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Do you think women think less of guys on here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say less, but I am more suspicious and cautious to begin with, unless that person is a regular forum poster, then I already feel like I know them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try my hardest to take people as I find then, regardless of their sex.
I've only encountered one arsehole on here but it's early days.
Don't see why women ( who are on a swinging site) should think less of men ( on a swinging site)
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't think less of men because they have naked photos on here. "
 It's quite amusing that people can make fairly judgemental comments about someone's photo without realising it negates their 'not thinking less of another' stance.
But no, I don't OP. I am dating a man who uses the site and will continue to do so for the near future at the very least!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think pretty poorly of men in general. Mainly because of fab.
Hopefully us inbetweeners have a slightly better reputation  "
Inbetweeners 
Maybe weirdly, yes. |
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"[typo removed by poster at 07/11/17 16:48:46]"
I think less of some of the behaviour demonstrated by men on fab.
I wonder if they would portray themselves in such a manner in person?
Although I suppose this could be said for women as well, and all those in between.
So, in conclusion, no, not the person but their behaviour. |
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"[typo removed by poster at 07/11/17 16:48:46]
I think less of some of the behaviour demonstrated by men on fab.
I wonder if they would portray themselves in such a manner in person?
Although I suppose this could be said for women as well, and all those in between.
So, in conclusion, no, not the person but their behaviour."
But the behaviour is dictated by the character to my mind. If one found men of integrity, honesty, loyalty, honour...their behaviour would simply reflect this. |
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"[typo removed by poster at 07/11/17 16:48:46]
I think less of some of the behaviour demonstrated by men on fab.
I wonder if they would portray themselves in such a manner in person?
Although I suppose this could be said for women as well, and all those in between.
So, in conclusion, no, not the person but their behaviour.
But the behaviour is dictated by the character to my mind. If one found men of integrity, honesty, loyalty, honour...their behaviour would simply reflect this."
Of course. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't generalise and say I think less of all guys because of the behaviour of some. As a single guy myself what did surprise me on here is the number who behave in a disrespectful way. It doesn't feel like it's just a small minority, it seems like it's the norm for lots of guys and that for me was shocking. |
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I will always tell girls what I have done sexually, even ones I meet in general, before having sex with them.
Most girls have a kinky side, but they all have limits. Most dont mind an adventerous streak, but wouldnt want a guy into anything, anytime, anywhere.
Luckily even though I am on here, I have had sex with much fewer women then people assume. So it's never been a problem for me to say stuff. |
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The simple answer is yes! Some of the behavior is down right discussing, and they wouldn't dream of acting the same way in the "real" world! And yes I know, not all guys, but enough to make a judgement on. No doubt its the same the other way...even I have been shocked/disgusted by some of the female behavior on Fab. It certainly brings out the less desirable (some think unaccountable) side of some people.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ime, 90% of guys here are alright but think they only have to say hello for me to drop my knickers for them. Which tells me what they think of me, and possibly other women here. They're OK about a no thanks though.
5% of guys think a first message that's sexually violent is the right way to go and most of that 5% take deep offence at a no thanks.
Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no thanks, mostly.
The last 2% are the guys who are genuinely single and mentally and emotionally intelligent. But they soon realise the error of their ways and go unlos.
That's my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't generalise and say I think less of all guys because of the behaviour of some. As a single guy myself what did surprise me on here is the number who behave in a disrespectful way. It doesn't feel like it's just a small minority, it seems like it's the norm for lots of guys and that for me was shocking."
How do you mean disrespectful? As in there posts? |
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"Ime, 90% of guys here are alright but think they only have to say hello for me to drop my knickers for them. Which tells me what they think of me, and possibly other women here. They're OK about a no thanks though.
5% of guys think a first message that's sexually violent is the right way to go and most of that 5% take deep offence at a no thanks.
Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no thanks, mostly.
The last 2% are the guys who are genuinely single and mentally and emotionally intelligent. But they soon realise the error of their ways and go unlos.
That's my experience."
That isn't a bad break down |
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"...Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no..."
As it is a a swinging site, a higher percentage of guys will be attached. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no...
As it is a a swinging site, a higher percentage of guys will be attached."
I didn't say otherwise. Just because I didn't spell it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't generalise and say I think less of all guys because of the behaviour of some. As a single guy myself what did surprise me on here is the number who behave in a disrespectful way. It doesn't feel like it's just a small minority, it seems like it's the norm for lots of guys and that for me was shocking.
How do you mean disrespectful? As in there posts?"
I have enough female friends on here to see some of the messages they get sent, not just occasionally but regularly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ime, 90% of guys here are alright but think they only have to say hello for me to drop my knickers for them. Which tells me what they think of me, and possibly other women here. They're OK about a no thanks though.
5% of guys think a first message that's sexually violent is the right way to go and most of that 5% take deep offence at a no thanks.
Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no thanks, mostly.
The last 2% are the guys who are genuinely single and mentally and emotionally intelligent. But they soon realise the error of their ways and go unlos.
That's my experience.
That isn't a bad break down "
I'd better do a soxy and bugger off to be in the 2%  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't generalise and say I think less of all guys because of the behaviour of some. As a single guy myself what did surprise me on here is the number who behave in a disrespectful way. It doesn't feel like it's just a small minority, it seems like it's the norm for lots of guys and that for me was shocking.
How do you mean disrespectful? As in there posts?
I have enough female friends on here to see some of the messages they get sent, not just occasionally but regularly."
