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Is being shallow okay, when you swing?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Let's all agree that the word shallow refers to being attracted to what's only on the surface? That's how I see it.

So when someone says , I choose a sexual partner in looks alone (weather that's searching for size10/size 20 women or a guy with average size/vwe) I believe that as shallow. It's not about him/her it's about what they look like, on the surface.

Is it accepted that we can be shallow when looking for someone to fuck? Or would you still be okay with someone that wants to know a little bit about you, and like your personality as well?

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

I don’t do shallow, have I mentioned that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, I wouldnt meet purely based on looks. I need a conversation to make sure we are somewhat compatible beyond looks.

Likewise I don't jump at meet me now/ your so hot/ blah blah blah type messages.

If someone cant engage me with their chat, they wont engage me with their body.

L x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it is, we have each other for the connection, this is a fantasy world we are here to get what we want so unless they are a complete Bellend then it's mostly looks we go for,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am shallow in a sense, my initial interest is sparked purely by looks. But then I do like to get to know people before meeting them.

I've been lucky and met people that I'd consider completely out of my league in the real world. On that basis being shallow is worthwhile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks play an important part. Of course it does.

You need to be attracted to them or its just sex for sexs sake.

Plus their picture or face is the first impression. Be it a profile pic or the actual person.

For me if I find their face attractive I'm in lol. Weird but true. Doesn't have to be the expected Greek god but just a nice face that I like.

Saying that we still need to click. No good having someone you can't talk to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think it is, we have each other for the connection, this is a fantasy world we are here to get what we want so unless they are a complete Bellend then it's mostly looks we go for, "

So what would make you say no, possibly, when they tick all the boxes for you. Their face is what you like and the body is what you want?

Why say no?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are happy with that, some aren't. Personally, I need more than just a pretty face but who knows, I might see a gorgeous face and body and be like, 'dont speak, just fuck' and enjoy it!

Swinging is a funny thing

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Looks play an important part. Of course it does.

You need to be attracted to them or its just sex for sexs sake.

Plus their picture or face is the first impression. Be it a profile pic or the actual person.

For me if I find their face attractive I'm in lol. Weird but true. Doesn't have to be the expected Greek god but just a nice face that I like.

Saying that we still need to click. No good having someone you can't talk to. "

Are you bothered what they think of you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Logically, I guess it's OK, but I can't seem to put it into practice. Looks are important, but I just can't fuck someone I don't actually like!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with that, some aren't. Personally, I need more than just a pretty face but who knows, I might see a gorgeous face and body and be like, 'dont speak, just fuck' and enjoy it!

Swinging is a funny thing

Peach x"

And some are just the complete package

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you bothered what they think of you? "

Of course I am. I'm as vain and insecure as the next person.

I want them to want me.

Having a guy be hard for me or a woman wet and moaning is the best feeling in the world.

Massive turn on in itself.

And really,what is the point of going with someone you don't want?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There has to be a spark of physical attraction to start with - is that being shallow, no.

What comes next maybe... if you don’t like the person or they’re not interacting/engaging with you on a sexual/personal level yet you continue to have sex with them solely based on their looks? Yep, that’s shallow.

I’m a great believer of it ain’t what you got, it’s what you do with it!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to be attracted to the guy and for him to have the kind of penis I like. After the physical attributes are met then he's also got to have a nice personality and tick all those kind of boxes too.

I'd never fuck anyone for the sake of fucking, just couldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Play Fab how you want to play it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with that, some aren't. Personally, I need more than just a pretty face but who knows, I might see a gorgeous face and body and be like, 'dont speak, just fuck' and enjoy it!

Swinging is a funny thing

Peach x

And some are just the complete package

Maybe some are.....

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think a lot of the time it's the looks that first attract us, but then it's the personality that makes us want to meet. X

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By *SophiexCouple over a year ago

Kilmarnock

I am 1000% shallow in that I married a good looking guy but on here I am only interested in seriously hot younger guys with great bodies...

That said we always meet socially with such a guy first before playing and if in the social meet I don't click with the young guy or I think he is not a very nice person then it doesn't happen.

