i see myself as a sex object.... nope, I hope what i am selling to people is the best "me" i can be!
do i see others as sex objects... nah, because i have to get to know people first before i jump 5 or 6 steps forward
some people can act purely on the physical... and if that is you then go on going!
me... my brain needs to be stimulated as well as my body...."
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