Fair enough |
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"Ime, 90% of guys here are alright but think they only have to say hello for me to drop my knickers for them. Which tells me what they think of me, and possibly other women here. They're OK about a no thanks though.
5% of guys think a first message that's sexually violent is the right way to go and most of that 5% take deep offence at a no thanks.
Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no thanks, mostly.
The last 2% are the guys who are genuinely single and mentally and emotionally intelligent. But they soon realise the error of their ways and go unlos.
That's my experience."
Absolutely my experience too Although, I had hoped it was because I live in one of the most deprived counties (or depraved!?!) |
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"...Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no...
As it is a a swinging site, a higher percentage of guys will be attached.
I didn't say otherwise. Just because I didn't spell it out."
I wasn't disagreeing really. Slightly scary about guys looking for a mother figure though, that seriously creeps me out...
Really don't get the whole Oedipus thing...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like guys that are fairly new to the site because curiousity brought them here or a busy lifestyle or job that makes conventional dating quite hard.
I don't hide the fact I want a guy to be mutually exclusive with so the guys that want to swing or have 3sums and more sums I would be cautious of those guys. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...Of the remaining 5%, 3% are more sophisticated, will have read my profile and can hold an intelligent conversation, but they're attached or emotionally fucked in some way. They're usually looking for a mother. But they're ok with a no...
As it is a a swinging site, a higher percentage of guys will be attached.
I didn't say otherwise. Just because I didn't spell it out.
I wasn't disagreeing really. Slightly scary about guys looking for a mother figure though, that seriously creeps me out...
Really don't get the whole Oedipus thing... "
I don't think it's as extreme as that. They're not infatuated with their actual mother. At least, probably not. No, it's their need of a female to tell them how faultless they are and admire their every move, because their wives are now sick of their shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I accept them as individuals with some who just spoil things for themselves.
They don't exist in a vacuum, so everyone affects them and how they are with you "
Good point- I think the women that hurl abuse back at them or are unkind when they turn men down, really don't help the atmosphere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I accept them as individuals with some who just spoil things for themselves.
They don't exist in a vacuum, so everyone affects them and how they are with you
Good point- I think the women that hurl abuse back at them or are unkind when they turn men down, really don't help the atmosphere. "
That's made me think. I'm glad I'm never impolite when I turn guys down now, even if it's for a different reason. |
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People are people and arseholes are arseholes! I honestly believe that if your a total cunt in one place your likely to be a total cunt elsewhere! That’s said some people on here are probably worse at times because they hide behind their trusty keyboard shield.
Manners an politeness at all costs is more than possible.
I feel genuine people here are more trustworthy and honest than those in real life so to speak as they are actively looking for what they want rather than living a lie! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I accept them as individuals with some who just spoil things for themselves.
They don't exist in a vacuum, so everyone affects them and how they are with you
Good point- I think the women that hurl abuse back at them or are unkind when they turn men down, really don't help the atmosphere.
That's made me think. I'm glad I'm never impolite when I turn guys down now, even if it's for a different reason."
I have to admit I have sometimes been a bit grumpy in my reply, but every time the man has replied and apologised, saying he hadn't realised how rude his original mail had sounded. So I apologise for being grumpy and I like to think we both continue the day in a better mood. 
Even if I really don't fancy the person I always use an impersonal reason for turning them down- for example 'too far away' or a generic 'sorry we're not compatible'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I accept them as individuals with some who just spoil things for themselves.
They don't exist in a vacuum, so everyone affects them and how they are with you
Good point- I think the women that hurl abuse back at them or are unkind when they turn men down, really don't help the atmosphere.
That's made me think. I'm glad I'm never impolite when I turn guys down now, even if it's for a different reason.
I have to admit I have sometimes been a bit grumpy in my reply, but every time the man has replied and apologised, saying he hadn't realised how rude his original mail had sounded. So I apologise for being grumpy and I like to think we both continue the day in a better mood.
Even if I really don't fancy the person I always use an impersonal reason for turning them down- for example 'too far away' or a generic 'sorry we're not compatible'. "
I'm only polite to make myself look better than them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I accept them as individuals with some who just spoil things for themselves.
They don't exist in a vacuum, so everyone affects them and how they are with you
Good point- I think the women that hurl abuse back at them or are unkind when they turn men down, really don't help the atmosphere.
That's made me think. I'm glad I'm never impolite when I turn guys down now, even if it's for a different reason.
I have to admit I have sometimes been a bit grumpy in my reply, but every time the man has replied and apologised, saying he hadn't realised how rude his original mail had sounded. So I apologise for being grumpy and I like to think we both continue the day in a better mood.
Even if I really don't fancy the person I always use an impersonal reason for turning them down- for example 'too far away' or a generic 'sorry we're not compatible'.
I'm only polite to make myself look better than them "
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This might sound a bit out there, but the structure of the site (fab is no different to many network sites) is set up with a fairly crude and basic purpose in mind, so it’s meat before brain, highly visual and the filters and parameters don’t allow anyone to filter and control early stage connections very well. So for example a simple politeness ranking, like an uber review would help sort out the nasties - so you would need a minimum of a 4 star politeness score to get a message through.
Also some subtle colour coding, which flags up how direct and down and dirty you might want to chat, red for filth blue for soft flirt etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, on occasions I do think less of them. Usually occurs when I don't think they'd behave the same way in reality.
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Some might behave a lot better in reality....some |
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