Do I worry about what they think?

Why should I, we are both using each other for sex and nothing more.

This is not a dating site!

Anyway 99% of guys I have fcuked message and want to meet again so it's not like they are thinking that they don't like what happened.

OP - If you are uncomfortable with a lot of females/couples being shallow I'd say your on the wrong website... the thing is you shouldn't take this website too seriously... it's for like minded people blowing off steam and fulfilling fantasies and not much more x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?"

Did she buy me a drink?

Seriously, I'm sure you'd know my answer is no. But that is an extreme personality trait...I've not yet seen in Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are you bothered what they think of you?

Of course I am. I'm as vain and insecure as the next person.

I want them to want me.

Having a guy be hard for me or a woman wet and moaning is the best feeling in the world.

Massive turn on in itself.

And really,what is the point of going with someone you don't want?"

But wait? Can't men get hard for anyone, any holes a goal right?

How do you know that just the physical attraction wasn't enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some people are happy with that, some aren't. Personally, I need more than just a pretty face but who knows, I might see a gorgeous face and body and be like, 'dont speak, just fuck' and enjoy it!

Swinging is a funny thing

Peach x

And some are just the complete package

Maybe some are.....

Peach x"

When I find one il tell you....

Found one

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By *addys_Little_PrincessWoman over a year ago

London

I tend to base who I talk to/ meet on a mixture of looks and personality. I like a connection and am looking for something pretty full on, so the person inside is pretty important.

However I very often get accused of being shallow for wanting some kind of visual before I start talking to someone (not face pics, but something other than a blank silhouette), even from people who have messaged to say how much they liked my pictures.

I think often people on here throw the word shallow around, when actually it's not a ridiculous concept to want to be attracted to someone body and mind.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?

Did she buy me a drink?

Seriously, I'm sure you'd know my answer is no. But that is an extreme personality trait...I've not yet seen in Fab. "

It's an extreme example to illustrate a point.

I think by definition casual sex is a shallow passtime. But I don't think its 100% physical attraction either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you bothered what they think of you?

Of course I am. I'm as vain and insecure as the next person.

I want them to want me.

Having a guy be hard for me or a woman wet and moaning is the best feeling in the world.

Massive turn on in itself.

And really,what is the point of going with someone you don't want?

But wait? Can't men get hard for anyone, any holes a goal right?

How do you know that just the physical attraction wasn't enough? "

That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though

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By *SophiexCouple over a year ago

Kilmarnock

"Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though "

You know they won't figure it out until after sex...win/win situation

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to be intensely physically attracted but also like them as a person

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Yes, it's accepted. It doesn't necessarily mean I would ever fuck them or we'd be compatible but I know that some people enjoy being 'shallow'.

If it causes no harm to others, there's nothing wrong with that - I might not understand it but I don't think a connection other than a physical one is a necessity for all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though "

That's it. You're off my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Either is ok. People are allowed to choose whoever they fuck. No matter if that's 1,000 people or 1 person. Any body type, height, skin colour, age, personality. They can use whatever criteria they like.

Of course some people will slag them off for it but that says more about them.

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

I struggle with shallow, if I just go fuck someone and it hasn’t got something about it, some form of connection I feel a form of remorse after, not a feeling I like.

Perhaps why I like FWB more than a shag and leave scenario.

However, each yo thier own.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Let's all agree that the word shallow refers to being attracted to what's only on the surface? That's how I see it.

Is it accepted that we can be shallow when looking for someone to fuck? Or would you still be okay with someone that wants to know a little bit about you, and like your personality as well? "

I'm ok with other people being shallow by your definition. For myself I'm pretty shallow in that I want physical attraction first and foremost or it's not going to happen. However I think that if you're attracted to someone on a physical level the chances are (in many cases) that you perceive their personality to be attractive too or you're prepared to overlook things that you wouldn't in a less attractive person. Don't expect me to want to look at your holiday snaps or care that you hate your job though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though

That's it. You're off my hotlist

Lies

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the flip side of the coin you're in the middle of a 20 person orgy. A gorgeous lady comes over, tries to suck your cock and you say "Stop! Wait! We haven't got to know each other yet!"

So I guess it very much depends on the situation...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a good one.

I find connecting differcult tbh so meeting someone in the flesh (socially) is just as important as chatting to them on here. It's not that I'm hard to please It just takes a while to spark my interest. I'm defo more of a visual girl. I'm finding the forum socials good for that. Like window shopping. So no I don't think that swinging is shallow for me. Possibly the other end of the scale.

My body and head let's me down seams that only my cunt is interested these days.

Ptu xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

But wait? Can't men get hard for anyone, any holes a goal right?

How do you know that just the physical attraction wasn't enough? "

From personal experience no they can't. And sometimes they can't when they want to. Cocks are funny things. I'm sure some guys can though.

Hey I'm happy for someone to want to fuck me just because I weirdly happen to turn them on. Just because I need a click doesn't mean everyone does. I'm sure we've all been shallow at some point.

To be honest with you op I could fuck anyone with no feelings, n only chat, no click. I've been a prostitute in my younger days (which I'm happy to discuss I only hide it coz of my daughter) so emotional involvement can be difficult for me.

But having done that it maKeswick you value that spark with someone all the more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im hoping the men that are interested in me are just shallow because once they get to know me they'll realise I'm a bit of a knob

Hopefully we'll have had sex before they figure it out though

That's it. You're off my hotlist

Lies

Am I that transparent? Damn!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think it is, we have each other for the connection, this is a fantasy world we are here to get what we want so unless they are a complete Bellend then it's mostly looks we go for,

So what would make you say no, possibly, when they tick all the boxes for you. Their face is what you like and the body is what you want?

Why say no? "

If they are married that's a No, or if they come across a complete arrogant tool who thinks he is doing us a favour, or they tell me I'm a lucky guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Let's all agree that the word shallow refers to being attracted to what's only on the surface? That's how I see it.

Is it accepted that we can be shallow when looking for someone to fuck? Or would you still be okay with someone that wants to know a little bit about you, and like your personality as well?

I know my definition my not be perfect and fit anyone else's version. (I'm a little shallow, i'm a sucker for a pretty face, that's a reason I would be more likely to mail a stranger on here )

And I completely accept people searching for sex with certain fantasy people on here, (like Meli and others say, although I don't understand it.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Are you bothered what they think of you?

Of course I am. I'm as vain and insecure as the next person.

I want them to want me.

Having a guy be hard for me or a woman wet and moaning is the best feeling in the world.

Massive turn on in itself.

And really,what is the point of going with someone you don't want?

But wait? Can't men get hard for anyone, any holes a goal right?

How do you know that just the physical attraction wasn't enough?

That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On the flip side of the coin you're in the middle of a 20 person orgy. A gorgeous lady comes over, tries to suck your cock and you say "Stop! Wait! We haven't got to know each other yet!"

So I guess it very much depends on the situation..."

It would depend if your mouth is already full.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

No. I'm more attracted to roadkill than I am to Kate Moss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On the flip side of the coin you're in the middle of a 20 person orgy. A gorgeous lady comes over, tries to suck your cock and you say "Stop! Wait! We haven't got to know each other yet!"

So I guess it very much depends on the situation...

It would depend if your mouth is already full.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would agree ... looks are very important... but at the same time I only have to look at the man and know if there is spark between us

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"Let's all agree that the word shallow refers to being attracted to what's only on the surface? That's how I see it.

Is it accepted that we can be shallow when looking for someone to fuck? Or would you still be okay with someone that wants to know a little bit about you, and like your personality as well?

I know my definition my not be perfect and fit anyone else's version. (I'm a little shallow, i'm a sucker for a pretty face, that's a reason I would be more likely to mail a stranger on here )

And I completely accept people searching for sex with certain fantasy people on here, (like Meli and others say, although I don't understand it.) "

I don't think there's a perfect definition of shallow in swinging terms. It's bandied about a lot as a derogatory term but I think if you're not fairly shallow in swinging you make yourself vulnerable in bad ways. I'm with you on being more likely to contact strangers on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looks and personality for me - it’s the whole person that turns me on. I’ve never fucked anyone on looks alone- but I haven’t fucked many people. I guess there’s always a first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would agree ... looks are very important... but at the same time I only have to look at the man and know if there is spark between us

I'll grab my flint and steel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

No. I'm more attracted to roadkill than I am to Kate Moss."

I like Kate Moss.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

No. I'm more attracted to roadkill than I am to Kate Moss.

I like Kate Moss. "

How am I supposed to respect you now?

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I wouldn’t have sex with a person purely based on looks, even if looks were the initial attraction. There’s more to it than looks for me to feel comfortable enough to get intimate with a person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I am slightly shallow to begin with, in the respect that I look at the photos on the profile before anything else. I do like to chat though, and if the chat is like pulling teeth or the person comes across as an arse then the initial attraction goes out the window and I wouldn’t entertain the idea of meeting up with them, no matter how good looking I thought they were.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What attracts you to look at a profile, if you are just browsing? It would have to be the avatar 9/10. Which makes everyone shallow in that respect.

It's only reading a profile that would give you more of an idea of that person/couple. Messaging and conversation more so.

Sometimes, for me it can be a status that would attract me to look at a profile, I'm not sure whether that would make me shallow too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Logically, I guess it's OK, but I can't seem to put it into practice. Looks are important, but I just can't fuck someone I don't actually like!"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Logically, I guess it's OK, but I can't seem to put it into practice. Looks are important, but I just can't fuck someone I don't actually like!

This

Some people have personalities that fall under the category "natural contraception"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m not shallow per say but I do spend a lot of time in forums so more often than not what will attract me is a nice bum or something. Although inventive pictures also attract me. But other than the profile picture the first thing I look at is the bio. That’s what prompts me to message generally.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Oh gosh! When I'm horny I'll fuck anything!

i leave my shallowness at the door!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

No. I'm more attracted to roadkill than I am to Kate Moss.

I like Kate Moss.

How am I supposed to respect you now?

I know. I know she'd be a diva too, and high maintainance. But I do think she's gorgeous, I just hope I could literally fuck her attitude out of her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"What attracts you to look at a profile, if you are just browsing? It would have to be the avatar 9/10.

Interesting stats, which might be wrong/right. But, I'm sure we've all been intrigued by a profile that has nothing given away with pictures. But your still intrigued by their profile texts or posts on the forum. It's rare, I agree, but that might only be becoause as a whole we show ourselves off first because that's what we believe is what people want?

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can be totally shallow if I feel like it. But I virtually never do nowadays.

This is, of its nature, a very shallow place. Nothing wrong with that per se, as long as everyone is honest about what they are choosing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

If 2 people want to fuck each other why do they have to even give reasons to anyone else? If they just fancy the arse off each other but haven't spoken (for example in a club) they are often slagged off as being shallow.

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"That's a good idea for a thread! 'Can men get hard for anyone?'"

No.

No. I'm more attracted to roadkill than I am to Kate Moss.

I like Kate Moss.

How am I supposed to respect you now?

I know. I know she'd be a diva too, and high maintainance. But I do think she's gorgeous, I just hope I could literally fuck her attitude out of her.

Who knows. Maybe she'll get to hear about your alternative therapy methods and hit you up on fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I think preference is the key word. I have a preference for curvy girls but if I'm charmed out of my pants I don't have any holy cows.

My profile used to say "no gym bunnies". I have been proved wrong by a petite lady and had to modify my profile.

Bill Cosby once said that if a guy is horny enough he'll hit on a snake...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I think preference is the key word. I have a preference for curvy girls but if I'm charmed out of my pants I don't have any holy cows.

My profile used to say "no gym bunnies". I have been proved wrong by a petite lady and had to modify my profile.

Bill Cosby once said that if a guy is horny enough he'll hit on a snake...

Did he drug the snake?

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By *ilk_TrayMan over a year ago

South

Nothing wrong with liking what you like. Otherwise you’ll be settling for second best.

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman over a year ago

Hereabouts

Nothing wrong with being shallow. How do you know if you like the person until you've seen their pics, gone "ooh he/she is sexy" (shallow!), and exchanged messages? You've got to be shallow at first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd say I'm shallow when I'm Fab, unashamedly so as I'm here to fulfil fantasies and not a relationship so looks are paramount

Obviously within reason, if you're a total cunt then I'll tell you where to go

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

FAB is a cruel and shallow flesh trench, a long plastic hallway where Both the sane and not so run free and good folk are cast aside in a merciless heap of rejection. There's also a negative side!

The naughty step for me one thinks!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FAB is a cruel and shallow flesh trench, a long plastic hallway where Both the sane and not so run free and good folk are cast aside in a merciless heap of rejection. There's also a negative side!

The naughty step for me one thinks!

It doesn't take much to get on the naughty step but I doubt that comment will get you there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I think preference is the key word. I have a preference for curvy girls but if I'm charmed out of my pants I don't have any holy cows.

My profile used to say "no gym bunnies". I have been proved wrong by a petite lady and had to modify my profile.

Bill Cosby once said that if a guy is horny enough he'll hit on a snake...

Did he drug the snake?"

brilliant

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

We can multitask.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

as long as you are clear and honest about what you want, to give others the choice of joining you at whatever level..then anything goes..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

And you made it look so...I dunno. What do you think yours sounds like? Perfect?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

We can multitask. "

That's so sexy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?"

I dunno, I quite dig shaved heads on women and she can give me drugs to forget about the paedophile ring thing for a few hours

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

God I hope not or I'd be in real trouble.

But yes. Many people do.

Obviously the temptation is to cover what we find most attractive but someone could be a Greek Goddess or an Adonis and be vacuous and lacking any personality.

It's only after messaging and chatting a while that you build the all important connection.

The mind is the most potent erogenous zone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?

I dunno, I quite dig shaved heads on women and she can give me drugs to forget about the paedophile ring thing for a few hours"

You always get one!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FAB is a cruel and shallow flesh trench, a long plastic hallway where Both the sane and not so run free and good folk are cast aside in a merciless heap of rejection. There's also a negative side!

The naughty step for me one thinks!

It doesn't take much to get on the naughty step but I doubt that comment will get you there

I think it might?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

And you made it look so...I dunno. What do you think yours sounds like? Perfect? "

If getting laid was easy it wouldn't be half as much fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"OP lets go with a hypothetical.

You have just met the most attractive person you have ever seen. A short conversation reveals that this person is a Neo Nazi drug dealer in charge of a paedophile ring.

Still up for that shag?

I dunno, I quite dig shaved heads on women and she can give me drugs to forget about the paedophile ring thing for a few hours"

I'm hoping to get an undercut soon.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

May be I am a little shallow as in I'm always looking for a perfect friend, except everyone has flaws (including me) therefore I struggle to find them because of my high standards. I have had sex with people based on their looks and I have had sex with people based on their personality. I have had sex with people who possess both good looks and personality. I don't really think though that being shallow in choosing who you want to be intimate with is a bad thing?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who knows? I think many of the people who subscribe to the “I’m shallow” possibly aren’t conscious of the fact they will be making more rounded judgements as they exchange a message, glance at a bit of profile text, talk to someone, meet them etc — it’s probably not based solely on looks, I don’t think that’s really possible.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I think we are all just wired differently and that is how some are considered ‘shallow’. I know I’m very different to most ppl generally, not just on Fab. I just don’t have the visual thing, so going to a club for example would be completely pointless. I wouldn’t want any kind of sexual contact with a stranger. I don’t think ppl that enjoy that are actually shallow it’s just how their mind works. I was able to ‘meet’ without a social now I know most can’t do that and maybe I’m ‘shallow’ for being able to do that. Is that then a different kind of ‘shallow’?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who knows? I think many of the people who subscribe to the “I’m shallow” possibly aren’t conscious of the fact they will be making more rounded judgements as they exchange a message, glance at a bit of profile text, talk to someone, meet them etc — it’s probably not based solely on looks, I don’t think that’s really possible. "

I agree. It's very rarely 100% of one or 100% of the other.

Although I did once hear someone say he had sex with someone he hated. I think there's a term for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree. It's very rarely 100% of one or 100% of the other.

Although I did once hear someone say he had sex with someone he hated. I think there's a term for it

Marriage?

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple over a year ago

st helens

Maybe its a couples thing but for us its about physical attraction first and foremost. If we fancy you then we'll meet you. If we get on well then we might be friends. If thats shallow then so be it. We save our deepness for eachother.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree. It's very rarely 100% of one or 100% of the other.

Although I did once hear someone say he had sex with someone he hated. I think there's a term for it

Marriage?

Sharp! A war in which one sleeps with the enemy.

Just kidding. I think marriage is a beautiful institution.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am shallow in a sense, my initial interest is sparked purely by looks. But then I do like to get to know people before meeting them.

I've been lucky and met people that I'd consider completely out of my league in the real world. On that basis being shallow is worthwhile

Honest but shallow love it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I go for what I see visually first just because pictures are a big part of this site, and you need to narrow the choice down somehow.

It's then a case of finding out more about them through chatting/forums. That way I really know if we'd get on.

It can work the other way though, by liking how someone comes across on forums, then looking at pictures and their looks grow on me, as I already like who they are.

So either, or it would seem for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I couldn't swing with anyone who i didn't have a attraction towards .Sometimes I like chatting and having a laugh on fab with people .But for me to want to meet someone they have too be a bit of both .Honest and nice too talk too and a cute face too match a body I want to rip his clothes off and do naughty things with him .Best sex comes when you connect with someone

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I go for what I see visually first just because pictures are a big part of this site, and you need to narrow the choice down somehow.

It's then a case of finding out more about them through chatting/forums. That way I really know if we'd get on.

It can work the other way though, by liking how someone comes across on forums, then looking at pictures and their looks grow on me, as I already like who they are.

So either, or it would seem for me

This is spot on.

Could t agree more. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's completely relative; so long as you're both looking for the same thing, it'll work (whether that be matching gym bods or a complete mental connection). Each to their own and all that.

Looks can be important, but there is nothing higher on the list (for me) than a spark, that 'click'.

Cake and eat it I say... I'll have both - where are all the Mensa models LOL

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

I think it depends on how single you are, and how "deep" you want to appear...

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I think its a good thing not everyone is only judging on looks or I'd never get anywhere.

However when its casual fun in a club for example you'd probably want some instant gratification and attraction is going to be a vital part of that surely.

Thats just common sense

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By *ficouldMan over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Definitely not shallow for me, but of course by reading the profile looking at the picture 'am I attracted to the person' well no, at that point it's a profile, the profile can say one thing, the person means something completely different, the pictures would normally show only in good light. So would I need to reconsider if I am indeed shallow, I'll let you know if I start looking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork* "

Is a social "hello I'm Autumn,glad you made it" before running off hand in hand to the hotel room ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork*

Is a social "hello I'm Autumn,glad you made it" before running off hand in hand to the hotel room ?

Holding hands without a social??! I know you're only joking....

I sat next to a man on a bus once. He said hello. I fainted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork*

Is a social "hello I'm Autumn,glad you made it" before running off hand in hand to the hotel room ?

Holding hands without a social??! I know you're only joking....

I sat next to a man on a bus once. He said hello. I fainted. "

Kiss of life required

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork*

Is a social "hello I'm Autumn,glad you made it" before running off hand in hand to the hotel room ?

Holding hands without a social??! I know you're only joking....

I sat next to a man on a bus once. He said hello. I fainted.

Kiss of life required "

Ok then seeing as you offered so nicely.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is pretty much the point I was trying (and failed) to make last week. Why is one thing ok as a preference when choosing who to fuck, yet another thing is so terrible?

I do like the discussion. It's funny because so many people say their own reasons for who they fuck are the RIGHT reasons and everyone else is very very wrong.

I don't see shallow as a bad thing, to me it's just a description.

Did you chat to the person before you met?

p.s. Having sex without a social is disgusting and should be outlawed!!! *grabs pitchfork*

Is a social "hello I'm Autumn,glad you made it" before running off hand in hand to the hotel room ?

Holding hands without a social??! I know you're only joking....

I sat next to a man on a bus once. He said hello. I fainted.

Kiss of life required

Ok then seeing as you offered so nicely.....

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

The initial attraction has got to be there, then you see if you get on a bit to be able to fuck them. If I don't fancy them, we will never know if we get on or not

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

Yes, being shallow is good most of the time it is you fulfilling your desire regardless of what others think.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

Too much talking, not enough fucking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

Too much talking, not enough fucking "

Exactly, still on my hotlist just throwing that out there

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By *olliPineCouple over a year ago

swingers clubs

Looks are the lure for us to find out if the chemistry is there.

People who have rules based on the one physical attribute (dress size, cock size, hair colour) are not for us (whether we fit their rules or not)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On a site that's particularly visual, its pretty hard to decipher from a penis photo whether the chap is a keeper because he has an amazing personality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

in a word NO !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

Too much talking, not enough fucking "

A short and sweet answer...just like you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Many on here will only play with "pretty people". It is for them all about looks. I am not obsessed with traditionally handsome men but I do have some preferences

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"You lot making meeting and having sex with someone you like the look of sound so fucking difficult.

Just fuck people you like and who wanna fuck you back..it's so easy. You guys could write a fucking dissertation on the subject.... while everyone else goes off and gets laid

Too much talking, not enough fucking

A short and sweet answer...just like you

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Yes, shallow is fine in swinging.

Many are here to fulfill fantasies so are looking for someone who fits that.

Although we are generally attracted by looks initially, we sometimes start chatting to people we weren't actually considering having sex with, but get on so well personality trumps looks.

We've also arranged meets with attractive couples and come across character traits we find unattractive, so said no.

That said, in group situations in clubs we've had sex with people who we didn't even really speak to until after

As long as it's all concensual and enjoyable, who cares

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need more then good looks to interest me personality and the ability to make me laugh is to me a very attractive feature

My ex husband was as hot as they come but he knew it and thought he was God's gift

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think we're all a little bit shallow over something. Although, on here, I find people are more open to meeting those they don't usually find they naturally gravitate towards.

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By *hatYorkLadMan over a year ago

York

Looks are the first thing that draws me to someone whether it's here or in the real world, but there has to be more there than just looks when I start getting to know them. I've had some beautiful girlfriends in the past who had no personality and no spark so it didn't go anywhere, then you get other guys saying "how could you break up with her, she's stunning!"

So yeah, I'm basically really picky and they have to have both.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Too much talking, not enough fucking "

I might make that my new profile header

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personality is the key for us, not looks!

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By *omersetfabbersCouple over a year ago

Glastonbury

"For me, I wouldnt meet purely based on looks. I need a conversation to make sure we are somewhat compatible beyond looks.

Likewise I don't jump at meet me now/ your so hot/ blah blah blah type messages.

If someone cant engage me with their chat, they wont engage me with their body.

L x"

THIS

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By *wisted2000Woman over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

I’ll admit I’m shallow on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd rather meet shallow people than needy people.

And it's surprising how needy some people are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a site that's particularly visual, its pretty hard to decipher from a penis photo whether the chap is a keeper because he has an amazing personality."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well i probably sit on the shallow fence. I dont go to clubs and dont have a regular fb.

I merely rely on this site for the sex that i get.

So with that in mind, i only contact profiles that looks attractive to me. Thats the stage one part; if we meet and get on well then happy days.

Looks does go a long way but there needs to be some sort of connection too.

Ive had socials with women and couples to which ive got on very well with indeed but have not found them attractive

Pete xx

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